Tarah and E.J. Kerwin are two therapists who co-facilitate couples and family therapy and own and operate a couples counseling facility in Tucson, AZ called <a href="http://www.hesaidshesaidcounseling.com" rel="nofollow">He Said She Said Counseling</a>. Additionally, they are a married couple raising a blended family with four children. Relationship Renovation is a podcast exploring the joys and challenges of navigating intimate relationships. We know that when relationships are connected and secure the everyday stresses of life become much more manageable. We also know that cultivating a healthy, loving relationship takes insight, intentionality, and work. Our goal is to help couples understand themselves and each other better and love each other in a more fulfilling manner.  Proactivity in your relationship will prevent future discontent and build confidence that no matter what life hands to you, you have each other’s support and love to make it through.

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In our years of working with couples in counseling, it has become clear that when couples go through changes that this often destabilizes them. Often couples find themselves feeling separate and frustrated with one another and have no idea how this happened. The truth is that individuals have very different ways in which they cope with change and when their instinctual responses to change do not line up then problems arise. In this episode, Tarah and EJ explore the different life transitions couples face. They discuss the reasons why transitions can be difficult for couples and provide insight into how couples can stay connected and supportive during times of change. Tarah and EJ also offer an at-home program for Couples seeking to build a better relationship. <a href="https://www.relationshiprenovationcenters.com/checkout" rel="nofollow">Relationship Renovation at Home</a> is designed for couples facing struggles in their relationship and couples who want to strengthen their relationship. Relationship Renovation at home gives couples the tools to communicate in a healthier way and strengthen their intimate connection.This program focuses on developing a deeper understanding of yourself, your partner, and your relationship. And by doing so, you will gain confidence in the resilience of your relationship. Each of the 22 lessons has a video with Tarah and EJ discussing key concepts of relationship wellness that help you understand underlying dynamics and common obstacles that couples face. The videos prepare you and your partner to work through accompanying exercises that stimulate conversation where you build the trust, empathy, and understanding needed to achieve your relationship goals.Relationship Renovation at home includes:<img src="https://lh4.googleusercontent.com/aE61YPHZ3BH0DvsdLCWR8D6G-gK9qtA3e9lVUxGrKyEtvUxHvIWZNuVXJso2DNoPmOWgOYDRlzZ77RajV5a0QbOczSGuZ_AdYGrkxwIFuvIx-pY7R2YUsUJIZcv5OhuMa-TpvI7z" height="23" width="23"> 22 lessons structured approach to rebuilding your relationship<img src="https://lh5.googleusercontent.com/nyP3SdsNiCXsbrndtf62SbM2M0PJcH839nZSctwnKJnoNS6Yv4_Uo_Pkh3Hf_86EyjsxZLR9WELTLqmxcWvlezqwWjX4h3c6ZTVxjp2hxxYDgOVJJzW4-Fh93XrAGJR7Rg85iZFI" height="23" width="23"> Exploration of underlying dynamics and common obstacles that couples face<img src="https://lh5.googleusercontent.com/nyP3SdsNiCXsbrndtf62SbM2M0PJcH839nZSctwnKJnoNS6Yv4_Uo_Pkh3Hf_86EyjsxZLR9WELTLqmxcWvlezqwWjX4h3c6ZTVxjp2hxxYDgOVJJzW4-Fh93XrAGJR7Rg85iZFI" height="23" width="23">Sequential exercises focused on deepening emotional and intimate connections<img src="https://lh6.googleusercontent.com/CEMzYnXdgOWnWEAQjxiis5UDdb7j0QhiZijpsmckxB2OHp_wAEp9ApHgn5XlqYMTuIUeE08pI8eN14QLhgpdUIX0dA2qFfIkLnE548GcnLdoACb4am0baKCYSngIXUdwy2RcSRWh" height="23" width="23"> Access to a closed Facebook Group with 600+ couples sharing their experiences<img src="https://lh4.googleusercontent.com/1KGMx5jhOKKr8qgNoBtBRGXj0BaA8B6625x6dqaEakOxTu3_TQ2Vblm7Jh-dWj7Zt9Lnop6_KflkkFt7Gd5LNopIE3R2zSHkVy4QsMAzqShqWUlAA578AaRUsGQYFioWMnThNwTI" height="23" width="23"> Get direct access to E.J. and Tara’s Relationship Expertise <a href="https://www.relationshiprenovationcenters.com/checkout" rel="nofollow">Purchase Relationship Renovation at Home</a> Support this podcast at — <a rel='payment' href='https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donations'>https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donations</a>

Smooth Transitions - Learning to Navigate Change Together

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Tarah and EJ interview Hannah B Body Confidence advocate, Social Media Influencer, and Confidence Educator. Hannah hosts the podcast &#34;Hannah Says&#34;.Hannah&#39;s mission is to help all people radically accept their bodies and achieve the self-confidence they deserve. She does this by teaching others about how to heal their relationship with food, improve their body image, and fall in love with who they are. They explore how body image and self-esteem affect relationships, dating, and picking a life partner. Self-confidence and acceptance are central to personal well-being. By learning to love yourself individuals develop the ability to give and receive love freely with their partner. To learn more about Hannah B please check out...<h3><a href="https://www.instagram.com/healthybyhannahb/" rel="nofollow">healthybyhannah Instagram </a></h3><h3><a href="https://hannahsays.buzzsprout.com" rel="nofollow">Hannah Says Podcast</a> </h3> Support this podcast at — <a rel='payment' href='https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donations'>https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donations</a>

Body Confidence - Interview with Hannah  B

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In this compelling and heartfelt episode Tarah and EJ interview Brian and Jaime, a couple who went through the Relationship Renovation program several years ago. They share intimate details of their decades-long relationship and the healing path through infidelity. In a rare exploration of the process of healing, Brian and Jaime share how the stresses of life can slowly pull a couple apart and leave them feeling like strangers to each other and themselves. They share the non-linear road that led them to rebuild and strengthen their relationship and the inspiring story of becoming their best selves together.<a href="https://hesaidshesaidcounseling.com/" rel="nofollow">Relationship Renovation</a> Support this podcast at — <a rel='payment' href='https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donations'>https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donations</a>

Healing through Infidelity - A Couple's Redemption Story

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Tarah and EJ Kerwin interview Robin Memel Fox MA/LPC, a therapist specializing in Dance/Movement and EMDR. They spend the interview discussing EMDR, a well-researched trauma resolution technique. They help the audience understand this therapeutic approach, how it works, and the benefits it offers individuals who have experienced trauma. EMDR International Association (listing of therapists and resources)<a href="https://www.emdria.org/" rel="nofollow">https://www.emdria.org/</a><a href="https://www.emdria.org/about-emdr-therapy/" rel="nofollow">https://www.emdria.org/about-emdr-therapy/</a> Books:Getting Past your Past by Francine Shapiro, Ph.D. Tapping In, a step by step guide to activating your healing resources through bilateral stimulation By Laurel Parnell, Ph.D. EMDR: The Breakthrough Therapy for Overcoming Anxiety, Stress, and Trauma by Francine Shapiro, Ph.D. Attachment-Focused EMDR: Healing Relational Trauma By Laurel Parnell EMDR Therapy and Somatic Psychology: Interventions to Enhance Embodiment in Trauma Treatment By Arielle Schwartz and Barb Maiberger Support this podcast at — <a rel='payment' href='https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donations'>https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donations</a>

EMDR Demystified - Interview with Robin Memel Fox MA/LPC

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Tarah and EJ interview Liz Montgomery, Psy D.Dr. Liz is a military vet and therapist specializing in trauma and its&#39; effect on relationships. They discuss the culture of the military, law enforcement, and first responders and how the skills they develop in their occupation often cause trouble for them in their intimate relationships. Individuals in these fields often struggle to connect with and communicate in a vulnerable way with their partners. They compartmentalize their emotions and can become frustrated and overwhelmed in emotionally challenging situations. They discuss barriers to treatment and provide guidance in finding the right mental health provider.Tarah and EJ also offer an at home program for Couples seeking to build a better relationship.<a href="https://www.relationshiprenovationcenters.com/checkout" rel="nofollow">Relationship Renovation at Home</a> is designed for couples facing struggles in their relationship and couples who want to strengthen their relationship. Relationship Renovation at home gives couples the tools to communicate in a healthier way and strengthen their intimate connection.This program focuses on developing a deeper understanding of yourself, your partner, and your relationship. And by doing so, you will gain confidence in the resilience of your relationship. Each of the 22 lessons has a video with Tarah and EJ discussing key concepts of relationship wellness that help you understand underlying dynamics and common obstacles that couples face. The videos prepare you and your partner to work through accompanying exercises that stimulate conversation where you build the trust, empathy, and understanding needed to achieve your relationship goals. Relationship Renovation at home includes:<img src="https://lh4.googleusercontent.com/aE61YPHZ3BH0DvsdLCWR8D6G-gK9qtA3e9lVUxGrKyEtvUxHvIWZNuVXJso2DNoPmOWgOYDRlzZ77RajV5a0QbOczSGuZ_AdYGrkxwIFuvIx-pY7R2YUsUJIZcv5OhuMa-TpvI7z" height="23" width="23"> 22 lessons structured approach to rebuilding your relationship<img src="https://lh5.googleusercontent.com/nyP3SdsNiCXsbrndtf62SbM2M0PJcH839nZSctwnKJnoNS6Yv4_Uo_Pkh3Hf_86EyjsxZLR9WELTLqmxcWvlezqwWjX4h3c6ZTVxjp2hxxYDgOVJJzW4-Fh93XrAGJR7Rg85iZFI" height="23" width="23"> Exploration of underlying dynamics and common obstacles that couples face<img src="https://lh5.googleusercontent.com/nyP3SdsNiCXsbrndtf62SbM2M0PJcH839nZSctwnKJnoNS6Yv4_Uo_Pkh3Hf_86EyjsxZLR9WELTLqmxcWvlezqwWjX4h3c6ZTVxjp2hxxYDgOVJJzW4-Fh93XrAGJR7Rg85iZFI" height="23" width="23">Sequential exercises focused on deepening emotional and intimate connections<img src="https://lh6.googleusercontent.com/CEMzYnXdgOWnWEAQjxiis5UDdb7j0QhiZijpsmckxB2OHp_wAEp9ApHgn5XlqYMTuIUeE08pI8eN14QLhgpdUIX0dA2qFfIkLnE548GcnLdoACb4am0baKCYSngIXUdwy2RcSRWh" height="23" width="23"> Access to a closed Facebook Group with 600+ couples sharing their experiences<img src="https://lh4.googleusercontent.com/1KGMx5jhOKKr8qgNoBtBRGXj0BaA8B6625x6dqaEakOxTu3_TQ2Vblm7Jh-dWj7Zt9Lnop6_KflkkFt7Gd5LNopIE3R2zSHkVy4QsMAzqShqWUlAA578AaRUsGQYFioWMnThNwTI" height="23" width="23"> Get direct access to E.J. and Tara’s Relationship Expertise <a href="https://www.relationshiprenovationcenters.com/checkout" rel="nofollow">Purchase Relationship Renovation at Home</a> Support this podcast at — <a rel='payment' href='https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donations'>https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donations</a>

Don't Keep It in a Box - Relationship Challenges for military vets, law enforcement, and first responders

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Often times couples begin to expect the worst of their partner. They assume that even in the most simple interactions there are hidden or negative feelings. In this episode, Tarah and EJ explore why couples struggle to give each other The Benefit of the Doubt. They explore how this dynamic develops in long-term relationships and the consequences when it is not addressed. They also help couples develop ways to address this dynamic in order to feel more deeply connected.Tarah and EJ also offer an at-home program for Couples seeking to build a better relationship.<a href="https://www.relationshiprenovationcenters.com/checkout" rel="nofollow">Relationship Renovation at Home</a> is designed for couples facing struggles in their relationship and couples who want to strengthen their relationship. Relationship Renovation at home gives couples the tools to communicate in a healthier way and strengthen their intimate connection.This program focuses on developing a deeper understanding of yourself, your partner, and your relationship. And by doing so, you will gain confidence in the resilience of your relationship. Each of the 22 lessons has a video with Tarah and EJ discussing key concepts of relationship wellness that help you understand underlying dynamics and common obstacles that couples face. The videos prepare you and your partner to work through accompanying exercises that stimulate conversation where you build the trust, empathy, and understanding needed to achieve your relationship goals.Relationship Renovation at home includes:<img src="https://lh4.googleusercontent.com/aE61YPHZ3BH0DvsdLCWR8D6G-gK9qtA3e9lVUxGrKyEtvUxHvIWZNuVXJso2DNoPmOWgOYDRlzZ77RajV5a0QbOczSGuZ_AdYGrkxwIFuvIx-pY7R2YUsUJIZcv5OhuMa-TpvI7z" height="23" width="23"> 22 lessons structured approach to rebuilding your relationship<img src="https://lh5.googleusercontent.com/nyP3SdsNiCXsbrndtf62SbM2M0PJcH839nZSctwnKJnoNS6Yv4_Uo_Pkh3Hf_86EyjsxZLR9WELTLqmxcWvlezqwWjX4h3c6ZTVxjp2hxxYDgOVJJzW4-Fh93XrAGJR7Rg85iZFI" height="23" width="23"> Exploration of underlying dynamics and common obstacles that couples face<img src="https://lh5.googleusercontent.com/nyP3SdsNiCXsbrndtf62SbM2M0PJcH839nZSctwnKJnoNS6Yv4_Uo_Pkh3Hf_86EyjsxZLR9WELTLqmxcWvlezqwWjX4h3c6ZTVxjp2hxxYDgOVJJzW4-Fh93XrAGJR7Rg85iZFI" height="23" width="23">Sequential exercises focused on deepening emotional and intimate connections<img src="https://lh6.googleusercontent.com/CEMzYnXdgOWnWEAQjxiis5UDdb7j0QhiZijpsmckxB2OHp_wAEp9ApHgn5XlqYMTuIUeE08pI8eN14QLhgpdUIX0dA2qFfIkLnE548GcnLdoACb4am0baKCYSngIXUdwy2RcSRWh" height="23" width="23"> Access to a closed Facebook Group with 600+ couples sharing their experiences<img src="https://lh4.googleusercontent.com/1KGMx5jhOKKr8qgNoBtBRGXj0BaA8B6625x6dqaEakOxTu3_TQ2Vblm7Jh-dWj7Zt9Lnop6_KflkkFt7Gd5LNopIE3R2zSHkVy4QsMAzqShqWUlAA578AaRUsGQYFioWMnThNwTI" height="23" width="23"> Get direct access to E.J. and Tara’s Relationship Expertise <a href="https://www.relationshiprenovationcenters.com/checkout" rel="nofollow">Purchase Relationship Renovation at Home</a> Support this podcast at — <a rel='payment' href='https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donations'>https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donations</a>

Benefit of the Doubt - Expecting the best (not the worst) from your partner

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In this episode Tarah and EJ asked their social media audience to provide statements that create conflict in their relationship. They take each of these statements and share ways to communicate them in a way that is more hearable to your partner. Often couples struggle to communicate there frustrations in a kind, loving and honest way. Their message which is lost in their delivery. A vulnerable or even loving desire for connection is completely obscured by their inability to express their feelings. Tarah and EJ attempt to normalize habitual patterns of communication that many couples struggle with. Tarah and EJ also offer an at home program for Couples seeking to build a better relationship. <a href="https://www.relationshiprenovationcenters.com/checkout" rel="nofollow">Relationship Renovation at Home</a> is designed for couples facing struggles in their relationship and couples who want to strengthen their relationship. Relationship Renovation at home gives couples the tools to communicate in a healthier way and strengthen their intimate connection. This program focuses on developing a deeper understanding of yourself, your partner, and your relationship. And by doing so, you will gain confidence in the resilience of your relationship.  Each of the 22 lessons has a video with Tarah and EJ discussing key concepts of relationship wellness that help you understand underlying dynamics and common obstacles that couples face. The videos prepare you and your partner to work through accompanying exercises that stimulate conversation where you build the trust, empathy, and understanding needed to achieve your relationship goals. Relationship Renovation at home includes:<img src="https://lh4.googleusercontent.com/aE61YPHZ3BH0DvsdLCWR8D6G-gK9qtA3e9lVUxGrKyEtvUxHvIWZNuVXJso2DNoPmOWgOYDRlzZ77RajV5a0QbOczSGuZ_AdYGrkxwIFuvIx-pY7R2YUsUJIZcv5OhuMa-TpvI7z" height="23" width="23"> 22 lessons structured approach to rebuilding your relationship<img src="https://lh5.googleusercontent.com/nyP3SdsNiCXsbrndtf62SbM2M0PJcH839nZSctwnKJnoNS6Yv4_Uo_Pkh3Hf_86EyjsxZLR9WELTLqmxcWvlezqwWjX4h3c6ZTVxjp2hxxYDgOVJJzW4-Fh93XrAGJR7Rg85iZFI" height="23" width="23"> Exploration of underlying dynamics and common obstacles that couples face<img src="https://lh5.googleusercontent.com/nyP3SdsNiCXsbrndtf62SbM2M0PJcH839nZSctwnKJnoNS6Yv4_Uo_Pkh3Hf_86EyjsxZLR9WELTLqmxcWvlezqwWjX4h3c6ZTVxjp2hxxYDgOVJJzW4-Fh93XrAGJR7Rg85iZFI" height="23" width="23">Sequential exercises focused on deepening emotional and intimate connections<img src="https://lh6.googleusercontent.com/CEMzYnXdgOWnWEAQjxiis5UDdb7j0QhiZijpsmckxB2OHp_wAEp9ApHgn5XlqYMTuIUeE08pI8eN14QLhgpdUIX0dA2qFfIkLnE548GcnLdoACb4am0baKCYSngIXUdwy2RcSRWh" height="23" width="23"> Access to a closed Facebook Group with 600+ couples sharing their experiences<img src="https://lh4.googleusercontent.com/1KGMx5jhOKKr8qgNoBtBRGXj0BaA8B6625x6dqaEakOxTu3_TQ2Vblm7Jh-dWj7Zt9Lnop6_KflkkFt7Gd5LNopIE3R2zSHkVy4QsMAzqShqWUlAA578AaRUsGQYFioWMnThNwTI" height="23" width="23"> Get direct access to E.J. and Tara’s Relationship Expertise <a href="https://www.relationshiprenovationcenters.com/checkout" rel="nofollow">Purchase Relationship Renovation at Home</a> Support this podcast at — <a rel='payment' href='https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donations'>https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donations</a>

Offense vs. Defense - Communicating in Frustrating Moments

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In this episode, Tarah and EJ discuss a healthy approach to the normal struggles that couples face in their relationship. In all relationships, there are challenging dynamics that can only be resolved through intentional effort over a longer period of time. This mindset creates an atmosphere where a couple can avoid falling into feelings of resentment and despair which can pull them apart and create new obstacles to a deep and loving connection. They share strategies that support couples in staying committed to personal and relational growth. Tarah and EJ have are relationship experts who help couples understand the underlying individual issues that often lead to struggles within the relationship. They normalize the ups and downs of relationships and offer tools to support healthy communication and individual growth. <a href="https://www.tarabrach.com/rain-practice-radical-compassion/" rel="nofollow">RAIN - A Practice of Radical Acceptance -- Tara Brach</a> Our goal is to create a safe environment where couples explore their feelings and grow together. By establishing clear, honest, and compassionate communication, we help strengthen or rebuild the foundation of your relationship. They have created an online program to support couples in learning and loving one another. Relationship Renovation at home is designed for couples facing struggles in their relationship and couples who want to strengthen their relationship. Relationship Renovation at home gives couples the tools to communicate in a healthier way and strengthen their intimate connection. This program focuses on developing a deeper understanding of yourself, your partner, and your relationship. And by doing so, you will gain confidence in the resilience of your relationship.  Each of the 22 lessons has a video with Tarah and EJ discussing key concepts of relationship wellness that help you understand underlying dynamics and common obstacles that couples face. The videos prepare you and your partner to work through accompanying exercises that stimulate conversation where you build the trust, empathy, and understanding needed to achieve your relationship goals. Relationship Renovation at home includes:<img src="https://lh4.googleusercontent.com/aE61YPHZ3BH0DvsdLCWR8D6G-gK9qtA3e9lVUxGrKyEtvUxHvIWZNuVXJso2DNoPmOWgOYDRlzZ77RajV5a0QbOczSGuZ_AdYGrkxwIFuvIx-pY7R2YUsUJIZcv5OhuMa-TpvI7z" height="23" width="23"> 22 lessons structured approach to rebuilding your relationship<img src="https://lh5.googleusercontent.com/nyP3SdsNiCXsbrndtf62SbM2M0PJcH839nZSctwnKJnoNS6Yv4_Uo_Pkh3Hf_86EyjsxZLR9WELTLqmxcWvlezqwWjX4h3c6ZTVxjp2hxxYDgOVJJzW4-Fh93XrAGJR7Rg85iZFI" height="23" width="23"> Exploration of underlying dynamics and common obstacles that couples face<img src="https://lh5.googleusercontent.com/nyP3SdsNiCXsbrndtf62SbM2M0PJcH839nZSctwnKJnoNS6Yv4_Uo_Pkh3Hf_86EyjsxZLR9WELTLqmxcWvlezqwWjX4h3c6ZTVxjp2hxxYDgOVJJzW4-Fh93XrAGJR7Rg85iZFI" height="23" width="23">Sequential exercises focused on deepening emotional and intimate connections<img src="https://lh6.googleusercontent.com/CEMzYnXdgOWnWEAQjxiis5UDdb7j0QhiZijpsmckxB2OHp_wAEp9ApHgn5XlqYMTuIUeE08pI8eN14QLhgpdUIX0dA2qFfIkLnE548GcnLdoACb4am0baKCYSngIXUdwy2RcSRWh" height="23" width="23"> Access to a closed Facebook Group with 600+ couples sharing their experiences<img src="https://lh4.googleusercontent.com/1KGMx5jhOKKr8qgNoBtBRGXj0BaA8B6625x6dqaEakOxTu3_TQ2Vblm7Jh-dWj7Zt9Lnop6_KflkkFt7Gd5LNopIE3R2zSHkVy4QsMAzqShqWUlAA578AaRUsGQYFioWMnThNwTI" height="23" width="23"> Get direct access to E.J. and Tara’s Relationship Expertise <a href="https://www.relationshiprenovationcenters.com/checkout" rel="nofollow">Purchase Relationship Renovation at Home</a> Support this podcast at — <a rel='payment' href='https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donations'>https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donations</a>

Acceptance vs. Resignation - A Healthy Approach to Struggles

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In this episode Tarah and EJ interview Mike and Katie, a couple who went through their Relationship Renovation program over a year ago. The four of them discuss the process of couples counseling. Mike and Katie share the positive shifts they experienced in couples counseling and how their relatioTarah and EJ have are relationship experts who help couples understand the underlying individual issues that often lead to struggles within the relationship. They normalize the ups and downs of relationships and offer tools to support healthy communication and individual growth. Tarah and EJ&#39;s goal is to create a safe environment where couples explore their feelings and grow together. By establishing clear, honest, and compassionate communication, we help strengthen or rebuild the foundation of your relationship. They have created an online program to support couples in learning and loving one another. <a href="https://www.relationshiprenovationcenters.com/checkout" rel="nofollow">Relationship Renovation at home</a> is designed for couples facing struggles in their relationship and couples who want to strengthen their relationship. Relationship Renovation at home gives couples the tools to communicate in a healthier way and strengthen their intimate connection. This program focuses on developing a deeper understanding of yourself, your partner and your relationship. And by doing so, you will gain confidence in the resilience of your relationship.  Each of the 22 lessons has a video with Tarah and EJ discussing key concepts of relationship wellness that help you understand underlying dynamics and common obstacles that couples face. The videos prepare you and your partner to work through accompanying exercises that stimulate conversation where you build the trust, empathy and understanding needed to achieve your relationship goals. Relationship Renovation at home includes:<img src="https://lh4.googleusercontent.com/aE61YPHZ3BH0DvsdLCWR8D6G-gK9qtA3e9lVUxGrKyEtvUxHvIWZNuVXJso2DNoPmOWgOYDRlzZ77RajV5a0QbOczSGuZ_AdYGrkxwIFuvIx-pY7R2YUsUJIZcv5OhuMa-TpvI7z" height="23" width="23"> 22 lessons structured approach to rebuilding your relationship<img src="https://lh5.googleusercontent.com/nyP3SdsNiCXsbrndtf62SbM2M0PJcH839nZSctwnKJnoNS6Yv4_Uo_Pkh3Hf_86EyjsxZLR9WELTLqmxcWvlezqwWjX4h3c6ZTVxjp2hxxYDgOVJJzW4-Fh93XrAGJR7Rg85iZFI" height="23" width="23"> Exploration of underlying dynamics and common obstacles that couples face<img src="https://lh5.googleusercontent.com/nyP3SdsNiCXsbrndtf62SbM2M0PJcH839nZSctwnKJnoNS6Yv4_Uo_Pkh3Hf_86EyjsxZLR9WELTLqmxcWvlezqwWjX4h3c6ZTVxjp2hxxYDgOVJJzW4-Fh93XrAGJR7Rg85iZFI" height="23" width="23">Sequential exercises focused on deepening emotional and intimate connections<img src="https://lh6.googleusercontent.com/CEMzYnXdgOWnWEAQjxiis5UDdb7j0QhiZijpsmckxB2OHp_wAEp9ApHgn5XlqYMTuIUeE08pI8eN14QLhgpdUIX0dA2qFfIkLnE548GcnLdoACb4am0baKCYSngIXUdwy2RcSRWh" height="23" width="23"> Access to a closed Facebook Group with 600+ couples sharing their experiences<img src="https://lh4.googleusercontent.com/1KGMx5jhOKKr8qgNoBtBRGXj0BaA8B6625x6dqaEakOxTu3_TQ2Vblm7Jh-dWj7Zt9Lnop6_KflkkFt7Gd5LNopIE3R2zSHkVy4QsMAzqShqWUlAA578AaRUsGQYFioWMnThNwTI" height="23" width="23"> Get direct access to E.J. and Tara’s Relationship ExpertiseThey share insight into how to have a lasting and loving relationship. Tarah and EJ have are relationship experts who help couples understand the underlying individual issues that often lead to struggles within the relationship. They normalize the ups and downs of relationships and offer tools to support healthy communication and individual growth. Our goal is to create a safe environment where couples explore their feelings and grow together. By establishing clear, honest, and compassionate communication, we help strengthen or rebuild the foundation of your relationship. They have created an online program to support couples in learning and loving one another. Relationship Renovation at home is designed for couples facing struggles in their relationship and couples who want to strengthen their relationship. Relationship Renovation at home gives couples the tools to communicate in a healthier way and strengthen their intimate connection. This program focuses on developing a deeper understanding of yourself, your partner, and your relationship. And by doing so, you will gain confidence in the resilience of your relationship.  Each of the 22 lessons has a video with Tarah and EJ discussing key concepts of relationship wellness that help you understand underlying dynamics and common obstacles that couples face. The videos prepare you and your partner to work through accompanying exercises that stimulate conversation where you build the trust, empathy, and understanding needed to achieve your relationship goals. Relationship Renovation at home includes:<img src="https://lh4.googleusercontent.com/aE61YPHZ3BH0DvsdLCWR8D6G-gK9qtA3e9lVUxGrKyEtvUxHvIWZNuVXJso2DNoPmOWgOYDRlzZ77RajV5a0QbOczSGuZ_AdYGrkxwIFuvIx-pY7R2YUsUJIZcv5OhuMa-TpvI7z" height="23" width="23"> 22 lessons structured approach to rebuilding your relationship<img src="https://lh5.googleusercontent.com/nyP3SdsNiCXsbrndtf62SbM2M0PJcH839nZSctwnKJnoNS6Yv4_Uo_Pkh3Hf_86EyjsxZLR9WELTLqmxcWvlezqwWjX4h3c6ZTVxjp2hxxYDgOVJJzW4-Fh93XrAGJR7Rg85iZFI" height="23" width="23"> Exploration of underlying dynamics and common obstacles that couples face<img src="https://lh5.googleusercontent.com/nyP3SdsNiCXsbrndtf62SbM2M0PJcH839nZSctwnKJnoNS6Yv4_Uo_Pkh3Hf_86EyjsxZLR9WELTLqmxcWvlezqwWjX4h3c6ZTVxjp2hxxYDgOVJJzW4-Fh93XrAGJR7Rg85iZFI" height="23" width="23">Sequential exercises focused on deepening emotional and intimate connections<img src="https://lh6.googleusercontent.com/CEMzYnXdgOWnWEAQjxiis5UDdb7j0QhiZijpsmckxB2OHp_wAEp9ApHgn5XlqYMTuIUeE08pI8eN14QLhgpdUIX0dA2qFfIkLnE548GcnLdoACb4am0baKCYSngIXUdwy2RcSRWh" height="23" width="23"> Access to a closed Facebook Group with 600+ couples sharing their experiences<img src="https://lh4.googleusercontent.com/1KGMx5jhOKKr8qgNoBtBRGXj0BaA8B6625x6dqaEakOxTu3_TQ2Vblm7Jh-dWj7Zt9Lnop6_KflkkFt7Gd5LNopIE3R2zSHkVy4QsMAzqShqWUlAA578AaRUsGQYFioWMnThNwTI" height="23" width="23"> Get direct access to E.J. and Tara’s Relationship Expertise <a href="https://www.relationshiprenovationcenters.com/checkout" rel="nofollow">Purchase Relationship Renovation at Home</a> Support this podcast at — <a rel='payment' href='https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donations'>https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donations</a>

Couples Counseling Success Story - Interview with Mike and Katie

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In this episode, Tarah and EJ dissect a recent conflict that they had and how they found a healthy resolution that led to increased confidence in their ability to solve problems together. They explore common pitfalls that they and many couples fall into in emotionally activated moments. Tarah and EJ have are relationship experts who help couples understand the underlying individual issues that often lead to struggles within the relationship. They normalize the ups and downs of relationships and offer tools to support healthy communication and individual growth. Our goal is to create a safe environment where couples explore their feelings and grow together. By establishing clear, honest, and compassionate communication, we help strengthen or rebuild the foundation of your relationship. They have created an online program to support couples in learning and loving one another. <a href="https://www.relationshiprenovationcenters.com/checkout" rel="nofollow">Relationship Renovation at home</a> is designed for couples facing struggles in their relationship and couples who want to strengthen their relationship. Relationship Renovation at home gives couples the tools to communicate in a healthier way and strengthen their intimate connection. This program focuses on developing a deeper understanding of yourself, your partner and your relationship. And by doing so, you will gain confidence in the resilience of your relationship.  Each of the 22 lessons has a video with Tarah and EJ discussing key concepts of relationship wellness that help you understand underlying dynamics and common obstacles that couples face. The videos prepare you and your partner to work through accompanying exercises that stimulate conversation where you build the trust, empathy and understanding needed to achieve your relationship goals. Relationship Renovation at home includes:<img src="https://lh4.googleusercontent.com/aE61YPHZ3BH0DvsdLCWR8D6G-gK9qtA3e9lVUxGrKyEtvUxHvIWZNuVXJso2DNoPmOWgOYDRlzZ77RajV5a0QbOczSGuZ_AdYGrkxwIFuvIx-pY7R2YUsUJIZcv5OhuMa-TpvI7z" height="23" width="23"> 22 lessons structured approach to rebuilding your relationship<img src="https://lh5.googleusercontent.com/nyP3SdsNiCXsbrndtf62SbM2M0PJcH839nZSctwnKJnoNS6Yv4_Uo_Pkh3Hf_86EyjsxZLR9WELTLqmxcWvlezqwWjX4h3c6ZTVxjp2hxxYDgOVJJzW4-Fh93XrAGJR7Rg85iZFI" height="23" width="23"> Exploration of underlying dynamics and common obstacles that couples face<img src="https://lh5.googleusercontent.com/nyP3SdsNiCXsbrndtf62SbM2M0PJcH839nZSctwnKJnoNS6Yv4_Uo_Pkh3Hf_86EyjsxZLR9WELTLqmxcWvlezqwWjX4h3c6ZTVxjp2hxxYDgOVJJzW4-Fh93XrAGJR7Rg85iZFI" height="23" width="23">Sequential exercises focused on deepening emotional and intimate connections<img src="https://lh6.googleusercontent.com/CEMzYnXdgOWnWEAQjxiis5UDdb7j0QhiZijpsmckxB2OHp_wAEp9ApHgn5XlqYMTuIUeE08pI8eN14QLhgpdUIX0dA2qFfIkLnE548GcnLdoACb4am0baKCYSngIXUdwy2RcSRWh" height="23" width="23"> Access to a closed Facebook Group with 600+ couples sharing their experiences<img src="https://lh4.googleusercontent.com/1KGMx5jhOKKr8qgNoBtBRGXj0BaA8B6625x6dqaEakOxTu3_TQ2Vblm7Jh-dWj7Zt9Lnop6_KflkkFt7Gd5LNopIE3R2zSHkVy4QsMAzqShqWUlAA578AaRUsGQYFioWMnThNwTI" height="23" width="23"> Get direct access to E.J. and Tara’s Relationship Expertise <h3><a href="https://www.relationshiprenovationcenters.com/checkout" rel="nofollow">Sign Up for Relationship Renovation Center at Home</a></h3> Support this podcast at — <a rel='payment' href='https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donations'>https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donations</a>

Crisis Averted - Healthy Conflict Resolution

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In this episode, Tarah and EJ share their new online program for couples, Relationship Renovation at Home. Our goal is to create a safe environment where couples explore their feelings and grow together. By establishing clear, honest, and compassionate communication, we help strengthen or rebuild the foundation of your relationship. Relationship Renovation at home is designed for couples facing struggles in their relationship and couples who want to strengthen their relationship. Relationship Renovation at home gives couples the tools to communicate in a healthier way and strengthen their intimate connection. This program focuses on developing a deeper understanding of yourself, your partner and your relationship. And by doing so, you will gain confidence in the resilience of your relationship.  Each of the 22 lessons has a video with Tarah and EJ discussing key concepts of relationship wellness that help you understand underlying dynamics and common obstacles that couples face. The videos prepare you and your partner to work through accompanying exercises that stimulate conversation where you build the trust, empathy and understanding needed to achieve your relationship goals. Relationship Renovation at home includes:<img src="https://lh4.googleusercontent.com/aE61YPHZ3BH0DvsdLCWR8D6G-gK9qtA3e9lVUxGrKyEtvUxHvIWZNuVXJso2DNoPmOWgOYDRlzZ77RajV5a0QbOczSGuZ_AdYGrkxwIFuvIx-pY7R2YUsUJIZcv5OhuMa-TpvI7z" height="23" width="23"> 22 lessons structured approach to rebuilding your relationship<img src="https://lh5.googleusercontent.com/nyP3SdsNiCXsbrndtf62SbM2M0PJcH839nZSctwnKJnoNS6Yv4_Uo_Pkh3Hf_86EyjsxZLR9WELTLqmxcWvlezqwWjX4h3c6ZTVxjp2hxxYDgOVJJzW4-Fh93XrAGJR7Rg85iZFI" height="23" width="23"> Exploration of underlying dynamics and common obstacles that couples face<img src="https://lh5.googleusercontent.com/nyP3SdsNiCXsbrndtf62SbM2M0PJcH839nZSctwnKJnoNS6Yv4_Uo_Pkh3Hf_86EyjsxZLR9WELTLqmxcWvlezqwWjX4h3c6ZTVxjp2hxxYDgOVJJzW4-Fh93XrAGJR7Rg85iZFI" height="23" width="23">Sequential exercises focused on deepening emotional and intimate connections<img src="https://lh6.googleusercontent.com/CEMzYnXdgOWnWEAQjxiis5UDdb7j0QhiZijpsmckxB2OHp_wAEp9ApHgn5XlqYMTuIUeE08pI8eN14QLhgpdUIX0dA2qFfIkLnE548GcnLdoACb4am0baKCYSngIXUdwy2RcSRWh" height="23" width="23"> Access to a closed Facebook Group with 600+ couples sharing their experiences<img src="https://lh4.googleusercontent.com/1KGMx5jhOKKr8qgNoBtBRGXj0BaA8B6625x6dqaEakOxTu3_TQ2Vblm7Jh-dWj7Zt9Lnop6_KflkkFt7Gd5LNopIE3R2zSHkVy4QsMAzqShqWUlAA578AaRUsGQYFioWMnThNwTI" height="23" width="23"> Get direct access to E.J. and Tara’s Relationship Expertise <h3><a href="https://www.relationshiprenovationcenters.com/checkout" rel="nofollow">Sign Up for Relationship Renovation Center at Home</a></h3> Support this podcast at — <a rel='payment' href='https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donations'>https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donations</a>

Relationship Renovation at Home

https://s3.us-east-2.amazonaws.com/pod-public-media-files/2021/4/15/21/71145267-830d-4b4d-84a8-6815b72ce44b_episode_24.mp3

Tarah and EJ interview Jessie Krall, a therapist who specializes in Somatic Experiencing <a href="https://traumahealing.org/" rel="nofollow">https://traumahealing.org/</a>. Somatic Experiencing focuses on body awareness as a way to connect to emotions. This technique can help couples communicate in a productive way even in challenging moments. This episode explores the importance of making the intentional effort to recognize and take in positive/joyful moments. They discuss negativity bias and how couples easily absorb negative interactions and let affirming and loving times pass by. All of this information is viewed through the lens of how to create the most loving and fulfilling relationship for your partner and you. Check out our 22 lesson program Relationship Renovation at Home A program developed for couples to work on their relationship from the comfort of their home with videos and worksheets guiding couples to a more fulfilling relationship. <a href="http://www.relationshiprenovationcenters.com" rel="nofollow">www.relationshiprenovationcenters.com</a><a href="http://www.relationshiprenovationcenters.com/checkout" rel="nofollow">www.relationshiprenovationcenters.com/checkout</a> Support this podcast at — <a rel='payment' href='https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donations'>https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donations</a>

Foreboding Joy and Pleasure - The Importance of Intentionally Absorbing Positivity

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In this episode Tarah and EJ interview Matis Miller. Matis Miller, LCSW, is a licensed clinical social worker and certified cognitive and dialectical behavior therapist with more than fifteen years of experience. He is the founder, director, and supervisor of The Center for Cognitive &amp; Behavioral Therapy of New Jersey. His educational and training background includes certification in cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) from the Academy of Cognitive Therapy and intensive training at the Beck Institute for Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. Miller has also been awarded certification from the DBT-Linehan Board of Certification in dialectical behavior therapy (DBT). He is a seasoned lecturer on CBT- and DBT-related topics—addressing parents, clients, and professionals—and is presently focused primarily on supervision, education, and consultations. In this episode, Tarah, EJ, and Matis discuss Matis’ recently published book, “The Uncontrollable Child.” They speak about strategies parents can use with challenging behaviors and the importance of parents staying connected, consistent, and accepting. They discuss common parenting struggles and offer tools to help any parent feel more confident. Visit <a href="https://nyl.as/t1/3/ajzp324o8k0x8bz2eq1nqpdn8/2/59d134907277853f3223d262463625e81e9948c3840cf2f613cfa0a6fc787b0a" rel="nofollow">https://theuncontrollablechild.com</a> Learn more about Matis:  <a href="https://nyl.as/t1/3/ajzp324o8k0x8bz2eq1nqpdn8/0/9565a8e759fed15abf121ad21930c5455ecc278e1f629d7350dda8a0894eb6ab" rel="nofollow">https://www.newharbinger.com/author/matis-miller</a>Follow on LinkedIn: <a href="https://nyl.as/t1/3/ajzp324o8k0x8bz2eq1nqpdn8/1/91ae3068613f7e4dfad91602c315e2c7b0f7cf7a475ec3ea91b3f8f7f0e44e0e" rel="nofollow">https://www.linkedin.com/in/matismiller</a> Support this podcast at — <a rel='payment' href='https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donations'>https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donations</a>

Uncontrollable Child (Parenting Strategies) - Interview with Matis Miller

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Tarah and EJ interview Robin Memel Fox MA, BC-DMT, LPC, Board-certified Dance/Movement Therapist with over 25 years of experience working in the field of mental health and wellness. Robin has worked with individuals, couples, families and children in both community mental health and treatment centers. She has extensive expertise in trauma, relationships, addiction and couples/family systems.This episode explores trauma and its effects on individuals and couples. They define trauma, explore treatment options and help couples learn how trauma can create challenges in self-regulation and conflict resolution. The concept of Embodied Healing is explored, which can help couples become more in tune with themselves in order to feel more connected with their partner. <a href="https://www.bridgestorecovery.com/post-traumatic-stress-disorder/ptsd-and-relationships/" rel="nofollow">https://www.bridgestorecovery.com/post-traumatic-stress-disorder/ptsd-and-relationships/</a><a href="https://coloradorecoveryservices.org/the-impact-of-unresolved-trauma-on-relationships/" rel="nofollow">https://coloradorecoveryservices.org/the-impact-of-unresolved-trauma-on-relationships/</a><a href="https://drarielleschwartz.com/the-polyvagal-theory-and-healing-complex-ptsd-dr-arielle-schwartz/" rel="nofollow">https://drarielleschwartz.com/the-polyvagal-theory-and-healing-complex-ptsd-dr-arielle-schwartz/</a><a href="https://adta.memberclicks.net/what-is-dancemovement-therapy" rel="nofollow">https://adta.memberclicks.net/what-is-dancemovement-therapy</a><a href="https://brickelandassociates.com/trauma-survivor-relationships/" rel="nofollow">https://brickelandassociates.com/trauma-survivor-relationships/</a>Info on Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACEs) and Post Childhood Experiences (PCEs)<a href="https://developingchild.harvard.edu/resources/aces-and-toxic-stress-frequently-asked-questions/" rel="nofollow">https://developingchild.harvard.edu/resources/aces-and-toxic-stress-frequently-asked-questions/</a><a href="https://lindsaybraman.com/positive-childhood-experiences-aces/" rel="nofollow">https://lindsaybraman.com/positive-childhood-experiences-aces/</a> EMDR:<a href="https://maibergerinstitute.com/emdr-therapy-tools-resources/" rel="nofollow">https://maibergerinstitute.com/emdr-therapy-tools-resources/</a><a href="https://www.emdria.org/" rel="nofollow">https://www.emdria.org/</a><a href="https://www.emdr.com/what-is-emdr/" rel="nofollow">https://www.emdr.com/what-is-emdr/</a> Books on understanding trauma and healing (not exhaustive list):<ul><li>The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma by Bessel van der Kolk M.D.</li><li>Waking the Tiger: Healing Trauma by Peter Levine</li><li>Transforming the Living Legacy of Trauma: A Workbook for Survivors and Therapists by Janina Fisher</li><li>The Complex PTSD Workbook by Arielle Schwartz, PhD</li><li>The Post-traumatic Growth Workbook by Arielle Schwartz, PhD</li><li>Healing Developmental Trauma, How early trauma affects self-regulation, self-image, and the capacity for relationship by Laurence Heller, PhD and Aline LaPierre, PsyD</li></ul> Additional resources: <ul><li>Seek <a href="https://www.jjsjustice.com/national/sexual-abuse-advocates/" rel="nofollow">justice for sexual trauma</a></li><li><a href="https://hesaidshesaidcounseling.com/dont-drop-it-like-its-hot-communicating-with-your-partner-about-frustrations/" rel="nofollow">Communicating with your partner about frustrations</a></li><li><a href="https://www.forbes.com/sites/tracybrower/2021/04/04/hard-times-make-for-stronger-bonds-and-greater-happiness-heres-why-that-matters/?sh=21444b4cf73b" rel="nofollow">Hard times make for stronger bonds and greater happiness</a> </li></ul> Support this podcast at — <a rel='payment' href='https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donations'>https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donations</a>

Embodied Healing - How Trauma Effects Relationships

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In this episode, Tarah and EJ discuss the importance of addressing concerns with your partner early on. Often couples avoid addressing issues for various reasons. When they don’t communicate their frustrations or needs, negative feelings can build, and they can begin to express negative emotions in an ineffective way that pulls them apart. Tarah and EJ discuss why couples can become conflict-avoidant and how this can backfire and create more conflict. By creating agreements with your partner about how and when you will communicate frustrations, you can create systems that foster honest and kind communication. Support this podcast at — <a rel='payment' href='https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donations'>https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donations</a>

Don't Drop It Like It's Hot - Communicating with Your Partner about Frustrations

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In this episode, Tarah and EJ discuss how couples can slowly become distant throughout the course of their relationship. They explore the ups and downs of intimate relationships and some of the common reasons couples end up struggling to feel excited and attracted to one another. They discuss the excitement of the &#34;honeymoon phase&#34; and how many couples become disappointed and distant when intimacy diminishes. They discuss the concept of habituation and how this stresses many relationships in a very subtle way. They offer their expert couples counseling advice and share strategies to sustain loving connect and help couples avoid looking outside of their relationship for love and affection. Support this podcast at — <a rel='payment' href='https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donations'>https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donations</a>

Hey Roomie - Losing Intimacy In Your Relationshp

https://s3.us-east-2.amazonaws.com/pod-public-media-files/2021/1/27/16/f482e63b-39c7-4fbb-bf75-e1f0001aef2c_episode_19.mp3

Tarah and EJ interview Jessie Krall, a therapist who specializes in Somatic Experiencing <a href="https://traumahealing.org/" rel="nofollow">https://traumahealing.org/</a>. Somatic Experiencing focuses on body awareness as a way to connect to emotions. This technique can help couples communicate in a productive way even in challenging moments. They discuss the <a href="https://www.attachment-and-trauma-treatment-centre-for-healing.com/blogs/understanding-and-working-with-the-window-of-tolerance" rel="nofollow"> Window of Tolerance</a> and how this concept can support healthy attachment in relationships. This episode will help couples understand dynamics that contribute to destructive communication patterns and offers a variety of tools to communicate in a more mindful and kind way. <a href="https://self-compassion.org/wp-content/uploads/2020/08/bodyscan_cleanedbydanmp3.mp3" rel="nofollow">Progressive Body Scan Meditation</a> Support this podcast at — <a rel='payment' href='https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donations'>https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donations</a>

Finding Your Window - How to Stay Connected During Challenging Times

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Tarah and EJ discuss the paradigm that part of your commitment to your relationship is helping each other grow. In order to have a happy and healthy relationship, you must both grow as individuals. They discuss strategies that help couples give supportive feedback instead of criticizing and enrich their relationship through self-growth. Support this podcast at — <a rel='payment' href='https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donations'>https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donations</a>

Relationship Growth "Our Best Selves Together"

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Tarah and E.J. discuss how creating systems within your relationship can help resolve conflict in a healthier way and be a preventative measure that keeps couples more consistently connected and expressive of their love. Support this podcast at — <a rel='payment' href='https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donations'>https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donations</a>

Better Relationship Habits "All Systems Are a Go"

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Tarah and EJ explore the importance of gratitude in your relationship. What happens when you make the intentional effort to let your partner know what you appreciate about them? Support this podcast at — <a rel='payment' href='https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donations'>https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donations</a>

Gratitude in a Loving Relationship

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In this episode Tarah and E.J. discuss the importance of accepting every facet of your partner. They share how essential it is for your partner to know that you embrace their positive attributes and your areas of growth. And, how by accepting your partner it facilitates positive change. Support this podcast at — <a rel='payment' href='https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donations'>https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donations</a>

Accepting Your Partner - "The Whole Enchilada"

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In this episode Tarah and E.J. discuss the challenges couples are facing in the age of COVID. Support this podcast at — <a rel='payment' href='https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donations'>https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donations</a>

Healthy Coping Skills - "In the Midst of Chaos"

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In this episode Tarah and EJ have a guest, Bryce Paradis MA Clinical Therapy, a therapist specializing in couples counseling and substance abuse. The three discuss substance use/abuse and it&#39;s effects on healthy relationships. The also talk about increased alcohol use during the current Covid quarantine.  Support this podcast at — <a rel='payment' href='https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donations'>https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donations</a>

It's a Slippery Slope

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In this episode Tarah and E.J. discuss intimacy. They help couples understand that intimacy exists on a spectrum from kind words all the way to sex. They also explore how emotional safety creates an atmosphere where couples have the ability to give and receive love more freely. Support this podcast at — <a rel='payment' href='https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donations'>https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donations</a>

Hello Intimacy Do I Really Know You?

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In this episode Tarah and E.J. discuss challenges couples are facing in relation to Covid-19 and discuss their upcoming FREE 4 week intimacy building program for couples. <a href="http://www.hesaidshesaidcounseling.com/" rel="nofollow">www.hesaidshesaidcounseling.com</a> Support this podcast at — <a rel='payment' href='https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donations'>https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donations</a>

Love in the New Normal

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Join EJ and Tarah in the third and final episode of a three part series breaking down emotional safety in your relationship. Support this podcast at — <a rel='payment' href='https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donations'>https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donations</a>

Join EJ and Tarah in the third and final episode of a three part series breaking down emotional s...

Join EJ and Tarah in the third and final episode of a three part series breaking down emotional safety in your relationship.

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Safe and Sound Part 3

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Join EJ and Tarah in the second episode of a three part series breaking down emotional safety in your relationship. Support this podcast at — <a rel='payment' href='https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donations'>https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donations</a>

Join EJ and Tarah in the second episode of a three part series breaking down emotional safety in ...

Join EJ and Tarah in the second episode of a three part series breaking down emotional safety in your relationship.

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Safe and Sound Part 2

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Join EJ and Tarah in the first episode of a three part series breaking down emotional safety in your relationship. <a href="http://www.hesaidshesaidcounseling.com" rel="nofollow">www.hesaidshesaidcounseling.com</a> Support this podcast at — <a rel='payment' href='https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donations'>https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donations</a>

Join EJ and Tarah in the first episode of a three part series breaking down emotional safety in y...

Join EJ and Tarah in the first episode of a three part series breaking down emotional safety in your relationship.

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Safe and Sound Part 1

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How to combat creating silent expectations in your relationship through better communication. <a href="www.hesaidshesaidcounseling.com" rel="nofollow">www.hesaidshesaidcounseling.com</a> Support this podcast at — <a rel='payment' href='https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donations'>https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donations</a>

How to combat creating silent expectations in your relationship through better communication.

How to combat creating silent expectations in your relationship through better communication.

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I'm Not A Mind Reader

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Tarah and EJ discuss sex and intimacy or the lack thereof when couples become comfortable which each other. <a href="www.hesaidshesaidcounseling.com" rel="nofollow">www.hesaidshesaidcounseling.com</a> Support this podcast at — <a rel='payment' href='https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donations'>https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donations</a>

Tarah and EJ discuss sex and intimacy or the lack thereof when couples become comfortable which e...

Tarah and EJ discuss sex and intimacy or the lack thereof when couples become comfortable which each other.

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It's Getting Cold In Here

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Tarah and EJ discuss a common misbelief in couples facing disconnection that &#34;the grass will be greener outside of the relationship&#34;. <a href="www.hesaidshesaidcounseling.com" rel="nofollow">www.hesaidshesaidcounseling.com</a> Support this podcast at — <a rel='payment' href='https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donations'>https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donations</a>

Tarah and EJ discuss a common misbelief in couples facing disconnection that "the grass will be g...

Tarah and EJ discuss a common misbelief in couples facing disconnection that "the grass will be greener outside of the relationship".

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The Grass Is Not Greener

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Learn how your past can affect your current relationship. <a href="www.hesaidshesaidcounseling.com" rel="nofollow">www.hesaidshesaidcounseling.com</a> Support this podcast at — <a rel='payment' href='https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donations'>https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donations</a>

Learn how your past can affect your current relationship.

Learn how your past can affect your current relationship.

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Faulty Wiring

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How to make your partner feel special and avoid complacency in your relationship. www.hesaidshesaidcounseling.com Support this podcast at — <a rel='payment' href='https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donations'>https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donations</a>

How to make your partner feel special and avoid complacency in your relationship.

How to make your partner feel special and avoid complacency in your relationship.

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Build Me Up: How to make your partner feel special

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Learn how and why couples can become disconnected from each other and more importantly, how to reconnect. <a href="www.hesaidshesaidcounseling.com" rel="nofollow">www.hesaidshesaidcounseling.com</a> Support this podcast at — <a rel='payment' href='https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donations'>https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donations</a>

Learn how and why couples can become disconnected from each other and more importantly, how to re...

Learn how and why couples can become disconnected from each other and more importantly, how to reconnect.

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Tune In, Tune Out

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Meet EJ and Tarah Kerwin, the husband-wife team behind He Said She Said Couples Counseling. In this first episode, the two discuss how and why they got into couples counseling. <a href="www.hesaidshesaidcounseling.com" rel="nofollow">www.hesaidshesaidcounseling.com</a> Support this podcast at — <a rel='payment' href='https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donations'>https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donations</a>

Meet EJ and Tarah Kerwin, the husband-wife team behind He Said She Said Couples Counseling. In th...

Meet EJ and Tarah Kerwin, the husband-wife team behind He Said She Said Couples Counseling. In this first episode, the two discuss how and why they got into couples counseling.

Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/he-said-she-said/donations

Our Story

Can Your Relationship Be Better?

Tarah and E.J. Kerwin are two therapists who co-facilitate couples and family therapy and  own and operate a couples counseling facility in Tucson, AZ called He Said She Said Counseling. Additionally, they are a married couple raising a blended family with four children. The Intimacy Experiment is a podcast exploring the joys and challenges of navigating intimate relationships. We know that when relationships are connected and secure the everyday stresses of life become much more manageable. We also know that cultivating a healthy, loving relationship takes insight, intentionality, and work. Our goal is to help couples understand themselves and each other better and love each other in a more fulfilling manner.  Proactivity in your relationship will prevent future discontent and build confidence that no matter what life hands to you, you have each other’s support and love to make it through.

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