As parents, we know raising kids is the opposite of neat and tidy. Each day brings wins, losses and valuable lessons. Pardon the Mess is a place where we discuss parenting and faith in a biblical, approachable and relatable way. We may cry and laugh while we learn and grow together in our beautiful mess. Pardon the Mess is a part of the Christian Parenting Podcast Network. To find practical and spiritual advice to help you grow into the parent you want to be visit www.ChristianParenting.org

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When our children hurt (emotionally or physically), we simply hurt. One of the hardest jobs as a parent is to discern when to step in and when to let them live through hard seasons. I am so thrilled to introduce you to my very own therapist, Dr. Cassie Reid.  Cassie has counseled me and my own children through many seasons. It’s taken me years to find a good fit and I am beyond thankful for her wisdom and direction for our family. It is not always clear if our kids are just being kids - or if they are really struggling internally.  Listen in as Cassie and I chat about the challenges that come our way as parents. She shares many practical recommendations for us parents.  My favorite part is when she talks about the expectations we have for our kids. She challenges us to look inward and really work on ourselves and our own healing journey. She shares how our unrealistic expectations can start to produce extra pressure and anxiety and how to look out for that scenario in our homes.  In this episode we chat about: <ul><li>When to see a therapist or counselor</li><li>Why counseling is so important for families </li><li>Two pieces of advice for parents that she wishes we all knew</li></ul> Chapters:00:00Introduction and Personal Connection01:36Dr. Cassie Reed&#39;s Background and Passion08:35Recognizing the Need for Professional Help10:06Finding Affordable Therapy Options12:55The Impact of Parental Anxiety on Children14:36Setting Boundaries and Recognizing Age-Appropriate Behavior22:26Setting Boundaries and Creating Space for Children23:49Managing Expectations and Apologizing to Children26:19The Impact of Technology on Children&#39;s Mental Health27:10Navigating Issues of Gender and Sexual Preferences as Christian Parents29:04Dr. Cassie Reid&#39;s Work in Spiritual Abuse Prevention and Healing Connect with Pardon The Mess:<a href="https://www.christianparenting.org/" rel="nofollow">Christian Parenting</a><a href="https://www.instagram.com/pardonthemesspodcast/?hl=en" rel="nofollow">Pardon The Mess </a><a href="https://www.instagram.com/courtney_defeo/" rel="nofollow">Courtney DeFeo</a> Resources from today’s show: <a href="https://cassiereid.com/" rel="nofollow">CassieReid.com</a> <a href="https://www.instagram.com/drcassiereid/" rel="nofollow">Cassie’s Instagram</a> <a href="https://www.instagram.com/churchrehab/" rel="nofollow">Church Rehab by Dr. Cassie Reid</a> <a href="https://www.lifeway.com/en/product-family/come-home-bible-study?mid=pm%3Apod%3A240501%7Cboth%7Cna%7Cwomen%7Ccome_home%7Cna%7Cch_cpn_cp%3Ana%3Ana" rel="nofollow">Come Home</a> <a href="https://www.christianparenting.org/product/gods-holy-spirit-in-me/" rel="nofollow">God’s Holy Spirit in Me kid’s devotional</a> <a href="https://www.amazon.com/My-Daddys-Hero-Story-Ultimate/dp/0736987762?crid=1UJ341P2KR0R2&keywords=my+daddy%26%2339%3Bs+hero+jerrad+lopes&language=en_US&linkCode=sl1&linkId=45e9cf7b34fc007c646e888b68f119e5&qid=1706549969&ref_=as_li_ss_tl&sprefix=my+daddys+hero%2Caps%2C93&sr=8-1&tag=datiloit-20" rel="nofollow">My Daddy’s Hero</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

Does my child need a therapist? Navigating anxiety with our kids with Dr. Cassie Reid

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“Then Samuel took a stone and set it up between Mizpah and Shen. He named it Ebenezer, saying, ‘Thus far the Lord has helped us.’” —1 Samuel 7:12The Israelites were in desperate need of a victory against the Philistines. Just as they were convincing themselves it was a lost cause, Samuel cried out to God and received an answer in the form of deafening thunder that scared away the enemy and secured an Israelite victory.Orthodox battle move? No. God protecting his people? Absolutely.No sooner than they finished their victory lap, Samuel stopped everyone in their tracks to make a critical point. He grabbed a stone as a memorial and named it Ebenezer, translated as “the Lord has helped us to this point.”Samuel knew their battle win was significant from a tactical perspective, but he also knew the more significant win was the reminder that God had protected them in the past and he’d just done it again.Our kids need the same reminder today that Samuel gave way back then: The God who has taken care of us up to this point will do it again. He is faithful and trustworthy. What are the Ebenezers in your family? Where do you need to start laying down stones as reminders to your family that God’s faithfulness in the past shows he’s trustworthy for the future? Lord, remind us to always pass down the stories of your faithfulness. Mark [name] with a good memory of your provision, giving them confidence to trust your heart when they can’t see your hand. Help us to celebrate the places where you’ve given us victory, making a lasting memorial of your faithfulness for generations to come. God’s word speaks: Deuteronomy 7:9; 2 Thessalonians 3:3; Lamentations 3:22–23; Psalm 86:15 Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

BONUS: Marked by Remembering

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If you are a parent, you know the feeling of just “making it through” each day. So often, we want more for our lives. However, we feel stuck and are not sure how to do that when there are children depending on us every day. My guest this week, Farrell Mason, shares about a time when she felt that her life was running her ragged. She decided to do something about how she lived her one precious life. She took action to create a more soulful life in the midst of raising six kids. Farrell Mason is a minister, a mom, a wife and a beautiful writer. She has a passion for standing with others in the midst of their hardest moments in life.   My favorite part is towards the end when Farrell offers very practical suggestions on how to love others well. She is so passionate about caring for yourself as a mom, but also leaning into simple ways we can care for our neighbors. You won’t feel guilt or more pressure to perform - you will feel seen and inspired to lean into more for your life. In this episode we chat about: <ul><li>How to live this one life well</li><li>How to push against busy and impossibly full schedules</li><li>How to pay attention to what your soul craves </li><li>How to help your hurting friends </li></ul> Enjoy! Connect with Pardon The Mess:<a href="https://www.christianparenting.org/" rel="nofollow">Christian Parenting</a><a href="https://www.instagram.com/pardonthemesspodcast/?hl=en" rel="nofollow">Pardon The Mess </a><a href="https://www.instagram.com/courtney_defeo/" rel="nofollow">Courtney DeFeo</a> Resources from today’s show:<a href="https://www.breadandhoneyblog.net/" rel="nofollow">Farrell’s Site - Bread and Honey</a><a href="https://a.co/d/739KEdn" rel="nofollow">Farrell’s new book: Soulfull</a> <a href="https://www.lifeway.com/en/product-family/come-home-bible-study?mid=pm%3Apod%3A240501%7Cboth%7Cna%7Cwomen%7Ccome_home%7Cna%7Cch_cpn_cp%3Ana%3Ana" rel="nofollow">Come Home</a> Chapters: 00:00Introduction and Connection09:50Living a Full Life and the Importance of Time16:22Commitment to Intentional Living32:21Finding Hope in Difficult Times Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

When you want more for your life, but feel stuck with Farrell Mason

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“Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others.” —Philippians 2:3–4 We’re raising kids in a culture that basks in recognition and praise, making it difficult to strike the balance of teaching our kids to be confident in their God-given identity while also exuding a humble spirit. Humility is not ignoring their giftings, but it’s teaching them to be willing to use them in a way that draws attention to the Giver of the gift rather than the gift itself. Humility is also not a call to raise silent or passive kids. Rather, it’s teaching them a quiet and meek spirit before God. Jesus is the perfect model of humility. He came to earth in the form of a baby and lived a blameless life so he could die on the cross and give us new life. He more than deserved recognition and acknowledgment for his heavenly status, yet he chose to demonstrate humility because of his commitment to the Father’s will and the larger gospel story. He was righteously indignant when necessary but gentle and loving in leading his flock. We’re praying this week for our kids to humbly serve others, admitting their mistakes, and recognizing that all praise and glory belongs to the Lord as the giver of all good gifts (James 1:17). Let’s also ask the Lord to guide them in being passionate and outspoken when appropriate, but also disciplined enough to be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to anger (James 1:19). Lord, you’re the perfect model of living humbly while making a kingdom impact on those around you. Give [name] a spirit of humility and the desire to bring you glory, even when it comes with no acknowledgment. Help them to honor others above themselves and to live in your confidence so they don’t need praise or acceptance from others. God’s word speaks: Ephesians 4:2; Romans 12:16; James 4:10; Colossians 3:12 Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

BONUS: Marked by Humility

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Do you have regrets as a parent? We all do! I have a long list myself. I thought it would be encouraging and super helpful for me to share just a few of my own regrets in the last 17 years of parenting. I asked Kari Kampakis to share her own regrets in this podcast episode.  I have always loved Kari’s relatable and authenticity as a writer, podcaster and speaker. When I read her encouragement for moms - I feel like she has read my mind. She has a real gift for walking with moms so that we feel so seen. When you encounter Kari, you feel uplifted and equipped but never condemned or shamed.  My favorite part is when she shares about how to love strong-willed children well. She shares a powerful story of how her husband approached her strong-willed daughter vs her approach. There’s such humility that pours from Kari when she speaks. It gives us all the permission to be honest about our mistakes. And to have the courage to pivot as we discover a better way.  In this episode we chat about: <ul><li>Raising strong-willed kids</li><li>How to decide if you should have another child</li><li>How to make health a priority in your home from the start</li></ul> 00:00Introduction and Getting to Know Each Other06:21Parenting the Heart vs. Focusing on Behavior13:05Finding Joy in Every Season of Parenthood29:39Trusting God to Fill in the Gaps in Parenting35:56Delaying Cell Phone Use and Monitoring Social Media Connect with Pardon The Mess:<a href="https://www.christianparenting.org/" rel="nofollow">Christian Parenting</a><a href="https://www.instagram.com/pardonthemesspodcast/?hl=en" rel="nofollow">Pardon The Mess </a><a href="https://www.instagram.com/courtney_defeo/" rel="nofollow">Courtney DeFeo</a> Resources from today’s show:<a href="http://karikampakis.com" rel="nofollow">KariKampakis.com</a>Kari’s book: <a href="https://a.co/d/5fljZ65" rel="nofollow">Love Her Well</a>Kari’s book: <a href="https://a.co/d/5fljZ65" rel="nofollow">More Than a Mom</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

Confession Time: 3 Parenting Regrets with Kari Kampakis

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“Do you not know that in a race all the runners run, but only one gets the prize? Run in such a way as to get the prize.” —1 Corinthians 9:24 The Christian life is more like a marathon than a sprint, requiring significant endurance if we’re going to make it through the obstacles we face along the way. From the day we accept Christ until we see him face-to-face, we’re continually building up endurance so we can best run the race set out for us. Having endurance in the context of our faith means we’re always in training mode, getting ready for the hard places of discouragement and suffering that will challenge our readiness for the race. We build up our endurance practically by staying true to the basics: things like spending daily time with God, finding Christian community, memorizing Scripture, and seeking discipleship. What a GIFT to have author and speaker (and track coach) Dorina Gilmore-Young on with us chatting about endurance. I absolutely loved her perspective as a widow, mom and coach - how endurance is something God produces in our kids through trials. We can pray for that process - that they may endure life’s hardships with Jesus as their strength. Let’s challenge our kids to run well so they will hear Jesus say at the finish line, “Well done, my good and faithful servant” (Matthew 25:23). Lord, before you created even one of us, you set us apart for your purposes. Give [name] the endurance to run the race you have planned for their life. Help them to stay the course when they run up against obstacles along the way, reminding them of the importance of putting in the daily work so they are prepared for anything they face. God’s word speaks: Philippians 3:14; Romans 5:3–4; 2 Timothy 4:7; Hebrews 10:36 Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

BONUS: Marked by Endurance

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Pardon the Mess is sponsored by BetterHelp. Are you struggling with where your child should go to school? This common fear and worry can grip us all. We want so desperately to make the right choice for each of our kids. It can also be confusing when your friends all have different opinions on the matter or maybe your spouse is in disagreement with your plan.  You will feel extremely encouraged by today’s episode with Terry Ann Kelly. She has practical advice for these decisions as well as grounding truths to calm our hearts. She is a grandmother, wife and mom and has many years of experience with schools. As the founder of Students Standing Strong, she has seen first hand that God can do anything with any child and any school. My favorite part is the story she shares about her son at the end. It is so refreshing to hear a very personal example of how God can use each of our kids in the most powerful ways at school every day.  In this episode we chat about: <ul><li>How to seek God in tough school decisions</li><li>How to bring your faith into the public school setting</li><li>How to call your kiddos higher in loving their classmates</li></ul> Enjoy! Connect with Pardon The Mess:<a href="https://www.christianparenting.org/" rel="nofollow">Christian Parenting</a><a href="https://www.instagram.com/pardonthemesspodcast/?hl=en" rel="nofollow">Pardon The Mess </a><a href="https://www.instagram.com/courtney_defeo/" rel="nofollow">Courtney DeFeo</a> Resources from today’s show:<a href="https://www.studentsstandingstrong.org" rel="nofollow">Students Standing Strong</a><a href="https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/moms-dads-grads-gift-guide/" rel="nofollow">Moms, Dads, and Grads Gift Guide</a> Pardon the Mess is sponsored by BetterHelp. Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

Is private school better than public school? With Terry Ann Kelly

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“Each of you should use whatever gift you have received to serve others, as faithful stewards of God’s grace in its various forms.” —1 Peter 4:10 As we wrap up the greatest commandment, we’re focused on how to love God with all of our strength. Contrary to how it sounds, loving God with all of our strength is not a reference to our physical strength. The Hebrew word used for strength in the context of the greatest commandment is me’od, which is translated as “much” or “very.”Loving God with all of our strength is loving God with our “much-ness.” It’s using our possessions, our time, our talents, our parenting, our volunteering—everything we’ve got—to love God and live for him. Said differently, wherever the Lord has planted you and with whatever resources he’s provided, use all your strength to love him smack-dab in the middle of it all.As we pray for our kids to love God with all of their strength, we’re praying that they use all of their party-planning skills, math aptitude, athleticism, and social media acumen for God’s greatest glory. It’s taking the seemingly small places in their life and asking the Lord to use it in every possible way for his bigger purposes.Spend time this week asking the Lord to use your kids’ gifts to bring God glory. Pray that he uses them for his greater purposes right where he has them, teaching them to love the Lord with all of their much-ness and strength.Lord, thank you for all the gifts and talents you’ve given our family. I pray that you will guide my children to use these gifts generously for your glory. With all of the much-ness you’ve given [name], remind them to serve those around them as they learn to love you with all of their strength.  God’s word speaks: Hebrews 13:16; Proverbs 11:24–25; Deuteronomy 16:17; Colossians 3:23 Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

BONUS: Marked by our Strength

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Pardon the Mess is sponsored by BetterHelp. It’s not often you get to interview a college kid about growing up as a Christian. The Stites are family friends of ours and a family we admire and respect so very much. I am often asking them for advice since they are ahead of the game by a few years.  Today’s episode is a chat with their son, Campbell, who is studying political science at Texas A&amp;M University. He has always been a leader and I have absolutely loved watching God grow his faith during his first year in college. He’s making some wise choices that we can all learn from. My favorite part of the episode is when he encourages parents to get interested in their child&#39;s interests. He shares about how his mom invested in his interests and helped foster a super close mom/son relationship.  In this episode we discuss:<ul><li>How to make faith a priority in college</li><li>The power of friends and your circle</li><li>How to let boys have freedom vs controlling them</li><li>The gift of allowing your teens to fail</li></ul> Connect with Pardon The Mess:<a href="https://www.christianparenting.org/" rel="nofollow">Christian Parenting</a><a href="https://www.instagram.com/pardonthemesspodcast/?hl=en" rel="nofollow">Pardon The Mess </a><a href="https://www.instagram.com/courtney_defeo/" rel="nofollow">Courtney DeFeo</a> Resources from today’s show: <a href="https://www.christianparenting.org/articles/moms-dads-grads-gift-guide/" rel="nofollow">Moms, Dads, and Grads Gift Guide</a> Pardon the Mess is sponsored by BetterHelp. Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

How can our kids keep their faith in college? with Campbell Stites

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“We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.” —2 Corinthians 10:5 As we pray for our kids to love God with all of their minds, we have to consider that our mind is made up of our thoughts. So, in order to love God with all of our minds, we have to think about what fills our minds and how it impacts the way we love God.Our thoughts are significant because they have the potential to grow our love for God or distract and pull us away from a relationship with him and his great plans for our life. The Enemy loves to get a hold of our thoughts and make us question God’s goodness and protection in our life.For our kids to love God with all of their minds, we’re praying that they “take captive” all the thoughts that are destructive, not instructive. This process of taking captive their thoughts is accomplished by knowing God’s word so that their thoughts are weighed against the truth of Scripture. It also comes by considering what’s going into their minds and how that’s fueling (or lessening) their love for God. It’s praying that they evaluate the movies they watch, the music they listen to, and the voices they allow to speak into their lives. Since our kids’ thoughts have the greatest impact on loving God with all of their minds, let’s take time to pray over their thoughts and ask God to help them take each one captive. Lord, teach us to love you in all of the different areas of our life, including our minds. If our minds are made up of our thoughts, teach us to take captive our thoughts and bring them in line with your truth. Be with [name], helping them to guard what they allow into their minds so that it always honors you. God’s word speaks: Isaiah 26:3; Jeremiah 33:3; Colossians 3:2–3; 1 Peter 1:13 Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

BONUS: Marked by our Mind

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What a treat to talk to Adrienne Camp about how she is trusting God with her kids.  Adrienne “Adie” Camp, a South African singer and songwriter, was the lead singer of the Christian rock band The Benjamin Gate before launching her solo career. She is married to fellow musician Jeremy Camp, whom she met on tour in 2002. They have been married since 2003 and have two daughters, Bella and Arie, and one son, Egan.  Throughout this entire episode, you will hear Adrienne’s heart to connect people in a very tangible way with Jesus. However, she acknowledges that we don’t always feel excited about that. Sometimes, we are sitting in a real place of doubt, frustration and disbelief. No matter where you are on your faith journey (or your kids) - I think you will feel so encouraged by Adrienne’s words and wisdom.  In this episode we discuss:<ul><li>The desire to protect our kids from mistakes</li><li>The real grief experienced when you launch a child </li><li>Getting honest with God - all our feelings and emotions included doubt and anger</li></ul> Connect with Pardon The Mess:<a href="https://www.christianparenting.org" rel="nofollow">Christian Parenting</a><a href="https://www.instagram.com/pardonthemesspodcast/?hl=en" rel="nofollow">Pardon The Mess </a><a href="https://www.instagram.com/courtney_defeo/" rel="nofollow">Courtney DeFeo</a> Resources from today’s show:<a href="https://a.co/d/hJdLZvP" rel="nofollow">As For Me </a>- Adrienne’s latest bible study on Psalms <a href="https://a.co/d/dZ6LQ08" rel="nofollow">Even Me</a> - Adrienne’s book with her girls about their journey to AfricaAdrienne Camp’s <a href="https://www.instagram.com/adiecamp/?hl=en" rel="nofollow">Instagram</a> Pardon the Mess<a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/pardon-the-mess-with-courtney-defeo/id1424241361?i=1000635770373" rel="nofollow"> episode</a> with Jonathan and Peta Pitts<a href="https://www.christianparenting.org/store/" rel="nofollow">Christian Parenting Store</a> (15% off with coupon PODCAST2024) Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

How to approach God when you have anger, doubt and frustration with Adrienne Camp

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“What good is it for someone to gain the whole world, yet forfeit their soul?” —Mark 8:36Loving God with all of our soul sounds very important, but what exactly is our soul?Our soul lies deep down inside of us and is our very core. It’s the invisible part of us that connects us with God. It is where we are most at home, and it’s the most fundamental driver of who we are from the inside out. If you strip away all of our outward actions and how we choose to portray ourselves (or how others may define us), the soul is our truest self.To love the Lord with all of our soul, we’ve got to be faithful in private. We’ve got to be devoted to the things that drench our soul in Jesus and be willing to drop the things that don’t. It’s spending time in prayer confessing what’s in our soul, not just in our mind. As we pray for our kids to love God with all of their souls this week, let’s pray that they learn to love him with the very core of who they are—not by what they intellectually believe about him, or how they serve him, or what they communicate to others by their faith, but truly learning to love Jesus from the core of their being. Pray for the Lord to reveal the depths of their soul and teach them how to love him with all that they are. Lord, we confess to spending a disproportionate amount of time worrying about our earthly bodies, usually at the expense of our soul. Please teach [name] how to love you from their very core, giving priority to the only part of us that will live eternally. God’s word speaks: Psalm 119:81; Psalm 63:8; Deuteronomy 4:29; Matthew 10:28 Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

BONUS: Marked by our Soul

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I am taking a guess that 100% of us are exhausted. And this is beyond the physically tired feeling. You all will love the encouragement and wisdom on today’s episode by Jess Connolly. I have always loved her teaching and preaching - because she balances compassion and truth so well. She doesn’t leave us sitting in the challenges - she provides biblical, practical and realistic ways we can move forward in this issue. This idea of burnout and an unsustainable pace is not new information. We know we are in it but are not sure why or how to stop it as parents? So what do we do? Tune in to this week’s podcast chat with Jess - you won’t feel shame - you will feel equipped and encouraged to do the hard work of rest. We all know our souls are crying for it. I was so absolutely amused at the start of our conversation when I asked her about her cold plunge obsession. Is anyone else into the idea of purposely jumping into ice cold water? She actually gives a pretty compelling case to try it. <ul><li>Jess’ story of emotional, physical and spiritual breakdown</li><li>How to tend to your soul and stop feeling so defeated </li><li>How to break the cycle of surviving vs thriving </li><li>How can we respond to God’s invitation to rest</li></ul> Connect with Pardon The Mess:<a href="https://www.christianparenting.org" rel="nofollow">Christian Parenting</a><a href="https://www.instagram.com/pardonthemesspodcast/?hl=en" rel="nofollow">Pardon The Mess </a><a href="https://www.instagram.com/courtney_defeo/" rel="nofollow">Courtney DeFeo</a> Resources from today’s show:<a href="http://jessconnolly.com" rel="nofollow">JessConnolly.com</a><a href="https://a.co/d/6swFdmE" rel="nofollow">Tired of Being Tired</a> - Jess’ new book<a href="https://hubs.la/Q02lJBkw0" rel="nofollow">Raising Mentally Strong Kids</a><a href="https://www.christianparenting.org/store/" rel="nofollow">Christian Parenting store</a> (15% off with coupon PODCAST2024) Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

When you are beyond tired (soul exhausted) and don’t know how to get rest with Jess Connolly

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“Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.” —Mark 12:30 Remember the lawyer who tried to trick Jesus by asking him to name the greatest commandment? (Lawyers, am I right?) Jesus, knowing this guy’s antics, responded with, “Love God with all of your heart, soul, mind, and strength.” If we break it down, what does it look like to love God with all of our heart? Our heart is not just critical to our health; it’s also the epicenter of our spiritual life. It’s central to our thoughts and actions, where we spend money, and even the words that come out of our mouths. When Jesus talks about loving God with all our heart, he’s referencing our emotions and decisions.  In order for us to love God with all of our hearts, we have to prioritize spending time with him and in his word. When we spend time with God, we start wanting to do the things that are pleasing to God and we care about the things that he cares about. Having time with our creator enables us to know what he wants for our lives, and we can’t help but pursue him and the things he values and wants for our families. Let’s pray this week that our kids learn to love God with all of their hearts, beginning with prioritizing time with him and pursuing him in all that they do. Lord, teach us to show our love for you, not just with our words, but with our lifestyle. Lead [name] to prioritize time in your word and learn to pursue you in all that they do. Remind us that loving you means also loving our neighbor. Make us aware of the needs we can meet around us. God’s word speaks: 1 John 4:7–8; 1 Corinthians 13:13; John 13:34; 1 John 4:19 Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

BONUS: Marked by Our Heart

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There’s not a day that goes by that I do not hear these same sentiments from a mom. And I have been there many times. <ul><li>I feel so lost.</li><li>I don’t know what to do with my life.</li><li>I feel overlooked and unseen.</li><li>I feel like I don’t dream or use my gifts.</li></ul> In this episode, I get the pleasure of having a real life heart chat with my friend (and my Life Plan Coach) Brooke Warnock. She shares about her journey of raising 5 kids on a ranch - while wanting to use her unique gifts for the Lord. It can be a huge struggle for all of us. My favorite part is how honest she is about the struggle of using your gifts and raising kids. She will make you feel so seen as she shares her journey. I pray you feel so very encouraged that this is not the end of your story.  In some ways, the motherhood years are just the beginning. If you don’t have your exact calling and purpose figured out - do not feel discouraged. I pray you never forget that God will use every bit of you and your giftings to raise those kids and build your home.  In this episode we discuss: <ul><li>What to do when you feel trapped and unseen at home</li><li>How to bring your gifts and talents into your home, not just your vocation</li><li>How to dream and redefine your life while embracing the seasons of parenting</li></ul> What is wrong? What is right? What is confused? What is missing? Connect with Pardon The Mess:<a href="https://www.christianparenting.org" rel="nofollow">Christian Parenting</a><a href="https://www.instagram.com/pardonthemesspodcast/?hl=en" rel="nofollow">Pardon The Mess </a><a href="https://www.instagram.com/courtney_defeo/" rel="nofollow">Courtney DeFeo</a> Resources from today’s show:<a href="http://brookewarnock.com" rel="nofollow">BrookeWarnock.com</a><a href="https://www.brookewarnock.com/free-assessment" rel="nofollow">Brooke’s free assessment</a><a href="https://www.brookewarnock.com/lifeplan" rel="nofollow">LifePlan with Brooke</a><a href="https://patersoncenter.com/lifeplan/" rel="nofollow">Paterson LifePlan</a><a href="https://www.lostvalleyranch.com/?DCSext.ppc_kw=lost+valley+ranch&WT.mc_id=PPC2P&WT.srch=1&gad_source=1&gclid=CjwKCAiA_5WvBhBAEiwAZtCU7zg8ET-gLcQv598293PjJan3vMMX555wsjWTPL5pdGny5_Z75UESPRoCJQ8QAvD_BwE&platform=c&ppc_ac=Brand&ppc_ag=Brand&ppc_mt=b" rel="nofollow">Lost Valley Ranch</a><a href="https://www.ifgathering.com/if2024/" rel="nofollow">If Gathering</a><a href="https://www.bluezones.com/documentary/" rel="nofollow">Blue Zones Documentary</a><a href="http://raisingmentallystrongkids.com" rel="nofollow">Raising Mentally Strong Kids</a>Our <a href="https://www.christianparenting.org/product/scripture-affirmation-cards/" rel="nofollow">Scripture Affirmation Cards</a> are the perfect gifts for your kid’s Easter Baskets! Brooke’s challenge to ask these questions:What is wrong? What is right? What is confusing? What is missing? Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

What do I do with my life? How to pursue your gifts while feeling trapped and unseen with Brooke Warnock

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“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control.” —Galatians 5:22–23 As we celebrate Easter, we have the opportunity to pray that the power of the cross impacts every area of our kids’ lives. It is an incredible assurance knowing that, by accepting Jesus, our kids have a new eternal destination. But we’re also praying for a daily life transformation.When our kids become Christians, we should begin looking for (and hopefully seeing) fruit in their lives. Jesus said those who follow him will produce spiritual fruit, and it’s by this fruit you will know them (Matthew 7:20).In Galatians, Paul describes some attributes of a life without Christ, including anger, idolatry, jealousy, selfishness, impurity, and strife. In contrast, with Christ we start to see the spiritual fruit of love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, gentleness, and self-control. Thankfully, this is not simply a checklist of things we’re constantly trying to achieve. Instead, it’s produced by allowing the Holy Spirit to work within us.Without even trying, our kids will produce fruit that’s visible to the world around them. This fruit can either be produced by the Holy Spirit or produced by their own spirit. Our prayer is that our kids will submit to the Holy Spirit’s leadership, resulting in less of their own fruit and more of his.This week, let’s pray that Easter Sunday impacts the way our kids live on Monday and that they produce fruit that leads others to trust Jesus and his great sacrifice at the cross.He is risen! He is risen indeed!Lord, thank you for your sacrifice at the cross. Allow our gratitude for the significance of Easter to impact how we live every day. Grow our kids in obedience and holiness, naturally leading them to produce spiritual fruit. Help [name] to submit to your Holy Spirit in both the small and big ways, making their life a clearer reflection of you.God’s word speaks:  Matthew 7:17–18; Romans 8:6; Ephesians 4:1–3; Romans 15:13 Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

BONUS: Marked by Fruit

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As soon as I heard about Jenna’s passion for JOY in the home - I knew I wanted to have her on the podcast. Parenting is hard, but there is a way to still bring joy into the everyday messes of motherhood.  I absolutely loved her encouragement on how to get intentional about redirecting our attitudes, conversations and outlook to one that is joy. She reminds us we do have control of our mind - and we can reframe how we see all the tiny annoyances and messes. This doesn’t mean we never get down or get honest with the hard - it’s just an encouragement to not let negativity and frustration ruin some very special years as a mom. My kids would tell you I’m quite moody, but I do see the difference in our home when I find the good and let go of the tiny frustrations. My mood really impacts the home I’ve often called myself the CMO - Chief Mood Officer. Do you sense that your mood can often set the tone and even help redirect to joy? My favorite part is when we talk about community. Are you surrounding yourself with other parents that only complain? What can you do in those moments when everyone is complaining about their kids?  In this episode we discuss:<ul><li>Jenna’s journey with postpartum depression</li><li>How to find the good and joy in the everyday (even when it’s hard)</li><li>Practical ways to bring fun and joy into the mess</li></ul>  Connect with Pardon The Mess:<a href="https://www.christianparenting.org" rel="nofollow">Christian Parenting</a><a href="https://www.instagram.com/pardonthemesspodcast/?hl=en" rel="nofollow">Pardon The Mess </a><a href="https://www.instagram.com/courtney_defeo/" rel="nofollow">Courtney DeFeo</a> Resources from today’s show:<a href="https://jennagriffith.co/podcast" rel="nofollow">Jenna’s site</a><a href="https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-joy-filled-podcast-christian-motherhood-stay-at/id1534070267" rel="nofollow">Jenna’s podcast</a><a href="https://www.youtube.com/@listenerkids" rel="nofollow">Listener Kids YouTube Channel</a> <a href="http://winshapecamps.org/family" rel="nofollow">Register for Camp WinShape</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

How to find JOY in the everyday moments with Jenna Griffith

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What a GIFT to have my dear friend Cari Trotter to pray for us this week about the armor of God. I was so incredibly blessed by our time and needed the chat and prayer myself. “Put on the full armor of God, so that you can take your stand against the devil’s schemes. For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms.” —Ephesians 6:11–12 Most of us don’t spend a lot of time contemplating how to fight against the devil’s schemes, but Scripture does. Thankfully, Jesus has already won our ultimate battle by his death on the cross and resurrection from the grave. But, even then, there will still be trouble in this world because we have a real Enemy who seeks to steal, kill, and destroy (John 10:10). As we face the visible (and often invisible) battles each day, Satan’s success hinges on catching us unprepared and with our guard down. Let’s pray that our kids are battle-ready by wearing the armor of God, as seen in Ephesians 6:13–17: <ul><li>The belt of truth: Pray that God’s truth will defeat the enemy’s lies in their lives.</li><li>The breastplate of righteousness: Pray that they withstand attacks of impurity and wrongdoing by clinging to righteousness.</li><li>Feet fitted with the gospel of peace: Pray for a willingness to go and share the gospel.</li><li>The shield of faith: Pray for protection from doubt, fear, and anxiety.</li><li>The helmet of salvation: Pray for a mind controlled by God.</li><li>The sword of the Spirit: Pray that God’s word is their offense, knowing it’s sharper than any sword.</li></ul> Lord, the battles waged against our kids will be difficult and often unseen. Help them to be ready for anything they face through your protection and power. Mark [name] with a readiness that only comes from you. Prepare them with every tool necessary for victory in your name. God’s word speaks: Ephesians 6:13–17; 1 Thessalonians 5:6; 1 Peter 5:8; 1 Corinthians 16:13 Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

BONUS: Marked by Armor

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If you know Carlos Whittaker, you love him. I have long admired his work in the world. He is honest, brave, vulnerable and simply loves walking with people. I find myself frustrated with the evangelical world when I see such divisiveness around tough topics and a dogmatic stance on every issue. Carlos encourages us that it’s possible to hold your belief and disagree with others in a way that draws people in. My favorite part is when we talk about his approach to parenting. His desire is that we have more conversations of hope than conversations of despair. This was a good caution for all of us - as we see so much in our culture that causes stress and worry. In this episode, we also discuss:<ul><li>How to walk with people not stand on issues </li><li>How to raise less self-righteous kids that really see people</li><li>How to model kindness and create empathy in our kids</li><li>How to raise little world changers</li></ul> Connect with Pardon The Mess:<a href="https://www.christianparenting.org" rel="nofollow">Christian Parenting</a><a href="https://www.instagram.com/pardonthemesspodcast/?hl=en" rel="nofollow">Pardon The Mess </a><a href="https://www.instagram.com/courtney_defeo/" rel="nofollow">Courtney DeFeo</a> Resources from today’s show:<a href="https://www.instagram.com/loswhit/?hl=en" rel="nofollow">Carlos’ Instagram</a><a href="https://www.amazon.com/dp/1400247144?ref_=cm_sw_r_cp_ud_dp_C4FQHP8TFKWW616SM9DN" rel="nofollow">Get Your Hope Up</a> - Carlos’ new devotional for kidsLearn more about <a href="http://WinShapeCamps.org/family" rel="nofollow">WinShape Camps</a>! Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

How to raise world changers with Carlos Whittaker

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“In all this you greatly rejoice, though now for a little while you may have had to suffer grief in all kinds of trials. These have come so that the proven genuineness of your faith—of greater worth than gold, which perishes even though refined by fire—may result in praise, glory and honor when Jesus Christ is revealed.” —1 Peter 1:6–7 The final stage in gold production is refinement, the process of using heat to remove impurities from metal. After the gold is refined, only the most valuable qualities remain because the impurities and lesser qualities have been eliminated. Scripture says that God is refining us. Even though we’re created in his exact image, we are free-willed human beings riddled with sin and impurities that don’t line up with who we were created to be. Just as the refinement of gold takes place in the heat of fire, refinement in our own lives often happens in the “furnace of affliction” (Isaiah 48:10). As parents, we want to keep our kids from the hard places, so we find ourselves stepping in when they face difficulties. But what if God is working most significantly in the hard places in their lives? What if changing their circumstances prevents God from changing their heart? As we’re praying for our kids to be marked by refinement, let’s not ask God to remove their obstacles but rather to remove their impurities. Let’s pray that when the heat intensifies, our kids learn to trust that the One who allows the fire will also bring them through it. Lord, you refine us so that we are cleansed from unrighteousness and become a purer version of who you created us to be. We ask you to take all of the difficulties and trials that [name] will face and use them as an opportunity to see a clearer picture of you. Thank you for loving us too much to leave us as we are. Refine us for your glory.  God’s word speaks: 1 Peter 1:6–7; Zechariah 13:9; Romans 8:18; Job 23:10 Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

BONUS: Marked by Refinement

As parents, we know raising kids is the opposite of neat and tidy. Each day brings wins, losses and valuable lessons. Pardon the Mess is a place where we discuss parenting and faith in a biblical, approachable and relatable way. We may cry and laugh while we learn and grow together in our beautiful mess. 

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