Welcome to Patio Talks. A space where you can pull up a chair, sit back, and enjoy honest conversations, real stories, laughter, and healing. This is your mic, your moment, your patio.

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When does explaining yourself stop being communication—and start becoming a request for permission?In this episode of Patio Talks, Gissell and Charleston explore the difference between keeping people informed, seeking approval, and feeling like every decision you make needs a defense.Charleston reflects on how, growing up, he often explained his choices to his mother and grandfather because their approval mattered to him. From joining chess and sports to choosing friendships, he realized that many of those conversations weren’t just about communication—they were about whether the people he respected believed he was making the right choice.As an adult, that changed.The conversation turns toward relationships, where Gissell and Charleston discuss whether partners owe each other explanations for major decisions, and why communication matters when a choice affects the life two people are building together.They also challenge the idea that “I don’t owe anybody an explanation” is always healthy.Sometimes an explanation is not about permission at all.Sometimes it is about accountability, respect, trust, and alignment.Charleston brings his leadership experience into the conversation, explaining why certain workplace decisions require approval and accountability, while Gissell reconsiders her own answer when they talk about decisions that affect children, finances, and the household.The episode gets more personal as both reflect on the people whose approval shaped them growing up, the decisions they no longer feel responsible for defending, and what it means to finally make choices based on who they are today rather than who someone else expected them to become.Because everybody does not have to understand your decision for it to be the right decision for you.But growing into your own life also means learning the difference between:“I want you to understand me.”and“I need you to approve of me.”In This Episode<ul><li>Why we feel the need to explain our decisions</li><li>The difference between communication and seeking approval</li><li>How childhood shapes whose opinion matters to us</li><li>Whether partners owe each other explanations</li><li>Dating casually vs. building a life with someone</li><li>Why accountability is different from asking permission</li><li>When “I don’t owe anybody an explanation” goes too far</li><li>Making decisions that affect children, finances, and relationships</li><li>Charleston’s experience carrying his grandfather’s guidance into adulthood</li><li>Learning to make decisions for yourself</li><li>What Gissell and Charleston have stopped explaining</li><li>Why personal growth does not require everyone else’s understanding</li></ul> Today’s Patio QuestionWhen did explaining yourself become asking for permission?And before you go:What decision would you stop defending if you finally accepted that everybody doesn’t have to understand it?About Patio TalksPatio Talks is a weekly conversation hosted by Gissell and Charleston , where every episode begins with one meaningful question.Together, they explore real-life experiences, relationships, leadership, identity, healing, purpose, and personal growth through honest conversations that invite listeners to think differently about their own lives.Because sometimes the right question changes everything.Support Patio Talks ☕If Patio Talks has made you think, reflect, laugh, or see something in your own life differently, you can support the show through Buy Me a Coffee.<a href="https://buymeacoffee.com/patiotalks" rel="nofollow">https://buymeacoffee.com/patiotalks</a>DisclaimerThe views and experiences shared on Patio Talks are based on our personal lives, observations, and opinions. We are not licensed therapists, counselors, medical professionals, or legal advisors. Nothing shared in this episode should be considered professional advice. Our goal is simply to share conversations, experiences, and perspectives that invite reflection.Keywordsexplaining yourself, seeking approval, people pleasing, asking permission, communication in relationships, relationship communication, accountability, trust, family expectations, parental approval, self-confidence, personal growth, decision making, boundaries, self-worth, adulthood, relationships, leadership, living authentically, Patio Talks Support this podcast at — <a rel='payment' href='https://redcircle.com/patio-talks/donations'>https://redcircle.com/patio-talks/donations</a>

Why Do I Feel Like I Have to Explain Myself? | When Did Explaining Become Asking for Permission?

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What if the thing making you feel safe is also the thing keeping you stuck?We spend so much of our lives trying to become comfortable. We want financial security, stability, peace, familiar relationships, steady careers, and some idea of what tomorrow will look like.But comfort isn’t always the same thing as contentment.In this episode of Patio Talks, Gissell and Charleston ask a harder question: How do you know when comfort has become a cage?Together, they explore their very different relationships with comfort. Gissell sees stability and financial security as things worth building, while Charleston enjoys peace but admits that too much routine can leave him craving change, variety, and something new.The conversation moves into the difference between being content and being afraid to leave, and whether we’re truly “stuck” in our circumstances or sometimes choosing to remain because changing them would require us to become uncomfortable again.Charleston reflects on his career in retail and why responsibility has continually pushed him toward the next level. He shares how he recognizes when a position has stopped giving him room to grow and why, when he’s done everything within his control and sees no path forward, he’s willing to walk away rather than remain comfortable.Gissell challenges the idea of being stuck altogether: if we’re the writers of our own stories, at what point do we have to acknowledge the role we’re playing in staying somewhere we’ve already outgrown?Because comfort isn’t necessarily the enemy.The question is whether your comfort is giving you peace—or giving you a reason not to move.In This Episode<ul><li>What “being comfortable” actually means to Gissell and Charleston</li><li>Why comfort isn’t automatically a bad thing</li><li>The difference between peace, stability, and stagnation</li><li>How routine affects people differently</li><li>Being content vs. being afraid to leave</li><li>Why familiar situations can become difficult to walk away from</li><li>Feeling stuck in relationships and careers</li><li>Charleston’s approach to career growth and responsibility</li><li>Knowing when you’ve done everything you can in your current environment</li><li>Why changing your life usually requires becoming uncomfortable first</li><li>Taking responsibility for the situations we have the power to change</li></ul> Today’s Patio QuestionHow do you know when comfort has become a cage? About Patio TalksPatio Talks is a conversational podcast hosted by Gissell and Charleston, built around the questions that make us think differently about our own lives.From relationships and identity to leadership, purpose, growth, communication, and the things people don’t always say out loud, we pull up a chair and explore life from two different perspectives.No pretending to have all the answers. Just honest conversations, lived experiences, different viewpoints, and room to think.Pull up a chair.Support Patio Talks ☕If Patio Talks has encouraged you, challenged your perspective, or simply made you think about your own life a little differently, you can support the show through Buy Me a Coffee.Support Patio Talks on Buy Me a Coffee⁠<a href="https://buymeacoffee.com/patiotalks" rel="nofollow">https://buymeacoffee.com/patiotalks</a> Every contribution helps us continue creating meaningful conversations and growing the Patio Talks community.DisclaimerThe views and experiences shared on Patio Talks are based on our personal lives, observations, and opinions. We are not licensed therapists, counselors, medical professionals, or legal advisors. Nothing shared in this episode should be considered professional advice. Our goal is to share conversations, experiences, and perspectives that invite reflection.Keywordsfeeling stuck in life, comfort zone, afraid of change, personal growth, feeling stagnant, career growth, comfortable but unhappy, fear of change, starting over, stability, financial security, relationships, career change, self-growth, getting unstuck, life changes, comfort vs growth, purpose, Patio Talks Support this podcast at — <a rel='payment' href='https://redcircle.com/patio-talks/donations'>https://redcircle.com/patio-talks/donations</a>

Why Do I Feel Stuck in Life? | When Does Comfort Become a Cage?

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Would you still choose your life if nobody could see it?No likes. No comments. No family watching. No friends to impress. Nobody to prove wrong.In this episode of Patio Talks, Gissell and Charleston ask what happens when you remove the audience from your life and whether the things you’re building are actually things you want, or things you’ve learned to associate with success, approval, and being seen.Charleston reflects on making music even when there isn’t a large audience listening, why creating still matters to him without applause, and how something as simple as finally being able to buy the shoes he once couldn’t afford became a personal symbol of accomplishment.Gissell shares why growing her own food means more to her than outside recognition, and the conversation takes a deeper turn as they both talk about the people whose approval mattered most growing up: Charleston’s grandfather and Gissell’s father.But what happens when the person whose approval you’re still seeking isn’t even in the room anymore?Sometimes the audience we’re performing for isn’t on social media.Sometimes the audience is in our head.This conversation explores the difference between building a life you genuinely love and building one that simply looks successful from the outside.Today’s Patio Question: Would you still choose your life if nobody could see it?And before you go, one more question:If nobody could judge your next decision—not your family, your friends, strangers, or the internet—what would you choose differently?In this episode:• Why we seek approval and validation • Building a life for yourself instead of an audience • Whether success still matters without recognition • Family expectations and the people we want to make proud • The difference between internal pride and outside applause • How childhood influences our definition of success • Doing something because you love it—even before anyone notices • Recognizing the invisible audience we may still carry with usKeywordsself-worth, validation, approval, people pleasing, fear of judgment, family expectations, success, personal growth, self-confidence, living authentically, finding yourself, comparison, social media validation, life purpose, personal developmentAbout Patio TalksPatio Talks is a conversational podcast hosted by Gissell and Charleston, built around the questions that make us think differently about our own lives.From relationships and identity to growth, healing, communication, purpose, and the things people don’t always say out loud, we pull up a chair and talk through life from two different perspectives.No pretending to have all the answers. Just honest conversations, lived experiences, different viewpoints, and room to think.Pull up a chair.DisclaimerThe views and experiences shared on Patio Talks are based on our personal lives, observations, and opinions. We are not licensed therapists, counselors, medical professionals, or legal advisors. Nothing in this episode should be considered professional advice. Our goal is simply to share conversations, experiences, and perspectives that have helped us along our own journey.Support Patio Talks ☕If Patio Talks has ever made you feel seen, encouraged, or a little less alone, you can support the show through Buy Me a Coffee. Every contribution helps us continue creating these conversations and building this community together.Support Patio Talks on Buy Me a Coffee⁠<a href="https://buymeacoffee.com/patiotalks" rel="nofollow">https://buymeacoffee.com/patiotalks</a> Support this podcast at — <a rel='payment' href='https://redcircle.com/patio-talks/donations'>https://redcircle.com/patio-talks/donations</a>

Would You Still Choose Your Life If Nobody Could See It?

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Can someone genuinely love you and still leave you feeling emotionally alone?Sometimes loneliness in a relationship doesn’t mean the love is gone. Two people can share a home, responsibilities, routines, children, goals, and an entire life together and somewhere along the way, stop truly seeing each other.In this episode of Patio Talks, Gissell and Charleston explore the difference between being loved and feeling seen in a relationship. They talk about how work, children, responsibilities, and everyday routines can slowly create emotional distance even when two people still love each other.Charleston shares why he believes couples have to intentionally make time to notice each other, especially as life becomes busier. Gissell opens up about what happens for her when she feels the emotional connection disappearing and why she believes speaking up about loneliness is necessary before resentment or disconnection takes its place.They also get honest about their own relationship: their very different ways of giving and receiving affection, making time for date nights, winding down together after long days, using their weekly couples journal to communicate, and finding small ways to reconnect when life doesn’t leave room for anything elaborate.Because loving someone and staying connected to them aren’t necessarily the same thing.Sometimes the love is still there. The connection just needs attention.In This Episode<ul><li>Why you can feel lonely even when you’re in a relationship</li><li>The difference between being loved and feeling emotionally seen</li><li>How routines can quietly create distance between couples</li><li>Why work, children, and responsibilities can affect emotional connection</li><li>Different ways partners give and receive love</li><li>How to tell your partner you feel alone without turning it into blame</li><li>Why communication matters before loneliness becomes resentment</li><li>Small habits that can help couples reconnect</li><li>Date nights, quality time, and finding connection at home</li><li>What Gissell and Charleston have learned from their weekly couples journal</li><li>Why healthy relationships still require intentional effort</li><li>Remembering the person underneath all the responsibilities</li></ul>Patio QuestionCan someone love you and still fail to truly see you?And before you go, one more question:What part of yourself have you stopped sharing with the person you love?About Patio TalksPatio Talks is a weekly conversation hosted by Gissell Colon and Charleston Tubbs, where every episode begins with one meaningful question.Together, they explore real-life experiences, relationships, leadership, identity, healing, and personal growth through honest conversations that invite listeners to think differently about their own lives.Because sometimes the right question changes everything.Support Patio Talks ☕If Patio Talks has ever encouraged you, challenged your perspective, or simply made you feel a little less alone, you can support the show through our Buy Me a Coffee page.Buy Me a Coffee: <a href="https://buymeacoffee.com/patiotalks" rel="nofollow">https://buymeacoffee.com/patiotalks</a>Every contribution helps us continue creating meaningful conversations and growing the Patio Talks community.DisclaimerThe views and experiences shared on Patio Talks are based on our personal lives, observations, and opinions. We are not licensed therapists, counselors, medical professionals, or legal advisors. Nothing shared in this episode should be considered professional advice. Our goal is simply to share conversations, experiences, and perspectives that have helped us along our own journey.Keywordsfeeling lonely in a relationship, lonely in a relationship, emotional disconnection, feeling unseen in a relationship, relationship communication, emotional intimacy, relationship loneliness, reconnecting with your partner, couples communication, feeling unloved, relationship problems, emotional connection, healthy relationships, quality time, relationship routines, personal growth, Patio Talks Support this podcast at — <a rel='payment' href='https://redcircle.com/patio-talks/donations'>https://redcircle.com/patio-talks/donations</a>

Why Do I Feel Lonely in My Relationship? | Can Someone Love You and Still Fail to See You?

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Have you ever finally gotten the peace you wanted… only to wonder when something was going to go wrong?After spending enough time dealing with stress, uncertainty, or survival mode, calm can feel surprisingly unfamiliar. You can work toward a peaceful life for years and still have to learn how to actually live inside it once it arrives.In this episode of Patio Talks, Gissell and Charleston explore what happens when life gets quiet. Gissell shares how peace initially made her suspicious, almost as if the absence of chaos meant something bad must be around the corner, while Charleston explains why he tends to stay present, enjoy the calm, and respond to problems only when they actually happen.Together, they unpack the difference between being prepared and living in fear, how childhood and environment can teach us to stay alert, and the ways we sometimes create additional stress during seasons that could have been peaceful.They also reflect on survival mode, self-sabotage, preparedness, and the process of learning that peace doesn’t have to be temporary.Because sometimes getting through the storm is only the first step.The next one is learning how to stop looking for clouds when the sky is finally clear. In This Episode<ul><li>Why peace can feel uncomfortable after long periods of stress</li><li>What happens when your mind keeps waiting for the next problem</li><li>Gissell and Charleston’s different reactions to calm</li><li>Being proactive vs. constantly being on alert</li><li>The difference between preparation and fear</li><li>How we can unknowingly create stress during peaceful seasons</li><li>Charleston’s experience with self-sabotage during a difficult period</li><li>Learning to enjoy the present instead of anticipating what could go wrong</li><li>Why surviving and actually feeling safe are two different experiences</li></ul> About Patio TalksPatio Talks is a weekly conversation hosted by Gissell Colon and Charleston Tubbs, where every episode begins with one meaningful question.Together, they explore real-life experiences, relationships, leadership, identity, healing, and personal growth through honest conversations that invite listeners to think differently about their own lives.Because sometimes the right question changes everything. Support Patio Talks ☕If Patio Talks has ever encouraged you, challenged your perspective, or simply made you feel a little less alone, you can support the show through our Buy Me a Coffee page.<a href="https://buymeacoffee.com/patiotalks" rel="nofollow">https://buymeacoffee.com/patiotalks</a>Every contribution helps us continue creating meaningful conversations and growing the Patio Talks community. DisclaimerThe views and experiences shared on Patio Talks are based on our personal lives, observations, and opinions. We are not licensed therapists, counselors, medical professionals, or legal advisors. Nothing shared in this episode should be considered professional advice. Our goal is simply to share conversations, experiences, and perspectives that have helped us along our own journey. Keywordspeace, why can’t I relax, life going well, survival mode, fear of something going wrong, self-sabotage, overthinking, stress, emotional growth, personal growth, learning to relax, living in the present, preparing for problems, mindset, healing, happiness, inner peace, self-awareness, Patio Talks Support this podcast at — <a rel='payment' href='https://redcircle.com/patio-talks/donations'>https://redcircle.com/patio-talks/donations</a>

Why Can’t I Relax When Life Is Going Well? | Do You Know How to Live in Peace?

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Have you ever walked away from a conversation… only to keep having it in your head?You replay what they said. What you said. What you should have said differently. Sometimes it’s reflection. Sometimes it’s regret. And sometimes we’re trying to rewrite a moment that has already passed.In this episode of Patio Talks, Gissell and Charleston explore why some conversations stay with us long after they’ve ended. They discuss the difference between healthy reflection and overthinking, why Charleston revisits difficult conversations as a way to grow, and why Gissell intentionally avoids living in her own head.From leadership in the workplace to disagreements in relationships, they share how revisiting conversations can either help us become better communicators or keep us trapped in moments we can no longer change.Together, they explore the importance of accountability, apologizing when necessary, communicating with clarity, and knowing when it’s finally time to let a conversation go.Because sometimes growth isn’t about saying the perfect thing…It’s about learning from the conversation and moving forward. In This Episode<ul><li>Why some conversations stay with us for days</li><li>Reflection vs. overthinking: What’s the difference?</li><li>How Charleston uses difficult conversations to become a better leader</li><li>Why Gissell chooses not to live inside past conversations</li><li>The importance of accountability and genuine apologies</li><li>How over-explaining can come from wanting to be understood</li><li>Why you don’t always need an apology to find peace</li><li>Learning to grow without trying to rewrite the past</li></ul> About Patio TalksPatio Talks is a weekly conversation hosted by Gissell Colon and Charleston Tubbs, where every episode begins with one meaningful question.Together, they explore real-life experiences, relationships, leadership, identity, healing, and personal growth through honest conversations that invite listeners to think differently about their own lives.Because sometimes the right question changes everything. Support Patio TalksIf Patio Talks has ever encouraged you, challenged your perspective, or simply made you feel a little less alone, you can support the show here:☕ Buy us a coffee: <a href="https://buymeacoffee.com/patiotalks" rel="nofollow">https://buymeacoffee.com/patiotalks</a>Every contribution helps us continue creating meaningful conversations and growing the Patio Talks community. DisclaimerThe views and experiences shared on Patio Talks are based on our personal lives, observations, and opinions. We are not licensed therapists, counselors, medical professionals, or legal advisors. Nothing shared in this episode should be considered professional advice. Our goal is simply to share conversations, experiences, and perspectives that have helped us along our own journey. Keywordsoverthinking, replaying conversations, communication, conflict resolution, relationships, leadership, accountability, emotional intelligence, personal growth, self-reflection, difficult conversations, mindset, healthy communication, emotional healing, self-awareness, conflict, Patio Talks Support this podcast at — <a rel='payment' href='https://redcircle.com/patio-talks/donations'>https://redcircle.com/patio-talks/donations</a>

Why Do I Keep Replaying Conversations in My Head? | What Are You Still Trying to Fix?

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What if you’re not behind… you’re just following someone else’s timeline?From an early age, many of us create a mental checklist of what life is “supposed” to look like. By a certain age, we should have the career, the house, the relationship, the family, and the answers. But who decided those milestones in the first place?In this episode of Patio Talks, Gissell and Charleston explore the pressure of living on a timeline that may have never belonged to them. Together, they reflect on childhood expectations, family influence, career dreams, grief, personal reinvention, and the fear of running out of time.Charleston shares how he once believed success had to happen before a certain age and how embracing his authentic voice in music changed his perspective. Gissell opens up about growing up with a carefully planned future, only to discover that the life others envisioned for her wasn’t the life she truly wanted.This conversation is a reminder that growth doesn’t always happen on schedule, healing doesn’t follow a calendar, and success isn’t measured by how quickly you arrive.Sometimes the greatest progress begins the moment you stop comparing your timeline to everyone else’s. In This Episode<ul><li>Why we feel pressure to reach certain milestones by a specific age</li><li>How family, school, and society quietly shape our expectations</li><li>The difference between being “behind” and simply taking a different path</li><li>Why Charleston believes his later start became his greatest advantage</li><li>Gissell’s journey of letting go of the life others planned for her</li><li>How grief, change, and reinvention can redirect your purpose</li><li>Why your timeline doesn’t have to look like anyone else’s</li></ul> About Patio TalksPatio Talks is a weekly conversation hosted by Gissell Colon and Charleston Tubbs, where every episode begins with one meaningful question.Together, they explore real-life experiences, relationships, identity, leadership, personal growth, and the beliefs that quietly shape the way we live.Because sometimes the right question changes everything. Buy Us a Coffee ☕If Patio Talks has encouraged you, challenged your perspective, or simply made you feel a little less alone, you can support the show here:<a href="https://buymeacoffee.com/thepatiotalks" rel="nofollow">https://buymeacoffee.com/thepatiotalks</a>Your support helps us continue creating meaningful conversations, improving the show, and reaching more people around the world. DisclaimerThe views and opinions shared on Patio Talks are based on our personal experiences and are intended for conversation, reflection, and educational purposes. They are not a substitute for professional medical, legal, financial, or mental health advice. Keywordspersonal growth, life timeline, feeling behind in life, self-discovery, purpose, success, adulthood, comparison, family expectations, grief, healing, mindset, identity, career change, relationships, life goals, motivation, authenticity, emotional growth, Patio Talks. Support this podcast at — <a rel='payment' href='https://redcircle.com/patio-talks/donations'>https://redcircle.com/patio-talks/donations</a>

Why Do I Feel Like I’m Running Out of Time? | Who Gave You the Deadline for Your Life?

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What does it really mean to be a strong man?From the time many boys are young, they’re told to “man up,” hide their emotions, and keep moving no matter what they’re carrying. But is staying silent really strength?In this episode of Patio Talks, Gissell and Charleston are joined by their longtime friend Alex for an honest conversation about men’s mental health, masculinity, emotions, and the different ways men learn to navigate hardship.Together, they explore how childhood shapes emotional expression, whether men should confide in their partners, what true mental strength looks like, and how each of them has learned to protect their peace while carrying the responsibilities of adulthood.Rather than searching for one “right” answer, this episode offers three different perspectives on what it means to be a man—and why respectful conversations like these matter.In this episode, we discuss:<ul><li>Why many boys are taught to suppress their emotions</li><li>Logic vs. emotion when facing difficult situations</li><li>What real strength looks like as men grow older</li><li>The pressure to provide, protect, and keep moving forward</li><li>The influence of fathers, grandfathers, and male role models</li><li>Mental health, resilience, and personal responsibility</li><li>Healthy ways men process overwhelming seasons</li><li>Why asking for help isn’t always weakness</li><li>Protecting your peace while carrying life’s responsibilities</li></ul> About Patio TalksPatio Talks is a weekly conversation hosted by Gissell Colon and Charleston Tubbs, where we pull up a chair and have honest discussions about identity, relationships, leadership, healing, personal growth, and becoming who you’re meant to be. Through real stories and authentic conversations, our goal is to help you feel seen, encouraged, and a little less alone. Support Patio TalksIf Patio Talks has encouraged you, inspired you, or reminded you that you’re not alone, you can support the show here:☕ Buy Me a Coffee <a href="https://buymeacoffee.com/patiotalks" rel="nofollow">https://buymeacoffee.com/patiotalks</a>Every contribution helps us continue creating meaningful conversations and growing this community. DisclaimerThe views and experiences shared on Patio Talks are based on our personal lives, observations, and opinions. We are not licensed therapists, counselors, medical professionals, or legal advisors. Nothing in this episode should be considered professional advice. Our goal is simply to share conversations, experiences, and perspectives that have helped us along our own journey. Keywords: men’s mental health, masculinity, men’s emotions, emotional intelligence, emotional resilience, mental strength, resilience, fatherhood, leadership, personal growth, healing, relationships, men’s wellness, Patio Talks Support this podcast at — <a rel='payment' href='https://redcircle.com/patio-talks/donations'>https://redcircle.com/patio-talks/donations</a>

Do Men Have to Suffer in Silence? — Men’s Mental Health, Strength & Emotions

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Have you ever said yes when every part of you wanted to say no?In this episode of Patio Talks, we explore why setting boundaries often brings guilt, why saying no can feel selfish, and how many of us learned that our worth came from always being available for everyone else.Through personal stories, we talk about growing up as the “strong one,” feeling responsible for other people’s emotions, learning that even family doesn’t always respect healthy boundaries, and discovering that protecting your peace isn’t the same as pushing people away.We also discuss the difference between helping from love versus helping from obligation, why guilt doesn’t always mean you’re doing something wrong, and how healthy boundaries create stronger relationships built on clarity, communication, and mutual respect.If you’ve ever struggled with people pleasing, overextending yourself, or feeling responsible for everyone else’s happiness, this conversation is for you.In this episode we discuss:• Why boundaries often feel selfish • People pleasing and emotional responsibility • Family expectations and healthy boundaries • Choosing peace over guilt • Learning to say no without apologizing • Why healthy relationships need boundaries • Protecting your mental and emotional well-being About Patio TalksPatio Talks is a weekly conversation hosted by Gissell Colon and Charleston Tubbs, where we pull up a chair and have honest discussions about personal growth, relationships, healing, identity, leadership, and becoming the person you’re meant to be. Through real stories and authentic conversations, our goal is to help you feel seen, encouraged, and a little less alone. Support Patio TalksIf Patio Talks has encouraged you or helped you in some way, you can support the show here:☕ Buy Me a Coffee: https://buymeacoffee.com/patiotalksEvery contribution helps us continue creating meaningful conversations and growing this community. DisclaimerThe views and experiences shared on Patio Talks are based on our personal lives, observations, and opinions. We are not licensed therapists, counselors, medical professionals, or legal advisors. Nothing in this episode should be considered professional advice. Our goal is simply to share conversations, experiences, and perspectives that have helped us along our own journey. Support this podcast at — <a rel='payment' href='https://redcircle.com/patio-talks/donations'>https://redcircle.com/patio-talks/donations</a>

Why Boundaries Feel Like Guilt — Protecting Your Peace Without Feeling Selfish

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Patio Talks Podcast | identity, healing, self-worth, personal growth, survival modeSUMMARYHave you ever wondered who you are when nobody needs you, when there’s nothing left to fix, and when life finally becomes quiet?In this episode of Patio Talks, Gissell and Charleston explore how survival, responsibility, and constantly being “the strong one” can slowly become part of our identity. Through personal stories about childhood, leadership, family expectations, and self-worth, they reflect on the hidden cost of always carrying everything and why healing sometimes feels like letting go of the version of yourself that got you here.This conversation dives into people-pleasing, over-functioning, emotional growth, and the uncomfortable realization that your value was never meant to come from suffering. Because maybe healing isn’t becoming someone new—maybe it’s remembering you were always more than your struggle. KEY QUESTIONS• Who are you when you’re not fixing something?• Can struggle quietly become part of your identity?• Why does peace sometimes feel uncomfortable?• How do you separate your self-worth from achievement and responsibility?• What does confidence look like when it’s no longer tied to survival?PATIO MOMENT“Maybe the goal isn’t to become someone new… maybe the goal is finally realizing you were always more than your struggle.”🎧 Listen now on Patio Talks.If this conversation resonated with you, share it with someone who’s learning to put down the weight they’ve been carrying. SUPPORT PATIO TALKS ☕If Patio Talks has encouraged you, challenged you, or simply kept you company during a difficult season, you can support the podcast here:☕ Buy us a coffee: Buy Me a Coffee – Patio Talks⁠Your support helps us continue creating honest conversations and building a community where people feel seen, heard, and valued. DISCLAIMERDisclaimer: The views and experiences shared on Patio Talks are based on our personal lives, observations, and opinions. We are not licensed therapists, counselors, medical professionals, or legal advisors. Nothing in this episode should be considered professional advice. Our goal is simply to share conversations, experiences, and perspectives that have helped us along our own journey. Support this podcast at — <a rel='payment' href='https://redcircle.com/patio-talks/donations'>https://redcircle.com/patio-talks/donations</a>

Who Are You Without the Struggle?

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SUMMARY One year ago, Gissell and Charleston pressed record without a roadmap, without a guarantee anyone would listen, and without knowing exactly where Patio Talks would lead. In this special anniversary episode, they reflect on the lessons, challenges, and unexpected growth that came from showing up week after week. From finding their voices and processing old emotions to learning the value of consistency, they share what changed over the past year and why success looks very different than they once imagined. This conversation explores the reality behind building something from the ground up, the moments they wanted to quit, the episodes that impacted them most, and the importance of continuing even when the outcome isn’t clear. Because sometimes growth doesn’t happen through big breakthroughs. Sometimes it happens by simply showing up again tomorrow. KEY QUESTIONS • Did we think Patio Talks would still be here one year later? • What was the hardest part about showing up every week? • Which episodes impacted us the most personally? • How did the podcast change us? • What surprised us most about the journey? • What does success look like now? • What are we still building? PATIO MOMENT “The goal was never perfection. The goal was to keep showing up.” 🎧 Listen now on Patio Talks. If you’ve ever started something before you felt ready, this episode is for you. Support this podcast at — <a rel='payment' href='https://redcircle.com/patio-talks/donations'>https://redcircle.com/patio-talks/donations</a>

One Year Later — What Happens When You Keep Showing Up

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Why Success Feels Weird When You’re Used to Survival Patio Talks Podcast | survival mode, healing, peace, personal growth, emotional resilience, self-worth SUMMARY What happens when the chaos finally stops? In this episode of Patio Talks, Gissell and Charleston explore a surprising reality many people experience after years of struggle: peace can feel uncomfortable. They discuss how survival mode can become part of your identity, why calmness can feel unfamiliar, and how people sometimes mistake peace for stagnation because they have spent so much of their lives carrying responsibility, solving problems, and pushing through hardship. Through personal stories about leaving draining careers, rebuilding their lives, and learning to embrace a healthier pace, they reflect on the emotional challenges of healing and the mindset shifts required to move from survival into stability. This conversation explores the difference between self-sabotage and nervous system conditioning, the hidden cost of constantly staying busy, and why learning to receive peace can be one of the hardest parts of growth. Because sometimes the next level of healing isn’t surviving something difficult—it’s learning how to stay in something good. KEY QUESTIONS • Why does peace sometimes feel uncomfortable after years of struggle? • Can survival mode become part of your identity? • Why do people sometimes sabotage healthy relationships, opportunities, or success? • What’s the difference between self-sabotage and nervous system conditioning? • How do you learn to trust peace when chaos feels familiar? PATIO MOMENT “Maybe success feels weird when you’re used to survival because you’re finally experiencing something your younger self never got enough of: peace.” 🎧 Listen now on Patio Talks. If this episode resonated with you, share it with someone who’s learning that healing isn’t just getting through hard seasons—it’s learning how to stay in good ones. Support this podcast at — <a rel='payment' href='https://redcircle.com/patio-talks/donations'>https://redcircle.com/patio-talks/donations</a>

Why Success Feels Weird When You’re Used to Survival — Peace, Healing & Letting Go of Chaos

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Patio Talks Podcast | burnout, emotional exhaustion, mental health conversations, resilience, personal growth, emotional healing, self-careSummaryThere’s a version of all of us that almost gave up. Not publicly. Not dramatically. Quietly. Internally.In this deeply honest episode of Patio Talks, Gissell and Charleston explore the emotional reality of silent struggles—the kind that happen behind smiles, responsibilities, and the appearance of “having it together.”From emotional burnout and mental exhaustion to the pressure of always being the strong one, this conversation unpacks what happens when life becomes heavy and survival starts looking less like thriving… and more like simply making it through the day.Charleston opens up about one of the darkest mental seasons of his life, reflecting on isolation, financial pressure, emotional overload, and the quiet realization that he had stopped fighting and was simply existing. Gissell reflects on how strength is often misunderstood, and why survival itself deserves more recognition than people give it.Together, they explore the hidden cost of carrying too much, the difference between resting and giving up, and why rebuilding yourself often happens slowly—not dramatically.In This Episode, We Explore:• What silent emotional burnout actually looks like• Why strong people often struggle in private• The emotional weight of responsibility and isolation• The difference between resting and giving up• Why self-care is survival, not selfishness• How quiet resilience can become transformationBecause sometimes growth doesn’t look powerful.Sometimes it looks like surviving a season you thought would break you.🎧 If you’ve ever smiled through exhaustion, carried more than people knew, or quietly questioned whether you could keep going—this episode is for you. Support this podcast at — <a rel='payment' href='https://redcircle.com/patio-talks/donations'>https://redcircle.com/patio-talks/donations</a>

When Survival Was the Win — Burnout, Emotional Exhaustion & Resilience

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Patio Talks Podcast | entrepreneurship, self-awareness, success mindset, discipline, validation, personal growth, purposeSummaryDo you actually want the life you say you want… or do you just want how it looks?In this episode of Patio Talks, Gissell and Charleston unpack a hard but honest question about ambition, success, and self-awareness: are we chasing something because it truly aligns with us… or because we love the image of what it represents?From entrepreneurship and leadership pressure to perfectionism, emotional burnout, and the unrealistic expectations created by social media, this conversation explores the difference between wanting the reward and respecting the process it takes to get there.Gissell opens up about the emotional reality of entrepreneurship—the stress, the pressure, and the hidden weight that people don’t see when they romanticize working for yourself. Charleston reflects on leadership, responsibility, and the emotional exhaustion behind titles that look successful from the outside.Together, they explore why some goals feel forced, how misalignment gets mistaken for laziness, and why real success is built through discipline—not excitement.In This Episode, We Explore:• Why people fall in love with outcomes instead of the process• The emotional truth behind entrepreneurship and leadership• How social media romanticizes success• The difference between validation and genuine purpose• Why discipline matters more than motivation• How to know if a goal truly aligns with who you areBecause sometimes the most freeing realization is this:You don’t need to force yourself into a life that only looks good from the outside.🎧 If you’ve ever questioned whether your goals are truly yours or just something that looks successful—this episode is for you. Support this podcast at — <a rel='payment' href='https://redcircle.com/patio-talks/donations'>https://redcircle.com/patio-talks/donations</a>

You Don’t Actually Want It — Success, Discipline & The Truth About the Process

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Patio Talks Podcast | self-sabotage, consistency, emotional patterns, discipline, personal growth, mindset shiftsSummaryWhy do we start with so much energy… only to stop and find ourselves back at the beginning?In this episode of Patio Talks, Gissell and Charleston unpack one of the most frustrating emotional cycles in personal growth: starting strong, falling off, and questioning yourself every time it happens.From vision boards, fresh routines, and “this time I’m serious” energy… to stress, emotional exhaustion, perfectionism, and self-doubt, this conversation explores why inconsistency isn’t always a discipline problem—it’s often a deeper emotional pattern we haven’t recognized yet.Gissell opens up about the pressure of wanting things to look perfect, how discouragement can disconnect you from the process, and what it feels like when progress doesn’t happen fast enough. Charleston reflects on how life stress, overwhelm, and emotional exhaustion can quietly pull you away from your goals—even when you genuinely care.Together, they explore the difference between laziness and overload, why people judge themselves too quickly, and how awareness—not shame—is what actually breaks the cycle.In This Episode, We Explore:• Why motivation fades when life gets heavy • The difference between inconsistency and emotional overwhelm • How perfectionism quietly sabotages progress • Why repeating patterns can feel like “starting over” • The emotional weight of building before visible results • How to stop abandoning yourself every time you fall offBecause sometimes you’re not failing.You’re just repeating a cycle you haven’t healed yet.🎧 If you’ve ever felt frustrated with yourself for starting over again, this episode is for you. Support this podcast at — <a rel='payment' href='https://redcircle.com/patio-talks/donations'>https://redcircle.com/patio-talks/donations</a>

Why You Keep Starting Over - Breaking The Cycle

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Why You Don’t Feel Motivated (And Why That’s Not the Problem) Patio Talks Podcast | motivation, discipline, mindset shift, personal growth, overcoming fear, confidence building, taking actionSummaryWhat if motivation was never supposed to come first?In this episode of Patio Talks, Gissell and Charleston unpack one of the biggest lies people believe about progress: that you need to feel motivated, ready, or confident before you begin.From childhood conditioning and fear-based pressure to self-doubt, perfectionism, and the emotional weight of waiting for the “right moment,” this conversation explores why so many people stay stuck—not because they lack ability, but because they’re waiting for a feeling that only shows up after action.Charleston reflects on the fear of releasing music and the confidence that came only after taking the leap. Gissell opens up about how childhood expectations shaped her relationship with motivation, performance, and the pressure to get things right before starting.Together, they explore the difference between motivation and discipline, why fear disguises itself as logic, and how quiet progress often gets mistaken for failure.In This Episode, We Explore:• Why motivation is unreliable • The difference between readiness and confidence • How fear keeps people stuck in waiting mode • Why childhood experiences shape adult hesitation • The mindset shift from “I’ll start when I’m ready” to “I’ll get ready by starting” • Why discipline matters more than hypeBecause some of the biggest changes in your life won’t happen when you feel ready.They’ll happen when you move anyway.🎧 If you’ve ever felt stuck waiting for motivation, this conversation is for you. Support this podcast at — <a rel='payment' href='https://redcircle.com/patio-talks/donations'>https://redcircle.com/patio-talks/donations</a>

Why You Don’t Feel Motivated (And Why That’s Not the Problem)

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What if motivation was never the thing that actually got you there? What if the real progress in your life is happening… quietly, without you even noticing it?Built in Silence.In this episode of Patio Talks, Gissell and Charleston challenge the idea that motivation is supposed to feel like energy, clarity, or excitement. Because the truth is… most real progress doesn’t feel like that at all.It feels repetitive. It feels slow. And sometimes… it feels like nothing is working.They explore the difference between motivation and discipline, and why so many people quit in the phase where nothing seems to be changing—when in reality, everything is being built underneath the surface.From fear-based motivation in childhood to rebuilding your mindset during life’s hardest moments, this conversation unpacks what it really takes to keep moving forward when you don’t “feel ready.”They reflect on: • Why motivation is unreliable • How discipline carries you when feelings fade • The mental battle between fear and action • What it means to build something in silence • And how small, invisible wins create real changeBecause not everything that changes your life happens out loud.Some of the most important growth happens in the quiet decisions… the small actions… the days you didn’t feel like it—but showed up anyway.If you feel like you’re not progressing fast enough…You might just be building something in silence. Support this podcast at — <a rel='payment' href='https://redcircle.com/patio-talks/donations'>https://redcircle.com/patio-talks/donations</a>

Built in Silence — Why You Don’t Feel Motivated (But You’re Still Growing)

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Patio Talks Podcast | personal growth, feeling behind in life, self improvement, mindset shift, emotional healingThis episode is for anyone who feels like they’re falling behind in life—like everyone else is moving faster, achieving more, or figuring it out sooner.We talk about the quiet side of growth—the kind that doesn’t look impressive on the outside but is changing everything within you. Because progress doesn’t always come with big moments… sometimes it shows up in how you respond, how you think, and how you choose to keep going.If you’ve been navigating self-doubt, comparison, or personal growth in silence, this conversation will remind you that you’re not behind—you’re becoming. KEY QUESTIONS• Why do we feel like we’re falling behind in life, even when we’re trying our best? • What does real personal growth actually look like on a daily basis? • How can we stop comparing our timeline to everyone else’s? • What small changes show that we’re evolving, even when it doesn’t feel like it?PATIO MOMENT “Progress doesn’t always come with a big moment… sometimes it’s just you choosing differently this time.” If this resonated with you, share it with someone who needs it today. Support this podcast at — <a rel='payment' href='https://redcircle.com/patio-talks/donations'>https://redcircle.com/patio-talks/donations</a>

Feeling Behind in Life? You’re Becoming More Than You Think

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Patio Talks Podcast | growth mindset, self-awareness, progress, emotional intelligence, personal development Feeling like you’re not making progress… even though you’re trying? In this episode of Patio Talks, we break down what real personal growth actually looks like — especially when it feels slow, invisible, or not enough. Gissell and Charleston explore the mindset behind progress, self-awareness, and how small daily habits can quietly transform your life. From emotional reactions to discipline and consistency, this conversation challenges the idea that growth has to be loud to matter. Because the truth is — the changes you don’t notice right away are often the ones shaping you the most. If you’ve ever felt stuck, behind, or unsure if you’re doing enough… this episode is your reminder that your progress is real — even if it doesn’t feel like it yet. KEY QUESTIONS• What small change have you made recently that you’ve been overlooking?• Are you measuring your progress by results… or by effort?• How has the way you respond to situations changed over time?• What if your growth is happening in ways you can’t immediately see? PATIO MOMENT“Not every win is loud… but that doesn’t mean it doesn’t count.” 🎧 Listen now on Patio Talks. If this resonated with you, share it with someone who needs it today. Support this podcast at — <a rel='payment' href='https://redcircle.com/patio-talks/donations'>https://redcircle.com/patio-talks/donations</a>

You’re Doing Better Than You Think

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Patio Talks Podcast | resilience, personal growth, overcoming doubt, perseverance, mindset shifts, small wins SUMMARY What happens when you’re trying, showing up, and doing the work… but it feels like nothing is changing? In this episode of Patio Talks, Gissell and Charleston explore the emotional reality of quiet progress—the seasons where growth feels invisible, doubt gets louder, and giving up starts to feel easier than continuing. From frustration over delayed results to learning how to recognize small wins that often go unnoticed, this conversation unpacks what resilience actually looks like when progress isn’t loud, immediate, or obvious. Together, they reflect on the emotional tension between wanting visible proof and trusting the process anyway—and why some of the strongest versions of ourselves are built in the moments nobody sees. Because resilience isn’t always dramatic. Sometimes it’s simply waking up the next day and choosing to keep going. KEY QUESTIONS • What do you do when progress feels invisible?• How do you keep going when results aren’t showing up yet?• Are small wins being overlooked because expectations are too big?• Is taking a pause part of growth—or quitting too soon? PATIO MOMENT “Sometimes resilience is just waking up and deciding to try again.” 🎧 Listen now on Patio Talks. If this resonated with you, share it with someone who needs the reminder. Support this podcast at — <a rel='payment' href='https://redcircle.com/patio-talks/donations'>https://redcircle.com/patio-talks/donations</a>

When Progress Feels Invisible — Resilience, Doubt & Quiet Growth