Lori would come to me and say, how are we gonna get through these holidays?" I didn't have an answer until we built a plan.

In this video:

THE LONG RUNWAY: why the holidays start wearing on you in October

SHE DOESN'T HAVE A MAP: 40 hours with your family in 10 years, and the exit strategy she needs

THE EASY TARGET: why the stress lands on your wife, and how to stop it

THE LIST: the tool our therapist gave us for knowing how your family will show up

If the holidays leave you tense, short with your wife, and glad when they're over, this one's for you.

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"I can't control the storm. I can't control the weather." So what do you do when the day you planned falls apart? In this episode: - THE FISHING TRIP: I planned the greatest trip ever, and the weather wouldn't allow it - THE TREE: a dark storm at 6:30 AM, and a tree shoved into my car that I couldn't stop - WHEN CONTROL COMES HOME: how the same need to control showed up with my wife - THE RESPONSE PLAN: flat tire, bad weather, a lost hotel reservation. Decide now what you'll do. If you've ever let one thing going wrong ruin the whole day, this one's for you.

That sentence runs through my head every time I compare myself to another man. And I can always find someone better, that's the trap.

This one goes back further than social media for me, back to messages I got as a kid that I never understood the standard for. This episode is about where that voice actually comes from, why the richest man on earth said the exact same thing I say to myself, and the one thing about value I took way too long to learn.

If you've ever caught yourself thinking "I should be like that guy" or "I should have succeeded by now," this one's for you.

Part of the Storm Ready Men series. Companion episode on The Couple Cure.

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