#68: Ted Canto - What it Means to be Masculine

In this conversation, Ted Canto discusses the concepts of masculine and feminine energies and how they manifest in men's behavior. He recommends the book 'The Way of the Superior Man' as a valuable resource for understanding these dynamics. Ted explains that feminine behavior is not limited to women and can cause chaos when not properly understood and managed. He also explores the connection between macho behavior and insecurity, emphasizing the importance of self-security and emotional mastery. Ted highlights the role of external expectations in causing suffering and the need to overcome judgment and seek understanding. He shares the transformative power of men's groups and the tools for personal growth and change. In this conversation, Ted Canto discusses the importance of effective communication and introduces the concept of Vahu, a process for listening and communicating with women. He emphasizes the need for men to unlearn bad behaviors and learn how to be men with integrity. Ted also explores the role of femininity and how men can use feminine energy effectively. He highlights the importance of being emotionally available and creating a safe space for women. The impact of father figures and resentment is discussed, as well as the influence of parents and replicating their behavior. Ted emphasizes the importance of authenticity and personal growth, and addresses the attack on masculinity in society. He encourages men to believe in themselves and operate from authenticity. The conversation concludes with a discussion on overcoming limiting beliefs and managing scarcity, as well as recommendations for tools and books.

Takeaways

Understanding the dynamics of masculine and feminine energies is crucial for personal growth and healthy relationships.

Feminine behavior in men can lead to chaos if not properly managed and understood.

Macho behavior is often a manifestation of insecurity and is not truly masculine.

Self-security and emotional mastery are essential for maintaining healthy relationships.

Overcoming external expectations and seeking understanding can alleviate suffering.

Men's groups provide a safe space for vulnerability and personal transformation.

Tools for personal growth and change can become second nature with practice and exploration. Effective communication involves practicing the Vahu process: validate, appreciate, hear, and understand.

Men need to unlearn bad behaviors and learn how to be men with integrity.

Understanding femininity and using feminine energy effectively is crucial for healthy relationships.

Being emotionally available and creating a safe space for women is important for building trust.

The influence of father figures and resentment can impact relationships and behavior.

Conflict should be left on the basketball court, and not carried into personal relationships.

Authenticity and personal growth are key to becoming a better man.

The attack on masculinity in society requires a deeper understanding of what it means to be a man.

Believing in oneself and operating from authenticity is essential for personal growth.

Overcoming limiting beliefs and managing scarcity is a journey that requires self-awareness and growth.

Wayfinder 4:

• Hack - mightytext
• Favorite - The Way of the Superior Man and The Intimate Communion
• Advice for younger self - Believe in yourself
• Limiting belief- Scarcity

Connect with Ted: 

Website: men2kings.com

FB: Men2kings group

Host Information:

Luis Hernandez: Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn, Twitter

Luis' Email: lhernandez@pioneergrouprealty.com

Todd Concienne:Facebook, LinkedIn

Todd’s Email: toddconcienne@gmail.com

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