The Unraveling of a High Achiever

Sorry, I ghosted y’all. 😂 But there was actually a reason, and it had a lot more to do with the version of myself I was becoming than me simply needing a break. In this episode, I’m catching you up on what happened while I was gone, what I realized about the identity I had built around achievement and being impressive, and why I had to let that version of me go before I could really build the life I actually wanted.

In this episode we discuss:

• Why I disappeared from the podcast after years of never missing an episode, and what made me realize the old version of the show no longer represented who I was.
• Realizing how leaving a successful career meant leaving behind way more of my identity than I ever expected.
• What happened when I was forced to sit with myself because I had nothing impressive to hide behind.
• How being externally validated can show up in your relationships.
• Why I found myself blocking people I knew from seeing my content and what that revealed about me that I wasn't prepared for.
• The connection between high achievement, people-pleasing, and the fear of disappointing people who have gotten used to you always having it together.
• Why being hyper-independent can create a cycle where people genuinely stop treating you like someone who might need help.
• Navigating relationships after you've found out that you've been placed on a pedestal.
• Why asking for help felt so unsafe even when I was struggling.
• What happens when a control freak is in a situation they can't control.
• Navigating life after you realize that everything you've built was around what people expected of you.
• What happens when you try to do the things you want to do but a part of you keeps asking, “What will people think?”

Mentioned in this episode:

• The Diary of a High Achiever
• The Unraveling of a High Achiever Series
• The Weird Grief Of Realizing That People Don't Really Know You
• The Weight of Being Placed on a Pedestal
• Secluded Thoughts Substack

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