- Episode 144. Birth Control and Cycle School with Kate Morton
What is up fammmm! Today we are getting into the topic of cycles… yeah, our monthly cycles. With over seven years of experience as a registered dietitian and a master's degree in human clinical nutrition, today's guest Kate Morton is dedicated to menstrual health and anti-diet culture education. She founded Funk It Wellness with a mission to empower all menstruators, providing them with autonomy over their bodies and helping them make peace with food and their cycles. Tune in to find out more!
In this episode…
- Menstrual cycle
- Shame around your period
- A comforting environment
- Generational differences
- The 4 cycles
- Birth control
- 4 phases = 4 seasons
- Seed cycling
Quotes:
“We make up over half of the population and there's not enough studies about us and our bodies and how we function and we are the life bringers.” - Nikki Spo
“Society does not like to honor aging women and so of course we're not going to talk about sex because our society is so twisted.” - Kate Morton
“When we're disconnected from our bodies, we don't appreciate them and we don't love them and we don't take care of them the way that we should.” - Kate Morton
“There's four phases of your menstrual cycle. You feel different in each phase. Your body needs different care in each phase.” - Kate Morton
“I think people need to understand that my menstrual cycle doesn't make me weak. It's actually a super power that I can use to my advantage.” - Kate Morton
Timestamps:
0:00 - 2:10 | Intro
2:10 - 6:55 | The beginning of the period
6:55 - 11:45 | Birth control
11:45 - 16:55 | Pros and cons of birth control
16:55 - 18:20 | Menopause
18:20 - 20:00 | Body disconnection
20:00 - 23:48 | Perception of menstruation
26:00 - 37:25 | Phases of the menstrual cycle
37:25 - 43:40 | Seed cycling
43:40 - 48:20 | Open communication about menstrual cycles in relationships
48:20 - 50:42 | Outro
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Connect with Kate
@carbsandkate / @funk.it.wellness
Connect with Nikki
@nikkisappspo / @theknowwithnikkispo
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What is up my loves and welcome back to The Know! Today we are going to chat about a pretty controversial topic…which is polyamory and consensual non-monogamy with Dr. Joli Hamilton. Dr. Joli Hamilton is the relationship coach for couples who color outside of the lines and she is the founder of the Year of Opening. She has spent the past two decades studying and reimagining what love can be if we open our imaginations to possibilities. Keep an open mind and buckle up babes because it's gonna get hot!
In this episode…
- The Jungian approach
- Authenticity
- Archetype
- The child, the self, the shadow, the parent, the other
- Shadow qualities
- Ego strength
- Monogamous person vs. polyamorous person
- Compersion
Quotes:
“The Jungian approach is one that looks at everything, every symptom, every symbol as an opportunity to know more, not just about ourselves personally, but also to know about the collective.” - Dr. Joli Hamilton
“Some of the things that have gotten me through my hardest times in life and the trauma and the really difficult things that I have faced in recent years, especially, is being able to see the beauty in some of the really, really ugly parts of life.” - Nikki Spo
“I need to come to know the child, I need to come to know the parental archetypes, the others, all of the others that we find in our romances, and the shadow. And if I don't recognize the shadow that dark bit that you were talking about in there, that messy horrible evil bit that's in there, if I don't recognize that I'm gonna project it all over other people.” - Dr. Joli Hamilton
“You can't share your trauma with everybody because not everybody has the capacity to hold it, and that's okay.” - Nikki Spo
“I encourage you to journal, to listen to your dreams, to start writing down what's going on inside of you because if you can start to just sort out what is being projected onto you versus what is authentically yours, that's the beginning of individuation.” - Dr. Joli Hamilton
“If you feel called to have multiple partners, let's do it well, let's not cheat, and let’s not lie. Let's build a life where this can be done in a nice way that weaves in just the right amount of openness for you and lets you not hurt other people and treat them like objects.” - Dr. Joli Hamilton
Timestamps:
0:00 - 2:55 | Intro
2:55 - 9:50 | What it means to be a Jungian and archetypal psychologist
9:50 - 12:05 | The concept of archetype
12:05 - 16:25 | Feeling evil & identifying with shadow qualities
16:25 - 21:35 | Mental health care
21:35 - 27:03 | Having a less conventional life
29:15 - 35:10 | The presence of jealousy
35:10 - 38:05 | ASECT
38:05 - 41:00 | “Yes, No, Maybe” lists
41:00 - 43:15 | Co-parenting relationship
43:15 - 47:20 | Asking the hard questions
47:20 - 49:54 | Outro
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Painless Pregnancy is a group of physical therapists located in South Florida who specialize in helping pregnant and postpartum women prevent dysfunction and heal… in the comfort of their own homes. This concierge service has been a game changer for me after my third childbirth, and I am excited to partner with them and offer our Listeners 10% off their first visit with my code NikkiSpo10. Check out www.painless-pregnancy.com to book your appointment!
Connect with Dr. Joli Hamilton
https://www.jolihamilton.com/quiz
Connect with Nikki
@nikkisappspo / @theknowwithnikkispo
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Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy49m - Apr 9, 2024 - Episode 142. GET YOUR MONEY RIGHT with Amber Frankhuizen
What's up fammm! Today we are talking about money with Amber Frankhuizen, who is on a mission to heal the financial fight or flight response by providing easy investing techniques for beginners. She likes to take the fear out of managing our scary finances. Tune in to hear more about this LOADED topic!
In this episode..
- Money freedom vs. money buying happiness
- A healthy & unhealthy money relationship
- Why women are weird talking about money
- Confidence with money
- Financial fight or flight
- Financial guru
- Internal vs. external locus of control
Quotes:
“So while money doesn't particularly buy happiness because we need to find those feelings within ourselves, I will say that poverty can't buy anything at all.” - Amber Frank
“You can have all the money in the world and still be a broken ass person.” - Nikki Spo
“There's a saying that I love and it's ‘Some people are so poor, all they have is money’”. - Nikki Spo
“Create a compelling future for yourself. Tell yourself what your life will look like when you're not in debt and tell yourself what you will feel like when you're wealthy.” - Amber Frank
“So if we sit around on our couches and point the fingers at the economy or the president and blame them as to why I'm not successful, there are other people out there getting successful right now. They just have a different worldview than you do.” - Amber Frank
“I am not a fearless woman. I am scared of so many things but I think that I am a courageous woman and that courage allows me to face hardships, hard things, difficult things, things that are unpleasant, and things that don't make me happy in the moment.” - Nikki Spo
Timestamps:
0:00 - 1:25 | Intro
1:25 - 2:30 | About Amber
2:30 - 4:30 | Money freedom vs. money buying happiness
4:30 - 7:50 | Why women are so weird when it comes to talking about money
7:50 - 15:40 | Financial fight or flight
15:40 - 21:50 | Coaching tips to healing an unhealthy money relationship
21:50 - 23:10 | Outsourcing your power when it comes to money
24:14 - 27:45 | Facing the fear of finances
27:45 - 32:30 | Achieving financial goals
32:30 - 43:05 | Taking those first steps
43:05 - 45:55 | Playing the long game
45:55 - 47:55 | Patterns when it comes to money
47:55 - 50:11 | Outro
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Connect with Amber
https://afmktg.com/amber-frankhuizen / https://oldmoneypodcast.com/
@amberincalifornia / @oldmoneypodcast
Connect with Nikki
@nikkisappspo / @theknowwithnikkispo
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Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy50m - Apr 2, 2024 - Episode 141. Should You Stay or Should You Go with Kate Anthony
What is up superstars! Today we have the exciting opportunity to speak with Kate Anthony, who is the author of The D Word: Making the Ultimate Decision About Your Marriage.
Kate is the host of the critically acclaimed and New York Times recommended podcast, “The Divorce Survival Guide”, while also being the creator of the groundbreaking online coaching program, “Should I Stay or Should I Go”, which helps women make the most difficult decision of their lives using coaching tools, relationship education, geeky neuroscience, community support, and deep self work. Tune in to hear about how she does it all!
In this episode…
- Making the D word decision
- Coping mechanisms & survival tools
- Trusting your capital S Self
- When you know, you know
- Leaving the unhealthy relationship
- Couples therapy
- Abusive relationships
- Narcissism within relationships
Quotes:
“We can acknowledge that lasting relationships happen by compromising your way to success rather than settling into dissatisfaction, and that couples need to be really intentional about growing together and choosing to love each other, which is an action, not just this concept.” - Nikki Spo
“The deep self work needs to come first. Connecting with your inner guide, quieting all of the noise and dropping in and hearing what that voice says.” - Kate Anthony
“Women are exhausted in their marriage I think because the entire institution of marriage is set up to serve and benefit men on the back of the labor of women.” - Kate Anthony
“If you're in an abusive relationship, your partner is not in the relationship for the same reasons that you are. You're in this relationship for intimacy and connection, they're in it for power and control.” - Kate Anthony
“Everybody's a work in progress. I am on a continuous journey of healing and getting better.” - Nikki Spo
Timestamps:
0:00 - 2:00 | Intro
2:00 - 4:25 | Wanting a partnership
4:25 - 5:10 | Acknowledging that people change over time
5:10 - 8:25 | The first step when trying to make the D word decision
8:25 - 11:00 | Learning to trust your capital S Self
11:00 - 12:15 | When you know, you know
12:15 - 19:45 | Why women are so unhappy in their marriages
19:45 - 22:30 | Couples therapy
22:30 - 27:53 | Differences between narcissist, sociopath & selfishness
27:53 - 32:15 | Placing high value on potential
32:15 - 39:20 | Emotional abuse
39:20 - 42:30 | Grooming
42:30 - 46:10 | Helping women exit their marriage
46:10 - 49:10 | Outro
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SANA SKIN STUDIO is my #1 go-to spot for self-care. My favorite facial is the Super Glow, and you can get $25 off of your first facial when you book at www.sanaskinstudio.com with my code THEKNOWGLOW.
Connect with Kate
Connect with Nikki
@nikkisappspo / @theknowwithnikkispo
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Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy49m - Mar 26, 2024 - Episode 140. Figuring Out What You're Good At and Running With It with Allison McNamara
Welcome back to The Know! Today we are hearing from skincare industry leader, Allison McNamara. Allison is the founder of Mara, a clean algae-based skin care line, as well as a digital influencer and former TV host. She is a lifelong beauty and wellness enthusiast and is here to tell us all about it.
In this episode…
- Mara startup
- Taking the leap into different industries
- Stepping out of your comfort zone
- Trusting the process
- Makeup sustainability
- Beauty industry double standards
- The “secret sauce”
- The impact of sampling
Quotes:
“I think that you really have to have some thick skin and know how to ride the waves and be willing to put yourself out there.” - Nikki Spo
“You can't take the small no’s really personally.” - Allison McNamara
“I've always felt a passion for finding better ways of doing things and making the world a better place.” - Allison McNamara
“I think a lot of people wanna hold on to their secrets, but on this platform we're about sharing the secrets. I want everybody to have access to the information because I think that especially women, when we come together, there's room for all of us at the top.” - Nikki Spo
“Figure out what you're really good at and then figure out your weaknesses and spend some time getting to be a little bit better at the weaknesses because we gravitate towards doing things that we're good at when we should gravitate towards the things we need to work on.”- Allison McNamara
Timestamps:
0:00 - 2:05 | Introduction
2:05 - 4:15 | The startup of Mara
4:15 - 6:30 | Starting the new chapter of Mara
6:30 - 8:10 | Taking the leap into the next industry
8:10 - 10:10 | Being clear on your mission
10:10 - 11:55 | The beauty industry double standards
11:55 - 13:20 | Family influences
13:20 - 14:40 | Benefits of launching with one hero product
14:40 - 21:30 | Personal connections in building Mara’s presence
21:30 - 23:55 | Sustainable skin care products
23:55 - 28:20 | What’s next for Mara
28:20 - 29:10 | How Mara reached Hailey Bieber!
29:10 - 30:55 | Pivoting from challenges
30:55 - 36:35 | Pieces of advice for new entrepreneurs
36:35 - 38:02 - Outro
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SANA SKIN STUDIO is my #1 go-to spot for self-care. My favorite facial is the Super Glow, and you can get $25 off of your first facial when you book at www.sanaskinstudio.com with my code THEKNOWGLOW.
Connect with Aliison & Mara
https://themarabeauty.com/pages/our-story
@allisonmcnamara / @themarabeauty
Connect with Nikki
@nikkisappspo / @theknowwithnikkispo
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Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy38m - Mar 19, 2024 - Episode 139. Unleashing the Marketing Magic with Nikki Nash
What is up fam?! Welcome back to another jam packed episode. Today I am welcomed by a MASTER marketer… Nikki Nash. She is known for crafting mind-blowing strategies, assembling kick butt marketing teams, and freeing visionary CEOs from the marketing grind. With her advice, I think she can help us business owners achieve some of our pro goals and ultimately make 👏🏼 that 👏🏼 money 👏🏼 … honey.
In this episode…
- Understanding marketing roadblocks
- Making THE plan
- CEO vs. CMO
- Marketing conductor & managerial positions
- Strategists vs. tacticals & implementers
- Building your rockstar team
- Entrepreneurial life vs. mom / personal life
- Understanding your team’s strengths & weaknesses
- Feeder programs
Quotes:
“You have to believe that your plan is going to work for you because one, if it doesn't work, or if you don't believe, it's not gonna work, and two, it's not gonna have the excitement and momentum and passion behind implementing it.” - Nikki Nash
“CMO is helping to realize the vision of the CEO, CEO just needs to focus on that vision all day, every day, and talk about it all day, every day.” - Nikki Nash
“In order for a company to succeed you really have to know what everybody's doing, how everybody's doing it, where they are, and have the skills and knowledge to be able to pick up and roll with it.” - Nikki Nash
“If you have a good strategist, a good project manager, and good doers, you're solid.” - Nikki Nash
“The reason I love these entrepreneurial goals and all of these conversations is that they don't just apply to work life, they apply to real life.” - Nikki Spo
“I want to encourage entrepreneurs to have the guts to ask the hard questions because I think that guts go a long way.” - Nikki Spo
Timestamps:
0:00 - 1:25 | Intro
1:25 - 3:40 | Roadblocks when it comes to marketing
3:40 - 7:30 | Coming up with THE plan
7:30 - 9:25 | Why CEOs should not be their own CMOs
9:25 - 13:10 | Marketing conductors
13:10 - 16:45 | Tips of building a rockstar marketing team
16:45 - 20:46 | How smaller businesses should go about building their team
23:23 - 26:25 | How to motivate your team to have the same enthusiasm for succeeding as you do
26:25 - 30:00 | Connecting entrepreneurial life to real life
30:00 - 33:30 | Finding the right staff
33:30 - 39:55 | Balancing nurturing your current team and hiring outside more experienced professionals
39:55 - 43:05 | Having a clear marketing message & how to develop it
43:05 - 46:45 | Nikki Nash’s clear message
46:45 - 48:59 | Outro
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SANA SKIN STUDIO is my #1 go-to spot for self-care. My favorite facial is the Super Glow, and you can get $25 off of your first facial when you book at www.sanaskinstudio.com with my code THEKNOWGLOW.
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Connect with Nikki Nash
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@nikkisappspo / @theknowwithnikkispo
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Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy48m - Mar 12, 2024 - 138. Oh, So You’re Dating?! with Evan Marc Katz
What is up fam and welcome back to The Know! I am SO excited for today’s episode as I am joined by THE OG dating coach Evan Marc Katz. He specializes in helping smart 👏🏼 successful 👏🏼 women create LONG LASTING LOVE.
Raise the bar, girly. Never again settle for a dissatisfying relationship. Literally, my favorite episode I’ve ever recorded. Don’t miss it.
In this episode…
- Percentages & The Dating Pool
- But what do you REALLY want?
- What does your perfect Saturday look like with your partner?
- HAVING A ROSTER
- What’s on your relationship checklist and WHY
- NOT ignoring the red flags 🚩
- Relationship CEO energy
- Compatibility vs. similarities
- Assume the answer is YES
- Compromising vs. Settling
- Sex exclusivity and having THAT convo
Quotes:
“My belief is that good relationships are easy.” - Evan Marc Katz
“One of the things that I find really surprising is that women are supposed to be the more sensitive and intuitive sex, and yet they're more likely to ignore their feelings than men.” - Evan Marc Katz
“My central metaphor for my ‘Love You’ course is that women are the CEOs and men are the interns.” - Evan Marc Katz
“You settle your way into misery. You compromise your way into happiness.” - Evan Marc Katz
Timestamps:
0:00 - 3:20 | Introduction
3:20 - 4:40 | Talking about what you WANT to talk about
4:40 - 7:45 | Differences between being a coach vs. therapist
7:45 - 13:15 | Finding the right one
13:15 - 15:20 | Relationship stigmas against women
15:20 - 18:45 | Getting rid of the relationship checklist
18:45 - 23:30 | Listening to your emotions
23:30 - 25:12 | Opposite of CEO energy in relationships
26:18 - 28:50 | Compatibility
28:50 - 34:35 | Why we always assume the answer is yes with men
34:35 - 36:05 | Compromising
36:05 - 41:40 | Sex for single women
41:40 - 45:10 | Exclusivity
45:10 - 47:58 | Outro
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SANA SKIN STUDIO is my #1 go-to spot for self-care. My favorite facial is the Super Glow, and you can get $25 off of your first facial when you book at www.sanaskinstudio.com with my code THEKNOWGLOW.
Connect with Evan Marc Katz
Connect with Nikki
@nikkisappspo / @theknowwithnikkispo
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Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy47m - Mar 5, 2024 - 137. Building Your Brand with Amy Peterson
Welcome back, my friends! Today I am excited to host a dear friend and an incredible business person, THE skin savant Amy Peterson. Amy has been a licensed medical esthetician for over 16 years. She was the clinical educator for Solta Medical and is now in Miami with a mission to create a practice that redefines luxury skincare, exudes warm spearheads innovation, and promotes practitioner and client education. Tune in to find out more!
In this episode…
- Ideas vs Execution
- NOT conforming
- Time takes time
- Not knowing how to be a boss
- Perseverance
- Handling the “downs” in business
- Being an entrepreneur
- Navigating competitiveness (even with your partner!)
- When Dad becomes the “cool parent”
- When NOT to make big decisions
- Overcoming lack of confidence
Quotes:
“I had this mindset of never saying no to opportunities that landed and being a sponge for knowledge.” - Amy Peterson
“I knew that being a stay at home mom wasn’t going to fill my cup enough and I knew that I would be a better mom if my cup was full.” - Amy Peterson
“Big things don’t happen overnight. Time takes time.” - Nikki Spo
“In order to kick start your career you need to push forward and persevere through the unknown.” - Nikki Spo
“People think that success comes immediately, and it doesn't. I can tell you that the thing that I did that I know moved the needle for me was that I didn't cut corners. Even when it was easier, I always went the longer route.” - Amy Peterson
“The rest of the world can criticize me but I know what I'm saying and I feel great about what I'm saying and delivering and I'm gonna put it out there.” - Amy Peterson
“My husband and I have learned how to work together within our separate careers. He'll take the back seat when I'm shining and then I'll take the back seat when he's shining and then sometimes we shine together and sometimes we don't shine at all.” - Amy Peterson
“You don't know what you don't know until you know it.” - Nikki Spo
“You learn your lessons in the amount of time it takes you to learn the lessons and you'll keep repeating the same lessons over and over until you learn it.” - Nikki Spo
Timestamps:
0:00 - 3:15 | Introduction
3:15 - 10:25 | The beginning journey of Amy
10:25 - 12:50 | Time takes time
12:50 - 15:10 | Not cutting corners
15:10 - 18:46 | The truths of being an entrepreneur
21:00 - 27:50 | Dissecting how having a high performing & achieving spouse affecting career trajectory
27:50 - 36:45 | Transitioning into the action of a career
36:45 - 39:33 | Outro
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18:46 - 21:00
Painless Pregnancy is a group of physical therapists located in South Florida who specialize in helping pregnant and postpartum women prevent dysfunction and heal… in the comfort of their own homes. This concierge service has been a game changer for me after my third childbirth, and I am excited to partner with them and offer our Listeners 10% off their first visit with my code NikkiSpo10. Check out www.painless-pregnancy.com to book your appointment!
Connect with Amy Peterson
https://www.skincarebyamypeterson.com/
Connect with Nikki
@nikkisappspo / @theknowwithnikkispo
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Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy39m - Feb 27, 2024 - 136. The Power of the Pussy with Kim Coffin
Welcome back to another episode of The Know where NO topic is off limits! Today we have a spicy episode that features our amazing guest Kim Coffin. Kim is a sex and empowerment coach as well as a best selling author, a podcast host and teacher, and the founder of Get Your Sexy Back. She specializes in sexuality, tantric sex, and relationship transformation while also helping singles and couples with coaching and tools for sexual confidence, self love, pleasure, empowerment, and intimacy with themselves and others. Her mission is to create healthy sexuality with less shame and more pleasure. Let’s jump right in!
In this episode…
- Feeling safe & secure
- Divine feminine
- Divine masculine
- Big & small trauma
- Believing in yourself
- Trusting your intuition
- Filling voids
- Wielding sexuality as a weapon
- The hoe phase
Quotes:
“We are helping women feel like they can come home to themselves and to their sexualities and to whatever their life has for them.” - Nikki Spo
“Divine feminine starts in your body. It starts when we create safety and trust and really learn how to come home in your body to the point that you know your pleasure.” - Kim Coffin
“I always say that keeping secrets is like keeping poison in your body.” - Nikki Spo
“Nobody ever taught me how to be a woman. I just had to learn it on the fly.” - Nikki Spo
“When we can reconnect to our inner feminine, to our sacred pleasure, to Pussy, to our pelvic bowl, what is possible is coming home to that essence of who we are, who we always were. And from there we can create the best life and the best relationships and have the best sex that you have ever imagined.” - Kim Coffin
“There's two very different types of hoe phases. There's the hoe phase where you're going and looking for something to complete you. And then there's the surrendering inwards phase, and simply being in your pleasure all day long in the bedroom and out of the bedroom. There's different energies to them.” - Kim Coffin
“The pendulum went way too far. And it put women in their masculine energy. And we don't need to be in our masculine, we need to come back to our feminine, come back to our body, come back to our safety and trust.” - Kim Coffin
“Pleasure is a nervous system reset!” - Kim Coffin
Timestamps:
0:00 - 1:55 | Intro
1:55 - 4:20 | Finding safety & security within ourselves
4:20 - 8:20 | Divine feminine & divine masculine
8:20 - 12:35 | Defining traumatic events
12:35 - 15:50 | Redefining what it means to be a women
15:50 - 18:15 | Trusting yourself
18:15 - 22:08 | Different energies
24:47 - 30:25 | Training yourself out of masculine and into feminine
30:25 - 31:35 | Step one to coming back into your femininity
31:35 - 35:25 | Listening to your body
35:25 - 40:00 | Bringing pleasure into your daily life
40:00 - 42:50 | Finding the good
42:50 - 46:25 | Outro
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When shopping for a new car, Toyota of North Miami has to be at the top of your list. Toyota of North Miami is a Miami based dealership that offers you a superior selection of new Toyota vehicles as well as a large inventory of used vehicles and certified pre owned Toyotas. Right now, you can lease a new Toyota Corolla for just $79 a month and get free car washes for life. Be sure to check out Toyota of North Miami for all of your car purchasing needs.
—
SANA SKIN STUDIO is my #1 go-to spot for self-care. My favorite facial is the Super Glow, and you can get $25 off of your first facial when you book at www.sanaskinstudio.com with my code THEKNOWGLOW.
Connect with Kim Coffin
https://getyoursexyback.ca/ / get-your-sexy-back
Connect with Nikki
@nikkisappspo / @theknowwithnikkispo
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Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy46m - Feb 20, 2024 - 135. Maybe it's NOT a Mid-Life Crisis with Kathy Batista
Welcome back! Today we have a loaded episode with Kathy Batista as we consider that there are opportunities to create magic all around us and that maybe, just maybe... it isn’t actually a mid-life crisis.
Kathy Batista is the go-to coach for midlife women. She believes midlife isn't just based on age but that it's a phase of life, and that it can be your best one yet. By tapping into your values and skills, you can take aligned action to create purpose and joy, leading to that often missing sense of fulfillment. Guys It’s time for some mid-life MAGIC, and we are just a perspective shift away from creating the life we’ve always wanted.
In this episode…
- Unhealthy & healthy coping mechanisms
- Sense of community
- Fighting that sense of control
- Getting out of your own way
- Leaning into the unknown
- Envy
- Mood, mindfulness, & mindset
Quotes:
“We now need to work with that gut instinct and approach people that we instinctively have a feeling of safety around.” - Kathy Batista
“I have gotten to the point where I don't even care what the why is anymore. I'm just ready for a change, a whole change. I'm ready to do it and I think it takes a lot of courage for people to get there.” - Nikki Spo
“I realized that my envy was a tool in revealing to myself where my alignment might be.” - Nikki Spo
“Envy is recognizing the oneness in other people. We are all one.” Kathy Batista
Timestamps:
0:00 - 2:30 | Introduction
2:30 - 7:15 | Kathy’s background
7:15 - 11:15 | One day at a time
11:15 - 16:00 | Trusting your gut
16:00 - 21:30 | Getting out of your own way
21:30 - 23:29 | Making the change
25:42 - 29:20 | Envy
29:20 - 31:25 | Making decision for YOURSELF
31:25 - 36:45 | The 3 pillars
36:45 - 42:30 | Mindfulness
42:30 - 44:59 | Outro
Connect with Kathy
Connect with Nikki
@nikkisappspo / @theknowwithnikkispo
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Welcome back everyone! I am so excited for today's episode as we are joined with the amazing Shiri Sarfati. Shiri is a beauty and wellness expert as well as a licensed esthetician. She is the founder of 23Skin, a beauty brand based on natural and clean ingredients that provide spa quality results at home, and is a partner and executive vice president of her family-owned professional skincare brand.
Her thought is that we don't need to buy into the societal pressures of looking perfect, and that skin care should be about wellness and feeling good and glowing from the inside out. Tune in to hear more!
In this episode…
- Entrepreneurial lifestyle
- Environmental stressors
- Lifestyle pivots
- Clean beauty
- Motivation
- Big & small wins
- Finding inspiration
- Finding a support team
- Believing in yourself
- Beauty standards
Quotes:
“Being an entrepreneur is a mindset.” - Shiri Sarfati
“We have these environmental stressors and we really have to dig deep and say, ‘What do I need to do at this moment in order to accelerate and know where I'm heading towards?’ And those pivots are game changing.” - Shiri Sarfati
“It is important to celebrate the wins because they are what lead us to the next big thing.” - Shiri Sarfati
“You have to love yourself. You have to believe in yourself and have people around you that believe in you.” - Shiri Sarfati
“I definitely find myself having to walk the talk. The things that I talk about on my podcast, I say to myself, ‘you better be ready to back this up with your actions.’” - Nikki Spo
“What I would love for people to do is just to look at themselves and say, ‘I look beautiful. My skin is glowing, I have my health, I feel vibrant.’ And from that place is where you WILL look vibrant. The most gorgeous people in the room are the people that have wonderful confidence.” Shiri Sarfati
“Instead of a vicious cycle of neglect and lack of self-care, you need to do the reverse. You need to say, ‘I love myself, I take care of myself and because I take care of myself, I love myself.’” - Nikki Spo
Timestamps:
0:00 - 2:10 | Introduction
2:10 - 5:55 | Shiri Sarfati & 23Skin background
5:55 - 10:25 | An entrepreneurial lifestyle
10:25 - 12:00 | The effect of covid
12:00 - 14:10 | The pivot to being an entrepreneur
14:10 - 17:35 | Environmental stressors, big or small
17:35 - 19:05 | Defining “Clean Beauty”
19:05 - 21:50 | Having a breakthrough moment
22:31 - 24:15 | Staying motivated to accomplishing your mission
24:15 - 27:15 | Finding inspiration to pull yourself out of the rut
27:15 - 31:05 | Having a supportive partner
31:05 - 37:00 | The ever changing beauty standards of society
37:00 - 38:25 | Taking the leap
38:25 - 40:04 | Outro
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https://23skin.com/ / repechage.com
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Welcome back light seekers and truth speakers! Today my guest, Michelle Suarez, and I are going to talk about what seems to be a hot topic lately, which is… DIVORCE.
Michelle Suarez is a mom of three and an attorney who founded The Divorce Broker, which is a boutique firm for professional guidance and legal consulting support to women who need general advice, are contemplating or navigating the challenging process of divorce, pre and post-nuptial, settlement agreements and beyond.
In this conversation, Michelle gets candid about the most common fears and hesitations she encounters when coaching her clients through a divorce process, along with how she helps her clients feel empowered and confident through the phases of their journey.
This is one of those convos that you’ll be grateful to hear without having had to ask the questions yourself ;)
In this episode…
- Divorce
- Financial changes
- Family changes
- Finding a sense of control
- Women empowerment
- Support system
- Loneliness
- Different experiences
- Loss of community
- Finances
- Impact on kids
Quotes:
“After my divorce was over I knew this is what I wanted to do. This is my calling. I want to sit down and I want to help women.” - Michelle Suarez
“The hardest part is being able to think clearly, being able to set your emotions aside, and watching your whole life change.” - Michelle Suarez
“I read something recently that said, ‘You're not my competition. Everybody's assignment is different.’ And so women need to come together and start turning towards each other instead of away from each other to help lift each other up in whatever capacity that is.” - Nikki Spo
“I wanted to focus on women because we need each other. And I think we're amazing beings. I think we're smart and I think all of us have something to offer each other.” - Michelle Suarez
“I love to see women coming together to support each other, but I think there's also something hugely powerful when men come up and rise up to support women in their journeys to you.” - Nikki Spo
“Divorce is hard on everyone. Whether you want it or not it rocks your world.” - Michelle Suarez
“You need to find a place where you can have your feelings supported and controlled so that you can make clear decisions. And that's why I'm doing this to make that place for other women.” - Michelle Suarez
“I think that a lot of people feel alone in general, not just in divorces, but with whatever they're going through. So finding a community of people that can support is so important.” Nikki Spo
“I think that in general, regardless of marriage, divorce, or relationships, more and more women need to come to a sense of awareness and awakening within themselves that they deserve to have a seat at the table when it comes to their own finances.” - Nikki Spo
“It's never going to be easy because divorce is not an easy thing. But I think if you prioritize your children and let them be the center and make your decisions around them, it is much better.” - Michelle Suarez
Timestamps:
0:00 - 2:15 | Introduction
2:15 - 5:30 | Michelle’s background
5:30 - 9:00 | The hardest part about divorce
9:00 - 12:05 | Women working together
12:05 - 13:40 | Universal truths about the divorce process
13:40 - 16:05 | Addressing the BIG feelings
16:05 - 18:50 | Compartmentalizing
19:55 - 23:30 | What Michelle is REALLY doing for women
23:30 - 27:40 | Finances
27:40 - 28:30 | Every marriage is different!
28:30 - 33:30 | Dissecting stigmas
33:30 - 35:30 | Biggest fears of divorce
35:30 - 36:55 | Impact on kids
36:55 - 38:45 | Tips for women
38:45 - 41:04 | Outro
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Connect with Michelle Suarez & The Divorce Broker
Connect with Nikki
@nikkisappspo / @theknowwithnikkispo
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Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy41m - Jan 30, 2024 - 132. Nikki Spo // UNVEILED: The Loneliness Epidemic
What is up light beams, truth speakers, and amplifiers! You are listening to a mini episode of Nikki Spo UNVEILED where I get deep-ER and talk about topics that are very personal to me. Today we are going to dive into a creepy little topic that messes with all of us, the loneliness epidemic. Tune in and don’t forget that no one is alone in this wild journey called life!
In this episode…
- Loneliness epidemic
- Connections
- Social media
- Self awareness
- Validation
- Higher power
- Having a different outlook
Quotes
“I think a lot of people are just really just starving for connections of any type.” - Nikki Spo
“You can feel lonely even if you have a lot of people around you because loneliness isn't about the quantity of your relationships, but about the quality of your connections.” - Nikki Spo
“I think it's crucial that we start to become more self -aware and that involves taking a personal inventory of sorts. Being able to humbly, vulnerably, and honestly look at ourselves and our respective situations.” - Nikki Spo
“Looking within and connecting with a higher power as you understand that higher power is really the antidote for loneliness.” - Nikki Spo
“Another antidote for loneliness is helping other people, connecting with people, places and things that make your insides feel good.” - Nikki Spo
“Holding resentment is like drinking poison and expecting someone else to die from it. It is poison for our own soul.” - Nikki Spo
Timestamps:
0:00 - 3:15 | Introduction
3:15 - 6:20 | Understanding the loneliness epidemic
6:20 - 8:25 | Social media’s impact
8:25 - 9:45 | Self awareness & looking within
11:55 - 12:40 | Craving validation
12:40 - 13:35 | Connecting with a higher power
13:35 - 14:45 | Finding connections that make you feel good
14:45 - 17:00 | Dissecting resentment
17:00 - 18:20 | Feeling entitled to our emotions
18:20 - 19:48 | Outro
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Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy19m - Jan 23, 2024 - 131. Breaking Free with Monica Del Valle
Episode 131’s guest, Monica Del Valle, is a woman who I genuinely look up to and admire. She has been through some sh*t and has made lemonade out of lemons. She owns a powerhouse yoga studio, the Break Free Movement. Before that, she was a health coach passionate about wellness that inspired her to open her studio. True to all guests on The Know, there is MUCH more to her.
In this episode we are discovering so much more as we take a glimpse into the real essence and story about Monica Del Valle.
In this episode…
- Who is Monica Del Valle
- What Yoga means to Monica
- The story behind Monica’s success story
- Creating a welcoming healthy environment
- The importance of being present
- Learning from being a mother
- Balanced life
- Postpartum
- Normalizing therapy and medication
Timestamps
0:00 - 2:15 | Introduction
2:15 - 7:00 | Who is Monica Del Valle
7:00 - 10:20 | Consciousness and awareness
10:20 - 15:50 | What Yoga means to Monica
15:50 - 20:20 | Monica’s dark times
20:20 - 24:30 | Healing to break generational trauma
24:30 - 27:45 | How becoming a mother impacts views on life, love, work and sense of purpose
27:45 - 31:25 | Creating a balanced life
31:25 - 38:20 | Postpartum experiences
38:20 - 41:50 | Pelvic floor therapy
41:50 - 43:40 | No woman is alone!
43:40 - 49:53 | Co-parenting advice
Quotes:
“A big part of what you are doing, with adults even, is bringing them to a sense of consciousness and awareness and keeping them centered.” - Nikki Spo
“When I am going through a hard time I give myself a hug and I am like ‘dude I got you. You are safe here.’ As parents we can teach our kids to do something similar.” - Nikki Spo
“Yoga was really there for me when I needed it. It took my mind off of what was going on at home.” - Monica Del Valle
“A person who heals his or her self is not just healing the generations that came after them, they're healing the generations of their lineage above.” - Nikki Spo
“Although I work, I make sure I carve out time for my daughters and make sure I am there for that play or pick them up from school because it’s important for them and it’s important for me.” - Monica Del Valle
“My daughters have taught me the meaning of love. They are my heart beating outside of my heart.” - Monica Del Valle
“You can get a divorce five hundred times but your kids are yours.” - Monica Del Valle
“Even if we are co-parenting, we are still a team and we are still a family. My kids will always come first.” - Monica Del Valle
QUOTE:
“The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen.” - Elizabeth Kubler-Ross
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Connect with Monica Del Valle
https://www.instagram.com/thebreakfreemvmt/
@monicadelv / @thebreakfreemvmt
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Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy49m - Jan 9, 2024 - 130. Experiential Billionaire with Joe Huff
HAPPY NEW YEAR truth speakers and light seekers! Today I am joined by Joe Huff, a longtime friend and the co-author of the book “Experiential Billionaire.” In this convo, we talk about what it means to be an experiential billionaire and how to build a life that is RICH in EXPERIENCES.
Joe huff is one of the most positive humans I have ever met and during a time in my life that was kinda chaotic, Joe was a positive “seed planter.” He is obsessed with experiences and I am so excited for you all to tune into this amazing conversation.
In this episode…
- Experiences
- Exploration
- “Experiential Billionaire”
- Not taking life for granted
- Shared experiences
- Importance of a positive mindset
- Valuing personal experiences
- “What am I doing” vs. “What do I want to be doing”
- Learning from & appreciating your lows
Quotes:
“We build relationships through shared experiences.” - Joe Huff
“There’s a tremendous power in story telling and that is part of why I have this show, to tell the stories of people like you and the amazing things you do.” - Nikki Spo
“It is so important to move away from a fear based mindset and into an abundance mindset where you truly believe you are always going to be okay, you’re always going to receive something from the world and be provided for, and you will not be left stranded.” - Nikki Spo
“What we are trying to do is show people the experiences that they will truly value and coupling that with a sense of urgency to go after those things. That leads to a life of limitless possibilities and less regret.” - Joe Huff
“The lows of your life are where you do the most learning.” - Nikki Spo
“These life experiences, the bad ones and the good ones, ultimately bring us a sense of peace, wholeness, and fulfillment in life.” - Nikki Spo
“When passion and purpose collide, that’s where you find that happiness.” - Joe Huff
“We have this crazy ability to overestimate the negative possibility’s and underestimate the positive potential.” - Joe Huff
“It’s not about climbing Mount Everest or running a marathon, it’s about finding the magic around you everyday.” - Joe Huff
Timestamps:
0:00 - 2:50 | Introduction
2:50 - 14:30 | Joe’s catalyst of sharing his experiences
14:30 - 16:55 | Finding a purpose in what you do
16:55 - 18:40 | Money vs. experiences - not mutually exclusive
18:40 - 21:10 | Learning from your lows
21:10 - 25:20 | Giving people a sense of urgency
25:20 - 30:45 | How society defines wealth
30:45 - 33:35 | “The cave you fear holds the treasure you seek”
33:35 - 36:10 | “Believing in the make believe”
36:10 - 43:15 | Complacency
43:15 - 45:45 | How to turn negatives into positives
45:45 - 47:58 | Outroduction
Connect with Joe Huff / Experiential Billionaire
https://www.experientialbillionaire.com/
Connect with Nikki
@nikkisappspo / @theknowwithnikkispo
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What is up superstars! Today we have a Nikki Spo // UNVEILED episode where I am going to get into it with you all about being sober during the holidays. At the time of this podcast episode I have 1,334 days of continuous sobriety. This is my fourth holiday season without alcohol or drugs and I hope to help anyone in the audience who is currently sober, is sober curious, or anyone who knows someone who is either of those.
In this Episode:
- Sobriety
- Sober during the holidays
- Sober curious
- Unhealthy coping mechanisms
- Sobriety does not make you perfect
- Sitting in discomfort
- Observing rather than reacting
- A vicious cycle
- Sobriety tips
- The power of journaling
Quotes:
“Even the most magical times of the year have often also had its fair share of anxiety.”
“Two opposing concepts can be true at the same time. We can love the holiday season but also feel really anxious or triggered by them too.”
“Just because I am sober and haven't had a single sip of alcohol in all this time does not mean that I am all of a sudden a saint. No, I still mess up. And I really want to drive that home because what's not cool is having an air of superiority when it comes to sobriety.”
“Allow yourself to make progress rather than strive for perfection.”
“So in a world where I was drinking and over drinking for the purpose of escape of any sort, I was not able to simply be. I think that now without alcohol in my life it has been less about coping with my life without the crutch of alcohol and more about actually experiencing my life without it.”
“My last tip is probably the most important one is to check on your friends. I think in general, not just sober people, but just as a friend. Check on your friends. It's the kindest thing that somebody can do in any scenario really.”
Timestamps:
0:00 - 1:30 | Introduction
1:30 - 2:35 | Escapism through consumption during the holiday’s
2:35 - 3:50 | Self reflection & self awareness
3:50 - 4:55 | Feeling triggered around the holidays
4:55 - 6:10 | The art of being
6:10 - 12:10 | Sobriety tips
12:10 - 15:25 | A message to friends and loved ones of sober and sober curious people
15:25 - 16:56 | Outroduction
Connect with Nikki
@nikkisappspo / @theknowwithnikkispo
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Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy16m - Dec 19, 2023 - 128. Nikki Spo // UNVEILED: Love is Not Dead
What is up light beams! We have a very special Nikki Spo // UNVEILED episode today. These segments of the show are here to create a space to have deeper dialogues around topics that are important to me, and that is exactly what I will be doing today! This is an episode that carries a deep message that is really important for us to hear especially during the holiday season, and that is… that love is not dead because it is ALWAYS within us.
In this episode…
- UNVEILED
- Responding to online hate
- “Love is dead” stigma
- Evolving perceptions of love
- Wanting to have love vs. forcing love
- Vulnerability
- Human connection & love
- Focusing on genuine connection
- Healing a broken heart
Quotes:
"Love is not dead. It's not dead for me and it's not dead for you either. I want you to really believe that and lean into that on a soul level. Love is not dead for me because love is within me.”
“Love is probably one of the scariest things because it requires us to be vulnerable and put ourselves out there to possibly get hurt for the risk of building these deep and meaningful and potentially romantic relationships with people or a person.”
“I have experienced so many different kinds of love. Big love, fast love, long lasting love, short and sweet love, weird love, wild love, rooted love, hard and tough love, butterflies love, safe love, and truly just all kinds of love. And I believe that I have had that because I have wanted to have that and that I believe that it exists.”
“There are no limits on love or connection.”
“For anyone who might be healing from a broken heart here, the healing journey starts with the love that we have for ourselves.”
Timestamps:
0:00 - 2:10 | Introduction
2:10 - 4:00 | Online hate
4:00 - 5:30 | Personal perception of love
5:30 - 8:45 | Love exists everywhere
8:45 - 11:10 | Viewing love & genuine human connections
11:10 - 11:55 | Opportunities for love is unlimited
11:55 - 12:50 | Believing in love
12:50 - 14:13 | Outdroduction
Connect with Nikki
@nikkisappspo / @theknowwithnikkispo
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Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy14m - Dec 12, 2023 - 127. Boundary TF Up for the Holidays with Erin Morrison
Welcome back, beautiful people! Today I'm going to be circling back to a special episode from a couple of years ago because I truly think it needs revisiting, especially around this time of the year. It’s called Boundary TF Up with the conscious mom, Erin Morrison. It’s all about the ins and outs of setting boundaries with family during the holidays. Check it out!
In this episode…
- Trauma during the holidays
- Family
- How to handle our BIG feelings
- How to handle setting boundaries
- How to make the holidays a time to joy
- Sense of control
- Understanding family is not perfect
- Setting boundaries stigma
- Steps to setting boundaries
- Boundary backlash
- Quality time vs. quantity
- In-laws not parenting or grandparenting how we want
Quotes:
“Oh, the weather outside is delightful, but family time can be frightful, and since there's nowhere else to go, just bring it home, bring it home, bring it home.” - Nikki Spo
“It's not about what your family does. It's how they make you feel.” - Erin Morrison
“I think all of us really all want a sense of control. We're all trying to control what the energy is or the way the day goes, but the real control is you.” - Erin Morrison
“I always say that your feelings are like the waves of the ocean. They come, they go, they ebb, they flow. They will not be there forever, and it's so beautiful to remember.” - Erin Morrison
“Pick one boundary for yourself. Start small so we can be successful and we can dip our toe in the pond and see how it feels.” - Erin Morrison
“You need to take the elevator from your head to your heart. Drop in there and see what is it that's going to serve me. What do I need this holiday so I can feel good?” - Erin Morrison
“Getting on a united front with your partner is one of the biggest steps or precursors to setting said boundary.” - Nikk Spo
“A lot of times when we haven't spoken our truth in our families two things happen. One, we just stay silent or two, we let it build and build and build and build. And then one little thing happens and we are exploding like a volcano and everythings on fire.” - Erin Morrison
Timestamps:
0:00 - 4:10 | Introduction
4:10 - 6:45 | Understanding why we tend to get hesitant, nervous, and anxious as we approach the holiday season
6:45 - 10:05 | Revisiting holiday family trauma with a new sense of inner knowing
10:05 - 19:50 | Handling our BIG feelings
19:50 - 22:30 | Handling setting boundaries
22:30 - 23:30 | Getting over the scary and overwhelming stigma of setting boundaries
23:30 - 27:00 | The precursors to setting boundaries
27:00 - 30:50 | Boundary backlash
30:50 - 33:00 | How to respond to boundary backlash
33:00 - 34:25 | Hot topics about family boundaries
34:25 - 35:40 | Survival guide
35:40 - 37: 30 | Outroduction
Connect with Erin Morrison
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Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy37m - Dec 5, 2023 - 126. You’re Not Hard to Love with Paul Scanlon
Hello my friends, welcome back to The Know! I am so thrilled to host today’s guest all the way from across the pond in the UK, Paul Scanlon. Following 30 plus years in the not-for-profit sector, Paul Scanlon now has a focus on empowering and educating people through his online content, courses, mentoring, and speaking. His ability to make complex things simple is a hallmark of his skill as a communicator as well as his belief that it is more important to grow people than things. Today we get to experience a unique one-on-one conversation with him, and we talk about a lot… but the main message here is: YOU ARE NOT HARD TO LOVE.
In this episode…
- Where our beliefs systems come from
- Worth & value
- Nature vs Nurture
- Identity
- Difficulty with loving & being loved
- Needing an awakening voice
- Ego
- The Great Awakening
- Finding your light switch
- When the student is ready, the teacher appears
Quotes:
“You are not hard to love, Maybe the issue isn't that. Maybe the issue is you're looking for love from the wrong people. This doesn't mean the people that you're looking to love can't love you at all, but they have this cutoff point beyond which you feel no one can love you fully.” - Paul Scanlon
“I've had a reckoning with myself about who, what, when, where, and why. All the things about myself came into question. I don't see it, like you said, how many people do as a midlife crisis. I do see it as a midlife unraveling and a reckoning, and an awakening of sorts that I'm very privileged to have arrived at.” - Nikki Spo
“I think people need an awakening voice in a book, podcast, conversation, or a movie or TV show. Something random that wakes them up away from their attachment to their egoic identity.” - Paul Scanlon
“For the lights to come on for someone through what I do It is the most exhilarating, rewarding thing because I was that person. I got no help. All of my awakenings came from struggling and stumbling more than I should have done. That's why now I love to help people turn the light on, but most importantly, my job isn't to keep turning your light on for you, It's to show you where the light switch is.” - Paul Scanlon
“I want to be publicly and openly sober because I think people need examples of what it can look like, even if it’s not perfect.” - Nikki Spo
“People don't know that they're not conscious. That's the problem we all have. Everybody thinks that they're conscious. So when we talk to people about being unconscious, they don't know what we mean.” - Paul Scanlon
“There's this saying that when the student's ready, the teacher appears. What this ancient Eastern wisdom means is that your growth and your education and your waking up, is far more to do with your readiness than it is to do with teachers.” - Paul Scanlon
“If you can encapsulate your why, your purpose, your wake-up mantra in a piece of jewelry or clothing or a piece of artwork or a tattoo, then go ahead and do that because it's not random. Getting something in your life or on your body that is your story or reminds you of what this cost you is a part of waking up.” - Paul Scanlon
Timestamps:
0:00 - 2:10 | Introduction
2:10 - 6:40 | Stuff happens to all of us!
6:40 - 11:35 | Feeling hard to love
11:35 - 16:55 | Coaching people to happiness / Ego identity
16:55 - 18:25 | Leading by example & finding your example
18:25 - 22:10 | Guiding people to their own sense of consciousness and awakening
22:10 - 26:40 | Time and place of reading a book
26:40 - 31:15 | Long term love & partnership
31:15 - 34:45 | Being comfortable in your own skin
34:45 - 36:28 | Outroduction
Connect with Paul Scanlon
Connect with Nikki
@nikkisappspo / @theknowwithnikkispo
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Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy36m - Nov 28, 2023 - 125. How to Handle the Heated Topics with Sonni Abatta
Welcome back, my friends! I am SO excited about this episode with Sonni Abatta. She is the host of the podcast We Gotta Talk, as well as an Emmy-nominated and AP award-winning journalist. Sonni is a true connoisseur of the art of staying untriggered in our media-dense world while upholding her simple yet powerful mantra, "Real Talk, Big Topics.” Tune in as we will be diving into some of the “Real Talk, Big Topics.”
In this episode…
- The Second Amendment
- How to talk to your kids about school shootings
- Gun control
- Cheat-proofing your marriage
- Getting outside of your “echo chamber”
- Stay-at-home mom vs. working mom
- Beauty standards
- Raising girls
- Understanding technology & online information
- Tolerance
- Activators vs. mediators
- Parenting
Quotes:
“I really developed a knack for taking big topics and turning them into digestible and easy-to-understand conversations.” - Sonni Abatta
“What works for me to remain calm is to look at people with opposing opinions as humans rather than objects of my anger or ire. Remembering the human behind the story.” - Sonni Abatta
“I don't want to be surrounded by people who are like me. I want to be friends with people who are from different places, who believe different things.” - Sonni Abatta
“Every marriage is so unique and it has its own ways of operating, its own rules, its own systems in place. There are too many variables for anybody to really, truly opine on what they would do or what they should do.” - Nikki Spo
“I remember when I had my kids… Being at home every day felt like it was like Groundhog Day every day. I am grateful that I've been able to create this work life for myself where I get to do something I love.” - Nikki Spo
“I wanna tell my kids, especially my daughters, you owe no one any explanation for who you are or how you are. As long as you're respectful, following the law and not promoting hate, you owe nobody an explanation for who you are and why you are who you are. It took me 40 years to actually feel that when I say it.” - Sonni Abatta
Timestamps:
0:00 - 3:00 | Introduction
3:00 - 5:30 | About Sonni Abatta & We Gotta Talk podcast
5:30 - 7:20 | Digesting & processing online information & technology
7:20 - 10:50 | Raising girls in today's world
10:50 - 14:45 | Being able to remain untriggered
14:45 - 16:00 | The beauty of being a mediator
16:00 - 20:40| The Second Amendment
20:40 - 23:25 | Tips on how to talk to your kids about school shootings
23:25 - 28:25 | Different ways of parenting
28:25 - 32:15 | Whether or not couples can cheat-proof their marriage
32:15 - 33:35 | Stay-at-home mom vs. working mom
33:35 - 41:15 | Feminism
41:15 - 47:00 | The contradiction of caring about how you look vs. raising a girl & body positivity
47:00 - 49:18 | Outroduction
Connect with Sonni Abatta
@sonniabatta / @wegottatalkwithsonni
Connect with Nikki
@nikkisappspo / @theknowwithnikkispo
Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/the-know-with-nikki-spo/donations
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Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy49m - Nov 21, 2023
