• 249. The Gift of Limitations (with Sara Hagerty)

    This week, I get to share a conversation I had recently with Sara Hagerty -- and it's one I think you'll love and be deeply inspired by! I know I was! Sara is the author of The Gift of Limitations: Finding Beauty in Your Boundaries and I resonated so deeply with her story and this book. In fact, it is my first 5-star read of 2024!

    In this episode, Sara and I take a dive into her inspiring journey of facing limitations, from a challenging road to motherhood, 13 years of infertility, adopting four children, birthing 3 unexpected biological children, navigating a wide age range and seven kids, and dealing with chronic illness. Sara shares her wonderful wisdom on how to embrace and find beauty in the roadblocks, unexpected, and limitations of life.

    We tackle tough questions and discuss the incredibly transformative power of acknowledging and grieving our limitations. Sara's insights into incorporating pauses into our daily lives and allowing God to work through our limitations rather than against them spoke deeply to my soul and it's something I've thought of multiple times since this interview. We also chat about the practical steps you can take to navigate the tension of feeling like there's not enough of you to go around and the importance of trusting God in those moments.

    I hope this conversation helps to shift your perspective on limitations and reveal the unexpected gifts that they can bring. There can actually be blessing in boundaries!

    In This Episode

    [0:35] - I have Sara Hagerty in-studio today to talk about her book The Gift of Limitations!

    [2:03] - Sara begins by diving into her journey and her experience with limitations in her life.

    [4:03] - Despite chronic illness and years of infertility, Sara discovered God's presence in the now and urges others to live fully.

    [7:06] - Sara discusses how motherhood presents challenges in balancing personal dreams.

    [8:43] - How did Sara get to a place where she was able to accept her limitations?

    [12:33] - Sara explains that taking a few minutes daily to sit in grief and then into God's comfort has helped her so much.

    [13:41] - Naming and grieving underlying emotions in frustrating moments cultivates patience, easing family dynamics and expectations.

    [16:21] - Amid life's chaos, being present requires addressing underlying narratives through reflective pauses.

    [19:47] - The profound question of God's identity in our lives when one feels inadequate.

    [23:48] - Allow God to work through life's limitations.

    [27:50] - Don't push against limitations might hinder God's work.

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    30m | Feb 27, 2024
  • 248. Losing Trust

    Join Jesse and I this week as we discuss the sensitive topic of losing and rebuilding trust with teens after they've broken it. Inspired by a question from an Instagram follower, I share insights on the importance of having conversations before resorting to consequences. We highlight the importance of seeking to understand our teens' perspectives (we don't have to agree with them, but I think we should make the effort to try to understand) and adjusting consequences based on their willingness to rebuild trust. Explaining the reasons behind trust issues, such as social media incidents or phone privileges, is crucial to demonstrate genuine concern for their well-being.

    We also touch on the significance of conversations around privileges vs. rights and and fostering a culture of trust from a young age. We give you some practical tool for how to approach those difficult discussions and encourage you to stop, take a breath, and ask the Holy Spirit for wisdom before you begin. Knee-jerk reactions driven by fear, pride, or selfishness can lead to us building a wedge, being a bit ridiculous in doling out consequences, or just shutting down communication lines with our kids.

    We also discuss the two-way street of building and maintaining trust, encouraging parents to invest time, keep promises, and set positive examples. We wrap up by emphasizing the importance of parental introspection, checking our hearts, and seeking guidance from the Lord.

    For more encouragement, I highly recommend checking out my free online class: "10 Days to a Happier Mom," designed to help parents shift from frustration to a place of calmness and peace, ultimately parenting from a foundation of understanding how much you are loved by God and pursuing relationship with your kids instead of seeking to protect your reputation with others.

    In This Episode

    [0:35] - What do you do when your teens break trust?

    [1:35] - We recently dealt with our first broken bone for one of our kids -- after 19 years of parenting!

    [3:28] - I discuss a painful arm injury from my childhood that heightened my sensitivity to possible fractures in my children.

    [12:16] - Am I actually considering becoming a gardener?? Or at least having a container garden??

    [13:36] - I have been immersed in a book that has deeply resonated with me – Sara Hagerty's The Gift of Limitations.

    [16:26] - Reflecting on trust challenges with children prompted deep contemplation after a question on Instagram.

    [22:32] - Before addressing any anger that I might be feeling toward my child, stop and assess your heart.

    [25:18] - Engaging in open conversations with our children about trust builds understanding and fosters growth.

    [27:10] - Before implementing consequences, talk with your kids, ask curious questions, and lean in and listen to seek to understand your child's perspective.

    [30:27] - Rebuilding trust is serious; show understanding, sadness, and love, and actively participate in rebuilding efforts mutually.

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    35m | Feb 20, 2024
  • 247. An Update on Our 2024 Goals (+ an app we're both loving!)

    It's the second week of February and Jesse and I are giving you an update on our 2024 goals! I try to stop at the end of every month and reflect on where I'm at, how I'm doing on my goals and habits, and what tweaks I need to make. 

    Today we share what has worked so far this year, what's not working as well, and what we're learning. From hitting 47 hours of outdoor time in chilly January and making a habit of getting 90 grams of protein almost every day to struggling with turning off screens by 8:30 p.m., we dive into it and share honestly.

    Jesse also provides us with some updates on his sleep, cold shower challenges, and exercise goals and we both talk about how we loving using the Strides app to stay on track. It's made such a difference for us and we'd highly recommend trying it out!

    How are your 2024 goals going? We would love to hear from you, so drop me an email to share your wins, struggles, and everything in between. Let's make 2024 our best year yet!

    In This Episode

    [0:35] - Jesse and I are updating you on how our 2024 goals in this episode.

    [1:31] - We joke about Jesse's new position as assistant coach.

    [4:07] - All about our first two ABC Dates.

    [8:05] - I just finished reading Words with God by Addison Bevere.

    [9:28] - Hear what's saving my life this week!

    [12:20] - I share an insightful email about nighttime phone use as we open our discussion on 2024 goals.

    [15:21] - Balancing business tasks with sleep and shutting down my phone has been a challenge for me.

    [17:26] - I discuss how I achieve my 90 grams of protein goal with a high-protein breakfast and strategic snacking.

    [19:16] - Circadian rhythms, logging outdoor hours, and limiting sugar.

    [22:27] - Jesse and I really enjoy using the Strides app!

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    30m | Feb 13, 2024
  • 246. The Best Way to Encourage Your Single Friends (with Annie F. Downs)

    This episode is perfect as we approach Valentine's Day... because every married person needs to listen to what Annie F. Downs shares in this episode. And all of the single people need to listen to this episode to be encouraged by Annie's story and life! 

    Annie is the author of a number of books, including her newest children's book, So Happy to Know You! We talk about her days as a teacher that inspired this book, her heart behind writing this, and how God has given her so many opportunities to mother other children, even though she has never had children of her own.

    You'll love Annie's stories of personal growth and how she's learned to acknowledge and embrace her unique personality. I loved when she shared how she got to give this book to a number of her former students and their kids!

    One of the topics I really wanted to get to ask Annie about was singleness. I was so grateful she was willing to share her journey, her struggles, and how God has used this longtime longing of her heart to shape the way she lives and serves others. She recently started the Single Purpose League, a community to provide support and connection for single individuals, particularly within the church.

    At the end of the conversation, Annie shares valuable insights on how married and single individuals can better understand and support each other and how the church can do a better job of walking with single people. I was so challenged and convicted by her words -- and it ended up opening some doors for me to have really valuable conversations with single people in my life. 

    In This Episode

    [0:35] - I am joined today by Annie Downs, author of the new children’s book So Happy to Know You!.

    [1:30] - Annie shares her 12-year journey in writing, speaking, and podcasting since 2012.

    [2:24] - Being a former teacher, Annie discusses her inspiration for children's books and connecting with former students.

    [9:50] - We discuss how writing children's books is a form of mothering and walking alongside other parents.

    [11:28] - Annie reflects on her unexpected life at 43 as a single adult and encourages people to pursue friendship across different life stages.

    [16:39] - I ask Annie what she really wishes married people understood about those who are single. Her answer may surprise you!

    [21:28] - How to live fully while still longing for what you don't have.

    [25:35] - What it looks like to hold onto hope and why Annie makes sure to be close with married friends, not just single friends.

    [30:02] - Annie talks about the unexpected creation of the Single Purpose League and its purpose.

    [35:45] - How can the church do a better job of walking alongside those who are single?

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    40m | Feb 6, 2024
  • 245. Life is Messy, But God is Still Good (with Cynthia Yanof)

    I consider the mark of a good book one that makes you laugh and get teary-eyed in the space of a few pages. Cynthia Yanof's book, Life is Messy, God is Good: Sanity for the Chaos of Everyday Life, did that very thing for me. Her ability to bring humor into life's messiness is beautiful and one we can all learn from.

    In this episode, we touch on some of her story and lessons she's gleaned. We talk about her experiences as an older mom with kids in college, high school, and first grade and how foster care profoundly impacted their family. I love her insights into stepping into scary places and learning to lean on God and trust Him -- even when it's really hard.

    One of the parts of her book I really appreciated was her wisdom on friendships. I ask her to dive into this on the podcast as I often hear from women who are really struggling to make and keep friendships. We talk about what it looks like to invest in relationships, even when it feels like we don't have much time and how to really show up well for people in the midst of full schedules. 

    If you are navigating the chaos of everyday life (and, let’s be honest, aren’t we all?), craving a good laugh, and looking for encouragement in the messiness, I think Cynthia's words and story will bless you! Listen in to hear about embracing and seeing beauty in life's messiness and standing confident in the unwavering goodness of God.

    In This Episode

    [0:35] - I am joined today by Cynthia Yanof, author of Life is Messy, God is Good!

    [2:03] - Cynthia reflects on unexpected joys and God's guidance through fostering and how it has impacted their life.

    [7:18] - "Just because it's hard, doesn't mean it's not right."


    [13:15] - Cynthia shares some of her best advice for building strong and lasting relationships.

    [17:27] - I loved hearing about her friend, Elaine, who impacted her life so much through her intentionality.

    [20:17] - "If you think it, do it." Act on those ideas we have to express to people that we care about them.

    [22:34] - I asked Cynthia to share about praying for her kids and what that has looked like over the years.

    [26:57] - Walking through learning difficulties with your kids and resisting the urge to intervene excessively and learning to trust God instead.

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    32m | Jan 30, 2024
  • 244. A Crazy Airport Story + some fun life updates!

    So much has happened over the last few weeks, so today we're sitting down to share a fun episode filled with lots of family updates and news. I share a crazy travel story, talk about my surprising sourdough journey, we give you some can't-miss cold shower updates (please laugh!), talk about a book I finished recently, and tell you about a book light we love!

    We hope that this podcast episode feels like you are sitting in our living room with us chatting about life and things we're thinking about, trying, reading, and learning. We also touch on how our commitment to circadian rhythm and sunlight before screens is going and talk about how we are challenging ourselves outside our comfort zones for personal growth. 

    Psst! We also offer you a coupon code on my new 10 Weeks of Money-Saving Menus!

    In This Episode

    ​​[2:06] - Since so many of you have been intrigued by this cold shower thing, we talk more about it -- and even if you could care less about cold showers, I hope it makes you laugh!

    [6:59] - Sunlight before screens: an update on how it's going for both of us and what our mornings look like.

    [11:39] - Why it's important to challenge yourself outside your comfort zone.

    [11:52] - My recent crazy travel story that involved snow, ice, and getting stranded overnight at the airport with Micah!

    [28:47] - I just recently finished reading Expect Something Good: Finding God’s Good Gifts in Motherhood.

    [29:53] - Hear about a new book light that we have loved using!

    [31:09] - My new endeavor for 2024: learning to make sourdough from scratch!

    [36:14] - I remind listeners of my 10 Weeks of Money-Saving Menus program and a special discount code that you can use!

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    38m | Jan 23, 2024
  • 243. Trusting God When Your Life Feels Like It's Falling Apart (with Heidi Lee Anderson)

    Today, I'm sitting down with my friend Heidi Lee Anderson, whom I initially met on Instagram, but our online friendship turned into a real-life bond. Join us as we dive into Heidi's inspiring journey and discuss her new book P.S. It's Gonna Be Good, which explores how God's Word addresses our deepest questions about faith, fear, and everything in between.

    Heidi opens up about facing a cancer diagnosis over a decade ago and the emotional rollercoaster that followed. From chemotherapy to radiation, she shares the highs and lows, including the unexpected turns that left her in awe of God's miracles. We touch on the power of community and the role of faith in navigating through the darkest moments, and Heidi's authenticity shines through as she discusses meeting her husband, overcoming challenges, and ultimately embracing the unexpected beauty that God unfolds in our lives.

    As we explore Heidi’s book, we delve into the questions many of us grapple with: what if the worst-case scenario happens? How do we trust God when He seems silent? What if our reality doesn't align with God's promises? Drawing insights from the lives of Bible heroes like Gideon, David, Joshua, and Martha, Heidi shares how their stories offer profound wisdom and hope for anyone facing uncertainty.

    I hope that this episode offers you assurance that, no matter what, it's going to be good. 

    In This Episode

    [0:35] - Today’s guest is my friend Heidi Lee Anderson, author of P.S. It’s Gonna Be Good!

    [2:09] - Heidi shares how her unexpected 10-pound, 11oz baby was a blessing, which evolved into a book.

    [3:28] - A decade ago, Heidi confronted Hodgkin's lymphoma, testing faith and reality amid uncertainty and treatment.

    [6:55] - In the darkest moments of a cancer diagnosis, Heidi grappled with fear, uncertainty, and despair.

    [8:09] - Heidi finds comfort in God's living word, drawing parallels with Martha's story and Jesus' empathy.

    [10:57] - In Martha's story, Jesus demonstrated sovereignty, raising Lazarus and revealing God's power in perfect timing.

    [15:18] - Heidi shares that she found the hardest part to be dealing with others' hopelessness; encouragement was very important.

    [18:17] - When did Heidi first meet her husband?

    [20:58] - A seemingly small thing, like meeting Ty during a tough time, became a life-changing moment for Heidi.

    [22:12] - Navigating day by day battles with fear and uncertainty, Heidi relies on community and God's word.

    [24:20] - I emphasize the importance of questioning what is truth, combating self-made stories, and the impact of overthinking.

    [25:47] - Heidi offers hope to those facing life's curveballs.

    [27:57] - Heidi touches upon how her book explores life's questions through characters in the Bible, showing that despite challenges, God works for good.

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    30m | Jan 16, 2024
  • 242. My Word for 2024 (and some of the “weird” things I’m trying!)

    Every year since 2016, I've chosen a word for the year. For me, this has been pretty life-transforming as this word serves as sort of my over-arching theme for the goals and hopes for the year. And it also is one that I refer back to again and again throughout the year as I make decisions and think through what to commit to and what to say no to.

    In this episode, Jesse and I explore why I chose the word I did for 2024 and how I am intentionally seeking to live it out with the choices I make daily and the big and small goals I set for the year.

    We talk about how this word isn't just about physical choices, but how our physical choices can profoundly impact our mental and emotional state, as well. Jesse and I laugh about some of the weird things I'm trying as I live this word out -- including red light, morning sunlight and walks in the cold, limiting screen time, minimizing artificial lights, learning about circadian rhythms, and cold showers (something I never, ever thought I'd try despite Jesse extolling the virtues and benefits of them for the past few years!)

    In addition to diving into goal-setting and practical steps we're taking to change our life in positive ways, we talk about the surprising need to child-proof our bath tub and toilet and devices we bought for this, plus a book I am reading. 

    I also announce my brand-new product: 10 Weeks of Money-Saving Menus! We designed this to not only save you time and money, but also to hopefully help you feed your family some really delicious meals that are easy to make! You'll get 10 weeks of done-for-you dinner recipes, suggested sides, and grocery lists! (And use coupon code PODCAST to get them for just $9!) 

    In This Episode

    [0:35] - We are talking today about the word I chose for the year 2024.

    [1:45] - What our trip to Kansas was like with only driving with half of the kids.

    [4:09] - Our Airbnb adventure involved a chilly surprise with a heat outage and a broken faucet, but amazing hosts saved the day!

    [11:30] - Etsy ended up being a lifesaver helping us find a childproof resource for our Roman tub.

    [13:30] - I just finished my first read of 2024: Lovin' with Grit & Grace, a book about love and resilience in a blended family.

    [15:52] - I am so excited to launch a new product, 10 Weeks of Money-Saving Menus, offering affordable, family-favorite recipes with a special podcast listener discount.

    [18:37] - We talk about the word of the year: health!

    [20:39] - As a society, we tend to ignore the natural circadian rhythm and rely too heavily on artificial lighting.

    [23:31] - Hear about how I have adopted a holistic approach, prioritizing morning sunlight, limiting screen time, and embracing nature for emotional and spiritual well-being.

    [25:34] - Our experiences with trying cold showers and everything you maybe never knew you needed to know about cold showers!

    [32:03] - The benefit of going outside of your comfort zone.

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    34m | Jan 9, 2024
  • 241. 5 Significant Changes We're Making in 2024

    It's 2024 and we're kicking off this year with a podcast episode sharing about five significant changes we're making in our lives/schedules to be more intentional and purposeful.

    Because Kierstyn is starting preschool, we are tweaking our daily routine in three significant ways: getting up and out the door by 7:25 a.m., getting our younger three to bed by 7:30 p.m., and me turning off my screens at 8:30 p.m. This isn't just about change for the sake of change, it's about aligning our lives more closely with our priorities, and we hope these adjustments will help us do just that.

    We also discuss other tweaks that we will be making in 2024, such as changes to my blog and our commitment to ABC date nights! Creativity will reign supreme as we aim for 26 creatively-themed date nights throughout the year.

    Are you planning any changes for 2024? I'd love to hear!

    In This Episode

    [0:38] - In 2024, Jesse and I are making five purposeful changes, including setting specific departure times for accountability.

    [3:00] - How we are planning to adjust our morning routine.

    [5:36] - We are embracing a new challenge, aiming to have all kids ready by 7:25 a.m.

    [6:46] - I share how we aim to establish consistent bedtime routines and prioritize health.

    [9:51] - I acknowledge the fact that Jesse and I have differing personality types, but we aim for a balanced routine with flexibility.

    [12:44] - I emphasize the importance of setting realistic routines, considering possible interruptions, and planning for success.

    [15:33] - Hear as I identify a self-discipline issue with screens, which is why I'm implementing changes like turning off screens early for better sleep.

    [18:56] - I sum up three key changes for 2024: early morning routine, kids' bedtime, and screen shutdown.

    [20:49] - Learn a bit about changes I plan to make to my blog.

    [23:09] - I am shifting sharing my personal content to Instagram, podcasting, and a weekly email newsletter for better efficiency and impact.

    [28:54] - Our ABC date night idea.

    [30:37] - I sum up the five changes we are making in 2024: early mornings, kids' bedtime, screen limits, content focus on MoneySavingMom.com, and ABC date nights.

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    34m | Jan 4, 2024
  • 240. Kathrynne shares about her first semester at college

    Welcome to the final episode of The Crystal Paine Show for 2023! I am so thrilled to bring back a familiar voice – my daughter Kathrynne! In this episode, we reflect on Kathrynne's first semester of college, exploring the highs, lows, and the valuable lessons learned. From the challenges of living independently to the joys of making new friends, Kathrynne shares her perspective on the transition from high school to college life.

    We take a dive into her initial uncertainty about the chosen college, the surprising ease of making acquaintances, and the deeper bonds forged over time. Kathrynne offers practical advice for upcoming college students, emphasizing the importance of intentional connections, reaching out to others, and starting good habits early on.

    She candidly shares her experience with procrastination on a major History project, highlighting the crucial lesson she learned in managing time effectively. We also touch on the impact of faith in college, the challenges of maintaining relationships while in different schools, and the overall growth and self-discovery that come with this transformative journey.

    I'm so grateful Kathrynne was willing to join me again to share on the podcast and I hope that this episode encourages you -- no matter where you are in life, that God is faithful to provide, that community is worth investing in, and sometimes what you think is just a small stepping stone turns out to be the path you're supposed to be on for longer than just a short season.

    In This Episode

    [0:35] - It's the last episode of 2023 and I'm bringing back a very popular guest: my daughter, Kathrynne!

    [2:16] - How does Kathrynne feel now that her first semester is over?

    ​​[3:10] - Kathrynne reveals how she embraced the challenges of transitioning from high school to college, building new friendships and connections.

    [6:34] - How a painting night and saying yes turned into lasting relationships.

    [9:32] - Transitioning to independence in college brought newfound responsibilities, from grocery shopping to managing schedules and expenses.

    [12:22] - Hear about what influenced Kathrynne's decision to stay at MTSU rather than transfer.

    [15:19] - Lessons learned on long-distance relationships.

    [18:48] - A 10-page family history essay that Kathrynne recently finished and how she discovered she doesn't like procrastination!

    [22:41] - Parting words to juniors and seniors preparing for and thinking of college soon.

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    28m | Dec 19, 2023
  • 239. Trusting God When Life is Challenging (with Shane Stanford)

    I hope that you will join me for this exciting and thought-provoking conversation with Shane Standord, author of the book JourneyWise: Redeeming the Broken & Winding Roads We Travel (The Eight Blessings of the Beatitudes of Jesus)! ​​Shane has a truly powerful story to tell that's driven by his unwavering faith, strength, and astounding resilience in the face of life's biggest challenges!

    He shares about his journey as a grandfather, 30-year pastor, and founder of the West Center for Applied Theology in Memphis, Tennessee, and he tells us about his life-changing encounter with his own mortality at the young age of 16 when he was diagnosed with Hemophilia and HIV. He talks candidly about how he grappled with the prospect of his impending death and how a profound conversation with his grandfather shifted his perspective, setting him on a path to make every day count, grounded in the love of Jesus.

    Shane also shares how his faith was tested yet solidified during moments of discrimination, injustice, and fear from society due to his health condition. He shares how his belief in the Beatitudes, the wisdom values of Jesus, have offered nourishment and understanding to his journey and how strongly he believes in the need for living our faith intentionally. This is not an episode to pass up, so prepare to have your faith deepened and your perspective on life transformed!


    In This Episode

    [0:35] - Today’s guest is Shane Stanford, author of JourneyWise!

    [1:08] - Shane shares a little bit of background information with us.

    [2:07] - JourneyWise, inspired by Shane's grandmother's wisdom and the Beatitudes, emphasizes learning from life's journey for practical application.

    [3:04] - Through maintaining a prayer journal for 30 years, Shane underscores the importance of intentional faith in deepening the Christian walk.

    [4:35] - Shane reveals that he was diagnosed with HIV and Hepatitis C but chose to intentionally live a meaningful life, inspired by his grandfather's faith-rooted advice.

    [7:11] - Shane reflects on having coped with his HIV diagnosis by leaning on faith and the support of his resilient wife.

    [10:18] - Facing rejection over his HIV status, Shane learned the damaging effects of fear-driven decisions while developing empathy for his detractors.

    [13:21] - Shane explains how he had to differentiate between flawed human responses and the comforting presence of God amidst a broken world.

    [15:04] - The Beatitudes reveal that true abundance comes from self-emptying and loving boldly, experiencing comfort and life's depth.

    [17:44] - Shane adds that the Beatitudes guide a balanced life, navigating tensions between love for God and others, culminating in enduring persecution for faith.

    [20:25] - Shane lives intentionally, guided daily by important human responsibilities and grounding promises from Jesus, finding his hardships have shaped his values.

    [22:45] - Shane emphasizes intellectual decision-making guided by God's promises, explaining it as the true north for daily life especially when emotionally overwhelmed.

    [25:00] - Shane leaves us with encouragement, that no matter your struggles, remember God's deep love; embrace hope, address pain, and anticipate healing beyond this life.


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    28m | Dec 12, 2023
  • 238. Raising Spiritually Strong and Emotionally Healthy Children (with Lauren Gaines)

    I am joined this week by Lauren Gaines, author of Unshakable Kids: Three Keys to Raising Spiritually Strong and Emotionally Healthy Children. As someone who often discusses emotional language and nurturing emotional health in your kids, I have received many, many questions from moms about teaching these concepts to young kids, so Lauren is joining me today to help me tackle this topic!

    Lauren is a mother of three with a background in school psychology, and she provides practical insights and resources for parents seeking to instill spiritual strength and emotional resilience in their children. Join us as we delve into the three keys of focusing on the mind, heart, and identity, emphasizing metacognition, emotional intelligence, and building courage and confidence in Christ.

    Lauren also shares incredibly valuable brain builders and discusses the crucial role of rest in creating a more balanced and peaceful family life. If you're a parent navigating the challenges of raising spiritually strong and emotionally healthy kids, I hope this episode encourages you and gives you a lot of food for thought.

    In This Episode

    [0:35] - Lauren Gaines, author of Unshakable Kids, is today’s guest!

    [2:01] - Lauren, a mother of three with a school psychology background, integrates psychology and biblical teachings.

    [5:35] - What does the phrase “spiritual strength” mean to Lauren?

    [8:47] - Hear Lauren define what “emotionally healthy” means to her.

    [10:14] - In her book, Lauren emphasizes the profound impact of the mind and explores emotional health, identity, and practical strategies for parenting.

    [12:59] - Lauren highlights metacognition, encouraging conversations with kids about the power of words and providing ways to shift negative thought patterns.

    [15:33] - Lauren delves into methods that teach kids to understand and change thought patterns for emotional well-being.

    [17:47] - How to boost kids' emotional awareness and promote positive expressions and understanding.

    [20:19] - It's important for kids to recognize physical sensations as signals of emotions.

    [22:49] - How does Lauren navigate homeschooling stress?

    [24:37] - Lauren guides kids through adversity with a three-step process, emphasizing reflection and aligning beliefs with positivity.

    [26:46] - How to find quiet moments in your day, even if you have a very full life.

    [29:01] - Lauren explains that she embraces rest and aligns with biblical teachings for improved well-being.

    [31:35] - Lauren talks about how they've recently restructured their lifestyle and the difference it has made.

    [33:31] - How slowing down, reflecting, and prioritizing peace over rushing can make such a difference in your home.

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    35m | Dec 5, 2023
  • 237. REAL TALK: When It's Hard to Prioritize Your Marriage

    This year has been stretching for our marriage. We’ve had some really hard and spark-less days. In fact, at the beginning of the summer, I looked into Jesse’s eyes and said: “This isn’t working. Something needs to change.”

    We talked about how we felt like we’d been running on empty in our marriage, that we’d been trying to tap into any reserves we had but we were now hitting the bottom of the barrel.

    Maybe some of you who have walked through challenging seasons can relate?

    It wasn’t any one thing. We still loved each other. We just were tired and worn down and our marriage was getting the leftovers — and truthfully it felt like there really hadn’t even been many leftovers to spare in recent months.

    We knew something needed to change, so here were two things we did:

    HONESTY: we said out loud what we were feeling. We didn’t blame the other person. We took personal responsibility. It’s sometimes easy to stuff down our feelings — but that only makes things worse over time as they eventually explode out in dysfunctional responses (and usually in anger). We also got honest with God — asking for His help and wisdom — and with few trusted friends in our life. We listened to their wise counsel and took their advice.

    PRIORITY: we started prioritizing our marriage again — even when it was super challenging to do with 3 teens and 3-4 younger ones. I realized that I’d been putting the kids’ needs above Jesse. I would always view their needs as more urgent and put him on the back burner. I didn’t mean to do this, but it just sort of started happening — and it hurt our relationship. So I began asking them to wait sometimes so that I could talk to him/kiss him/greet him first. We committed to look into each others’ eyes more. To kiss more. To look for little ways to express our love throughout the day. And to make time for dates by ourselves — even if it was just 45 minutes.

    Love is often built and nurtured in the little tiny choices day in and day out. We’d lost sight of that this year and the impact was significant.

    But little bit, by little bit, in our choosing to make each other the most important priority next to God again, the sparks are coming back!

    In this week's episode of the podcast, Jesse and I share more about this year, the challenges our marriage has faced, and how we're fighting through and fighting for each other... and learning from our mistakes.

    I hope this honest and vulnerable conversation encourages you. Plus, like usual, we share some family updates and I talk about a sweatshirt I'm loving and an audiobook I've been listening to!

    In This Episode

    [3:19] - We're getting honest about marriage today!

    [6:22] - I have been listening to Three Sisters by Heather Morris.

    [11:32] - A sweatshirt I've been loving and a free Christmas gift guide!

    [13:52] - Reflecting on almost 21 years of marriage.

    [17:02] - Both of us felt like there was not enough space in our lives to handle everything.

    [19:29] - In the midst of a lot of unknown, unexpected, and interruptions, this year’s emotional toll strained our marriage.

    [25:51] - We eventually admitted the need for change in our marriage, emphasizing honesty and shared responsibility without blame.

    [29:07] - Confronting the danger of drifting apart, committing to creative solutions and honest communication.

    [32:37] - Prioritizing each other, teaching our kids patience, and planning intentional dates.

    [36:46] - Jesse adds that recognizing issues and being open to honest communication is crucial for marital understanding.

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    41m | Nov 28, 2023
  • 236. 1000 Hours Outside (with Ginny Yurich)

    I try not to have favorite podcast episodes, but I just really, really loved this episode and can't wait for you to hear it. I hope it inspires and warms your heart as much as it did mine!

    This week, I got to sit down with Ginny Yurich, the founder of 1000 Hours Outside, to delve into her impactful work and discuss her latest book, Until the Streetlights Come On: How a Return to Play Brightens Our Present and Prepares Kids for an Uncertain Future!

    Ginny has deeply inspired me through her work and I share more about how the concept of 1000 Hours Outside has changed my life this past year. I share a little about this during this conversation and then Ginny shares how this idea first came about for her. You will fall in love with Ginny (if you don't already follow her online!) as she shares her heartfelt story and passion for families spending more time outdoors.

    From practical tips for busy moms to anecdotes about navigating outdoor adventures with teenagers, we explore the multifaceted benefits of outdoor play and the positive impact it has on our mental and emotional well-being. I think you will be so inspired and blessed by listening to this episode!

    In This Episode

    [0:35] - I am thrilled to welcome Ginny Yurich to the podcast!

    [3:18] - Ginny shares her transformative experience that first launched the idea of 1000 Hours Outside.

    [6:24] - Hear how Ginny discovers the joys of unstructured outdoor time, realizing its profound impact on child development and emotional enrichment.

    [11:12] - Ginny offers advice on spending more time outdoors, such as finding a friend, choosing a safe space, packing essentials, and starting with easy outings.

    [14:04] - Spending a few hours per day outdoors doesn't have to be as complicated to make happen as it might seem at first.

    [15:35] - Ginny touches upon how incorporating outdoor rhythms transforms parenting.

    [18:51] - Outdoor adventures foster lasting memories, boost cognition, and defy screen-centric teen stereotypes.

    [21:23] - Ginny shares how encouraging teens in diverse activities fosters lifelong development.

    [25:26] - Setting a 1000-hour outdoor goal ensures accountability, balancing learning with flexible and efficient educational opportunities.

    [27:19] - Ginny points out that morning outdoor time boosts mood and energy and sets a healthy day-night cycle.

    [29:27] - I, in closing, point out that the thousand hours outside concept invites a balance, not a strict choice; embracing nature is a gift for both parents and kids.

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    31m | Nov 14, 2023
  • 235. One simple tweak that has made a big impact in our lives

    Jesse and I did something we've never done before for this episode: we recorded it twice! Not because of technical issues, either. Listen in for why (and you can laugh!)

    In this week's podcast, we share a candid glimpse into some struggles we've experienced in recent months that prompted a conversation that led to a change in our daily lives. We talk about some of the hurdles that come with working from home and how these have impacted us recently.

    We also talk about how to be honest when you feel stuck, how to assess and acknowledge your challenges, and how to move forward from stuck to solutions.

    Throughout the conversation, listen in as we emphasize the importance of recognizing that you're never truly stuck, and we encourage listeners to be open to new perspectives and approaches. Join us as we share our journey of embracing change, finding solutions, and discovering the transformative power of a fresh perspective!

    In This Episode

    [1:37] - RSV, stomach bugs, and surgery... it's not been dull around here!

    [10:37] - I just finished listening to a really fascinating novel!

    [15:19] - What has been saving my life?

    [16:10] - Car seat covers have been so helpful!

    [20:24] - We are talking about a little tweak that has made a big difference in our lives!

    [22:51] - Learn about the four As to tweak your life!

    [24:57] - I felt resistance to Jesse's idea at first.

    [29:46] - I detail how this tweak brought unexpected benefits.

    [34:56] - Jesse adds not to dismiss possibilities based on perceived impracticality.

    [35:52] - I emphasize the importance of not believing that you’re stuck; there’s always a solution.

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    38m | Nov 7, 2023
  • 234. Grieving the Loss of What Your Life Used to Be (with Chuck and Ashley Elliott)

    Do you miss a title you used to have, a role you used to have, or a person or thing that used to be a big part of your life? If so, today's podcast episode will encourage your heart -- especially if letting go of what your life used to look like has been hard. Chuck and Ashley Elliott joined me in-studio recently to talk about their brand new book I Used to Be ___ : How to Navigate Large and Small Losses in Life and Find Your Path Forward-- a book that pretty much all of us can relate to!

    Chuck and Ashley have been married for sixteen years and have served as marriage educators, in addition to Chuck being a pastor and Ashley being a therapist. They are also deeply familiar with grief and loss and they share some of what they've walked through in this episode.

    In this episode, we discuss the process of grief, the dangers of belittling our pain or comparing it to others, how to determine if we have unprocessed grief, how anger can actually be such a valuable warning flag, and why so often what we think we are frustrated about isn't actually what is frustrating us.

    They also talk about the three A's to change: awareness, assessment, and action and how we can use these as tools to move to a healthier, more wholehearted and healed place -- so that we can live with more joy and less stress and anger.

    In This Episode

    [0:35] - Today’s show features Chuck and Ashley Elliott -- marriage educators as well as a pastor and therapist.

    [3:18] - Ashley shares some of the grief and losses that she and Chuck have experienced.

    [4:56] - Where does the concept behind the title of the book come from?

    [7:37] - Everyone likely feels that they’ve lost a part of what they once were.

    [11:44] - How can we identify a loss that we aren’t properly processing?

    [14:31] - Chuck shares how anger is sometimes a mask for other feelings.

    [17:12] - Ashley discusses the three A's to change.

    [19:47] - What do you do if it feels like nothing is working and you're just stuck?

    [24:33] - Ashley shares openly about their miscarriages and speaks to parents who have walked through the grief of infertility or losing a baby.

    [28:54] - We end this episode talking about the power of your presence and how sometimes that is the greatest gift we can give to another.

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    30m | Oct 31, 2023
  • 233. When an Unexpected Phone Call Turns Your Life Upside Down (with Jillian Benfield)

    This podcast episode is one I'd been looking forward to recording -- because it is always so special to get to talk to a mom who also has a child with Down syndrome. Author of The Gift of the Unexpected: Discovering Who You Were Meant to Be When Life Goes Off Plan, Jillian Benfield joins me today to share her heartfelt story of getting the very unexpected diagnosis of Down syndrome for her second child, Anderson.

    In this conversation, Jillian and I dive into the depths of her experience, beginning with the earth-shattering phone call that changed her life's trajectory. Jillian recounts the initial shock, the fear, and the grief she felt upon learning about her son's diagnosis. What follows is a candid conversation about the unlearning and re-earning process she underwent, navigating the unexpected, and the beautiful, inspirational transformation that emerged.

    Jillian also shares powerful insights about worthiness and the societal pressures that define what it means to be successful. We explore the misconceptions surrounding Down Syndrome and how her son, Anderson, reshaped her perspective. Jillian's advocacy for inclusive education shines through as she discusses the importance of embracing differences in both schools and churches, and together, we reflect on the beauty of embracing the unexpected, finding hope in the midst of despair, and discovering the gifts that emerge from life's unexpected turns.

    In This Episode

    [0:35] - I have Jillian Benfield, author of The Gift of the Unexpected, on the show today!

    [3:09] - Jillian shares how a surprising move to Alamogordo and then a pregnancy test completely disrupted her plans for her life.

    [5:47] - In the face of a Down syndrome diagnosis, she re-examined life's meaning.

    [10:40] - Jillian reflects on how society usually links worth to success.

    [13:46] - Learn how the unexpected deeply connected Jillian to a vulnerable, suffering Jesus.

    [17:23] - Jillian and I discuss how acceptance transforms perceptions; disabilities don't define worth.

    [20:29] - Anderson is thriving in inclusive school, embracing happiness and sibling love.

    [21:59] - How her other children have grown with empathy, learning from their brother's unique journey.

    [24:09] - Inclusive education is vital for fully embracing people with disabilities.

    [26:45] - We talk about church inclusion, highlighting mutual benefits for all members.

    [28:31] - Jillian reflects on the white sands behind her house in New Mexico, emphasizing that new life can emerge from unexpected challenges.

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    32m | Oct 24, 2023
  • 232. Why We Require Our Teens to Get a Job at 15

    Buckle up because we are diving into a pretty controversial topic this week on the podcast: ​​why we don't think parents should pay for everything for their kids and why we expect our kids to get a job by 15.

    In this podcast episode, I share the story of a simple Instagram post that sparked a heated debate and led me to discuss why we have this requirement in our family. We explore the reasons behind this decision, how it plays out in our home, and the valuable life skills our teens learn through this experience.

    Listen in as Jesse and I discuss how our teens having jobs and learning to manage their own money has been so valuable and provided such fulfillment and real world experience.

    We also discuss the benefits of having our kids manage their earnings, learn to balance responsibilities, and understand the connection between work, money, and their future stability. We also talk about how to navigate jobs when your kids have very full schedules with school and sports. We hope this episode inspires you to empower your children to more successfully manage their time and money as they get older and have more confidence in many different situations.

    In This Episode

    [0:35] - We are talking today about why we require our kids to have jobs by the time they’re 15.

    [1:34] - We've got some travel stories for you today! I hope they can make you laugh! :)

    [18:36] - Lessons learned: stay calm, spread kindness, and look to make the most of every opportunity.

    [22:01] - Why do we require our kids to get jobs by the time that they're 15?

    [24:49] - I strongly believe that paying for everything for our kids does them a disservice.

    [26:16] - I talk about how it's crucial to teach our children about time management.

    [28:19] - We teach our kids fulfillment through hard work, encouraging independence.

    [30:04] - It can be difficult for a 14-year-old to get a job, but there are ways around the challenge.

    [33:35] - Jesse reminds us that we aren't talking about full-time jobs here when they are teenagers.

    [36:26] - The benefits we experienced from getting jobs and managing money as teens.

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    37m | Oct 17, 2023
  • 231. A Healthy Perspective on Body Image (with Rachael Gilbert)

    Welcome back to the show, everyone! This week, I am discussing a Real talk: I’ve struggled with body image much of my life. I’ve used food and exercise as a reward and punishment. I’ve obsessed over what I ate or didn’t eat, how much I exercised or didn’t exercise, how my clothes fit or didn’t fit, and what the number on the scales.

    I’ve beat myself up when the jeans didn’t fit, felt frustrated and discouraged when the scale didn’t say the number I wanted it to, and spent way too much mental energy thinking about what I see when I look in the mirror.

    I’ve always gained 30+ pounds with each pregnancy and losing it has always been a challenge. But I felt like getting back to “pre-pregnancy size” was super important — so I’ve expended so much thought and effort and unhealthy pursuits to hit that.

    I don’t share this so that people will leave comments saying, “But you look great!” I share this because I’m pretty sure I’m not alone in this.

    As women, we can invest so much time, thought, and money in the pursuit of what we think is the ideal body image… all the while missing that we are made in the image of God, thinness doesn’t define our value and worth, and that the Enemy loves to hijack our focus from Jesus to an obsession over our size.

    And that’s why I’m so grateful for this week’s podcast episode with @rachaeljgilbert where we talk openly about what it looks like to have a healthy body image and practical ways to get there.

    Yes, pursuing health and fitness so that we can have energy to do what God has called us to do and honor the body God has given us is a good thing. But the number on the scale or size on the tag of our jeans is not what defines us: Jesus does!

    And I’ve learned firsthand that you can hit your goal weight and still be incredibly unhealthy mentally, emotionally, and physically. Because health isn’t just about what we put into our bodies or what we see in the mirror; it’s also about what we allow to take up residence in our minds and hearts and what we believe about ourselves and about God.

    In this episode, Rachael Gilbert, the author of Image RESTored: Tear Down Shame and Insecurity to Experience a Body Image Renovation, shares powerful insights and personal journey shed light on the often unspoken struggles many face. We delve into the impact of trauma on body image and how addressing both big and small traumas is crucial for healing. Rachael's expertise as a therapist guides us through the process, offering practical tools and a fresh perspective on finding freedom.

    Rachael reveals the significance of addressing both big and small traumas that impact how we view ourselves. She explains how these experiences create barriers and impact our lives, and she shares her own transformative journey, emphasizing the power of processing trauma.

    Her insights provide keys to unlock a new way of thinking and living, so I hope you will join us as we explore the layers of healing, embracing your identity in Christ, and discovering the path towards body image restoration.

    In This Episode

    [0:35] - Today’s guest is Rachael Gilbert, author of the book Image RESTored!

    [1:17] - Rachael shares her personal body image struggles and healing journey.

    [2:25] - Blending fitness expertise and therapy, Rachael guides body image challenges.

    [4:33] - I ask Rachael to share some of her personal journey.

    [7:11] - Rachael shares how she began to seek help and embrace change.

    [9:32] - It starts with recognizing the desire for change, then embracing tools.

    [10:42] - Rachael advocates for identifying core beliefs and challenging them.

    [13:50] - Challenge lies with God's truth, reshaping thought patterns for healing.

    [16:01] - Rachael argues for creating a safe, empathetic space for girls' body image struggles.

    [19:57] - It was so important to Rachael to address her trauma, a key topic in her book.

    [23:29] - Embrace insecurities, and confront them with tools for lasting freedom.

    [25:20] - I add that we should recognize insecurities and find truth in God's love.

    [26:46] - A secure attachment to God improves body image struggles.

    [28:59] - Rachael advises us to open our hearts to Jesus; He heals even the most broken parts.

    [30:26] - I explain why I love the title of Rachael's book.

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    32m | Oct 10, 2023
  • 230. Why I'm Saying No

    “Pretend you’re standing on the edge of a huge cliff and someone is going to push you off if you don’t let go of 2-3 things you’re carrying. What are you going to let go of?”

    I was at the end of my first coaching session with @alliworthington a few months ago and she’d ask me to describe my life and responsibilities. She told me I needed to find some things to let go, scale back on, get help with, or delegate. I pretty quickly said, “I don’t know that I really can.” And I was prepared to back up my answer with lots of solid reasons why I needed to be carrying everything I was carrying.

    Instead of me having an opportunity to do just that, she gave me the cliff analogy above and told me I had two weeks to ponder the question and come back to her with some ideas of what I was going to let go of.

    I love that she did this because it was exactly what my stubborn, do-it-myself, don’t-ask-for-help personality needed to be challenged with. And — to my great surprise! — in the next few weeks, I found three big ongoing responsibilities that I could let go of — and I did!!

    In this week’s episode of the podcast, I share what those three responsibilities were and how it looked and felt to hand them off and what I’m learning from this.

    I hope my journey and story really encourages those of you who might need the gentle nudge — or a strong kick in the backside — to release some of what you’re clinging onto thinking you’re the only one who can do it, the only one who is willing/stepping up to say yes, or the only one who can do it as well as you can.

    This journey of letting go, praying for God to bring help, receiving the offers of help, and letting others help has been SO hard and humbling and so, so good for my soul. Plus, I’m starting to feel a lot more breathing room in my life again — which has been a huge gift!

    In This Episode

    [0:35] - We are talking about the importance of saying no today.

    [2:32] - Hear about a potential water leak we discovered in Kathrynne’s house.

    [6:38] - It turned out that it was just a reading error because the meter was broken!

    [9:57] - Jesse’s passion for weather.

    [12:41] - A funny story about our recent trip and a "stream".

    [16:52] - What has been saving my life lately?

    [19:36] - Our little ones have been loving chalkboards and dry-erase boards.

    [21:37] - I recently read Don’t Hold Back by David Platt!

    [25:09] - Saying no.

    [29:54] - On callings and also balancing that with a sustainable life.

    [32:17] - Letting go of a role I've held for the past few years.

    [36:06] - Two more responsibilities I let go of.

    [37:38] - Saying no can make space for others to say yes.

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    39m | Oct 3, 2023
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