- More You Than Ever: Menopause, Hormones & Authentic Integration
On See Her Now, Tricia Stone continues the season’s focus on authentic integration by exploring how to support the body through midlife changes rather than fighting them.
Guest Alison Bladh, women’s health expert and author of Have a Magnificent Menopause, shares how her early interest in hormones led her from aesthetic work to nutritional science and functional medicine focused on perimenopause and menopause. They discuss practical steps such as recalibrating expectations, improving nutrition (adequate protein, fiber, healthy fats, whole foods, blood-sugar management, reducing ultra-processed foods), and taking small, realistic actions like hydration, sleep, and stress support, while seeking help from menopause specialists.
The conversation reframes menopause as a natural “second puberty” and a privilege that can bring confidence, freedom, and a new chapter, including renewed dating and body-image confidence, with resources available via Bladh’s book and website.
00:00 Welcome and Theme
01:15 Meet Alison Bladh
01:49 Her Hormone Journey
04:04 Midlife Reset Basics
06:17 Nutrition and Blood Sugar
08:23 Second Puberty Explained
10:15 Get Help and Start Small
12:28 Self Compassion and Balance
14:44 Reframing Menopause Power
19:53 Dating and Body Image
23:48 Book and Resources
25:35 Closing Reflections
S4E48 - 26m - Oct 5, 2026 - Choose Like Her: The Small Decisions That Change Your Life
Tricia argues that people often postpone becoming their best selves until circumstances change, but real change begins with an identity shift and choosing to act like your future self now. She explains that confidence, relationship patterns, and success come from how you see yourself, not from external achievements, and cites a recent study linking vivid, connected future-self imagery to greater progress on self-selected goals.
Tricia encourages embodying this vision through small daily choices in areas like love, career, money, friendships, health, home, or creativity, noting that discomfort can be normal when adopting new patterns (illustrated by her shift from dating unavailable men to a secure relationship). She reframes midlife transitions as opportunities to redefine what you truly want and offers an exercise to identify one aligned choice to make this week, plus a free “lens shift” call.
00:00 Meet Your Future Self
00:28 Stop Waiting To Change
02:22 Identity Shift First
04:07 Make Choices Like Her
06:09 Discomfort Means Growth
08:37 Midlife Reframe Opportunity
10:15 Guided Future Self Exercise
12:13 Choose Her This Week
13:01 Wrap Up And Next Steps
13m - Sep 25, 2026 - Are You Keeping the Peace—or Abandoning Yourself?
Tricia Rose Stone interviews Kori Strobl about the difficulty of becoming more fully yourself when others react negatively, focusing on people-pleasing as “self-abandonment” driven by anxiety and other-referencing. Kori describes growing up emotionally unmet, learning to read and manage others to feel connection, and later realizing in a long relationship that her partner was clearly uninterested in growth; accepting this removed a villain-victim story and revealed a mismatch in needs. They discuss how people pleasers often bring empathy and positivity but withhold their own perspective, and how healing involves turning inward to feel emotions, pausing before responding, and reclaiming agency. Kori distinguishes setting boundaries (demanding others comply) from holding boundaries (knowing yourself, believing yourself, and taking responsibility for your actions). For dating, she advises moving slowly, prioritizing “capacity” revealed in tension over chemistry.
00:00 When Growth Disrupts
01:19 Kori’s People Pleasing Journey
02:49 Self-Abandonment and Anxiety
04:43 Origins in Childhood
05:38 No Villain Realization
08:28 What People Pleasers Add
10:47 Mismatch and Letting Go
13:35 Holding Boundaries and Agency
17:54 Practicing Inner Awareness
23:25 Daily Tools: Pause and Tend
26:21 Dating Chemistry vs Capacity
30:08 Course Links and Closing
31:12 Final Takeaways: Authentic Integration
32m - Sep 18, 2026 - Starting Over After Divorce: Rebuilding Your Life, Identity & Independence
The host interviews Mariana Alvarez about rebuilding her life after a dramatic turning point in December 2020, when she sought a protection order and began divorce proceedings at 43 with two children during the pandemic. She lost access to a business she helped build because it was legally only in her husband’s name, leaving her with no job, no income, few assets, and ongoing custody and legal battles.
Mariana describes doing intense internal reflection to overcome bitterness, regain self-trust through small daily decisions, and later pursuing therapy once she felt stable. She rebuilt financially by returning to corporate accounting, then launched and grew a virtual accounting firm and later began coaching women—often in their 40s–50s and empty nesters—who feel unfulfilled and want clarity and meaning. She emphasizes women maintaining identity and financial independence, viewing partnership as shared leadership, and becoming the qualities they seek in future relationships.
00:00 When Life Falls Apart
01:26 The Breaking Point
02:33 Doing the Inner Work
05:29 Therapy and Self-Forgiveness
07:02 Finding Your North Star
08:49 Rebuilding Self-Trust
11:57 Career and Business Comeback
15:07 Financial Independence Lessons
16:54 Partnership and Identity
19:58 Dating After Divorce
22:54 Coaching Midlife Women
24:37 Advice to Her Past Self
25:54 Closing Takeaways
27m - Sep 10, 2026 - The Woman You Already Are
The episode reframes “becoming” in personal growth, arguing that the real work isn’t inventing a new self but giving yourself permission to live as the woman you already know you are. The host describes knowing, while working as an optometrist for 20 years, that the career wasn’t her upper limit, and explains how people can carry inner truth for months or years before feeling ready to act.
She explores the gap between knowing and action through everyday examples—texts, plans, boundaries, and alignment—and encourages asking “What feels true for me right now?” rather than chasing a constant “high vibe.” Using coaching, imposter syndrome, and self-worth as examples, she emphasizes practicing small, aligned choices—especially in ordinary moments like “2:00 PM on a Tuesday”—creating schedule wiggle room for inspiration, and prioritizing what lights you up, like her daily 20 minutes reading on the porch.
00:00 Rethinking Becoming
01:31 Permission to Be Her
02:53 Optometrist to Seeker
04:39 Small Steps Forward
06:20 Knowing Versus Doing
08:13 Dreams That Pull You
09:41 What Feels True
11:05 Practice Through Imposter
13:18 Tuesday Afternoon Choices
15:39 Joyful Micro Habits
16:22 Your One Thing
17:06 Final Takeaway and Invite
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18m - Sep 3, 2026 - How to Stop Living for Others & Overcome Lifelong Conditioning
On See Her Now’s season about authentic integration, the host interviews Lynda Leonce about shifting from a life built on “shoulds” to one guided by inner knowing. After 16 years in a successful IT career, marriage, and raising kids, Lynda felt persistent emptiness—“Is this all there is?”—and, after moving from New York to North Carolina in 2019, realized she’d been following an inherited script.
Through life and parenting coaching, retreats, meditation, and teachings from RJ Spina, she learned to parent herself, practice presence, notice triggers, and “delete” limiting conditioning by identifying the mind-made self versus the real self. She describes life now as more efficient and flow-based, with greater honesty in relationships and less concern about others’ opinions.
00:00 Authentic Integration Intro
01:13 Meet Lynda Leonce
01:59 Living the Should Script
04:46 The Quiet Unfulfillment
05:48 Moving to North Carolina
06:38 Parenting Yourself First
08:03 Clearing Conditioning Process
10:00 Presence and Spotting Triggers
11:56 Life in Flow Today
14:33 Relationships Without Approval
16:30 How Lynda Helps Others
18:45 Turning the Flashlight Inward
19:26 Final Reflections and Outro
20m - Aug 28, 2026 - Expanding the Gap: Choosing New Habits in the 10 Seconds Before You React
Expanding the Gap: Choosing New Habits in the 10 Seconds Before You React
The episode recaps an “authentic integration” module about bringing a personal vision into daily life, noting that insight alone doesn’t change habits and that emotions like anger, anxiety, and self-doubt are messengers. The focus is the brief gap between trigger and response—“the 10 seconds before”—where choice exists, illustrated by repeatedly picking up a phone and losing time online despite intending to read, relax, or connect with friends. The speaker emphasizes that these actions are decisions and that progress can still occur even if you catch the pattern only after starting. Strategies include noticing sensations driving behavior, observing thoughts without reacting, asking what you’re avoiding, and choosing an alternative aligned with the desired version of yourself. Tools like bullet journaling, walking, gardening, and creative activities help redirect behavior. The episode ends with reflection questions about unhelpful habits, what precedes them, and what to do instead.
00:00 Recap & Introduction
03:14 The Gap Is Real
04:02 Breaking Down the 10 Seconds
06:18 Expanding the Gap
09:49 Reflection Questions
11m - Aug 21, 2026 - What Your Anger, Anxiety, and Desire Are Trying to Tell You — with LiYana Silver
The host interviews author and teacher LiYana Silver about “authentic integration,” described as moving from fragmentation to wholeness by reclaiming parts of ourselves—especially for women—pushed away through socialization.
Silver shares her shift from self-judgment as a professional dancer and later a health crash that deepened her inquiry into emotions, using a dialoguing process that treats feelings like messengers with positive intention. They explore anger as signaling that something valued feels threatened, anxiety as powerful energy that can be channeled (including a story of a woman using it to leave an abusive marriage), and the cultural suppression of women’s desire.
Silver offers a body-based exercise to identify inner “yes/no” signals and distinguishes inherent worth from conditional worth sought through achievement, relationships, appearance, or approval, noting that inner self-regard shapes what love can “land.”
Learn more about LiYana Silver here.
00:00 Emotions as Messages
01:12 What Is Authentic Integration
02:45 Dancer Mirror Moment
05:38 Feminine Genius Journey
07:25 Blame to Anger Inquiry
10:36 Inside the Boundary
15:00 Sensation vs Story
18:00 Reclaiming Desire
21:28 Desire vs Expectations
23:23 When Desire Means Leaving
24:01 Bravery of Desire
24:35 Body Yes and No
26:25 Sensing Exercise
29:32 Finding Your Signature
31:06 Low Stakes Practice
33:17 Anxiety as Messenger
37:51 Worthiness Beyond Approval
41:16 Unconditional Self Regard
43:26 Books and Resources
45:44 Final Reflections
47m - Aug 14, 2026 - Beyond the Breakthrough: Why Real Change Happens in the Small Choices
Tricia Rose Stone welcomes listeners to a new season of See Her Now focused on “authentic integration,” explaining that many people don’t have an information problem but an integration problem: vision shows where you’re going, but integration determines whether you arrive. She describes the “insight trap,” noting that consuming personal development creates awareness without changing entrenched patterns and systems, illustrated by an ant-trail metaphor and James Clear’s idea that people fall to the level of their systems. Through her True Lens Method, she helps women recognize inherited “lenses” shaping beliefs and choices, referencing Carl Jung on making the unconscious conscious and Bessel van der Kolk on the body’s continued responses. Change requires daily practice, nervous-system-friendly repetition, and small aligned decisions—supported by tools like bullet journaling—to embody a new identity. She closes with reflective questions, a call to follow/review, and an invitation to book a Lens Shift Call.
00:00 Why Insight Isn’t Enough
01:17 New Season Welcome
02:25 Vision to Integration
04:22 The Insight Trap
06:34 Ant Trail Patterns
08:49 True Lens Method
10:48 Becoming Future Self
13:51 Small Daily Choices
15:22 Tools and Examples
16:37 Wrap Up and Next Steps
17:12 Final Takeaway and Farewell
18m - Aug 6, 2026 - Now That You See Her
In the final episode of the Empowered Vision season of See Her Now, the host reframes vision as a present-day lens rather than a future destination, emphasizing that imagining beyond current circumstances is a “superpower” that opens possibility. She recaps key season themes: examining inherited lenses from family that limit belief, understanding self-image and identity as the container for the future, addressing “upper limits” and the inner thermostat that drives self-sabotage, and taking action before clarity arrives. She shares her own relationship vision process—pausing dating, creating a vision book, holding the feelings while releasing details—and meeting her husband within eight months. Favorite episodes highlighted include Brigitta Dao on creativity accessing possibility and Brigid Kennedy on writing for healing and new outcomes. The season closes by inviting reflection and previewing the next season on authentic integration.
00:00 Vision as a Lens
01:26 Season Recap and Purpose
02:23 Dream Beyond Circumstances
04:10 Inherited Lenses and Limits
05:39 Identity and Worthiness
09:20 Raising Your Upper Limit
10:36 Move Before Clarity
11:46 Relationship Vision Story
13:28 Creativity and Writing Forward
15:53 Vision as Mirror and Next Season
16:59 Closing Questions and Thanks
18m - Jul 10, 2026 - Beyond What You Can See
Host Tricia Rose Stone introduces See Her Now’s focus on “empowered vision” and interviews violinist and author Brigid Kennedy, who says she was awakened at 2:00 AM by a vivid visitation from her deceased grandmother instructing her to “Write our story.” Brigid began documenting her family history of a great-grandfather who went to Peru seeking Inca gold and never returned, then pushed beyond the family’s long-standing grief to “write the chapter” they never had, which she describes as a process of reclamation and healing that also reunited relatives she hadn’t seen in decades. She shares her ability to become very still and hear quiet guidance, suggests voicing buried pain through writing, speaking, drawing, movement, meditation, or a connection to nature, and reflects on discovering unexpected joy in writing after a childhood marked by illness and a life centered on music.
Learn more about Brigid Kennedy here.
00:00 Empowered Vision Intro
01:07 Grandmother’s Midnight Message
04:39 Stillness and Inner Hearing
06:59 Ocean Signs and Synchronicity
09:15 Writing the Missing Chapter
11:30 Healing Family Pain Through Story
16:14 Opening Creativity for Anyone
20:46 What Writing Revealed
24:27 Closing Reflections and Next Steps
25m - Jun 29, 2026 - The Vision Your Hands Already Know
Creativity, Movement, and Reiki: Reconnecting with Intuition with Brigitta Dau
Host Tricia Rose Stone welcomes life coach, Reiki master, Pilates instructor, author, and creativity guide Brigitta Dau to discuss how creativity and movement can help women reconnect with intuition and self-trust. Brigitta describes creativity—through doodling, coloring, simple art prompts, or noticing color palettes—as a daily practice for becoming more comfortable with uncertainty and quieting the inner critic. She explains how movement practices like Pilates, walking without earbuds, yoga, or Tai Chi ground people in the present and can help them access inner wisdom, using imagery-based cues to engage the body differently. Brigitta also shares how Reiki and guided visualization strengthen awareness of sensations and inner knowing, offering a practical example of a “river” visualization as a tool for navigating different emotional days. She suggests honoring younger parts of oneself (inspired by IFS) to move through transitions such as loneliness or relationship blocks, and shares her offerings, including Synergistic Saturdays and Sundays on Zoom and her book, "Landing on Your North Star."
Learn more about Brigitta Dau here.
00:00 Welcome and Guest Intro
01:10 Creativity as Intuition
02:20 Getting Comfortable Unknown
05:26 Aging and Inner Parts
07:32 Creativity Heals Brain
09:37 Pilates Imagery Cues
10:42 Movement for Intuition
14:00 Reiki Meets Creativity
16:45 River Visualization Wisdom
19:23 Advice for Relationship Blocks
23:08 Easy At Home Creativity
26:01 Find Brigitta and Book
29:33 Closing Takeaways
30m - Jun 19, 2026 - From Grief to Power: How Self-Love Helped Chanoa Inez Reclaim Her Life
On Her New Lens, host Dr. Tricia Rose Stone interviews author and traveler Chanoa Inez about losing her 41-year-old boyfriend, Boro, who died unexpectedly in his sleep from a clot the morning after what she called the most perfect day of her life in Montenegro.
Chanoa describes the shock, choosing to stay in Europe for Orthodox grieving traditions, and years of unprocessed grief that coincided with chronic health issues, food sensitivities, and tendonitis.
Through modalities including yoga, retreats, EFT tapping, and especially Dr. Joe Dispenza meditations and a 2023 Denver retreat, she recognized long-standing victim mindset patterns, low self-love reflected in toxic relationships, and how “shoulds” and martyrdom kept her stuck.
She shares tips such as recognizing exhausting situations, advocating for one’s inner child, and reframing self-love as refusing to give away power. Listeners can find her book Dream On at ChanoaInez.com.
00:00 Welcome and Guest Intro
01:17 Perfect Day Turns Tragic
03:14 Shock and Calling for Help
04:38 Staying in Europe to Grieve
05:36 Health Crashes and Healing Quest
07:47 Victim Mindset Revealed
11:29 Breaking Toxic Relationship Patterns
15:27 Self Love and Deep Meditation Tools
19:29 Healing Results and Body Signals
20:57 Self Love vs Victim Identity
25:10 Practical Tips and Inner Child Work
28:17 Where to Find the Book
28:57 Final Takeaways and Call to Share
30m - Jun 12, 2026 - One Pearl at a Time: How Daily Habits Create a Beautiful Life
In episode eight of Her New Lens: Empowered Vision, Tricia Stone explains that vision and self-image don’t sustain themselves without a consistent daily practice to counter the ego’s loud narrative, sharing a recent moment in which a small disappointment triggered an old story about being behind. Using ideas from James Clear’s Atomic Habits—especially that “every action is a vote for the person you want to become,” plus habit stacking and the two-minute rule—she outlines three simple touchpoints to keep vision alive: morning visualization, a small creative art practice (plus taking an inspiring photo during the day), and printing images to add to a collage/vision board or digital board. She emphasizes scheduling these practices in Google Calendar for accountability and closes by recapping the season’s earlier episodes and inviting listeners to design three touchpoints, stack them onto existing habits, and add them to the calendar.
00:00 Season Recap Setup
00:28 Why Vision Slips
01:00 Ego Story Spiral
02:48 Atomic Habits Framework
05:31 Three Daily Touchpoints
06:00 Morning Visualization
06:48 Creative Art And Photos
08:35 Vision Board Collage
11:34 Habit Stacking Two Minutes
12:32 Calendar Accountability
16:34 Your Weekly Challenge
18:03 Season Wrap And Goodbye
20m - Jun 4, 2026 - Stop Waiting for Clarity — Move Anyway
Stop Waiting and Move Anyway: From Measurement to Possibility
In episode eight of the Empowered Vision season, host Tricia Rose Stone confesses she began Her New Lens with no audio experience, audience, or plan, and nearly listened to an inner voice urging her to wait until she was ready. Drawing on Rosamund and Benjamin Zander’s The Art of Possibility and Ben Zander’s nursing-home story, she argues that clarity and frameworks often appear only after taking action. She contrasts the “world of measurement” (comparison, scarcity, fear, and waiting for proof) with the “universe of possibility” (openness, contribution, and willingness). Tricia shares personal examples—starting the podcast, envisioning a relationship after an eight-month dating pause, and building a Boston practice—showing how committing to a vision and moving step by step creates momentum and invites outcomes that couldn’t be measured in advance.
00:00 Confession And Vision
02:08 Book That Shifts Thinking
02:52 Nursing Home Lesson
04:21 Invented Limitations
06:01 Move Before Clarity
08:01 Two Worlds Explained
09:41 Rock Bottom To Vision
12:49 Be A Contribution
14:12 You Are The Board
16:41 Frameworks Through Movement
17:35 Personal Proof And Practice
19:28 Final Call To Move
20m - May 28, 2026 - The Relationship You Desire Begins as a Vision
Build the Vision for Love: Naming the Old Pattern and Creating a New Felt Sense
In episode six of the Empowered Vision season of Her New Lens, Tricia Rose Stone shares how she once feared love after repeated dysfunctional relationships that left her feeling unvalued, and how a rock-bottom relationship forced her to confront the “vision” of love she had unconsciously been recreating. She explains that relationship lenses are inherited from early family dynamics and cultural narratives, shaping a self-image that repeats patterns like abandonment, drama, or unworthiness. Tricia describes her own childhood imprint with an alcoholic, unavailable father, and a later emotional breakdown that led her to stop dating and focus on healing, nervous system awareness, and deliberate creation. She outlines building a new relationship vision from the inside out—prioritizing desired feelings like safety, security, and being valued—using journaling, reminders, gratitude, creative visioning, and identity work, then letting go with trust; eight months later, she met her husband, whom she has been with for nine years.
00:00 Fear of Love
01:53 Inherited Relationship Lenses
04:26 Patterns and Self Image
06:54 My Father and Abandonment
08:27 Name the Old Vision
09:38 Rock Bottom Clarity
11:45 My Rock Bottom Story
17:09 Building a New Vision
22:23 Daily Practices to Align
26:40 Letting Go and Trust
28:48 Weekly Takeaways and Close
30m - May 19, 2026 - The Moment You Can No Longer Abandon Yourself
This episode of Her New Lens focuses on “empowered vision,” defined as seeing truthfully when old identities no longer fit, and features guest Kim Korven, who shares her recent decision to end her second marriage after 15 years due to boundarylessness and feeling like her husband’s emotional support person. Kim describes recognizing patterns rooted in childhood programming around earning love, choosing to end relationships without making the other person the enemy, and recalling earlier reinventions, including peacefully divorcing her first husband, raising children, and returning to law school with unexpected support and scholarships after “jumping off the cliff” in faith. She discusses how tension in a home harms kids, practices that build self-love (breathwork, Miracle Morning SAVERS, and alphabet-based gratitude), and her work helping families navigate divorce peacefully and strategically with resources like journal prompts, scripts, and educational modules.
00:00 Empowered Vision Intro
01:29 Meet Kim Korven
02:28 Choosing Yourself Again
04:07 Peaceful Divorce Mindset
06:27 Law School Leap of Faith
09:25 Reframing and Being Caught
11:47 Seeing Your Growth Clearly
14:14 The Guitar Boundary Wakeup
18:40 Ending Without Making Enemies
19:44 April Fourth Reveal
20:01 Trusting The Leap
20:53 Proof From Past
23:06 Morning Practices
26:27 Alphabet Gratitude
28:33 Advice For Mothers
34:13 Courage To Stay Or Go
35:42 Helping Families Divorce
38:38 New Lens Closing
S3E32 - 40m - May 12, 2026 - The Stories Blocking Your Vision
In episode four of the Empowered Vision season of Her New Lens, Tricia Rose Stone explores self-sabotage through Gay Hendricks’ “upper limit problem” from The Big Leap: an unconscious “internal thermostat” that pulls us back when success, love, joy, or abundance exceed what we believe we can allow. She shares two personal upper limits—fear that visible success will lead to isolation and fear she can’t balance success with wellness, relationships, travel, and interests—then describes common upper-limit behaviors like picking fights, worrying, blame and criticism, procrastination, and mindless scrolling, often appearing right after breakthroughs. She outlines Hendricks’ four underlying barriers (feeling fundamentally flawed; disloyalty/abandonment; burden; capacity) and connects the pattern to staying in the “zone of excellence” instead of the “zone of genius.” She offers steps to dismantle it: name the barrier, catch the pattern in real time, complete the vision (especially for capacity fears), and question isolation fears, including learning from “expanders,” and closes with a weekly challenge and a teaser for next week’s guest episode.
00:00 Season Recap Setup
01:05 Personal Upper Limits
02:21 Inner Thermostat Explained
06:21 Upper Limit Behaviors
13:04 Four Hidden Barriers
17:25 Zone of Genius
21:46 Dismantle The Ceiling
24:52 Weekly Challenge Wrap
25:43 Closing Next Week
S3E31 - 27m - May 6, 2026 - The Art of Seeing It First
Tricia Rose Stone presents episode three of the Empowered Vision Series, focusing on visualization as a deliberate, trainable, science-backed skill rather than wishful thinking.
Inspired by Maya Raichoora’s book Visualize and supported by ideas she cites from Joe Dispenza, she explains that the predictive brain can’t easily distinguish vividly imagined experiences from real ones, making anxiety a form of unconscious negative visualization, and that deliberate visualization can create new mental patterns.
She shares personal examples of manifesting her husband after 7 months of focused visualization, and of manifesting an optometry practice in Boston after recognizing the city and finding a practice one block from a park she’d stayed near. She outlines outcome, process, and creative visualization, recommends a daily “ideal day” rehearsal, emphasizes small, consistent practice, self-belief, and writing down bold visions.
00:00 Series Setup
01:06 Why Visualization Works
02:42 Brain Prediction Patterns
05:32 Anxiety as Visualization
07:30 Athletes Proven Rehearsal
08:32 Manifesting True Love
13:25 Three Visualization Types
18:56 Boston Practice Manifestation
24:09 Daily Ideal Day Routine
27:34 Self-Belief Matters
29:53 Weekly Takeaways Outro
S3E30 - 32m - Apr 27, 2026 - Into Me See: The Art of True Intimacy with Xanet Pailet
On “Her New Lens,” Tricia interviews Xanet, a sex and intimacy educator, coach, and author (and former healthcare lawyer/executive) who spent 26 years in a sexless marriage, left at 50, and then began a 15-year career helping individuals and couples rebuild connection.
They discuss how emotional safety underpins desire—especially for women—and how lack of safety, trauma, shame, and disconnection from the body can shut down libido, while men may feel emotionally safe after sex, creating a common mismatch.
Xanet explains what safety feels like (being heard without judgment or fixing), emphasizes that intimacy and sex are learnable skills, and highlights conflict repair as key to long-term relationships.
They address menopause and libido myths, noting bad or performative sex and “obligation sex,” and describe how new relationship energy can revive desire at any age.
Xanet shares guidance for singles on examining patterns and red flags, and introduces her books, “The Sex and Intimacy Repair Kit” and “Living an Orgasmic Life,” offering lenses of pleasure and vulnerability.
00:00 Welcome and Setup
00:28 Meet Xanet
02:13 Her Turning Point
06:08 Safety Drives Desire
09:03 Men vs Women Safety
11:16 What Safety Feels Like
13:28 Intimacy Skills Learned
16:38 Menopause Desire Myths
17:15 Bad Sex and Obligation
19:06 Long Term Connection
20:21 Attunement Equals Safety
21:15 Attachment Wounds Explained
22:09 Preparing for New Love
25:09 Patterns and Red Flags
27:37 Relationships as Healing
28:39 Pressure to Pick Right
30:15 Healing Takes Time
31:43 Inside the New Book
34:06 Two Lenses to Try
36:37 Final Reflections
S3E29 - 37m - Apr 21, 2026
