Are you sick of parenting with the ideas of yelling and shame and looking for something that feels better, is different, but still has a sense of boundaries and limits? Welcome to Peace and Parenting! Michelle is a former teacher, counselor, certified parenting coach, mom of two teens, recovering yeller, and perfectionist who parents without using punishments altogether. And guess what? It works! On this show, you’ll learn the how behind having kids who are entirely UNPUNISHED but who are also successful, kind, loving, and know how to follow directions.  Once a week, Michelle shares her insights and expertise on connective parenting through solo episodes and interviews with experts and other struggling parents. If you have exhausted all other options and don&#39;t know what to do next, this could be the parenting strategy you&#39;ve been searching for.

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Most of us were programmed to do the same things when children misbehaved. The time-out. Taking something away. The consequence. Nobody in that chain was a villain; they were tools passed down by people who loved us. And we were told they teach. That the time-out builds patience, the consequence builds responsibility, that in these little moments we&#39;re building character. But here&#39;s the real question. Did any of it actually work, or did it just get quiet for twenty minutes? Punishment is very good at one thing: buying a short stretch of compliance. And it pays for that quiet out of the only account that matters: your child&#39;s trust that your love doesn&#39;t flinch. In this episode, I share the time-outs I gave my &#34;easy&#34; daughter, what they were really teaching her, and the four things to reach for instead when your child does something that genuinely needs a response. Join us on our Weekly Training every Thursday at 9:30 am PT live on ZoomInterested in coaching? <a href="https://linkelement.org/widget/form/jIYFwcgM5weIDvXZSuBx" rel="nofollow">Let&#39;s have a conversation</a>Check out my book <a href="http://unpunishedbook.com/" rel="nofollow">UNPUNISHED</a>Join us inside <a href="https://www.skool.com/peace-and-parenting/about" rel="nofollow">Skool</a> for more resources and support Follow Peace and Parenting:Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/peaceandparenting/" rel="nofollow">@peaceandparenting</a>Facebook: <a href="https://www.facebook.com/peaceandparentingla/" rel="nofollow">@peaceandparentingla</a>YouTube: <a href="https://www.youtube.com/@peaceandparentingla" rel="nofollow">@peaceandparentingla</a> 💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review. Feeling called to bring this work to other parents? Our Coaching Certification Program trains you to do exactly that. DM me CERTIFICATION on Instagram for details. Advertising Inquiries: <a href='https://redcircle.com/brands'>https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

Most of us used the same tools: the time-out, taking something away, counting to three. And we were told they teach. But here&#39;s the question nobody asked. Did any of it actually work, or did it just get quiet for twenty minutes? Punishment buys a little compliance, and it pays for it out of the one account that matters: your child&#39;s trust. In this episode, Michelle shares what those tools were really teaching her &#34;easy&#34; daughter, why the &#34;real world&#34; argument doesn&#39;t hold up, and the four things to reach for instead when your child truly needs a response.

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What Punishments Really Do

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Somewhere around eleven, twelve, thirteen, something shifts. The kid who used to tell you everything starts giving you one-word answers. They stop looking for you and wanting to spend time with you. The door that used to stay open is closed. And the thing that makes sense for us in that moment is the scariest one: my teenager is pulling away, and I&#39;m losing them. ﻿I felt exactly that in my own house, and it&#39;s one of the many reasons I came to this work. But here&#39;s what I learned. The pullback doesn’t mean they are rejecting you. It’s your kid doing their actual job, becoming their own person, and pushing off you the way a swimmer pushes off the wall. In this episode, Peace and Parenting coach Tim unpacks why the arguing and the eye-rolls are a sign of attachment, not disrespect, why silence is the thing to actually worry about, and how to stay close to a teenager who acts like they don&#39;t want you there. Join us on our Weekly Training every Thursday at 9:30 am PT live on ZoomInterested in coaching? <a href="https://linkelement.org/widget/form/jIYFwcgM5weIDvXZSuBx" rel="nofollow">Let&#39;s have a conversation</a>Check out my book <a href="http://unpunishedbook.com/" rel="nofollow">UNPUNISHED</a>Join us inside <a href="https://www.skool.com/peace-and-parenting/about" rel="nofollow">Skool</a> for more resources and support Follow Peace and Parenting:Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/peaceandparenting/" rel="nofollow">@peaceandparenting</a>Facebook: <a href="https://www.facebook.com/peaceandparentingla/" rel="nofollow">@peaceandparentingla</a>YouTube: <a href="https://www.youtube.com/@peaceandparentingla" rel="nofollow">@peaceandparentingla</a> 💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review. Feeling called to bring this work to other parents? Our Coaching Certification Program trains you to do exactly that. DM me CERTIFICATION on Instagram for details. Advertising Inquiries: <a href='https://redcircle.com/brands'>https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

Somewhere around twelve or thirteen, something shifts. The kid who used to tell you everything starts giving you one-word answers. They stop looking for you and wanting to spend time with you. The door that used to stay open is closed. And the thing that makes sense for us in that moment is the scariest one: I&#39;m losing them. In this episode, Coach Tim explains why your teen isn&#39;t pulling away from you. They&#39;re pulling toward themselves. The arguing is attachment, the silence is the real worry, and the relationship is the only influence you have left. Here&#39;s how to stay close through it.

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Your Teen Isn’t Pulling Away From You

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You&#39;re at the checkout, almost done, and your child grabs something and asks, &#34;Can we get this?&#34; And four words come out before you&#39;ve even thought about them: &#34;We can&#39;t afford it.&#34; It feels honest. Responsible, even. Like you&#39;re teaching them the value of money. Most of us say it without a second thought, because our parents said it to us. ﻿But that little phrase can quietly plant something much bigger. A child doesn&#39;t hear a temporary cash-flow issue. They hear there is not enough; we are not people who get to have things; wanting is a problem. And they build a whole worldview on top of it. In this episode, I share the scarcity belief I&#39;m still unraveling in my fifties, why the ask is almost never really about the toy, and the exact words to use instead that still mean no without teaching lack. Join us on our Weekly Training every Thursday at 9:30 am PT live on ZoomInterested in coaching? <a href="https://linkelement.org/widget/form/jIYFwcgM5weIDvXZSuBx" rel="nofollow">Let&#39;s have a conversation</a>Check out my book <a href="http://unpunishedbook.com/" rel="nofollow">UNPUNISHED</a>Join us inside <a href="https://www.skool.com/peace-and-parenting/about" rel="nofollow">Skool</a> for more resources and support Follow Peace and Parenting:Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/peaceandparenting/" rel="nofollow">@peaceandparenting</a>Facebook: <a href="https://www.facebook.com/peaceandparentingla/" rel="nofollow">@peaceandparentingla</a>YouTube: <a href="https://www.youtube.com/@peaceandparentingla" rel="nofollow">@peaceandparentingla</a> 💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review. Feeling called to bring this work to other parents? Our Coaching Certification Program trains you to do exactly that. DM me CERTIFICATION on Instagram for details. Advertising Inquiries: <a href='https://redcircle.com/brands'>https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

You&#39;re at the checkout, and your child asks for the shiny thing, and four words come out before you&#39;ve thought about them: &#34;We can&#39;t afford it.&#34; It feels honest, even responsible. But a child doesn&#39;t hear a temporary budget issue. They hear there is not enough, and wanting is a problem, and they build a worldview on top of it. In this episode, Michelle shares the money belief she&#39;s still unraveling in her fifties, why the ask is rarely about the toy, and the exact words to say instead that still mean no without handing down scarcity.

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Stop Saying "We Can't Afford It"

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We&#39;ve been handed a story about toddlers. They&#39;re testing you. They&#39;re manipulating you. They&#39;re trying to win. And if you comfort them too much, you&#39;ll raise a spoiled kid who runs the house. So the advice comes fast and hard in these years: don&#39;t pick them up so much, don&#39;t negotiate, let them cry it out, show them who&#39;s in charge. That story is wrong, and it&#39;s aimed at you hardest right now, because the toddler years are when fear sells best. A two-year-old on the floor is not being disrespectful. They are dysregulated. Their feelings have gotten bigger than the tools they have, because they don&#39;t have the tools yet. In this episode, Peace and Parenting Coach Cammie shares the three simple moves that work when your child comes apart. Join us on our Weekly Training every Thursday at 9:30 am PT live on ZoomInterested in coaching? <a href="https://linkelement.org/widget/form/jIYFwcgM5weIDvXZSuBx" rel="nofollow">Let&#39;s have a conversation</a>Check out my book <a href="http://unpunishedbook.com/" rel="nofollow">UNPUNISHED</a>Join us inside <a href="https://www.skool.com/peace-and-parenting/about" rel="nofollow">Skool</a> for more resources and support Follow Peace and Parenting:Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/peaceandparenting/" rel="nofollow">@peaceandparenting</a>Facebook: <a href="https://www.facebook.com/peaceandparentingla/" rel="nofollow">@peaceandparentingla</a>YouTube: <a href="https://www.youtube.com/@peaceandparentingla" rel="nofollow">@peaceandparentingla</a> 💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review. Feeling called to bring this work to other parents? Our Coaching Certification Program trains you to do exactly that. DM me CERTIFICATION on Instagram for details. Advertising Inquiries: <a href='https://redcircle.com/brands'>https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

We&#39;ve been handed a story about toddlers. They&#39;re testing you, manipulating you, trying to win, and if you comfort them too much, you&#39;ll spoil them. That story is wrong, and it&#39;s aimed at you hardest right now, because the toddler years are when fear sells best. A two-year-old on the floor is not being disrespectful. They are dysregulated. In this episode, Coach Cammie shares the dinner-table meltdown that shifted how she sees her own daughter, why your child saves their hardest moments for you, and the three simple moves that actually work when the storm hits.

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Your Toddler Is Doing Better Than You Think

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When you lie awake at night, what do you replay? Not the hundred things you got right that day. Not the lunches, the drop-offs, the bedtime story you were too tired to read but read anyway. You replay the one moment you lost it. The snap. The raised voice. The look on their face. And you carry it like it&#39;s the whole story. Most of us believe that guilt is proof we&#39;re good parents. That our mistakes need to be paid for. That if we ever forgive ourselves, we&#39;ll stop trying. But it works the opposite way. Guilt doesn&#39;t reach your child at all. It just drains the tank you need to show up the next morning. In this episode, I share the nights I went to bed crying, the moment that finally let me put the guilt down, and the four-step repair that matters far more than being perfect ever could. Join us on our Weekly Training every Thursday at 9:30 am PT live on ZoomInterested in coaching? <a href="https://linkelement.org/widget/form/jIYFwcgM5weIDvXZSuBx" rel="nofollow">Let&#39;s have a conversation</a>Check out my book <a href="http://unpunishedbook.com/" rel="nofollow">UNPUNISHED</a>Join us inside <a href="https://www.skool.com/peace-and-parenting/about" rel="nofollow">Skool</a> Follow Peace and Parenting:Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/peaceandparenting/" rel="nofollow">@peaceandparenting</a>Facebook: <a href="https://www.facebook.com/peaceandparentingla/" rel="nofollow">@peaceandparentingla</a>YouTube: <a href="https://www.youtube.com/@peaceandparentingla" rel="nofollow">@peaceandparentingla</a> 💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review. Feeling called to bring this work to other parents? Our Coaching Certification Program trains you to do exactly that. DM me CERTIFICATION on Instagram for details. Advertising Inquiries: <a href='https://redcircle.com/brands'>https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

When you lie awake at night, what do you replay? Not the hundred things you got right. You replay the one moment you lost it. Most of us believe that guilt is proof we&#39;re good parents, that our mistakes need to be paid for. But it works the opposite way. Guilt doesn&#39;t reach your child at all. It just drains the tank you need to show up the next day. In this episode, Michelle shares the nights she went to bed crying, the moment that let her finally put the guilt down, and the simple repair that matters far more than being a perfect parent ever could.

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There's No Such Thing as a Perfect Parent

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We were told boundaries and connection sit on opposite ends of a dial. Slide toward strict and you get control but lose warmth. Slide toward gentle, and you get closeness but lose the floor. So we spend our days inching back and forth, guilty when we&#39;re too hard, exhausted when we&#39;re too soft, certain we have to pick one. ﻿Here is what Peace and Parenting coach Tim learned by raising four kids, after getting it wrong in both directions. Connection and a boundary were never on the same dial. A punishment is aimed at your child and their behavior. A boundary is aimed at you and what you will do. Once you stop needing your kid to be okay with the limit in the moment, you can stay warm while you hold it. Kind is how you say it. Firm is that you don&#39;t have to change it. Join us on our Weekly Training every Thursday at 9:30 am PT live on ZoomInterested in coaching? <a href="https://linkelement.org/widget/form/jIYFwcgM5weIDvXZSuBx" rel="nofollow">Let&#39;s have a conversation</a>Check out my book <a href="http://unpunishedbook.com/" rel="nofollow">UNPUNISHED</a>Join us inside <a href="https://www.skool.com/peace-and-parenting/about" rel="nofollow">Skool</a> Follow Peace and Parenting:Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/peaceandparenting/" rel="nofollow">@peaceandparenting</a>Facebook: <a href="https://www.facebook.com/peaceandparentingla/" rel="nofollow">@peaceandparentingla</a>YouTube: <a href="https://www.youtube.com/@peaceandparentingla" rel="nofollow">@peaceandparentingla</a> 💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review. Feeling called to bring this work to other parents? Our Coaching Certification Program trains you to do exactly that. DM me CERTIFICATION on Instagram for details. Advertising Inquiries: <a href='https://redcircle.com/brands'>https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

We were told boundaries and connection sit on opposite ends of a dial. Go firm, and you lose warmth. Go gentle, and you lose the floor. So we spend our days sliding back and forth, guilty when we&#39;re too hard, exhausted when we&#39;re too soft. In this episode, Coach Tim shares what he learned raising four kids, after getting it wrong in both directions. Connection and a boundary were never opposites. One is aimed at your child. The other is aimed at you. Kind is how you say it. Firm is that you don&#39;t have to change it.

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Kind and Firm: Hold a Boundary Without Losing Connection

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Most of us carry a quiet belief that we have to be everything for our kids. If the other parent isn&#39;t showing up the way we wish they would, we tell ourselves it&#39;s on us to fill every gap. To be the nurturer and the rough-and-tumble one. To make up for what they didn&#39;t get, so they never feel the lack we felt. And we run ourselves into the ground trying. In this conversation, Mary, a mom of three, brings Michelle exactly that ache. She feels responsible for holding every role, and she&#39;s exhausted. What unfolds is a gentle unraveling of the belief underneath it. You cannot give your child everything, and you were never supposed to. The one thing they actually need is connection, and connection is not about quantity or covering every base. It&#39;s about being your fullest, most grounded self, and letting that be enough. Join us on our Weekly Training every Thursday at 9:30 am PT live on ZoomInterested in coaching? <a href="https://linkelement.org/widget/form/jIYFwcgM5weIDvXZSuBx" rel="nofollow">Let&#39;s have a conversation</a>Check out my book <a href="http://unpunishedbook.com/" rel="nofollow">UNPUNISHED</a>Join us inside <a href="https://www.skool.com/peace-and-parenting/about" rel="nofollow">Skool</a> Follow Peace and Parenting:Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/peaceandparenting/" rel="nofollow">@peaceandparenting</a>Facebook: <a href="https://www.facebook.com/peaceandparentingla/" rel="nofollow">@peaceandparentingla</a>YouTube: <a href="https://www.youtube.com/@peaceandparentingla" rel="nofollow">@peaceandparentingla</a> 💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review. Feeling called to bring this work to other parents? Our Coaching Certification Program trains you to do exactly that. DM me CERTIFICATION on Instagram for details. Advertising Inquiries: <a href='https://redcircle.com/brands'>https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

Most of us believe we have to be everything for our kids. If the other parent isn&#39;t showing up fully, we tell ourselves it&#39;s on us to fill every gap and make up for what&#39;s missing. And we burn out trying. In this coaching conversation, Mary Louise, a mom of three, brings Michelle that exact exhaustion. What unfolds is a gentle unraveling of the belief underneath it. You cannot give your child everything, and you were never meant to. The one thing they truly need is connection, and that comes from you being your fullest, most grounded self, not from covering every base.

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Case Study: What If You're Already Enough?

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We&#39;ve all been told the same thing. Kids need consistency above everything else. The same rules, the same bedtime, the same consequences in every home they live in. So when the other parent won&#39;t get on the same page, we panic. We send the articles. We lecture. We build the case. We pour ourselves into a fight we were never going to win, and we call it love. But here is the truth. Your child is not destabilized by two different sets of rules. They already know the rules at school are not the rules at Grandma&#39;s. They code-switch all day long, and it does not break them. What actually costs them is the whiplash of two adults at war. You do not have to parent the same. You just have to build one safe home, and that is entirely yours to do. Join us on our Weekly Training every Thursday at 9:30 am PT live on ZoomInterested in coaching? <a href="https://linkelement.org/widget/form/jIYFwcgM5weIDvXZSuBx" rel="nofollow">Let&#39;s have a conversation</a>Check out my book <a href="http://unpunishedbook.com/" rel="nofollow">UNPUNISHED</a>Join us inside <a href="https://www.skool.com/peace-and-parenting/about" rel="nofollow">Skool</a> Follow Peace and Parenting:Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/peaceandparenting/" rel="nofollow">@peaceandparenting</a>Facebook: <a href="https://www.facebook.com/peaceandparentingla/" rel="nofollow">@peaceandparentingla</a>YouTube: <a href="https://www.youtube.com/@peaceandparentingla" rel="nofollow">@peaceandparentingla</a> 💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review. Feeling called to bring this work to other parents? Our Coaching Certification Program trains you to do exactly that. DM me CERTIFICATION on Instagram for details. Advertising Inquiries: <a href='https://redcircle.com/brands'>https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

We&#39;ve all been told kids need consistency above everything else. The same rules in every home. So when the other parent won&#39;t get on the same page, we panic, and we pour ourselves into a fight we were never going to win. But here is the truth. Your child is not destabilized by two different sets of rules. They code-switch between school, Grandma&#39;s, and the soccer field every day, and it does not break them. What costs them is the whiplash of two adults at war. In this episode, Coach Cammie shares why you don&#39;t have to parent the same, and how to build one safe home that&#39;s entirely yours to build.

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Your Kid Doesn't Need Two Houses That Agree, They Need One That's Safe

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For years, I thought I was doing everything right. I had left the yelling behind. I praised my girls constantly; I made star charts. I was a trained teacher and a school counselor, and I believed with my whole heart that catching kids being good was the kind, positive way to parent. I thought I was building my daughters up. What I could not see was that I was quietly teaching them that my warmth was something they had to earn. The thing that cracked it open for me was watching my sensitive oldest, Esme. She had decided her teacher loved her or hated her depending on how many stars she got that day, and she was holding it together at school and falling apart the second she got home to me. That was when I realized the reward system I was fighting at her school was the same one I had been running at home. In this episode, I share what I learned: why praise and punishment are not opposites, why the carrot stops working, and what to say to your child instead so they grow up knowing who they are rather than watching you to find out who to be. Join us on our Weekly Training every Thursday at 9:30 am PT live on ZoomInterested in coaching? <a href="https://linkelement.org/widget/form/jIYFwcgM5weIDvXZSuBx" rel="nofollow">Let&#39;s have a conversation</a>Check out my book <a href="http://unpunishedbook.com/" rel="nofollow">UNPUNISHED</a>Join us inside <a href="https://www.skool.com/peace-and-parenting/about" rel="nofollow">Skool</a> Follow Peace and Parenting:Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/peaceandparenting/" rel="nofollow">@peaceandparenting</a>Facebook: <a href="https://www.facebook.com/peaceandparentingla/" rel="nofollow">@peaceandparentingla</a>YouTube: <a href="https://www.youtube.com/@peaceandparentingla" rel="nofollow">@peaceandparentingla</a> 💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review. Feeling called to bring this work to other parents? Our Coaching Certification Program trains you to do exactly that. DM me CERTIFICATION on Instagram for details. Advertising Inquiries: <a href='https://redcircle.com/brands'>https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

Most of us were taught that the opposite of punishment is praise. That sticker charts and &#34;great job, buddy&#34; are the good, gentle way to parent. In this episode, I want to challenge that. What if praise and punishment are not opposites at all, but two versions of the same deal: my love is a response to your behavior. We will cover why rewards work too well at the wrong thing, what to say instead of &#34;good job,&#34; and how to become the one place your child never has to earn your warmth. You will leave with real phrases and a roadmap you can start tomorrow.


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Rewards Are Punishments in Disguise

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When your child is being hard, what is the first tool you reach for? A countdown. A consequence. A lecture. A raised voice. Almost every one of those is a version of the same instinct: when my child gets hard, I get harder. It makes complete sense, because that is exactly what we were taught to do. In this episode, I am making the case for the opposite. The single most powerful thing you can do in your hardest parenting moments is not bring more pressure. It is to bring more play. I know exactly what some of you are thinking: play rewards bad behavior. Actually, it does the opposite. A hard behavior is a child who is stuck, and play dissolves the stuckness. Hard moments call for seriousness. Actually, a serious face reads as more of a threat to your child&#39;s nervous system, and threat escalates behavior. Play is for little kids. Your teenager did not stop playing. You did. This episode dismantles the three biggest myths that keep parents stuck, then hands you the tools to try tonight. Download the <a href="https://peaceandparentingla.com/play-guide" rel="nofollow">Play Guide</a>Join us on our Weekly Training every Thursday at 9:30 am PT live on ZoomInterested in coaching? <a href="https://linkelement.org/widget/form/jIYFwcgM5weIDvXZSuBx" rel="nofollow">Let&#39;s have a conversation</a>Check out my book <a href="http://unpunishedbook.com/" rel="nofollow">UNPUNISHED</a> Follow Peace and Parenting:Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/peaceandparenting/" rel="nofollow">@peaceandparenting</a>Facebook: <a href="https://www.facebook.com/peaceandparentingla/" rel="nofollow">@peaceandparentingla</a>YouTube: <a href="https://www.youtube.com/@peaceandparentingla" rel="nofollow">@peaceandparentingla</a> 💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review. Feeling called to bring this work to other parents? Our Coaching Certification Program trains you to do exactly that. DM me CERTIFICATION on Instagram for details. Advertising Inquiries: <a href='https://redcircle.com/brands'>https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

When your child is being hard, what is the first tool you reach for? A countdown. A consequence. A lecture. A raised voice. Almost every one of those is a version of the same instinct: when my child gets hard, I get harder. In this episode, I am making the case for the opposite. That the most powerful thing you can do in your hardest parenting moments is not bring more pressure. It is to bring more play. We will cover the three wrong beliefs about play that keep parents stuck, the way to end power struggles faster than any consequence, and a real game menu broken down by age band, including specific play for tweens and teens.

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Play Instead of Punishment

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When Cammie&#39;s son began struggling with school, anxiety, and sensory challenges, she heard the same message so many parents hear: maybe he needed a different approach. But instead of abandoning connection, she leaned into it, and watched something remarkable happen. In this episode, Coach Cammie shares her family&#39;s journey, from heartbreaking school drop-offs to the moment her son was finally ready to walk into school on his own. Together, we explore why neurodivergent children don&#39;t need a different kind of parent, they need the same foundation of connection, offered with even more understanding, patience, and trust. Join us on our Weekly Training every Thursday at 9:30 am PT live on ZoomInterested in coaching? <a href="https://linkelement.org/widget/form/jIYFwcgM5weIDvXZSuBx" rel="nofollow">Let&#39;s have a conversation</a>Check out my book <a href="http://unpunishedbook.com/" rel="nofollow">UNPUNISHED</a> Follow Peace and Parenting:Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/peaceandparenting/" rel="nofollow">@peaceandparenting</a>Facebook: <a href="https://www.facebook.com/peaceandparentingla/" rel="nofollow">@peaceandparentingla</a>YouTube: <a href="https://www.youtube.com/@peaceandparentingla" rel="nofollow">@peaceandparentingla</a> 💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review. Feeling called to bring this work to other parents? Our Coaching Certification Program trains you to do exactly that. DM me CERTIFICATION on Instagram for details. Advertising Inquiries: <a href='https://redcircle.com/brands'>https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

So many parents of neurodivergent children are told they need a different parenting approach, that connection won&#39;t be enough, and that rewards and consequences are the answer. In this episode, Coach Cammie shares the deeply personal story of her son, whose anxiety and sensory challenges made everyday moments like getting to school feel overwhelming for their entire family. She opens up about the fears, the setbacks, and the small victories that reminded her to trust connection over control. Together, we explore why neurodivergent children don&#39;t need a different kind of parent, they need the same foundation of connection, regulation, and repair, offered with even greater compassion.

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Your Neurodivergent Child Doesn’t Need a Different Parent

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For years, I believed that when my daughters pushed back, they were being defiant. Then one afternoon at the American Girl store, my youngest daughter had a public meltdown that completely changed the way I understood children&#39;s behavior and my role as a parent. In this episode, I&#39;m sharing why behavior is communication, not defiance, and how learning to read the message beneath your child&#39;s actions can transform your relationship. I&#39;ll walk you through the mindset shifts and practical tools that helped me stop fighting the behavior and start understanding the child underneath it. Join us on our Weekly Training every Thursday at 9:30 am PT live on ZoomJoin our <a href="https://www.skool.com/peace-and-parenting" rel="nofollow">Skool Community</a>Check out my book <a href="http://unpunishedbook.com/" rel="nofollow">UNPUNISHED</a> Follow Peace and Parenting:Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/peaceandparenting/" rel="nofollow">@peaceandparenting</a>Facebook: <a href="https://www.facebook.com/peaceandparentingla/" rel="nofollow">@peaceandparentingla</a>YouTube: <a href="https://www.youtube.com/@peaceandparentingla" rel="nofollow">@peaceandparentingla</a> 💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review. Feeling called to bring this work to other parents? Our Coaching Certification Program trains you to do exactly that. DM me CERTIFICATION on Instagram for details. Advertising Inquiries: <a href='https://redcircle.com/brands'>https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

For a long time, I thought my daughter&#39;s biggest meltdowns meant I was failing as a parent. Then one afternoon at the American Girl store, everything changed. In this episode, I share the story that transformed the way I see children&#39;s behavior and explain why what we often label as &#34;defiance&#34; is actually communication. I&#39;ll show you what&#39;s happening in your child&#39;s brain during those difficult moments, why kids often save their hardest emotions for the parent they trust the most, and how learning to respond with connection instead of control can completely change your relationship. If you&#39;re tired of power struggles and wondering why your child won&#39;t listen, this episode will help you see their behavior through an entirely new lens.

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Your Child is Not Disrespectful, They Are Dysregulated.

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If you&#39;ve ever caught yourself saying the very words you swore you&#39;d never say to your child, you&#39;re not alone. I&#39;ve been there too. In this episode, we’re sharing why breaking generational parenting patterns isn&#39;t a matter of trying harder or having more willpower. It&#39;s about recognizing the blueprint you inherited and learning how to write a new one. Through personal stories, research, and years of coaching parents, We’ll help you understand why old reactions surface so quickly—and why that doesn&#39;t mean you&#39;ve failed. We&#39;ll walk you through the hidden ways inherited patterns show up in everyday parenting, explain why awareness alone isn&#39;t enough to create lasting change, and share practical tools you can begin using today. Breaking the cycle doesn&#39;t happen through perfection—it happens one small moment at a time, as you learn to pause, repair, and choose a different path for yourself and your children. Join us on our Weekly Training every Thursday at 9:30 am PT live on ZoomInterested in coaching? <a href="https://linkelement.org/widget/form/jIYFwcgM5weIDvXZSuBx" rel="nofollow">Let&#39;s have a conversation</a>Check out my book <a href="http://unpunishedbook.com/" rel="nofollow">UNPUNISHED</a> Follow Peace and Parenting:Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/peaceandparenting/" rel="nofollow">@peaceandparenting</a>Facebook: <a href="https://www.facebook.com/peaceandparentingla/" rel="nofollow">@peaceandparentingla</a>YouTube: <a href="https://www.youtube.com/@peaceandparentingla" rel="nofollow">@peaceandparentingla</a> 💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review. Feeling called to bring this work to other parents? Our Coaching Certification Program trains you to do exactly that. DM me CERTIFICATION on Instagram for details. Advertising Inquiries: <a href='https://redcircle.com/brands'>https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

You promised yourself you&#39;d never parent like your parents did. Then found yourself doing the exact same thing. If that sentence just hit you in the chest, this episode is for you. Coach Tim is walking through why most of what we&#39;ve been told about breaking the cycle is wrong — this isn&#39;t a willpower problem, it&#39;s a blueprint problem. We&#39;ll cover the ways the inherited pattern quietly shows up in your parenting, the three practices to interrupt it in real time, and what cycle-breaking actually looks like in practice (spoiler: it&#39;s not a finish line).

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Breaking the Cycle: How to Parent Differently Than You Were Parented (with Coach Tim)

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Most of us were raised to believe that a &#34;good&#34; child is a calm child, who does not push back, does not melt down, does not make the adults around them uncomfortable. We have spent generations praising children for the absence of need. But the absence of need is not the same as the absence of pain. There is a kind of child (and you may have one in your house right now) who looks easy from the outside. But underneath, she is doing a job. She is scanning the room. She is reading your face when you walk in from work. She is calibrating which version of herself is allowed today. That child is not calm. She is hypervigilant. And the cost of hypervigilance always gets paid somewhere, usually in adulthood, usually in a therapist&#39;s office twenty-five years later. In this episode, I&#39;m walking through how people-pleasing actually installs in a child&#39;s nervous system, why the loud kid who falls apart with you is often safer than the quiet one who has stopped asking, and the five patterns that quietly turn a child wired toward attunement into a child who is permanently scanning. I&#39;ll also share the story of a mom who came to coaching about her eleven-year-old daughter, the easy one, the mature one, and what she discovered about her own childhood along the way. Resource shared in this episode: <a href="https://peaceandparentingla.com/shame-free-guide" rel="nofollow">Download our Shame Free Home Guide</a>Join us on our Weekly Training every Thursday at 9:30 am PT live on ZoomInterested in coaching? <a href="https://linkelement.org/widget/form/jIYFwcgM5weIDvXZSuBx" rel="nofollow">Let&#39;s have a conversation</a>Check out my book <a href="http://unpunishedbook.com/" rel="nofollow">UNPUNISHED</a> Follow Peace and Parenting:Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/peaceandparenting/" rel="nofollow">@peaceandparenting</a>Facebook: <a href="https://www.facebook.com/peaceandparentingla/" rel="nofollow">@peaceandparentingla</a>YouTube: <a href="https://www.youtube.com/@peaceandparentingla" rel="nofollow">@peaceandparentingla</a> 💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review. Feeling called to bring this work to other parents? Our Coaching Certification Program trains you to do exactly that. DM me CERTIFICATION on Instagram for details. Advertising Inquiries: <a href='https://redcircle.com/brands'>https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

Some of the kids who need their parents most are the ones who never seem to need anything at all. The quiet one. The polite one. The one the teacher loves. The one whose name never comes up at dinner. In this episode, I&#39;m walking through how people-pleasing actually starts (long before adulthood, long before therapy) and how loving, thoughtful parents accidentally build it without realizing. We&#39;ll cover the difference between calm and hypervigilance, the five patterns that quietly install the people-pleaser wiring, and the three practices to make your child&#39;s real self welcome in your house.

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The Quiet Child Nobody Worries About: What's Actually Going On

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Many of us grew up in homes where emotions were dismissed, mistakes were punished, and children learned to manage the feelings of the adults around them. As parents, we often recognize those patterns intellectually, but recognizing them and changing them are two very different things. In this episode, Michelle explores the long-term effects of growing up with emotionally immature parents and why awareness alone isn&#39;t enough to break the cycle. In this episode, we share the practical work of healing childhood wounds while raising children differently. We explain why our biggest parenting reactions are often connected to unresolved experiences from our own childhood, and we show you three powerful practices that help parents interrupt old patterns in real time, repair relationship ruptures, and begin the deeper process of reparenting themselves. Join us on our Weekly Training every Thursday at 9:30 am PT live on ZoomInterested in coaching? <a href="https://linkelement.org/widget/form/jIYFwcgM5weIDvXZSuBx" rel="nofollow">Let&#39;s have a conversation</a>Check out my book <a href="http://unpunishedbook.com/" rel="nofollow">UNPUNISHED</a> Follow Peace and Parenting:Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/peaceandparenting/" rel="nofollow">@peaceandparenting</a>Facebook: <a href="https://www.facebook.com/peaceandparentingla/" rel="nofollow">@peaceandparentingla</a>YouTube: <a href="https://www.youtube.com/@peaceandparentingla" rel="nofollow">@peaceandparentingla</a> 💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review. Feeling called to bring this work to other parents? Our Coaching Certification Program trains you to do exactly that. DM me CERTIFICATION on Instagram for details. Advertising Inquiries: <a href='https://redcircle.com/brands'>https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

Many parents reach a moment where they hear themselves saying something they swore they&#39;d never say, or react in a way that feels painfully familiar. In this episode, we explore the long-term effects of growing up with emotionally immature parents and why awareness alone isn&#39;t enough to break generational patterns. We explain how unresolved childhood wounds are often activated by our children&#39;s behavior, and offer three powerful practices to help parents heal themselves while raising their children differently. If you&#39;ve ever wondered why parenting can feel like it exposes every unhealed part of you, this episode will help you understand why, and show you where the work begins.

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The Hidden Cost of Emotionally Immature Parents (And How to Stop Passing It On)

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Somewhere along the way, maybe out loud, maybe just in your own head, you started calling one of your children the difficult one. The intense one. The spirited one. The one with the issues. And you love them, of course you do. But quietly, where no one can see, you have wondered if something is wrong with them. Or with you. Or with both of you. If that sounds familiar, you are not alone, and there is nothing wrong with you. This is one of the most invisible patterns in modern parenting, and it takes real work to see. In this episode, I&#39;m walking through what the label is actually doing to the child you&#39;re trying to help. We&#39;ll cover the science of how a parent&#39;s expectations physically shape who a child becomes, the five patterns good parents fall into without realizing it, and the five-step roadmap to break the cycle starting this week. I&#39;ll also share the story of a mom in our community whose seven-year-old had been the family &#34;problem&#34; for years, the emails from school, the bedtime wars, the dinner refusals, and the single tool that changed everything. Join us on our Weekly Training every Thursday at 9:30 am PT live on ZoomInterested in coaching? <a href="https://linkelement.org/widget/form/jIYFwcgM5weIDvXZSuBx" rel="nofollow">Let&#39;s have a conversation</a>Check out my book <a href="http://unpunishedbook.com/" rel="nofollow">UNPUNISHED</a> Follow Peace and Parenting:Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/peaceandparenting/" rel="nofollow">@peaceandparenting</a>Facebook: <a href="https://www.facebook.com/peaceandparentingla/" rel="nofollow">@peaceandparentingla</a>YouTube: <a href="https://www.youtube.com/@peaceandparentingla" rel="nofollow">@peaceandparentingla</a> 💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review. Feeling called to bring this work to other parents? Our Coaching Certification Program trains you to do exactly that. DM me CERTIFICATION on Instagram for details. Advertising Inquiries: <a href='https://redcircle.com/brands'>https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

If you&#39;ve ever quietly called your child &#34;the difficult one&#34; — even in your own head — this episode is for you. Most of us were taught that some kids are just wired hard, that the difficult ones need more discipline, more consequences, more correction. But the label itself is doing something we don&#39;t see. It&#39;s shaping who your child becomes, every single day. In this episode, I&#39;m walking through the science of how labels become destinies, the five patterns good parents fall into without realizing it, and the practical roadmap to give your &#34;hard kid&#34; a different identity starting this week.

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Why Calling Your Kid "Difficult" Changes Who They Become

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I had been told the same story since I became a mom: “children are manipulative”, “They do that on purpose”. I believed it. I bargained and threatened, my daughter melted down harder, and the wall between us got higher. I had been told kids push their parents because they want the power, so I tried to take the power back. It didn&#39;t work. It actually never works, because that is not what is really happening, In this episode, I&#39;m walking you through what is actually happening. We&#39;ll cover the neuroscience of why your child genuinely cannot manipulate you the way a grown adult can, the translation guide for the behaviors that look most manipulative (from the meltdown over cereal to the &#34;you don&#39;t love me&#34; line), and the response protocol you can use today. There is so much we can find out when we ask the right question. Join us on our Weekly Training every Thursday at 9:30 am PT live on ZoomInterested in coaching? Book a Discovery Call with me at <a href="mailto:michelle@peaceandparentingla.com" rel="nofollow">michelle@peaceandparentingla.com</a>Check out my book <a href="http://unpunishedbook.com/" rel="nofollow">UNPUNISHED</a> Follow Peace and Parenting:Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/peaceandparenting/" rel="nofollow">@peaceandparenting</a>Facebook: <a href="https://www.facebook.com/peaceandparentingla/" rel="nofollow">@peaceandparentingla</a>YouTube: <a href="https://www.youtube.com/@peaceandparentingla" rel="nofollow">@peaceandparentingla</a> 💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review. Feeling called to bring this work to other parents? Our Coaching Certification Program trains you to do exactly that. DM me CERTIFICATION on Instagram for details. Advertising Inquiries: <a href='https://redcircle.com/brands'>https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

She is playing you. He is working you. Don&#39;t let her get away with that, she&#39;s testing you. If you&#39;ve heard any version of that line about your child, I want you to hear this episode before another professional or relative says it to you again. Your child is not manipulating you: neurologically, they don&#39;t yet have the hardware to. In this episode, I&#39;m walking through the science of what&#39;s actually happening underneath behavior that looks like manipulation, the cost of buying into that story, and the protocol I use with my clients to respond differently starting today.

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The Manipulation Myth: What's Really Happening When Your Kid Acts Out

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Why does my child listen to everyone but me? I remember being there myself. I was a teacher and counselor for thirteen years before I had kids, and I could not get my own oldest daughter to cooperate for five minutes. I thought, I am trained for this. What is wrong with me? Nothing was wrong with me. And nothing is wrong with you. The truth is, what most of us were taught about cooperation is wrong. Cooperation isn&#39;t something you demand, it&#39;s something you grow. In this episode, I&#39;m walking through the neuroscience of why your child saves their worst behavior for you, the five most common cooperation drains in our homes, and the five-step road map I teach my clients to flip the dynamic. I&#39;ll also share the story of a mom whose seven-year-old went from a nightly bedtime war to brushing his teeth before she even asked, and the one small shift that changed it. Download our <a href="https://peaceandparentingla.com/cooperation-guide" rel="nofollow">Guide to Cooperation</a>Join us on our Weekly Training this Thursday at 9:30 am PT live on Facebook &amp; ZoomInterested in coaching? Book a Discovery Call with me at <a href="mailto:michelle@peaceandparentingla.com" rel="nofollow">michelle@peaceandparentingla.com</a>Check out my book <a href="http://unpunishedbook.com/" rel="nofollow">UNPUNISHED</a> Follow Peace and Parenting:Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/peaceandparenting/" rel="nofollow">@peaceandparenting</a>Facebook: <a href="https://www.facebook.com/peaceandparentingla/" rel="nofollow">@peaceandparentingla</a>YouTube: <a href="https://www.youtube.com/@peaceandparentingla" rel="nofollow">@peaceandparentingla</a> 💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review. Feeling called to bring this work to other parents? Our Coaching Certification Program trains you to do exactly that. DM me CERTIFICATION on Instagram for details. Advertising Inquiries: <a href='https://redcircle.com/brands'>https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

The teacher says jump, they jump. The coach asks once, they do it. Grandma whispers, and they comply with a smile. But you ask them to put their shoes on — and it&#39;s a full-scale negotiation. If that&#39;s been confusing you, I want you to hear this episode. The answer isn&#39;t what most parents have been taught. Your child&#39;s pushback at home is not evidence that you&#39;re failing, it&#39;s evidence that your relationship is real. In this episode, I&#39;m walking through exactly why this happens, the five most common cooperation drains in our homes, and the practical road map to turn it around starting this week.

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Why Your Child Listens to Everyone But You (And What to Do About It)

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The week before my oldest daughter left for college, I caught myself reorganizing her room, repacking her bags, sending her articles she didn&#39;t ask for. And I realized standing in her doorway one night, she was ready. She had been ready for a long time. I was the one who wasn&#39;t ready to let her go. What hit me hardest wasn&#39;t the goodbye. It was the recognition that for years, I had been fighting the same quiet battle inside myself: the pull to manage, the pull to control outcomes, the pull to step in just one more time so things didn&#39;t go sideways. In this episode, I&#39;m walking you through what I now teach parents inside one-on-one coaching about raising a genuinely resilient kid. We&#39;ll cover the loving belief almost every parent holds that&#39;s quietly making their child more fragile, the brain science of &#34;tolerable stress&#34; and why your child&#39;s prefrontal cortex actually needs struggle to grow, the difference between abandoning and over-helping (a sweet spot I call connected courage), and the five shifts that change everything. This isn&#39;t about being a harder parent. It&#39;s about finally trusting the child you&#39;ve been raising all along. Download our <a href="https://peaceandparentingla.com/empathy-guide" rel="nofollow">Empathy Guide</a>Join us on our Weekly Training every Thursday at 9:30 am PT live on Facebook &amp; ZoomInterested in coaching? Book a Discovery Call with me at <a href="mailto:michelle@peaceandparentingla.com" rel="nofollow">michelle@peaceandparentingla.com</a>Check out my book <a href="http://unpunishedbook.com/" rel="nofollow">UNPUNISHED</a> Follow Peace and Parenting:Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/peaceandparenting/" rel="nofollow">@peaceandparenting</a>Facebook: <a href="https://www.facebook.com/peaceandparentingla/" rel="nofollow">@peaceandparentingla</a>YouTube: <a href="https://www.youtube.com/@peaceandparentingla" rel="nofollow">@peaceandparentingla</a> 💌 Enjoy today’s episode? Please share it with a fellow parent or leave a rating and a review. Feeling called to bring this work to other parents? Our Coaching Certification Program trains you to do exactly that. DM me CERTIFICATION on Instagram for details. Advertising Inquiries: <a href='https://redcircle.com/brands'>https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

The week before my oldest left for college, I caught myself reorganizing her room, repacking her bags, and sending her articles she didn&#39;t ask for. She was ready. I wasn&#39;t. And in that moment I realized I had been fighting the same battle for years: the pull to swoop in, smooth it over, take the discomfort away. In this episode, I&#39;m sharing what I&#39;ve learned about what over-protection actually does to a child&#39;s nervous system, and the five practical shifts I teach parents to raise kids who can handle hard things without ever leaving them to white-knuckle it alone.

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What You're Doing to Keep Them Safe Is Making Them Fragile

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For years in my own house, my ex-husband and I were both deep tech people. From the moment we woke up until we went to bed, there was some kind of screen running. Phones at the dinner table while the kids played next to us. And then I would turn around and try to set screen-time rules for my daughters, and wonder why nothing was working. The truth is, the most powerful screen-time intervention you have isn&#39;t what you do with your child&#39;s phone. It&#39;s what you do with yours.In this episode, I&#39;m walking you through the full framework for raising screen-smart kids without the daily power struggle. You&#39;ll hear the moment with my daughters that finally made me change how I parented around tech, why scarcity-based rules (&#34;no phone until you…&#34;) create more obsession instead of less, and the exact transition language I use so kids can put a device down without a meltdown. If you&#39;ve ever felt like you&#39;re losing the screen-time battle, I want you to hear this one before you take another phone away. Feeling called to bring this work to other parents? Our Coaching Certification Program trains you to do exactly that. DM me CERTIFICATION on Instagram for details. Advertising Inquiries: <a href='https://redcircle.com/brands'>https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

The most powerful screen time intervention you have is not what you do with your child&#39;s phone, it&#39;s what you do with yours. In this episode, I&#39;m sharing the moment I had to look in the mirror about my own tech habits, and the framework I now teach parents to raise screen-smart kids without the daily power struggle. We&#39;ll cover why taking the phone away always backfires, the role Special Time plays in pulling kids off devices without a meltdown, and the 80% modeling rule every parent needs to hear before they make another screen-time rule.

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The Phone Problem Isn't Your Kid's, It's Yours

Parenting Without Punishments

Have you tried Gentle Parenting? Are you a fan of Attachment but just can’t put it all together? Are you sick of parenting with the ideas of yelling and shame and looking for something that feels better, is different, but still has a sense of boundaries and limits?

Welcome to the Peace and Parenting Podcast with Michelle Kenney, M. Ed. Michelle is a former teacher, counselor, certified parenting coach, mom of two teens, recovering yeller, and perfectionist who parents without using punishments altogether. And guess what? It works! On this show, you’ll learn the how behind having kids who are completely UNPUNISHED but who are also successful, kind, loving, and know how to follow directions. 

Once a week, Michelle shares her insights and expertise on connective parenting through her interviews with experts and Q&A sessions with struggling parents. If you have exhausted all other options and don't know what to do next, this could be the parenting strategy you've been searching for.