• More You Than Ever: Menopause, Hormones & Authentic Integration

    On See Her Now, Tricia Stone continues the season’s focus on authentic integration by exploring how to support the body through midlife changes rather than fighting them.

    Guest Alison Bladh, women’s health expert and author of Have a Magnificent Menopause, shares how her early interest in hormones led her from aesthetic work to nutritional science and functional medicine focused on perimenopause and menopause. They discuss practical steps such as recalibrating expectations, improving nutrition (adequate protein, fiber, healthy fats, whole foods, blood-sugar management, reducing ultra-processed foods), and taking small, realistic actions like hydration, sleep, and stress support, while seeking help from menopause specialists.

    The conversation reframes menopause as a natural “second puberty” and a privilege that can bring confidence, freedom, and a new chapter, including renewed dating and body-image confidence, with resources available via Bladh’s book and website.

    Learn more about Alison here,

    00:00 Welcome and Theme

    01:15 Meet Alison Bladh

    01:49 Her Hormone Journey

    04:04 Midlife Reset Basics

    06:17 Nutrition and Blood Sugar

    08:23 Second Puberty Explained

    10:15 Get Help and Start Small

    12:28 Self Compassion and Balance

    14:44 Reframing Menopause Power

    19:53 Dating and Body Image

    23:48 Book and Resources

    25:35 Closing Reflections

    S4E48 - 26m - Oct 5, 2026
  • Choose Like Her: The Small Decisions That Change Your Life

    Tricia argues that people often postpone becoming their best selves until circumstances change, but real change begins with an identity shift and choosing to act like your future self now. She explains that confidence, relationship patterns, and success come from how you see yourself, not from external achievements, and cites a recent study linking vivid, connected future-self imagery to greater progress on self-selected goals.

    Tricia encourages embodying this vision through small daily choices in areas like love, career, money, friendships, health, home, or creativity, noting that discomfort can be normal when adopting new patterns (illustrated by her shift from dating unavailable men to a secure relationship). She reframes midlife transitions as opportunities to redefine what you truly want and offers an exercise to identify one aligned choice to make this week, plus a free “lens shift” call.

    00:00 Meet Your Future Self

    00:28 Stop Waiting To Change

    02:22 Identity Shift First

    04:07 Make Choices Like Her

    06:09 Discomfort Means Growth

    08:37 Midlife Reframe Opportunity

    10:15 Guided Future Self Exercise

    12:13 Choose Her This Week

    13:01 Wrap Up And Next Steps


    13m - Sep 25, 2026
  • Are You Keeping the Peace—or Abandoning Yourself?

    Tricia Rose Stone interviews Kori Strobl about the difficulty of becoming more fully yourself when others react negatively, focusing on people-pleasing as “self-abandonment” driven by anxiety and other-referencing. Kori describes growing up emotionally unmet, learning to read and manage others to feel connection, and later realizing in a long relationship that her partner was clearly uninterested in growth; accepting this removed a villain-victim story and revealed a mismatch in needs. They discuss how people pleasers often bring empathy and positivity but withhold their own perspective, and how healing involves turning inward to feel emotions, pausing before responding, and reclaiming agency. Kori distinguishes setting boundaries (demanding others comply) from holding boundaries (knowing yourself, believing yourself, and taking responsibility for your actions). For dating, she advises moving slowly, prioritizing “capacity” revealed in tension over chemistry.

    00:00 When Growth Disrupts

    01:19 Kori’s People Pleasing Journey

    02:49 Self-Abandonment and Anxiety

    04:43 Origins in Childhood

    05:38 No Villain Realization

    08:28 What People Pleasers Add

    10:47 Mismatch and Letting Go

    13:35 Holding Boundaries and Agency

    17:54 Practicing Inner Awareness

    23:25 Daily Tools: Pause and Tend

    26:21 Dating Chemistry vs Capacity

    30:08 Course Links and Closing

    31:12 Final Takeaways: Authentic Integration


    Learn more about Kori Strobl here.

    32m - Sep 18, 2026
  • Starting Over After Divorce: Rebuilding Your Life, Identity & Independence

    The host interviews Mariana Alvarez about rebuilding her life after a dramatic turning point in December 2020, when she sought a protection order and began divorce proceedings at 43 with two children during the pandemic. She lost access to a business she helped build because it was legally only in her husband’s name, leaving her with no job, no income, few assets, and ongoing custody and legal battles.

    Mariana describes doing intense internal reflection to overcome bitterness, regain self-trust through small daily decisions, and later pursuing therapy once she felt stable. She rebuilt financially by returning to corporate accounting, then launched and grew a virtual accounting firm and later began coaching women—often in their 40s–50s and empty nesters—who feel unfulfilled and want clarity and meaning. She emphasizes women maintaining identity and financial independence, viewing partnership as shared leadership, and becoming the qualities they seek in future relationships.

    00:00 When Life Falls Apart

    01:26 The Breaking Point

    02:33 Doing the Inner Work

    05:29 Therapy and Self-Forgiveness

    07:02 Finding Your North Star

    08:49 Rebuilding Self-Trust

    11:57 Career and Business Comeback

    15:07 Financial Independence Lessons

    16:54 Partnership and Identity

    19:58 Dating After Divorce

    22:54 Coaching Midlife Women

    24:37 Advice to Her Past Self

    25:54 Closing Takeaways


    Learn more about Mariana here.

    27m - Sep 10, 2026
  • The Woman You Already Are

    The episode reframes “becoming” in personal growth, arguing that the real work isn’t inventing a new self but giving yourself permission to live as the woman you already know you are. The host describes knowing, while working as an optometrist for 20 years, that the career wasn’t her upper limit, and explains how people can carry inner truth for months or years before feeling ready to act.

    She explores the gap between knowing and action through everyday examples—texts, plans, boundaries, and alignment—and encourages asking “What feels true for me right now?” rather than chasing a constant “high vibe.” Using coaching, imposter syndrome, and self-worth as examples, she emphasizes practicing small, aligned choices—especially in ordinary moments like “2:00 PM on a Tuesday”—creating schedule wiggle room for inspiration, and prioritizing what lights you up, like her daily 20 minutes reading on the porch.

    00:00 Rethinking Becoming

    01:31 Permission to Be Her

    02:53 Optometrist to Seeker

    04:39 Small Steps Forward

    06:20 Knowing Versus Doing

    08:13 Dreams That Pull You

    09:41 What Feels True

    11:05 Practice Through Imposter

    13:18 Tuesday Afternoon Choices

    15:39 Joyful Micro Habits

    16:22 Your One Thing

    17:06 Final Takeaway and Invite


    Ready to see your life differently—and start creating what comes next?

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    Learn more about the True Lens Method™ and book a free Lens Shift Call with Tricia at TriciaRoseStone.com.

    Connect with Tricia on LinkedIn, YouTube, or Instagram for more conversations about creating a life that feels authentic, aligned, and truly your own.

    And if you’re enjoying See Her Now, follow or subscribe wherever you listen, and share the show with a woman who might need to hear it today.


    18m - Sep 3, 2026
  • How to Stop Living for Others & Overcome Lifelong Conditioning

    On See Her Now’s season about authentic integration, the host interviews Lynda Leonce about shifting from a life built on “shoulds” to one guided by inner knowing. After 16 years in a successful IT career, marriage, and raising kids, Lynda felt persistent emptiness—“Is this all there is?”—and, after moving from New York to North Carolina in 2019, realized she’d been following an inherited script.

    Through life and parenting coaching, retreats, meditation, and teachings from RJ Spina, she learned to parent herself, practice presence, notice triggers, and “delete” limiting conditioning by identifying the mind-made self versus the real self. She describes life now as more efficient and flow-based, with greater honesty in relationships and less concern about others’ opinions.

    00:00 Authentic Integration Intro

    01:13 Meet Lynda Leonce

    01:59 Living the Should Script

    04:46 The Quiet Unfulfillment

    05:48 Moving to North Carolina

    06:38 Parenting Yourself First

    08:03 Clearing Conditioning Process

    10:00 Presence and Spotting Triggers

    11:56 Life in Flow Today

    14:33 Relationships Without Approval

    16:30 How Lynda Helps Others

    18:45 Turning the Flashlight Inward

    19:26 Final Reflections and Outro



    20m - Aug 28, 2026
  • Expanding the Gap: Choosing New Habits in the 10 Seconds Before You React

    Expanding the Gap: Choosing New Habits in the 10 Seconds Before You React

    The episode recaps an “authentic integration” module about bringing a personal vision into daily life, noting that insight alone doesn’t change habits and that emotions like anger, anxiety, and self-doubt are messengers. The focus is the brief gap between trigger and response—“the 10 seconds before”—where choice exists, illustrated by repeatedly picking up a phone and losing time online despite intending to read, relax, or connect with friends. The speaker emphasizes that these actions are decisions and that progress can still occur even if you catch the pattern only after starting. Strategies include noticing sensations driving behavior, observing thoughts without reacting, asking what you’re avoiding, and choosing an alternative aligned with the desired version of yourself. Tools like bullet journaling, walking, gardening, and creative activities help redirect behavior. The episode ends with reflection questions about unhelpful habits, what precedes them, and what to do instead.

    00:00 Recap & Introduction

    03:14 The Gap Is Real

    04:02 Breaking Down the 10 Seconds

    06:18 Expanding the Gap

    09:49 Reflection Questions


    11m - Aug 21, 2026
  • What Your Anger, Anxiety, and Desire Are Trying to Tell You — with LiYana Silver

    The host interviews author and teacher LiYana Silver about “authentic integration,” described as moving from fragmentation to wholeness by reclaiming parts of ourselves—especially for women—pushed away through socialization.

    Silver shares her shift from self-judgment as a professional dancer and later a health crash that deepened her inquiry into emotions, using a dialoguing process that treats feelings like messengers with positive intention. They explore anger as signaling that something valued feels threatened, anxiety as powerful energy that can be channeled (including a story of a woman using it to leave an abusive marriage), and the cultural suppression of women’s desire.

    Silver offers a body-based exercise to identify inner “yes/no” signals and distinguishes inherent worth from conditional worth sought through achievement, relationships, appearance, or approval, noting that inner self-regard shapes what love can “land.”

    Learn more about LiYana Silver here.

    00:00 Emotions as Messages

    01:12 What Is Authentic Integration

    02:45 Dancer Mirror Moment

    05:38 Feminine Genius Journey

    07:25 Blame to Anger Inquiry

    10:36 Inside the Boundary

    15:00 Sensation vs Story

    18:00 Reclaiming Desire

    21:28 Desire vs Expectations

    23:23 When Desire Means Leaving

    24:01 Bravery of Desire

    24:35 Body Yes and No

    26:25 Sensing Exercise

    29:32 Finding Your Signature

    31:06 Low Stakes Practice

    33:17 Anxiety as Messenger

    37:51 Worthiness Beyond Approval

    41:16 Unconditional Self Regard

    43:26 Books and Resources

    45:44 Final Reflections

    47m - Aug 14, 2026
  • Beyond the Breakthrough: Why Real Change Happens in the Small Choices

    Tricia Rose Stone welcomes listeners to a new season of See Her Now focused on “authentic integration,” explaining that many people don’t have an information problem but an integration problem: vision shows where you’re going, but integration determines whether you arrive. She describes the “insight trap,” noting that consuming personal development creates awareness without changing entrenched patterns and systems, illustrated by an ant-trail metaphor and James Clear’s idea that people fall to the level of their systems. Through her True Lens Method, she helps women recognize inherited “lenses” shaping beliefs and choices, referencing Carl Jung on making the unconscious conscious and Bessel van der Kolk on the body’s continued responses. Change requires daily practice, nervous-system-friendly repetition, and small aligned decisions—supported by tools like bullet journaling—to embody a new identity. She closes with reflective questions, a call to follow/review, and an invitation to book a Lens Shift Call.

    00:00 Why Insight Isn’t Enough

    01:17 New Season Welcome

    02:25 Vision to Integration

    04:22 The Insight Trap

    06:34 Ant Trail Patterns

    08:49 True Lens Method

    10:48 Becoming Future Self

    13:51 Small Daily Choices

    15:22 Tools and Examples

    16:37 Wrap Up and Next Steps

    17:12 Final Takeaway and Farewell


    18m - Aug 6, 2026
  • Now That You See Her

    In the final episode of the Empowered Vision season of See Her Now, the host reframes vision as a present-day lens rather than a future destination, emphasizing that imagining beyond current circumstances is a “superpower” that opens possibility. She recaps key season themes: examining inherited lenses from family that limit belief, understanding self-image and identity as the container for the future, addressing “upper limits” and the inner thermostat that drives self-sabotage, and taking action before clarity arrives. She shares her own relationship vision process—pausing dating, creating a vision book, holding the feelings while releasing details—and meeting her husband within eight months. Favorite episodes highlighted include Brigitta Dao on creativity accessing possibility and Brigid Kennedy on writing for healing and new outcomes. The season closes by inviting reflection and previewing the next season on authentic integration.

    00:00 Vision as a Lens

    01:26 Season Recap and Purpose

    02:23 Dream Beyond Circumstances

    04:10 Inherited Lenses and Limits

    05:39 Identity and Worthiness

    09:20 Raising Your Upper Limit

    10:36 Move Before Clarity

    11:46 Relationship Vision Story

    13:28 Creativity and Writing Forward

    15:53 Vision as Mirror and Next Season

    16:59 Closing Questions and Thanks

    18m - Jul 10, 2026
  • Beyond What You Can See

    Host Tricia Rose Stone introduces See Her Now’s focus on “empowered vision” and interviews violinist and author Brigid Kennedy, who says she was awakened at 2:00 AM by a vivid visitation from her deceased grandmother instructing her to “Write our story.” Brigid began documenting her family history of a great-grandfather who went to Peru seeking Inca gold and never returned, then pushed beyond the family’s long-standing grief to “write the chapter” they never had, which she describes as a process of reclamation and healing that also reunited relatives she hadn’t seen in decades. She shares her ability to become very still and hear quiet guidance, suggests voicing buried pain through writing, speaking, drawing, movement, meditation, or a connection to nature, and reflects on discovering unexpected joy in writing after a childhood marked by illness and a life centered on music.

    Learn more about Brigid Kennedy here.

    00:00 Empowered Vision Intro

    01:07 Grandmother’s Midnight Message

    04:39 Stillness and Inner Hearing

    06:59 Ocean Signs and Synchronicity

    09:15 Writing the Missing Chapter

    11:30 Healing Family Pain Through Story

    16:14 Opening Creativity for Anyone

    20:46 What Writing Revealed

    24:27 Closing Reflections and Next Steps


    25m - Jun 29, 2026
  • The Vision Your Hands Already Know

    Creativity, Movement, and Reiki: Reconnecting with Intuition with Brigitta Dau

    Host Tricia Rose Stone welcomes life coach, Reiki master, Pilates instructor, author, and creativity guide Brigitta Dau to discuss how creativity and movement can help women reconnect with intuition and self-trust. Brigitta describes creativity—through doodling, coloring, simple art prompts, or noticing color palettes—as a daily practice for becoming more comfortable with uncertainty and quieting the inner critic. She explains how movement practices like Pilates, walking without earbuds, yoga, or Tai Chi ground people in the present and can help them access inner wisdom, using imagery-based cues to engage the body differently. Brigitta also shares how Reiki and guided visualization strengthen awareness of sensations and inner knowing, offering a practical example of a “river” visualization as a tool for navigating different emotional days. She suggests honoring younger parts of oneself (inspired by IFS) to move through transitions such as loneliness or relationship blocks, and shares her offerings, including Synergistic Saturdays and Sundays on Zoom and her book, "Landing on Your North Star."


    Learn more about Brigitta Dau here.

    00:00 Welcome and Guest Intro

    01:10 Creativity as Intuition

    02:20 Getting Comfortable Unknown

    05:26 Aging and Inner Parts

    07:32 Creativity Heals Brain

    09:37 Pilates Imagery Cues

    10:42 Movement for Intuition

    14:00 Reiki Meets Creativity

    16:45 River Visualization Wisdom

    19:23 Advice for Relationship Blocks

    23:08 Easy At Home Creativity

    26:01 Find Brigitta and Book

    29:33 Closing Takeaways

    30m - Jun 19, 2026
  • From Grief to Power: How Self-Love Helped Chanoa Inez Reclaim Her Life

    On Her New Lens, host Dr. Tricia Rose Stone interviews author and traveler Chanoa Inez about losing her 41-year-old boyfriend, Boro, who died unexpectedly in his sleep from a clot the morning after what she called the most perfect day of her life in Montenegro.

    Chanoa describes the shock, choosing to stay in Europe for Orthodox grieving traditions, and years of unprocessed grief that coincided with chronic health issues, food sensitivities, and tendonitis.

    Through modalities including yoga, retreats, EFT tapping, and especially Dr. Joe Dispenza meditations and a 2023 Denver retreat, she recognized long-standing victim mindset patterns, low self-love reflected in toxic relationships, and how “shoulds” and martyrdom kept her stuck.

    She shares tips such as recognizing exhausting situations, advocating for one’s inner child, and reframing self-love as refusing to give away power. Listeners can find her book Dream On at ChanoaInez.com.

    00:00 Welcome and Guest Intro

    01:17 Perfect Day Turns Tragic

    03:14 Shock and Calling for Help

    04:38 Staying in Europe to Grieve

    05:36 Health Crashes and Healing Quest

    07:47 Victim Mindset Revealed

    11:29 Breaking Toxic Relationship Patterns

    15:27 Self Love and Deep Meditation Tools

    19:29 Healing Results and Body Signals

    20:57 Self Love vs Victim Identity

    25:10 Practical Tips and Inner Child Work

    28:17 Where to Find the Book

    28:57 Final Takeaways and Call to Share

    30m - Jun 12, 2026
  • One Pearl at a Time: How Daily Habits Create a Beautiful Life

    In episode eight of Her New Lens: Empowered Vision, Tricia Stone explains that vision and self-image don’t sustain themselves without a consistent daily practice to counter the ego’s loud narrative, sharing a recent moment in which a small disappointment triggered an old story about being behind. Using ideas from James Clear’s Atomic Habits—especially that “every action is a vote for the person you want to become,” plus habit stacking and the two-minute rule—she outlines three simple touchpoints to keep vision alive: morning visualization, a small creative art practice (plus taking an inspiring photo during the day), and printing images to add to a collage/vision board or digital board. She emphasizes scheduling these practices in Google Calendar for accountability and closes by recapping the season’s earlier episodes and inviting listeners to design three touchpoints, stack them onto existing habits, and add them to the calendar.

    00:00 Season Recap Setup

    00:28 Why Vision Slips

    01:00 Ego Story Spiral

    02:48 Atomic Habits Framework

    05:31 Three Daily Touchpoints

    06:00 Morning Visualization

    06:48 Creative Art And Photos

    08:35 Vision Board Collage

    11:34 Habit Stacking Two Minutes

    12:32 Calendar Accountability

    16:34 Your Weekly Challenge

    18:03 Season Wrap And Goodbye


    20m - Jun 4, 2026
  • Stop Waiting for Clarity — Move Anyway

    Stop Waiting and Move Anyway: From Measurement to Possibility

    In episode eight of the Empowered Vision season, host Tricia Rose Stone confesses she began Her New Lens with no audio experience, audience, or plan, and nearly listened to an inner voice urging her to wait until she was ready. Drawing on Rosamund and Benjamin Zander’s The Art of Possibility and Ben Zander’s nursing-home story, she argues that clarity and frameworks often appear only after taking action. She contrasts the “world of measurement” (comparison, scarcity, fear, and waiting for proof) with the “universe of possibility” (openness, contribution, and willingness). Tricia shares personal examples—starting the podcast, envisioning a relationship after an eight-month dating pause, and building a Boston practice—showing how committing to a vision and moving step by step creates momentum and invites outcomes that couldn’t be measured in advance.

    00:00 Confession And Vision

    02:08 Book That Shifts Thinking

    02:52 Nursing Home Lesson

    04:21 Invented Limitations

    06:01 Move Before Clarity

    08:01 Two Worlds Explained

    09:41 Rock Bottom To Vision

    12:49 Be A Contribution

    14:12 You Are The Board

    16:41 Frameworks Through Movement

    17:35 Personal Proof And Practice

    19:28 Final Call To Move


    20m - May 28, 2026
  • The Relationship You Desire Begins as a Vision

    Build the Vision for Love: Naming the Old Pattern and Creating a New Felt Sense

    In episode six of the Empowered Vision season of Her New Lens, Tricia Rose Stone shares how she once feared love after repeated dysfunctional relationships that left her feeling unvalued, and how a rock-bottom relationship forced her to confront the “vision” of love she had unconsciously been recreating. She explains that relationship lenses are inherited from early family dynamics and cultural narratives, shaping a self-image that repeats patterns like abandonment, drama, or unworthiness. Tricia describes her own childhood imprint with an alcoholic, unavailable father, and a later emotional breakdown that led her to stop dating and focus on healing, nervous system awareness, and deliberate creation. She outlines building a new relationship vision from the inside out—prioritizing desired feelings like safety, security, and being valued—using journaling, reminders, gratitude, creative visioning, and identity work, then letting go with trust; eight months later, she met her husband, whom she has been with for nine years.

    00:00 Fear of Love

    01:53 Inherited Relationship Lenses

    04:26 Patterns and Self Image

    06:54 My Father and Abandonment

    08:27 Name the Old Vision

    09:38 Rock Bottom Clarity

    11:45 My Rock Bottom Story

    17:09 Building a New Vision

    22:23 Daily Practices to Align

    26:40 Letting Go and Trust

    28:48 Weekly Takeaways and Close


    30m - May 19, 2026
  • The Moment You Can No Longer Abandon Yourself

    This episode of Her New Lens focuses on “empowered vision,” defined as seeing truthfully when old identities no longer fit, and features guest Kim Korven, who shares her recent decision to end her second marriage after 15 years due to boundarylessness and feeling like her husband’s emotional support person. Kim describes recognizing patterns rooted in childhood programming around earning love, choosing to end relationships without making the other person the enemy, and recalling earlier reinventions, including peacefully divorcing her first husband, raising children, and returning to law school with unexpected support and scholarships after “jumping off the cliff” in faith. She discusses how tension in a home harms kids, practices that build self-love (breathwork, Miracle Morning SAVERS, and alphabet-based gratitude), and her work helping families navigate divorce peacefully and strategically with resources like journal prompts, scripts, and educational modules.

    00:00 Empowered Vision Intro

    01:29 Meet Kim Korven

    02:28 Choosing Yourself Again

    04:07 Peaceful Divorce Mindset

    06:27 Law School Leap of Faith

    09:25 Reframing and Being Caught

    11:47 Seeing Your Growth Clearly

    14:14 The Guitar Boundary Wakeup

    18:40 Ending Without Making Enemies

    19:44 April Fourth Reveal

    20:01 Trusting The Leap

    20:53 Proof From Past

    23:06 Morning Practices

    26:27 Alphabet Gratitude

    28:33 Advice For Mothers

    34:13 Courage To Stay Or Go

    35:42 Helping Families Divorce

    38:38 New Lens Closing

    S3E32 - 40m - May 12, 2026
  • The Stories Blocking Your Vision

    In episode four of the Empowered Vision season of Her New Lens, Tricia Rose Stone explores self-sabotage through Gay Hendricks’ “upper limit problem” from The Big Leap: an unconscious “internal thermostat” that pulls us back when success, love, joy, or abundance exceed what we believe we can allow. She shares two personal upper limits—fear that visible success will lead to isolation and fear she can’t balance success with wellness, relationships, travel, and interests—then describes common upper-limit behaviors like picking fights, worrying, blame and criticism, procrastination, and mindless scrolling, often appearing right after breakthroughs. She outlines Hendricks’ four underlying barriers (feeling fundamentally flawed; disloyalty/abandonment; burden; capacity) and connects the pattern to staying in the “zone of excellence” instead of the “zone of genius.” She offers steps to dismantle it: name the barrier, catch the pattern in real time, complete the vision (especially for capacity fears), and question isolation fears, including learning from “expanders,” and closes with a weekly challenge and a teaser for next week’s guest episode.

    00:00 Season Recap Setup

    01:05 Personal Upper Limits

    02:21 Inner Thermostat Explained

    06:21 Upper Limit Behaviors

    13:04 Four Hidden Barriers

    17:25 Zone of Genius

    21:46 Dismantle The Ceiling

    24:52 Weekly Challenge Wrap

    25:43 Closing Next Week

    S3E31 - 27m - May 6, 2026
  • The Art of Seeing It First

    Tricia Rose Stone presents episode three of the Empowered Vision Series, focusing on visualization as a deliberate, trainable, science-backed skill rather than wishful thinking.

    Inspired by Maya Raichoora’s book Visualize and supported by ideas she cites from Joe Dispenza, she explains that the predictive brain can’t easily distinguish vividly imagined experiences from real ones, making anxiety a form of unconscious negative visualization, and that deliberate visualization can create new mental patterns.

    She shares personal examples of manifesting her husband after 7 months of focused visualization, and of manifesting an optometry practice in Boston after recognizing the city and finding a practice one block from a park she’d stayed near. She outlines outcome, process, and creative visualization, recommends a daily “ideal day” rehearsal, emphasizes small, consistent practice, self-belief, and writing down bold visions.

    00:00 Series Setup

    01:06 Why Visualization Works

    02:42 Brain Prediction Patterns

    05:32 Anxiety as Visualization

    07:30 Athletes Proven Rehearsal

    08:32 Manifesting True Love

    13:25 Three Visualization Types

    18:56 Boston Practice Manifestation

    24:09 Daily Ideal Day Routine

    27:34 Self-Belief Matters

    29:53 Weekly Takeaways Outro

    S3E30 - 32m - Apr 27, 2026
  • Into Me See: The Art of True Intimacy with Xanet Pailet

    On “Her New Lens,” Tricia interviews Xanet, a sex and intimacy educator, coach, and author (and former healthcare lawyer/executive) who spent 26 years in a sexless marriage, left at 50, and then began a 15-year career helping individuals and couples rebuild connection.

    They discuss how emotional safety underpins desire—especially for women—and how lack of safety, trauma, shame, and disconnection from the body can shut down libido, while men may feel emotionally safe after sex, creating a common mismatch.

    Xanet explains what safety feels like (being heard without judgment or fixing), emphasizes that intimacy and sex are learnable skills, and highlights conflict repair as key to long-term relationships.

    They address menopause and libido myths, noting bad or performative sex and “obligation sex,” and describe how new relationship energy can revive desire at any age.

    Xanet shares guidance for singles on examining patterns and red flags, and introduces her books, “The Sex and Intimacy Repair Kit” and “Living an Orgasmic Life,” offering lenses of pleasure and vulnerability.

    00:00 Welcome and Setup

    00:28 Meet Xanet

    02:13 Her Turning Point

    06:08 Safety Drives Desire

    09:03 Men vs Women Safety

    11:16 What Safety Feels Like

    13:28 Intimacy Skills Learned

    16:38 Menopause Desire Myths

    17:15 Bad Sex and Obligation

    19:06 Long Term Connection

    20:21 Attunement Equals Safety

    21:15 Attachment Wounds Explained

    22:09 Preparing for New Love

    25:09 Patterns and Red Flags

    27:37 Relationships as Healing

    28:39 Pressure to Pick Right

    30:15 Healing Takes Time

    31:43 Inside the New Book

    34:06 Two Lenses to Try

    36:37 Final Reflections

    S3E29 - 37m - Apr 21, 2026
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