Choose to Live FREE! A podcast for the woman or girl who needs a wellbeing rescue. Healing the heart and mind is not that complicated... Join the host, Kate as she shares her journey of heart transformation along with those of friends invited to sit with her and with you. A native of Ghana living and making life in America with her husband and kids, Kate unpacks the deepest parts of her heart and mind and invites you to do the same so you live joyfully FREE! So, how is your Heart dear friend? A joyful heart is within reach, a peaceful mind too. On the Choose to Live FREE podcast, Kate explores stories and tools that can help you be, live, and stay FREE as God has promised. Kate explores the heart and mind connections and how we can wholeheartedly heal the broken parts of us. While it is understood that hurt people hurt people, we want to flip the narrative in our minds that healed people heal people. Join Kate and the Dear Sister Community and lets do the work towards a joyfilled joyful, peacefilled peaceful lives thriving in the love and hope of Jesus Christ. For more information visit www.chiefjoyactivator.com and www.iamfreewoman.org

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Time and space is a realm concept to exist in but while existing, you want to live. You want to do your PART that is to be present, take action, mind your responses, and give careful thought to your ways. While time does not heal wounds, or all wounds, God, in time heals all wounds. I hope you have learned something from today’s episode and I do want to hear from you, how you are doing your PART. If you want to see the planner, I spoke about, you can check them out on my website: <a href="http://www.chiefjoyactivator.com/" rel="nofollow">www.chiefjoyactivator.com</a>Here are your Three Thoughts<ul><li>The process of unlearning and relearning is an ever evolutionary experience that you get to experience one step at a time. Your unfreezing of those negative, sometimes irrational beliefs, takes time so give yourself a lot of compassion and allow your heart to heal. Here’s a kick starter… to complete a journey or a process, there was to be a traveler that started the journey. Think of the Pilgrim’s Progress.</li><li> </li><li>Renewing your mind on God’s Word must be a non-negotiable in your life. Not social media, not Kate’s Podcast [I love you but I need you to pick up that bible and read for yourself, and them come back here to be equipped and trained so you are a warrior for Jesus not a worrier]</li><li> </li><li>Do your PART in this journey. What do I mean by that? Let me refresh your memory: P - be Present; A - take Action; R - mind your Responses; and T - give careful Thought to your ways!      </li></ul> Connect with Kate:Instagram| chiefjoyactivatorWebsite: <a href="http://www.chiefjoyactivator.com" rel="nofollow">www.chiefjoyactivator.com</a>  Connect with us:Organization:Instagram| iamfreewomanministriesInstagram| choosetolivefreepodcastWebsite| <a href="http://www.iamfreewoman.org" rel="nofollow">www.iamfreewoman.org</a>

S3 E41: Time Does NOT Heal All Wounds!

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Meet Bella Irizarry, a military wife living on purpose. Despite being diagnosed with endometriosis, Bella started chasing God with passion and that nurturing healed her disappointments and allowed her to envision her destiny. Bella’s hope and faith is contagious and reminds me of a confident heart poised to receive from the Lord. Our conversation is seasoned with so much care and you sense that in Bella’s posture. As you listen, here are some nuggets for you:<ul><li>Grow through seasons of adversity together</li><li>Surround yourself with people who exemplify Jesus’s love</li><li>There is meaning in all situations</li><li>Decide to focus on foundation of your life</li><li>Lean on this foundation when challenges arise</li><li>Listen to god’s truths and believe in Him</li><li>Allow God to lead you in all areas of your life</li><li>Living in hope is a beautiful season</li><li>Focusing on a godly view helps you breathe again</li><li>Allow God to turn your disappointments into your destiny</li><li>You are born and then you train to be good at your gifts</li><li>Break ‘FREE’ from ‘other’ ideas to God’s design for your life</li></ul> Connect with Guest:Annabella Irizarry, M.Ed<a href="https://l.instagram.com/?e=AT334IzICn6M-ASW56Pl4kG9iLaPgl1N7tCZjsctD03Aui6hkQ2gQnXtVaf9zz4AbgF_w6bGYUo1ROCK-Ll6arvJyt0hf2hM-jMKSm0&u=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.youngliving.com%2Fvo%2F" rel="nofollow">www.youngliving.com/vo</a>Instagram| sinmiedoalfuturo Connect with Kate:Instagram| chiefjoyactivatorWebsite: <a href="http://www.chiefjoyactivator.com" rel="nofollow">www.chiefjoyactivator.com</a>  Connect with us:Organization:Instagram| iamfreewomanministriesInstagram| choosetolivefreepodcastWebsite| <a href="http://www.iamfreewoman.org" rel="nofollow">www.iamfreewoman.org</a>

S3 E40: Bella Irizarry: God Turned My Disappointments into My Destiny

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This episode is a fun opening to season 3 as we talk about wearing your God-given crown with confidence and being empowered to rise. Dr. Nana Wilmot-DeSouza does not mince words sharing about her personal struggles with shame and walking the journey of healing. As a mother to a rising middle schooler and Kindergartner, she understands the assignment as a parent but also as a black female doctor serving diverse groups of people. She has got to have a strong backbone, and hope filled wishbone, the courage to laugh with the funny bone! You hear and sense all of them in our conversation. As you listen, here are some nuggets for you:<ul><li>God’s plan is better than your plan</li><li>Sowing is risky business but the outcome is worth it</li><li>The discipline can feel like a punishment at the time but you will reap a reward if you do not give up</li><li>God does not know moving from A to Z, He moves A to G to T and back to P, then maybe head to X then O. Enjoy the journey with trust and faith.</li><li>You must challenge the cultural narratives that dims the light of Jesus in you</li><li>Remember, you are a masterpiece</li><li>You must be in the Truth even when you don’t feel like you are walking it well</li><li>Fear and insecurity can cripple you when you act as your own shepherd. Remember, you have a great shepherd</li><li>Confidence begins with ‘confide’ which implies trust</li><li>Walk in the way of love and go in the strength you have</li><li>Being affirmed is powerful</li><li>Whenever you hear ‘who you are not’, run to the One who knows who you are and affirms it everyday</li><li>Never run out of salt, Never dim your light</li><li>The moment you feel like ‘should’ is comfortable, remember ‘can’ can be so freeing. Move from ‘I should’ to ‘I am’</li></ul> Connect with our Guest:Dr. Nana Wilmot-DeSouza<a href="https://www.arisewellnessmed.com/" rel="nofollow">https://www.arisewellnessmed.com/</a> Instagram| arisewellnessmed Connect with Kate:Instagram| chiefjoyactivatorWebsite: <a href="http://www.chiefjoyactivator.com" rel="nofollow">www.chiefjoyactivator.com</a>  Connect with us:Organization:Instagram| iamfreewomanministriesInstagram| choosetolivefreepodcastWebsite| <a href="http://www.iamfreewoman.org" rel="nofollow">www.iamfreewoman.org</a>

S3 E39: Dr. Wilmot-DeSouza: Wear Your Crown with Confidence

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Every believer lives in this ecosystem of faith and we all have our faith thermometers, now what would happen if we also utilized our faith thermostat. Set that faith temperature and keep it set?Three Thoughts<ol><li>Faith and hope go together like peanut butter and jelly or fried plantains and beans stew! Hope propels your faith and faith ignites your hope. </li><li>That faith thermometer, you need to check it often in every situation. And cling to hope too. You are not alone, we all live in this faith ecosystem. Make sure you remain connected to the vine, believe that whatever you are walking through, joy comes in the morning.</li><li>You believe now do it. Faith is your heart for God in action. With Him there is no disappointment, there is only faith. Don’t let the enemy deceive you with unfounded thoughts. Perseverance comes from a tried and tested process that when passed, brings forth many great benefits.    </li></ol> Connect with Kate:Instagram| chiefjoyactivatorWebsite: <a href="http://www.chiefjoyactivator.com" rel="nofollow">www.chiefjoyactivator.com</a>  Connect with us:Organization:Instagram| iamfreewomanministriesInstagram| choosetolivefreepodcastWebsite| <a href="http://www.iamfreewoman.org" rel="nofollow">www.iamfreewoman.org</a>

38: The Faith Ecosystem: Thermometers and Thermostats

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Sonya describes herself as a child of God, a mom, a dear friend, a survivor, a multiple sclerosis advocate, a US military veteran. I would describe Sonya as a joy to be with…simple. Her smile and bubbly energy lights up your world, really you wouldn’t think she’s been through so much in life. Fifty three years on earth, forty years of suffering and in five short years, God stepped in and wiped her tears away.   You know when you hear the phrase “oh she doesn’t look like what she’s been through”? Yep, that&#39;s Sonya and truly allowed Jesus to turn her ashes into beauty! Sonya stepped into the battle with what she had just like King David and allowed God to equip her every step of the way. As you listen to her journey, here are some nuggets for you:<ul><li>When you have been through trauma, you are never fully aware of the LIFE around you until God makes you aware</li><li>You feel heard when in the right company of faith</li><li>God’s timing will always be perfect</li><li>Sometimes you need a gentle voice and at the same time a wildebeest that is ready to run with you</li><li>Forgiving your offender is really a gift you give yourself</li><li>Don’t skip any part of God’s process that He takes you on toward your healing</li><li>The love of god causes you to love others even through your hurts and pain</li><li>Remember, the courage to fight, and conquer is always within you</li></ul> Connect with Guest:Sonya IngramInstagram| Sonyaingram1 Connect with Kate:Instagram| chiefjoyactivatorWebsite: <a href="http://www.chiefjoyactivator.com" rel="nofollow">www.chiefjoyactivator.com</a>  Connect with us:Organization:Instagram| iamfreewomanministriesInstagram| choosetolivefreepodcastWebsite| <a href="http://www.iamfreewoman.org" rel="nofollow">www.iamfreewoman.org</a>

37: Sonya Ingram: The Courage to Fight for My Sanity

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5 key biblical principles that shame toxic relationships. I do not know where you are in your walk with the Lord or how your relationship is doing but I do pray that after today, you will be able to stand on some of these truths and affirm who you are in Christ believing that he does not want you to be abused and unloved. That wasn’t his plan for you and I need you to believe that! Three Thoughts<ol><li>Abuse is never and was never God’s design. Human heart is deceitful above all things and over time, love has been misunderstood. What you see in the world as love is purely lust and people are being hurt by it. If you are in any situations that give you pause about the person you are with, please seek guidance and immediate help. Love doesn’t have to hurt. Your self-esteem and ability to survive and thrive is quite important. </li><li>Be aware of your emotions before they run you down. Learn healthy ways to ease the tensions in your heart. Be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to get angry. Tip: When you ask clarifying questions, the anger eventually fades away.</li><li>Remember these 5 key relational biblical principles and use them: Mindful communication, managed emotions, appropriate use of power and authority, love and forgiveness, adaptable roles and responsibilities. Practice them and watch your relationships blossom. </li></ol> Connect with Kate:Instagram| chiefjoyactivatorWebsite: <a href="http://www.chiefjoyactivator.com" rel="nofollow">www.chiefjoyactivator.com</a> Connect with us:Organization:Instagram| iamfreewomanministriesInstagram| choosetolivefreepodcastWebsite| <a href="http://www.iamfreewoman.org" rel="nofollow">www.iamfreewoman.org</a>

36: End Toxicity in Relationships with 5 Biblical Principles

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Let&#39;s welcome a dear friend and sister Willkenia Napoleon - Vice President of I am FREE Woman ministries. I invited Willkenia to sit with me for a conversation. We touch on many topics as it relates to relational wounds, hurts, pain.  She will not say this but I know she is awesome, an incredible woman of God who champions all the people in her life. I couldn’t think of a Spirit filled woman to have this conversation with but her because she’s been through some things but doesn’t allow those things to affect and infect her. She knows what a godly healing journey feels and looks like… the messiness and healing pains in these journeys. So, join us as we discuss shame, guilt, silent trauma, empathy, sympathy…and so much more!As you listen, here are some nuggets for you:<ul><li>Fear is a real motivator for our silence</li><li>Silent trauma creates unhealthy internal dialogs</li><li>Shame and guilt are traps of the enemy</li><li>Sympathy is an external experience and empathy is an internal experience</li><li>When contemplating how to show empathy, ask “what would I want for someone to do” </li><li>If you are fixer, it is often difficult to show empathy immediately</li><li>To be known means “all of you in a holistic experience” You know what pain feels like, trauma feels like, heartbreak feels like</li><li>Vulnerability leads to being known</li><li>Give your sisters the opportunity to know you</li><li>For those who are invited in, see such invitation into someone’s vulnerability as a privilege</li><li>Choose to try God and walk in forgiveness</li></ul> Connect with Guest:Willkenia NapoleonInstagram| fully_watered Connect with Kate:Instagram| chiefjoyactivatorWebsite: <a href="http://www.chiefjoyactivator.com" rel="nofollow">www.chiefjoyactivator.com</a>  Connect with us:Organization:Instagram| iamfreewomanministriesInstagram| choosetolivefreepodcastWebsite| <a href="http://www.iamfreewoman.org" rel="nofollow">www.iamfreewoman.org</a>

35: Give Your Sisters the Opportunity to Know You with Willkenia Napoleon

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What do you do when you find yourself at the age of 33, your marriage is hanging on by a thread and you feel like a caged bird? You know deep within you, you want to fly, be free but there are all these barricades, not erected by you but certainly impacted by their presence. Now heads up, here is my way of alerting you that this month of April is Sexual Assault and Abuse Awareness Month.To understand the why [the purpose] driving a person’s life, you must do your best to also know and understand the what [the mission]. Everyone has a story and this month, I get to promote allyship and advocacy about a silent pandemic that unfortunately, most are silent about. This is the episode that bares it all...pieces of my journey: “the scars you don’t see when abuse happens”. So Before you tune me out, hold on, did the word ‘abuse’ trigger a memory or a thought, or a voice or an uncomfortable feeling in you? What is that and can you stay in that for a while? Listen dear sister, remember you may be the miracle that someone will need.  Connect with Kate:Instagram| chiefjoyactivatorWebsite: <a href="http://www.chiefjoyactivator.com" rel="nofollow">www.chiefjoyactivator.com</a>  Connect with us:Organization:Instagram| iamfreewomanministriesInstagram| choosetolivefreepodcastWebsite| <a href="http://www.iamfreewoman.org" rel="nofollow">www.iamfreewoman.org</a>

34: The Scars You Don't See When Abuse Happens

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How you live out your purpose in life is about finding meaning. How you relate to others and the impact, influence, impressions made, is about finding meaning. How you manage and succeed in your career, jobs, work, professions, is about finding meaning. How you walk with God, or not walk with God is about finding meaning. How you live your life, is all about meaning. Finding the meaning, knowing  the meaning, experiencing the meaning, embracing the meaning and choosing to accept it. Running your race in life? Dear Sister, I want you to think of these PERKS and let them help you run your race, that race well. I hope this message encourages your heart to continue using the PERKS you already have as you navigate difficult moments in life. And if you don’t have any of these or need to develop them, it&#39;s never too late to seek that coach, mentor.Three Thoughts<ol><li>You can do all things through Christ who gives you strength. That strength is the joy you have in the Lord. It is your strength. Take delight in Him and pursue Him even when the going gets tough. I did not know him in my formative years as I do now and I thank Him for turning my heart back to His heart. </li><li>When the going gets tough, drink water, mind your business and enjoy the scenic routes [laugh] There might be a detour here and traffic stops there… however the train is moving, make sure that you do not exit the train. It is your train and people will get on and off but you, you stay put and allow the conductor to help you navigate and route the train toward its destination.</li><li>Use your PERKS every day! Whichever one is needed, don’t shy away from them. Perseverance says “I can do it”, Endurance says “I am brave”, Resilience says “I can get back up”, Knowledge says “I am a student of a godly life” and Surrender says “I do not know it all so I yield to the One who does”.</li></ol> Connect with Kate:Instagram| chiefjoyactivatorWebsite: <a href="http://www.chiefjoyactivator.com" rel="nofollow">www.chiefjoyactivator.com</a>  Connect with us:Organization:Instagram| iamfreewomanministriesInstagram| choosetolivefreepodcastWebsite| <a href="http://www.iamfreewoman.org" rel="nofollow">www.iamfreewoman.org</a>

33: Use Your P.E.R.K.S

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Stefani Smith is a full-time engineer and first-time author. She is smart, driven, and has a huge heart for people. She believes the Gospel of Jesus Christ is the greatest message ever told and desires for all to know its saving truth. Stefani loves to serve the body of Christ through her local church and has served in several leadership roles for children&#39;s, women&#39;s, and missions/outreach ministries. She has a passion for studying and teaching God&#39;s Word, which is both a gift she prizes and a responsibility she takes seriously. Stefani has been joyfully married to her husband Allen since 2015. She is &#34;Stefmom&#34; to Brentley and biological mom to Silas; both have taught her that being a mother of sons is the absolute best. Stefani enjoys reading, cooking, and dreaming big with her family. Dear sister, how is your heart with God? Is it good? Can you confidently say you have positioned your heart for this covenant love and life? Embracing all that comes with it? As you listen, here are some nuggets for you:<ul><li>It is always a good practice to become aware of the sins that others chose which impacted you</li><li>Nurturing your spiritual life is as important as all the other parts of you</li><li>Lean in to the questions you have about God</li><li>Your instincts are natural, your insights are spiritual</li><li>When you have questions, open your heart and mind and open His Word too</li><li>Get on the path of Truth to discover God for yourself, pursue His love with the questions you have</li><li>God’s Word is oxygen for your spirit</li><li>Even when you can’t hold your end of the bargain, God’s got you. </li><li>The end of one season is not the end of you!</li><li>Believe that God has a rescue plan for you</li></ul> Connect with Guest:Stefani Smith<a href="http://www.stefanismithwriter.com" rel="nofollow">www.stefanismithwriter.com</a>Instagram| stefsmith_writer Connect with Kate:Instagram| chiefjoyactivatorWebsite: <a href="http://www.chiefjoyactivator.com" rel="nofollow">www.chiefjoyactivator.com</a>  Connect with us:Organization:Instagram| iamfreewomanministriesInstagram| choosetolivefreepodcastWebsite| <a href="http://www.iamfreewoman.org" rel="nofollow">www.iamfreewoman.org</a>

32: Stefani Smith: "Dear God, I'm Not Going Anywhere"

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Today, Maxine shares her journey as a mother of three, a wife, a career woman, a child of God, a daughter, sister, and friend who has endured life struggles from miscarriage to raising a child with special needs. She gets your heart hoping again if you’ve ever been in a situation where the image you once held as an ‘ideal’ no longer presents itself as that ‘ideal’ in your life. She also advocates for special needs families and encourages all of us to support Kyle by visiting 22q.org to learn more about the foundation. You can follow her on instagram at missmaxy and also on LinkedIn. Dear sister, I want you to lean in because Maxine’s story will have you examining your heart and asking this question “am I good with God?” because when the storms roll, you need an anchor! As you listen, here are a few takeaways:<ul><li>At a certain point in your walk through this life, you’ve got to OWN your faith</li><li>Understanding and pursuing God requires you to encounter Him for yourself</li><li> There comes a time when you must realize you aren’t a victim of your circumstances</li><li>If it is on your heart, best believe it is on God’s heart too</li><li>Remember faith, hope, and love and live your life in all seasons</li><li>God can be that missing link for you whenever you feel alone in your journey</li><li>Doing the inner work makes your heart good with God</li></ul> Connect with us:Organization:IG| iamfreewomanministriesIG| choosetolivefreepodcastWebsite| <a href="http://www.iamfreewoman.org" rel="nofollow">www.iamfreewoman.org</a>Kate:IG| chiefjoyactivatorWebsite: <a href="http://www.chiefjoyactivator.com" rel="nofollow">www.chiefjoyactivator.com</a>

31: Never Ever Waste Your Pain with Maxine M. Totoe

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So what is time? Time is the limited period within which an action or process takes place. Life exists in time. Reading James 4:14 puts life and time in a sober perspective that we are not to boast about “tomorrow” because “what is your life? You are a mist that appears for a little while and then vanishes”. Anytime the loss of someone hits us, we are reminded of this truth. Question then is, 86,400 seconds in a given day, what story is being written about you, who is writing that story and who will read this story, and when they read it, what impact will your story have on them?Three Thoughts1. Life is time and time is life. There are three Truths about time which we are blessed to learn about: the gift of time, the reality of time, and the returns or gains received with and in time. Notice they build on each other - first you are given the gift of time, you become aware of the essence of the gift you’ve been given and you maximize your investment in the right way to receive the right returns.2. Live to make an impact with your legacy. Impression is great and most of the time that&#39;s how we meet people. They meet us, they like our interaction or how you made them feel, eventually they buy into your agenda. You show people your heart and they will respond, if the response is not kind, don’t let that change your heart. Heal and keep being you. Remember, your legacy is not separate from you. Your legacy is YOU.3. An emphasis on maximizing your time: know your priorities and always have a clear view of what they are, and how they align to your purpose. Life happens and we may get stuck, stalled, or stopped for a while. Get back on the drawing board, seek the heart and face of Jesus to know your next step and move forward. Remember, your life lived well in time builds an indestructible legacy.Connect with us:Organization:IG| iamfreewomanministriesIG| choosetolivefreepodcastWebsite| <a href="http://www.iamfreewoman.org" rel="nofollow">www.iamfreewoman.org</a> Kate:IG| chiefjoyactivatorWebsite: <a href="http://www.chiefjoyactivator.com" rel="nofollow">www.chiefjoyactivator.com</a>

30: The Best Gift You Will Ever Receive

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When exhaustion wins, dear sister, you can get your life back! Truly your soul finds rest in God [Psalm 62:1] Remember how Jesus did it and being born in His image, begin the baby steps of recovering from fatigue, tiredness, hurry, exhaustion. Your soul finds rest in God through His Word. Three Thoughts<ul><li>1. Eliminating hurry, or breaking free from exhaustion is more than behavior modification and coping mechanisms. It requires you to be honest with yourself and acknowledge your willingness to change from what you may be striving for. I won’t say that all striving is bad. Our natural instinct is to strive, that is to try to achieve a result… you try earnestly and persistently. Sometimes you strive to get good grades, you strive to get yourself or your family the best health care, you strive to break the glass ceiling… And this is what I love about the Holy Spirit. At some point, He whispers, enough striving, now let&#39;s look at the goal again and this time, I want you to persist steadfastly, that is persevere. See it as a journey, a task or a goal and work at it diligently and with careful thought to how you get it done. So no, all striving is not bad. We are naturally wired to try to do something.  </li></ul> <ul><li>2. Oftentimes to be spiritually filled, we must address physical and mental symptoms or problems first. Going to God for wisdom will be a wise start to know your next steps. If your symptoms are overwhelming you, please seek immediate attention. I love it when we pray and wait, but then we don’t give God enough time to talk back. Prayer, a conversation. A conversation requires feedback. Are you waiting for God’s feedback? He definitely will say something to you. In Proverbs 1, wisdom is found where rebuke is embraced. When we pray and the response is conviction, lean in. Right there is wisdom knocking at the doors of your heart. </li></ul> <ul><li>3. Most disciples are not discipling these days, we are simply deciphering what we “feel” and what we want to do. To disciple is to obediently do even when we feel it is uncomfortable, it doesn’t make sense, or it is not the norm in the culture around you. In our newsletter this month, I share with our readers heart healing habits that can be practiced to help your heart heal from ‘racing through life’. Hint: go to iamfreewoman.org to sign-up so you receive these intimate Heart Healing Habits quality time newsletters from me.    </li></ul> Connect with us: Instagram@iamfreewomanministries@chiefjoyactivator

29: Am I The Only One Tired Out Here?

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Today, I have Lori Ann Wood with me to discuss her life altering yet thriving journey when she was diagnosed with heart failure. Imagine functioning on just 6% heart capacity? Lori Ann Wood lives in an empty nest in beautiful Bentonville, Arkansas, with her husband, the love of her life whom she found in 9th grade. Having discovered a serious heart condition almost too late, Lori Ann writes to encourage others to explore their difficult faith questions along the detours of life. You can read more from her at <a href="http://loriannwood.com/" rel="nofollow">loriannwood.com</a>. Lori’s newly released book [released on February 21st] is available now for order on Amazon and trending as number one new release in Christian and spiritual growth! Congratulations Lori!Dear sister, I want you to lean in because Lori’s story will have you feeling her breaths as she walks you through three important questions you need to ask when you find yourself on an unexpected life detour. As you listen, here are a few takeaways:<ul><li>Whatever plan you have in life, remember that plan can be disrupted at any moment. </li><li>Learn a whole lot as you walk the new path and keep asking questions.</li><li>Pay attention to the unusual physical symptoms and warning signs, they hold the clues to an impending detour.</li><li>Checking the box with God can make you experience a faith crisis. Heads up, go beyond the check mark and actually sit with Him. </li><li>If you wait to be grateful, you will still be waiting. Gratitude and grief can co-exists within you. </li><li>The three questions you need to ask on your detour offer a chance for you to build your faith, acknowledge your doubts, and embrace the fact that you are not in control, and that&#39;s OK. </li><li>Giving yourself grace is the pace you need. Pacing yourself is the grace you need. </li></ul> We had a great conversation which I know you will enjoy too. Connect with us:Instagram: @iamfreewomanministries | @chiefjoyactivatorWebsite: www.iamfreewoman.org | www.chiefjoyactivator.comConnect with Lori Ann Wood:Instagram: LoriannwoodWebsite to grab a copy of 5 Prayers &amp; Promises When You Can’t Talk to God: <a href="https://loriannwood.com/hope/" rel="nofollow">https://loriannwood.com/hope/</a>

28: Lori Ann Wood: 3 Key Questions to Ask When Life Detours

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Amanda and Julio have been married seven years and in those seven years faced one of the most trying marital challenges any couple could endure… walking a fertility journey. A journey filled with preparation, active faith, unwavering hope, patience and so much more! I know their story will inspire you. As you listen, here are a few takeaways:<ul><li>Love is patient and in praying for patience, pray for grace</li><li>Every family has a story, every couple has a story and sometimes that story has a story writer. Know who your story writer is and trust the process.</li><li>Observe and know the generational dysfunctions and curses in your families. This will inform how you begin to heal and break such curses from manifesting as intergenerational patterns.</li><li>Love and respect is a mutual bond that fuels healthy relationships; know your relational boundaries, understand each other’s lived experiences and remember, you cannot change your partner’s personality.</li><li>When it comes to challenges in life, you can see them as preparation, perspiration, and persecution; so lean into the story writer who can lead you on a different path.</li><li>Your preparation in the waiting period can be a healthy combination of physical, mental, emotional, spiritual, financial, and relational factors such as faith, hope, peace, patience, love, realistic thinking, and growth mindset.</li></ul> Follow us, Rate, Review, Subscribe:Instagram| @chiefjoyactivator @iamfreewomanministries

27: Amanda and Julio Prepare for the Storms of Life

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Having the mindset to live out your tasks in a way that sparks interest, ignites excitement and although required to live, you feel fully alive when you get them done! Now that is the adulting we all desire and deserve to have. Join Kate and friends and glean from their wisdom on adulting well, a laid back live conversations that speaks to the everyday woman. Enjoy!Three Thoughts1. Adulting is more of a mindset than an age to focus on, however, depending on the culture and familial influences, you may take on the mindset of adulting quicker in life than your biological age of development. The key here is being taught life values, principles that you can employ throughout your life. The value of being ‘responsible’ is a core factor in adulting. Responsible for both the mundane as well as the exciting parts of life. 2. Master your life! Embrace life challenges and set your mindset to win! Embracing challenges helps you become a better version of yourself. Resisting the challenges only exacerbates your suffering and disappointments. Learn to process and regulate your emotions. Remember adulting comes in stages so don’t try to figure everything out now. Learn to be flexible with yourself!3. You do have freedom as an adult. This freedom can be lived in well but you will need to unlearn/unfreeze some things you may pick up along the way, be mindful in the growing pains and processing of unlearning, and be hopeful as you discover new things about yourself and life. Be patient with yourself and others and take the scenic route as you ‘adult!’Follow the team:Ministry: @iamfreewomanministries on Instagram, YouTube, FBKate: @chiefjoyactivator on InstagramWillkenia: @wilka_napo on InstagramMeri: @11tawawili11 on InstagramThank you for listening!

26: Important Keys to Adulting 101 with Kate and Friends!

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February is the month of love! The best healing medicine there is - love.&#34;Love shouldn’t hurt. But then it does… sometimes. That is the human in all of us. Like the loss of a loved one, or the disrespect of a child, or the disappointment from a friend, or the rejection from a partner. That hurt is a signal that you are human. When love hurts, there is a place where love can also heal.&#34; Here are 16 ways to do just that!Three Thoughts1. Life is ever moving and so are the relationships around us. When you put in the effort, the love you give to others can only grow… when it is watered. The essence of what love is rests in your decision to choose love and open your heart to its miraculous possibilities. Receiving love spiritually allows you to give it effortlessly relationally [mentally + physically + emotionally…] 2. When you want to know what love is, try God’s way first. Start with simply the first statement/way “love is patient”. In what ways do you see and experience patience everyday? Take that kindness and share it with someone else. Let good love multiply in your heart and through you. 3. Embrace the possibility of being loved and loving God. This kind of love is not child’s play because as a grown woman, all childish love has been put away. This is not time for hide and seek, this is the time to seek until you find. But it is not passive seeking, it is actively seeking with your whole heart! That&#39;s when you will find this love.    Connect with us:Kate on IG| @chiefjoyactivatorMinistry IG| @iamfreewomanministriesInconvenienced by Love: Season 1 Episode 9Link to register for Dear Sister summits: <a href="https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZckf-qrrjMqGdOxOfklF4NXZ4mpuGboVLTY" rel="nofollow">https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/register/tZckf-qrrjMqGdOxOfklF4NXZ4mpuGboVLTY</a>

25: Sixteen Ways to Give & Receive More Love

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Today’s friend is someone I attended high school with and over the years we have reconnected and gotten closer as sisters in Christ. Her compelling story is one of bravery, surrender, heart of worship, and victory.Not everyone who was deported from another country gets to return to that country and make lemonade out of lemons. You need to listen because you will be blessed and your heart will thank you. As you listen to the conversation, bear this in mind:<ul><li>Allow the lessons to be taught.</li><li>Go through challenging seasons and not be broken by them.</li><li>Don’t take God out of the equation when searching for answers. </li><li>You are never too spiritual to call yourself a child of God.</li><li>Decide and choose God everyday.</li><li>Fellowshipping with God is where you start to believe. </li><li>Get past the conflict of the body, soul and spirit. </li><li>When God interrupts, lean forward not backward.</li><li>Feed your spirit with the Word of God everyday. </li></ul> Connect with Kate and the Ministry:IG| @chiefjoyactivator FB &amp; IG|@iamfreewomanministries

24: Yvette Ireland "My Life Interrupted by God"

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Dr. Gladys Childs is a speaker, author, church leader, professor, pastor&#39;s wife, and mother. Her passion is to meet people at the intersection of life and faith to provide relevant understanding of and hope in God. No stranger to heartache herself, she grew up in a non-church-going family with an alcoholic mother and came to know Christ at age 14.A survivor of trauma, she firmly believes in God’s ability to overcome life’s traumas. She has on her website - www.gladyschilds.com a section where you can submit questions and I read a question that someone submitted. The question is “How do I call God ‘Father’ after sexual abuse by dad?” I want you, dear sister, to go and read her response! Spot on! Here are some nuggets from our conversation:<ul><li>Have the mindset of being open with your journey with God.</li><li>Focus on the stillness instead of giving up when practicing spiritual disciplines. It is about what you are gaining, not what you are giving up.</li><li>Always turn to God no matter what.</li><li>You are less of a mess today than you were yesterday and you will be better tomorrow.</li><li>Finding meaning frames your thoughts.</li><li>When you are bored with your devotions, go to the next level.</li><li>Do the acts that God would have you do not what people expect you to be.</li></ul>Remember to follow us on Instagram, YouTube and Facebook@chiefjoyactivator @iamfreewomanministries

23: How to Listen to the Still Small Voice with Dr. Gladys Childs

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&#34;God can use anyone who has a willing heart of obedience”. You and I have been called to do something and in that process become and then do more of what we are becoming. God knows the plans he has for you, as he shows you the plan, write it down and make it plain. In this episode, you will learn how to live a God-directed plan. Here are three thoughts:Three Thoughts1. God burdens our hearts for a purpose. Learn and lean into the voice of God to show you the plan He has for you in the steps and stages in which He knows best. And if for some reason you detour from the plan, do not give up, go back to the drawing board with God and He will show you.   2. You will experience many highs and lows working a God-directed plan because your soul will want to do its own thing. Your personality might be speaking a different language than what the spirit tells you. Remember, Jesus left us the Holy Spirit for a reason. Allow your heart the privilege to receive what it needs from God, your soul will thrive and your heart will thank you. 3. Experiencing anxiety, worry, depression, confusion, uncertainty, fear is normal when embarking on a journey. The choice you have is you either get to go alone and do it all by yourself, or you get to go with your heavenly Father and trust Him and his heart towards you. When you seek God, you will find Him, when you seek Him with your whole heart. When the emotional and mental burdens kick-in, run to his Word, talk through and with someone, and allow His love to fill those spaces that fear would try to creep in.   Remember to follow us on Instagram and YouTube:@chiefjoyactivator @iamfreewomanministries

22: How to Live a God-Directed Plan

Choose to Live FREE! A podcast for the woman or girl who needs a wellbeing rescue. Healing the heart and mind is not that complicated... Join the host, Kate as she shares her journey of heart transformation along with those of friends invited to sit with her and with you. A native of Ghana living and making life in America with her husband and kids, Kate unpacks the deepest parts of her heart and mind and invites you to do the same so you live joyfully FREE! So, how is your Heart dear friend? A joyful heart is within reach, a peaceful mind too. On the Choose to Live FREE podcast, Kate explores stories and tools that can help you be, live, and stay FREE as God has promised. Kate explores the heart and mind connections and how we can wholeheartedly heal the broken parts of us. While it is understood that hurt people hurt people, we want to flip the narrative in our minds that healed people heal people. Join Kate and the Dear Sister Community and lets do the work towards a joyfilled joyful, peacefilled peaceful lives thriving in the love and hope of Jesus Christ. For more information visit www.chiefjoyactivator.com and www.iamfreewoman.org