Hi, my name is Victoria and these are my thoughts about basically everything. Can&#39;t pick a niche because I have something to say about everything. you can follow me @victoriadevall on all social media!

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In this episode, I delve into what REAL masculinity looks like in a man. I hope you all enjoy :)if you like this episode and would like to support me and this podcast through a donation/tip, here is the link: https://app.redcircle.com/shows/b619aa43-6dfe-4a93-83ce-7883c9a52506/donationsYou can also now book a coaching session with me through my website if you would like one on one support and would like to commit to yourself in this way! Support this podcast at — <a rel='payment' href='https://redcircle.com/victorias-thoughts/donations'>https://redcircle.com/victorias-thoughts/donations</a> Advertising Inquiries: <a href='https://redcircle.com/brands'>https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

Masculinity in Men: What it Really Looks Like

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In this episode, I speak about how to leave a toxic man. I hope you guys enjoy :) Support this podcast at — <a rel='payment' href='https://redcircle.com/victorias-thoughts/donations'>https://redcircle.com/victorias-thoughts/donations</a> Advertising Inquiries: <a href='https://redcircle.com/brands'>https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

In this episode, I speak about how to leave a toxic man. I hope you guys enjoy :)

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How to Leave a Toxic Man

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in this episode, I speak on faking orgasms and what that says about our connection to ourselves. in my experience, faking orgasms made it easier for me to stay in unhealthy relationships/situations because I was able to hide. faking orgasms, in my opinion, is another way we enable ourselves out of our true embodiment. I&#39;ll explain more in the episode, hope you enjoy :) Support this podcast at — <a rel='payment' href='https://redcircle.com/victorias-thoughts/donations'>https://redcircle.com/victorias-thoughts/donations</a> Advertising Inquiries: <a href='https://redcircle.com/brands'>https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

in this episode, I speak on faking orgasms and what that says about our connection to ourselves. in my experience, faking orgasms made it easier for me to stay in unhealthy relationships/situations because I was able to hide. faking orgasms,

in this episode, I speak on faking orgasms and what that says about our connection to ourselves. in my experience, faking orgasms made it easier for me to stay in unhealthy relationships/situations because I was able to hide. faking orgasms, in my opinion, is another way we enable ourselves out of our true embodiment. I'll explain more in the episode, hope you enjoy :)

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Faking Orgasms and All the Other Ways We Hide From Ourselves

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in this podcast, I delve into loving yourself fully- which means sitting with all of the parts of yourself that you have shamed, labelled unpresentable, denied, or been embarrassed of. I delve into being ashamed of past sexual experiences, having an anxious attachment style, and how I move through feelings of unworthiness when they arise. owning all of you- the parts you are ashamed of, too- is true embodiment. That being said, loving all parts of ourselves does not necessarily mean indulging in behaviors or past versions of ourselves that we don&#39;t feel are aligned with the lives we are looking to build- however, the key is loving and UNDERSTANDING these parts of you- deeply- and then letting them go, if you are no longer interesting in feeding them. hope you guys enjoy and if you do, leave me a review! :) Support this podcast at — <a rel='payment' href='https://redcircle.com/victorias-thoughts/donations'>https://redcircle.com/victorias-thoughts/donations</a> Advertising Inquiries: <a href='https://redcircle.com/brands'>https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

in this podcast, I delve into loving yourself fully- which means sitting with all of the parts of yourself that you have shamed, labelled unpresentable, denied, or been embarrassed of. I delve into being ashamed of past sexual experiences,

in this podcast, I delve into loving yourself fully- which means sitting with all of the parts of yourself that you have shamed, labelled unpresentable, denied, or been embarrassed of. I delve into being ashamed of past sexual experiences, having an anxious attachment style, and how I move through feelings of unworthiness when they arise. owning all of you- the parts you are ashamed of, too- is true embodiment. That being said, loving all parts of ourselves does not necessarily mean indulging in behaviors or past versions of ourselves that we don't feel are aligned with the lives we are looking to build- however, the key is loving and UNDERSTANDING these parts of you- deeply- and then letting them go, if you are no longer interesting in feeding them. hope you guys enjoy and if you do, leave me a review! :)

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Accepting & Loving the parts of yourself that you've labelled "unworthy"

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In this podcast, I wanted to speak on the phenomenon of &#34;saving people.&#34; In my life, I&#39;ve experienced this in 2 main forms- 1. where someone WANTS to be &#34;saved&#34; and is encouraging you to act in a codependent manner, and 2. where someone doesn&#39;t want to be &#34;saved&#34; and you are projecting and interjecting into their life. Either way, these ways of acting are not authentic. When my father went to prison last year, I hit rock bottom with this &#34;savior&#34; dynamic. I was miserable, coming from a complete place of illusion, and wasn&#39;t able to clearly validate his situation as it was, because I believed I needed to save him from it. Through hitting rock bottom, I was able to liberate myself from all the ways I had been engaging in this &#34;saving&#34; dynamic- with family, friends, and romantic relationships. This is my experience and my insight into &#34;saving.&#34; Hope you enjoy, and if you do, leave me a review :) Support this podcast at — <a rel='payment' href='https://redcircle.com/victorias-thoughts/donations'>https://redcircle.com/victorias-thoughts/donations</a> Advertising Inquiries: <a href='https://redcircle.com/brands'>https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

In this podcast, I wanted to speak on the phenomenon of "saving people." In my life, I've experienced this in 2 main forms- 1. where someone WANTS to be "saved" and is encouraging you to act in a codependent manner, and 2.

In this podcast, I wanted to speak on the phenomenon of "saving people." In my life, I've experienced this in 2 main forms- 1. where someone WANTS to be "saved" and is encouraging you to act in a codependent manner, and 2. where someone doesn't want to be "saved" and you are projecting and interjecting into their life. Either way, these ways of acting are not authentic. When my father went to prison last year, I hit rock bottom with this "savior" dynamic. I was miserable, coming from a complete place of illusion, and wasn't able to clearly validate his situation as it was, because I believed I needed to save him from it. Through hitting rock bottom, I was able to liberate myself from all the ways I had been engaging in this "saving" dynamic- with family, friends, and romantic relationships. This is my experience and my insight into "saving." Hope you enjoy, and if you do, leave me a review :)

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Stop trying to "save" people- it's not real

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Lately I&#39;ve been thinking a lot about this masculine shield I have that I accepted for a lot of my life as just part of my personality. As I get more honest with myself, I realize that it is a shield I&#39;ve put up for 10+ years because I felt threatened and perpetually unsafe. As an adult, this protective, trauma induced armor that I&#39;ve held for so long is something I no longer want to carry, and something I feel blocks myself and all women from experiencing the safety that we truly crave and deserve.
These are my thoughts, hope you enjoy :) Support this podcast at — <a rel='payment' href='https://redcircle.com/victorias-thoughts/donations'>https://redcircle.com/victorias-thoughts/donations</a> Advertising Inquiries: <a href='https://redcircle.com/brands'>https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

Lately I've been thinking a lot about this masculine shield I have that I accepted for a lot of my life as just part of my personality. As I get more honest with myself, I realize that it is a shield I've put up for 10+ years because I felt threatened ...

Lately I've been thinking a lot about this masculine shield I have that I accepted for a lot of my life as just part of my personality. As I get more honest with myself, I realize that it is a shield I've put up for 10+ years because I felt threatened and perpetually unsafe. As an adult, this protective, trauma induced armor that I've held for so long is something I no longer want to carry, and something I feel blocks myself and all women from experiencing the safety that we truly crave and deserve.
These are my thoughts, hope you enjoy :)

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The Masculine Shield: why we carry it as women, and why we should put it down