Episode 65: Permission to Not Care: Choosing What Deserves Your Energy
On the Permission to Evolve podcast, performance and life coach Brandon Thielk and co-host/producer Holly Deschenes discuss “permission to not care” as a way to manage energy in an overstimulated world. They explore how identity and safety needs can lock people into rigid routines and beliefs (“this is just what we do”), and how tools like the Enneagram can illuminate these patterns. Holly shares a pandemic exercise sorting “things I believe” versus beliefs from family or community, prompting a conversation about how inherited beliefs, wounds, and ego battles keep people emotionally hooked, often through conflict with the people who represent those ideas. Brandon emphasizes individuation, detachment, healing reactions, and forgiveness to free energy, build capacity, and focus on what is meaningful now, including grieving and releasing past identities like sports or other life chapters.
00:00 Welcome and Setup
00:13 Why We Overcare
03:33 Identity and Routine
06:55 Personality and Preferences
10:59 Permission to Not Care
15:34 Capacity and Focus
19:16 Beliefs and Conditioning
25:42 Ego and Detachment
29:51 Battles With People
39:09 Outgrowing Old Chapters
47:27 Key Takeaways
50:43 Where to Find Brandon
51:41 Closing Goodbye
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