TUF. Be kind, part I: An instruction, not a virtue (The Unmoved Feminist)
13m | Sep 24, 2026In this episode of The Unmoved Feminist, Martine and Liv take apart the idea that 'be kind' is a harmless, universal instruction. Drawing on Robin Lakoff, Dale Spender and Sandra Lee Bartky, they trace how women and girls are trained from childhood into a softened, hedging register, and how 'be kind' is used to police tone rather than engage with substance whenever women raise male violence, discrimination or the erosion of sex-based protections. This is part one of two: a second episode will look at how the same instruction escalates from policing how women speak to compelling what we're required to say.
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