Episode 113 - You Don’t Have to Be the Favorite!

In this week’s all new episode, Barb and Michelle sit at the table to discuss a topic that rose to the surface for Barb during her recent silent retreat. Have you ever felt the internal drive to be someone else’s favorite? Whether it be at school, work, or even in friendships, many of us seek to be the favorite. Barb and Michelle talk about their personal journeys with this dynamic and how they are breaking it, once and for all. Follow us @MichelleMaros and @Peaceful_Barb and share your experiences with us @BarbKnowsBestPod or at www.michellemaros.com/podcast.

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In this week’s all new episode, Barb and Michelle dive into a listener's request of how to not let the changes in other people's moods affect you. In this sneaky habit, many of us find ourselves giving away our power by walking on eggshells to bend to the moods of others. In this show, Barb and Michelle discuss personal stories and insights of how they’ve worked through this dynamic in their own relationship. Follow us @MichelleMaros and @Peaceful_Barb and share your experiences with us @BarbKnowsBestPod or at www.michellemaros.com/podcast.

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We all often can pick up on times in life where we notice our minds going into overdrive, but sometimes, there are subtle ways overthinking creeps in. Barb and Michelle unpack common signs of overthinking, and recommend simple practices to overcome it. Follow us @MichelleMaros and @Peaceful_Barb and share your experiences with us @BarbKnowsBestPod or at  www.michellemaros.com/podcast.

Episode Notes:

7 Signs That You Are Overthinking:

1. You are mentally exhausted
2. You replay conversations in your mind.
3. Agonizing over simple communications
4. You struggle to make simple decisions
5. You have difficult falling or staying asleep
6. You feel the need to schedule everything in your everyday life.
7. You tend to focus on the less important details rather than focusing on the big picture goals.

 

References Mentioned in Today’s Podcast:

Acknowledging Overthinking

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In this new episode, Barb and Michelle discuss five powerful lessons they’ve learned recently that have been hard to accept but powerful to learn from. Follow us @MichelleMaros and @Peaceful_Barb and share your experiences with us @BarbKnowsBestPod or at  www.michellemaros.com/podcast.

Episode Notes:

1. Sometimes when people know they have treated you wrong, they will avoid you.
2. Whatever you do in life, you may end up disappointing someone, but you don’t want to disappoint yourself.
3. Let people do what they want to do, so you can see what they would rather do.
4. The only way to win with a manipulator is to not play their game. You have to leave the playground.
5. Sometimes the Universe will remove you from a table where you used to sit, where the host is no longer serving your best interests. Trust the derailments that life is giving you. 

References Mentioned in Today’s Podcast:

5 Hard Truths You May Need to Hear Today

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In this week’s show, Barb and Michelle discuss the subtle signs and red flags that can alert us to when it’s time to set a healthy boundary, in order to protect our own inner peace. They share personal stories and insights from recent events in their own lives, and how engaging in this practice has benefitted them. Follow us @MichelleMaros and @Peaceful_Barb and share your experiences with us @BarbKnowsBestPod or at  www.michellemaros.com/podcast.

 Episode Notes:

When you start to feel those feelings of disrespect from people in your life, this is a sign that you need to establish boundaries.

When facing times where you are engaged with a difficult person, or a difficult situation try to consider the Three C’s Rule:

• I didn’t cause it.
• I can’t control it.
• I can’t cure it.

Have clarity on what you want to say to someone that you feel is disrespecting you, and allow yourself to advocate for your best interest. 

References Mentioned in Today’s Podcast

• Nedra Glover Tawwab
• The Three C’s
• Barb Knows Best Episode 70: How We Manage Disrespect

  

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This week, Barb and Michelle seek to define ‘peace’, what it looks like in life, and the misconceptions surrounding its true meaning.  Follow us @MichelleMaros and @Peaceful_Barb and share your experiences with us @BarbKnowsBestPod or at  www.michellemaros.com/podcast.

Episode Notes:

Remember:

• True peace stems from the inside.  
• Your time and your energy are precious and irreplaceable; focus on the things that matter most to you. 
• Peace = discernment   
• Inner peace comes from loving and accepting yourself fully.

References Mentioned in Today’s Podcast:

• What a Peaceful Mind Means to Me by Michelle Maros
• Peaceful Mind Peaceful Life®
• The Road Less Traveled by Scott Peck

  

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After last week’s episode on peace and acceptance, we decided it would be fun to re-release this early episode discussing being okay with being the villain in someone else’s story. It’s a great conversation to follow up from episode 106! Follow us @MichelleMaros and @Peaceful_Barb and share your experiences with us @BarbKnowsBestPod or at  www.michellemaros.com/podcast.

Episode Notes: 

• It’s okay to disappoint someone else if you’re standing up for yourself.
• It’s okay to set boundaries in relationships that aren’t supportive, or loving, or in alignment, because you feel called to do so.
• It’s okay to speak your truth, even if you know that the people that are listening might not like it.
• It’s okay to say no.
• It’s okay to stop communicating with someone because they’re not respecting you or your wishes.
• It’s okay to not tolerate those parts of your life that drag you down, make you feel less than, or don’t allow you to live your fullest best life.

References Mentioned in Today’s Podcast:

My Favorite Lesson I’ve Learned in 2023 So Far by Michelle Maros

Crossing the Flood, A Commentary on the Oghatarana Sutta

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In this week’s episode, Barb and Michelle take a listener's request in discussing the concept of finding peace through acceptance, and letting people be wrong about you. In this episode they talk about personal experiences and lessons learned from releasing  the need to explain yourself and your actions. Follow us @MichelleMaros and @Peaceful_Barb and share your experiences with us @BarbKnowsBestPod or at  www.michellemaros.com/podcast.

 

Episode Notes:

What is peace?

• Peace is strength.
• Peace is rising above the chaos.
• Peace is acceptance.
• Peace is knowing who you are and knowing that you are worthy.

 

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In this week’s episode, Barb and Michelle talk about what it means to truly lean into acceptance of what is, and find authentic peace and understanding in the present moment. Follow us @MichelleMaros and @Peaceful_Barb and share your experiences with us @BarbKnowsBestPod or at  www.michellemaros.com/podcast.

Episode Notes:

• Accept what life is going to bring in the present moment.
• Accept that you have no control.
• Take a pause and ask yourself “What can I do here?”                                  
• Take the action that is going to serve you and all humanity around you.

Serenity Prayer:

God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.

References Mentioned in Today’s Podcast:

• Episode 49: Your Mindset in 2023
• Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl
• Acceptance The Way To Serenity and Peace of Mind by Vincent Paul Collins



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In this week’s episode, Barb and Michelle dive deeper into their conversation on settling, and how we can all start to find the inner-confidence to stand up for our desires. Follow us @MichelleMaros and @Peaceful_Barb and share your experiences with us @BarbKnowsBestPod or at  www.michellemaros.com/podcast.

Episode Notes:

Tips to help us feel worthy of our actual desires:

• Understand your feelings about a situation.
• Ask yourself what really matters to you. 
• Believe that life is working for you and not against you. 
• Trust the timing of your life. 

 

References Mentioned in Today’s Podcast:

Something’s Coming from Westside Story by Ansel Elgort

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In this week’s all-new episode, Barb and Michelle discuss the societal pressures that lead to settling, and how we can start to connect with ourselves and honor what we truly want and deserve. Follow us @MichelleMaros and @Peaceful_Barb and share your experiences with us @BarbKnowsBestPod or at  www.michellemaros.com/podcast.

Episode Notes:

Questions to Ask Yourself:

• Are you doing something that you wish you weren't doing?
•  Are you doing what you need to be doing?
• Are you feeling satisfied and fulfilled?

Remember, trust the timing and path of your life. 

References Mentioned in Today’s Podcast:

You Don't Have To Settle by Michelle Maros

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In this week’s flashback favorite, in honor of the new year and adopting healthy habits, we are replaying one of our early episodes on noticing unhealthy habits. In this episode,Michelle shares her journey to sobriety and recognizing the toxic patterns and habits in her life that stemmed from drinking. Barb and Michelle share their personal stories and histories of addiction, dysfunction, and making the choice to make a change. 

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Episode Notes:

• Notice where your “line” is and know what it means to cross the line.
• Toxic patterns stem from crossing the line, addictive habits stem lines being crossed
•  Notice when your choices are no longer in your control
• Ask yourself, do I have a choice? Am I in control?
• Am I hiding my habits?
• Do I feel shame?

 

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In this week’s follow up to episode 100, Barb and Michelle continue their conversation about emotional monitoring, and share their tools and insights on how to manage the impulse to be the fixer in your relationships. Follow us @MichelleMaros and @Peaceful_Barb and share your experiences with us @BarbKnowsBestPod or at www.michellemaros.com/podcast.

 Episode Notes:

Here are some of the tools to managing the need to emotional monitoring:

• Become aware of your feelings.
• Honor your emotions.
• Name your feelings and allow them to move through you.
• Don’t allow your feelings to identify who you are.

 

References Mentioned in Today’s Podcast:

• Michelle’s Instagram Post on Emotional Monitoring
• Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor 

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This week, Barb and Michelle dive into a sneaky habit many of us fall into, especially as people pleasers. Learn all about emotional monitoring, how to spot it, and simple practices to unlearn this behavior. Follow us @MichelleMaros and @Peaceful_Barb and share your experiences with us @BarbKnowsBestPod or at  www.michellemaros.com/podcast.

Episode Notes:

Emotional Monitoring – This is the tendency to continually monitor the emotional states of others, while sacrificing attunement to one’s own emotional states.

If you find yourself emotionally monitoring, try to become aware of your emotions throughout the day. Remember you can’t control the emotions of others. Their behavior is not a reflection of who you are. 

References Mentioned in Today’s Podcast:

• Michelle’s Reel on Emotional Monitoring
• Empathy’s Evil Twin by Naomi Torres-Mackie Ed.M.,Ph.D.
• We Can Do Hard Things-The Podcast by Abby Wambach and Glennon Doyle



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In this week’s episode, Barb and Michelle continue their New Year conversation, opening up about their practices for setting aligned intentions at the start of the year, and how they choose their intention words. Follow us @MichelleMaros and @Peaceful_Barb and share your experiences with us @BarbKnowsBestPod or at www.michellemaros.com/podcast.

Episode Notes:

• Sit with yourself in a quiet space 
• Choose a simple powerful word that aligns best with what your desires and wants are.
• Be confident in your choice. Write your word on your mirror or in your phone so it reminds you each day.
• Let go of any expectations or outcomes.

References Mentioned in Today’s Podcast:

• Mindful Boca: An Evening with Elizabeth Gilbert
• Peaceful Mind Peaceful Life Newsletter

 

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Happy New Year! In this week’s all-new episode, Barb and Michelle kick off 2024 with helpful rituals, practices, and introspections to start the year out happy, aligned, and clear. Follow us @MichelleMaros and @Peaceful_Barb and share your experiences with us @BarbKnowsBestPod or at www.michellemaros.com/podcast.

Episode Notes:

New Year Rituals:

1. Identify your past accomplishments.
2. Remember the lessons you learned that life taught you. Honor the strength you had when life was teaching you these lessons. 
3. Reflect on what you really want to create and cultivate in 2024.

References Mentioned in Today’s Podcast:

My 3-Part Year End Ritual by Michelle Maros

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In this week’s episode, Barb and Michelle open up on a simple practice they both rely on to cultivate helpful optimism during difficult times. Follow us @MichelleMaros and @Peaceful_Barb and share your experiences with us @BarbKnowsBestPod or at  www.michellemaros.com/podcast.

Episode Notes:

• Keep something beautiful in your mind and heart as a form of optimism and motivation when times are difficult. 
• Life is difficult, so how we internalize it and what you do with it matters. 
• Acknowledge the feelings, including the sad ones but know that the feelings won’t last forever.

References Mentioned in Today’s Podcast:

John O’Donohue

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In this week’s episode, Barb and Michelle dive into common signs and feelings of living in survival mode, plus, they unpack how to move through these periods of live, and make aligned changes to feel more balanced and at peace. Follow us @MichelleMaros and @Peaceful_Barb and share your experiences with us @BarbKnowsBestPod or at www.michellemaros.com/podcast.

Episode Notes:

Signs You Are in Survival Mode

1. You tell yourself you just want to get through the day or this week.
2. You feel exhausted even after a good night’s sleep.
3. You frequently visualize worst case scenarios.
4. You feel irritable and grumpy and find yourself over-reacting. 
5. You feel overwhelmed by your daily routine, but don’t know how to change it. 
6. You crave comfort foods or forget to eat. 
7. You avoid friends, family, or things that bring you joy because you don’t feel you have time. 

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In this week’s special episode, Barb and Michelle chat with celebrated members of the Florida Atlantic University Men’s Basketball team. After a whirlwind year reaching the Final Four, Barb and Michelle follow up with Head Coach Dusty May and returning players, Alijah Martin and Nick Boyd, to discuss how they maintain their vision, release external pressures, and keep focused on their goals. It’s an episode you won’t want to miss! Follow us @MichelleMaros and @Peaceful_Barb and share your experiences with us @BarbKnowsBestPod or at www.michellemaros.com/podcast.

Episode Notes

FAU Men’s Basketball Schedule https://fausports.com/sports/mens-basketball/schedule

Head Coach Dusty May - @coachdustymay

Dusty May led Florida Atlantic to what is undoubtedly its greatest season in school history in the 2022-23 campaign. May guided his Owls to the Final Four while posting a program-best 35-4 record. Prior to this season, the Owls had one previous appearance in the NCAA Tournament, but this year, May led the Owls to not just their first win in the big dance, but all the way to the Final Four in Houston.

Alijah Martin - @alijahmartin15

• Had a terrific season for Florida Atlantic and was a key component to the Owls’ Final Four run and 35-4 record
• A scoring machine, Martin scored double figures in 24 games, 20+ points in four games
• Became the 15 player in Florida Atlantic history to join the 1,000-point club 
• Became the first Owl to earn multiple All-C-USA Team honors in a career in FAU’s 10-year member as a history of the league

Nick Boyd - @sfnnick

• Came through in the clutch in the first-round win over Memphis in the NCAA Tournament, scoring a lay-up with two seconds left to put FAU up 66-65 and give the Owls their first NCAA Tournament win ever
• Scored a career-high 21 points on 7-of-11 shooting from the floor and 4-of-8 shooting from 3-point range in the win over Rice
• Led FAU in assists with 92 on the season
• The 40% shooting from 3-point range is the seventh highest in a single season in FAU history
• His 68 made 3-pointers were the second-most on the team
• Currently ranks fourth all-time in FAU history in career shooting percentage (40%)

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In this week’s episode, Barb and Michelle continue their conversation from last week on unpacking the uncomfortable moments of the holiday season, and walk us through the common feelings that arise during this time of year. Follow us @MichelleMaros and @Peaceful_Barb and share your experiences with us @BarbKnowsBestPod or at  www.michellemaros.com/podcast.

 Episode Notes: 

• Nostalgia 
• Grief 
• Disappointment 
• Loneliness 

References Mentioned in Today’s Podcast:

Managing Feelings During the Holidays by Michelle Maros

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