307: What's the difference between feminine storm and feminine rage? (ft. Shana James)

Have you ever been scared of your wife / woman partner? Ever been harmed by her? If yes, it's likely you never felt like you could talk to anyone about it because you were afraid of what they would say, or whether they would shame you.

In polarity work, we often talk about feminine storm. But where's the line between feminine storm, feminine rage, and abuse? We want to break the silence and go into this.

According to the CDC, one in seven men in the U.S. has suffered severe physical violence at the hands of an intimate partner. But physical violence isn't the only thing that can happen; emotional abuse is also deeply harmful, and very common for some of our clients.

The truth is, there is a way to work with strong emotions without harming a partner. Here, we, as two women who are attracted to men, share our own personal stories of the difference between our feminine storm and our feminine rage. Healthy relationships are predicated on being able to handle conflict well, and that's a skill many of us still need help with.

We also help you know: As a man, how do you know whether your partner is within the realm of normal -- if what you're going through is normal?

Know that it's always possible to recover from a toxic relationship, and that more is possible.

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Memorable quotes from this episode:

• "Allowing women to be emotional and have emotions like anger, rather than shutting down and being intellectual."
• "Can we work this through together in our shared nervous system?"
• "Many of us shove our anger inside and then we’re tense and anxious and depressed."
• "It’s masterful to be able to feel an emotion, witness, and communicate about it."
• "We’re sharing feelings, not dumping feelings."
• "I want to blame you! I want to make you wrong!"

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Mentioned on this episode:

• Statistics on intimate partner abuse (aka domestic violence) against men
• Domestic violence hotline for men
• Borderline Personality Disorder