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Episode 14: Relationships in Play feat. Avery Alder

Episode 14
2h 33m | Sep 4, 2026

In this relatable episode, we’re joined by special guest Avery Alder - creator of Monsterhearts, Dream Askew, and The Quiet Year - to talk about relationship mechanics.  


How does your game change when you model relationships as variable stats, states of being, currencies, cycles, roles, or power dynamics?


How do you provide mechanical handles for specific types of relationships, while allowing them to be messy and emergent? What happens when two characters have wildly different interpretations of their mutual relationship? Where do relationships even exist, in terms of the physical sheet or game component that bears them?


Avery sees the kids for the trees. Violet hassles her vassals. Freya sticks to the classics. Avery seizes the means of narration. Violet doctors the narrative. Freya draws her friends close.


*** Check out Avery’s Stuff! ***


https://buriedwithoutceremony.com/


*** Check out JourneyMon! ***


https://ilgingell.itch.io/journeymon


*** Check out Freya’s Blue Skies Sabbatical, Volume 1! ***


https://severalseals.itch.io/drake-barcode-morse-inspector

https://severalseals.itch.io/foleynauts


*** Timestamps ***


No mailbag this time!

Intro to topic [*1] - 0:15:16

Why mechanise relationships? - 0:20:37

Design questions - 0:31:00

History - 0:53:47

Three angles on the Taxonomicon - 1:01:30

Rivalries - 1:07:51

Digression about Shock and conceptual poles - 1:13:45

Authority hierarchies - 1:21:46

Peer relationships - 1:30:49

Relationships as a resource - 1:39:00

Parasocial relationships - 1:45:16

Odds and ends and anecdotes - 1:53:17

Difficult relationships (and more Monsterhearts) - 2:02:16

Design Dreams - 2:12:27

Wrapup - 2:27:45


*** Design Dreams ***


Freya: the League of Super Frenemies

Violet: Hand Inarticulate Hand

Avery: Love’s Letters Lost

Bonus: The Dream Ghost Conspiracy [*2]


*** Games discussed ***


Monsterhearts

Dream Askew / Dream Apart

The Quiet Year

JourneyMon

Underwhelming Acolytes of an Ageing Immortal [-]

D&D 3.5e

D&D 4e

AD&D

Good Society

The Deep Forest

Masks

Exalted Essence

Vampire: The Masquerade

Delta Green

Pendragon

Sagas of the Icelanders

Girl Frame

Hot Guys Making Out

Star Crossed

Interstitial

Riddle of Steel

Burning Wheel

Blades in the Dark

Reign

A Place To Fuck Each Other

Thirsty Sword Lesbians

Lady Blackbird

Chuubo's Marvelous Wish-Granting Engine

Dogs in the Vineyard 

Apocalypse World

Masks

Dungeon World

Bluebeard’s Bride

World of Darkness (assorted)

Aberrant

Genius: the Transgression

Over The Moon

Tournament Arc

Transit

Shock

Lasers & Feelings

Avatar Legends

Flabbergasted

The Between

Pathfinder

Everyone Is John

Belonging Outside Belonging

Mad Alien With A Box

Golden Sky Stories

Blue Rose

The Serpent’s Tooth

Lost Kingdom (The many gm one streamer game)

Dialect

Going For Broke

Smallville

Last Fleet

Exalted (not Essence)

The Thunder Perfect Mind

Silver And White [-]

Microscope

Children of Time [-] [*3]

Seven-Part Pact [-]

Yazeba’s Bed and Breakfast

Voidheart Symphony

Midnight Muscadines


*** Other media discussed ***


Earthborne Rangers

Steven Universe (obliquely)

The L Word

Animal Crossing

Homestuck (inevitably)

Kingdom Hearts

Beastieball

Pride & Prejudice

Jeeves & Wooster

Dr Who

The Order Of The Stick

Mage Knight

Gloomhaven

Battlestar Galactica [*4] 

Final Fantasy XIV

Buffy the Vampire Slayer [*5]

Dispatch

Persuasion

Portal 2

Philosophers in Space

A Psalm for the Wild-Built

A Close And Common Orbit

Shogun (the board game, not the show)

The World Ends With You: NEO


*** Notes & Links ***


[*1] …and apparently a local dog immediately goes wild in the background of Freya’s audio, sorry! It doesn’t last forever.


[*2] if you know of a game that already implements Dream Ghost Conspiracy’s mechanics, tell us about it! It saves us having to write it ourselves.


[*3] Predictably, the Children of Time crowdfunder ended some time before we finished editing this episode.


[*4] the board game, but also the licensed RPG I guess!


[*5] all this Monsterhearts talk and it took us two hours to mention Buffy. Spoilers at ~2:12:00!


[-] games with this tag are unpublished (not yet released) or un-published (un-released).


It is a fact universally acknowledged that when you make a joke and say “that was rubbish, you can edit it out,” that makes it funny enough to leave in.


According to the dictionary wot I done red, a pastiche does not have to also be parody. The term, delightfully, is derived from a name of a pie with a melange of many ingredients.


Sorry, Francis. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_End_of_History_and_the_Last_Man




*** Contact us! ***


Thank you to everyone who has emailed into our mailbag - If you too have a question, idea, or interesting game you’d like to share with us, email systemshoppodcast@gmail.com



*** Additional Credits ***


Our intro music is 

"Magic Escape Room" by Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com)

Licensed under Creative Commons: By Attribution 4.0 License

http://creativecommons.org/licenses/by/4.0/


System Shop is made by humans. We do not use generative AI at any stage of our process, from research to editing.

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