• 52. Growing & Outgrowing: You're Not Wrong, You're Just in the Wrong Place

    At some point in our lives, we may find ourselves bending and folding ourselves into shapes that are not our own in an exhausting effort to fit in, conform, and get our return on the illusion we bought that told us we'd be happy if we just "did what we were supposed to do."

    And too often, when this formula doesn't work for us - we exile ourselves and internalize the confusion of being confused.

    We may wonder why we haven’t gotten it right, why we feel so misunderstood.

    What we fail to acknowledge is -- that while we try to contort ourselves into a glass half empty - our unique desires, impulses, and dreams are waiting for us to fill our glass full. 

    Have you ever considered that maybe your life is asking of you something so unique, so particular, and so idiosyncratic to your own individual idiosyncrasies - that only you can hear the call and only you can take the action?

    This episode discusses the art of authentic living & the process of embracing our individuality - along with the challenges that come with outgrowing people, places, and things that may have once felt like home.

    There are many choices we can make in this world, but the one I can almost promise you will never regret making is choosing yourself.

    To choose yourself, you must learn yourself, know yourself, trust yourself - and honor the individual expression that calls in a voice only you can hear.

    I believe you have what it takes to do so.

    It is your calling, after all.

    xx

    V

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    CHAPTERS:

    0:00-10:25 - You’re not wrong, you’re just in the wrong place

    + A reading from "Women who Run with the Wolves," Passage: The Ugly Duckling

    10:25 - FOMO isn’t Real - The Price of False Illusions of Happiness

    15:58 - Outgrowing what You Once Loved, Learning About + Honoring Your Individual Differences

    19:10 - Wanting MORE for your Life + Feeling Deserving Of It

    20:47 - Paralyzed by Indecision? Sylvia Plath’s Fig Tree of Choice

    26:27 - Your Power & MAGIC is You - You’re Not Meant for Everyone

    26:27: Your Power is You - You’re Not Meant for Everyone

    If you liked this episode, you'll like this one too!

    Episode 28 - Are you Truly Living, or Just Surviving?

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    S2E52 - 32m - Jun 2, 2024
  • 51. Q&A: Thoughts on Religion, Relationships, Astrology, Forgiving your Parents, + Finding Balance in a Busy Life

    This episode covers a broad range of topics from questions you guys asked via the FSO IG (@figuringshiiitout) for a special episode celebrating over FIFTY episodes of Figuring Sh!t Out!

    It has been an honor + a privilege to host this podcast & figure sh!t out alongside all of you. I LOVED answering these questions + learning what you guys are curious about.

    Because I loved it so much, I will be incorporating more Q&A's into future episodes, so if you have a burning question - feel free to reach out & stay tuned on the FSO instagram for more opportunities for this interactivity <3 (or ask in the section below this episode!)

    Thank you for listening, asking, and letting the light in me find the light in you.

    Here's to 50 more episodes!!!

    CHAPTERS:

    0:00 - Thoughts on Religion 

    8:33- Exploring Astrology as a Medium of Self-Understanding 

    11:30 - Advice for Feeling lost in Relationships 

    13:47 - Forgiving your Parents / Ancestral Healing

    19:50 - How to Stop the Negative Spiral Loop 

    24:08 - Finding your Path Outside of Traditional Education

    25:30 - Self-Care is Hot

    27:35 - How to Prioritize Time alone while Working, Seeing Friends, + Resting?

    30:48 - How to Navigate a Difficult Family Dynamic

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    + If you liked this episode & want MORE on the topics I covered, here are some FSO episodes you may like!

    Religion/Spirituality:

    Episode 10 - The Journey of Spiritual Awakening. Who are you, Really?

    Episode 38: Unlocking our Heart's Potential: Clearing Energetic Blocks

    Relationships (NEW EPISODE COMING NEXT WEEK!)

    Episode 4 - Access to you is a Privilege. Navigating All Types of Love + Relationships

    Episode 16 - Are you Showing up for Yourself the Way you Want to be Shown up for?

    Finding your Life Path/Career:

    Episode 11 - Normalize Confusion - Wherever you are is okay, & You're not running out of time

    Episode 24: A Guide to: Identifying Limiting Beliefs, Breaking Patterns, & Creating a New Self-Concept

    Episode 27 - Following your Calling + Taking the Bet on Yourself (Guest Episode w/ Wellness Entrepreneur)

    Episode 32: Career Confusion & Existential Crises

    Forgiving Parents/Healing Inner Child:

    Episode 19 - No one is Coming to Save You & That's a Good Thing: How to be Your Own Hero

    Episode 46 - Breaking the Cycle of Generational Trauma (Guest Episode w/ my Sister)

    Prioritizing Time Alone in a Busy Life:

    Episode 28 - Are you Truly Living or Just Surviving?

    Episode 31 - Just Relax, You are Evolving

    Stopping the Negative Spiral:

    Episode 20 - It is Happening for You, Not to You

    Episode 33: How to get out of a Funk & Reclaim your Conscious Power

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    S1E51 - 36m - May 27, 2024
  • 50. The Ego vs The Soul: Balancing Personal Identity & Collective Transcendence

    As we've collectively shifted, it's clear that many are tuning into a greater spiritual awakening.

    This episode takes us through the intricate interplay between our ego's attachment to the physical and our soul's yearning for transcendence - the balance, the dance, and the beautiful journey of duality.

    CHAPTERS

    (00:00) - Ego vs Soul

    (7:40) - Connecting with Others + The Collective Consciousness

    (9:23) - The Impact of TikTok / COVID on our Culture's Spiritual Awakening

    (15:03) - Understanding Egoic Satisfaction & The Soul's Role

    (23:08) - Healing + Unraveling Patterns of Survival

    (27:46) - The Power of Choice + Alignment

    (30:09): "Training" the Ego + Breaking Free from Unconscious Patterns

    (43:19) - Inner Child Healing & Living From Love

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    Fear is an Illusion

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    S2E50 - 52m - May 19, 2024
  • 49. Turning your Mess into Your Message: TEDx Speaker & Wellness Entrepreneur Jamie Hess on Addiction, Overcoming Shame, and How Gratitude Saved Her Life

    Struggles and success often dance hand in hand. 

    Jamie Hess grew up in New York City as the daughter of GMA Host, Joan Lunden. A tenacious go-getter from a young age, Jamie was gifted, precocious, and ahead of the curve. She grew up fast - and she found herself soaring up the ladder of Corporate PR earlier than most. But she was curbing the growing pains of growing up in the public eye with a drug addiction that she kept secret - until she couldn't any longer. 

    After the road to recovery from drug and alcohol abuse, Jamie turned her life around and discovered fitness, making it her mission to create community and help others see the beauty in a healthy lifestyle. She amassed thousands of followers with a zest for her new passion, until she found herself with another addiction hidden in sheep's clothing. This time, it was an eating disorder.

    Years after recovery from these eras - today, Jamie is a wellness entrepreneur, speaker, mother, wife, and podcaster whose work has been featured on the Dr. Oz Show, The View, and Good Morning America.

    On this episode, Jamie shares her story of resilience and accountability, and how her intimate experience with darkness became the groundwork for the woman she is today.

    Each battle she overcame wove her life tapestry with the humility and infectious authenticity that allows her to teach the lessons that she had to learn.  

    She is a woman who channels her past into a beacon for those seeking light.

    On this episode, we talk: 

    (00:00) - Overcoming Addiction, Jamie's Story

    (10:38) - Asking for Help, Releasing Shame, Finding Community

    (23:15) - Money Wound, Self-Doubt, Fear, Growing Confidence 

    (26:13) - Perfectionism + Inner Criticism, Pursuing your Dreams

    (29:57) - How Vulnerability is a SuperPower 

    (39:21) - Jealousy as a Signal, Internalized Misogyny, The Company you Keep

    (46:05) - How a Warrior Mindset saved Jamie's Mom from Breast Cancer + How Gratitude Saved Jamie from Addiction

    (52:21) - Practical, Actionable Advice for those in Deep Confusion, Figuring Sh!t Out

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    IG: NYCFITFAM

    Website

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    S2E49 - 1h 0m - May 12, 2024
  • 48. Running From What You Don't Want vs Going Towards What You Do: The Magic Key to Creation

    You cannot run from what you don't want and run towards what you do at the same time.

    You do one or the other.

    In every moment - we are creating.

    Either unconsciously or consciously - we choose the patterns and programs, or - we choose to create new ones.

    In trying to avoid pain, we create the environments and situations to see it more clearly.

    In a decision and a direction, we head forth into the unknown with a guidance born from our own powerful intentions.

    If we search for safety, the best we will find - is safety.

    But if we go towards our ideal, with the assumption that we are already safe -- we are able to see the boundlessness of positive momentum take form in our lives.

    By understanding that our energy is a resource, one that is finite - but also able to multiply if we take care to nourish it, we can identify what drives and motivates us.

    Fear? or Peace?

    Survival? or Creation?

    You choose.

    --------

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    This episode was inspired by:

    Chloe Dechelle's Video (Chloe.Dechelle on TT)

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    41 - The Mind-Body Connection: Emotional Regulation, Physical Well-Being, & Somatic Healing




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    S2E48 - 30m - May 6, 2024
  • 47. Stop Playing it Small + Start Flirting with Life

    In the art of living, there's a subtle yet profound practice of flirting with life, embracing its vast possibilities, and allowing ourselves the freedom to dream without restraint. 

    This episode peels back the layers of self-imposed limitations, bringing into focus the joy and growth that lie on the other side of fear.

    There comes a time where your inner work will lead you to outgrowing your outer world and will ask you to make decisions to choose more for yourself without knowing exactly what comes next.

    I invite you to imagine a world where you dance with your destiny and where the anticipation of what's to come is as delightful as the arrival itself. 

    CHAPTERS:

    0:00-5:04: Where are you Settling + Playing it Small? Identifying Limitations, Intuition vs Anxiety

    5:04-8:11: Trusting in the Universe vs Taking Action

    8:11- 15:24: What you're ACTUALLY scared of

    15:24-20:02: Breaking out Of Unfulfilling Narratives: My Journey

    20:02-23:50: Outgrowing Relationships, Letting Go & Making Room for New to Enter

    23:50-26:33: Making room for All Parts of you Along the Way (Fear, Insecurity) as you Build Confidence, Authenticity, + Vibrance

    26:33-30:24: FLIRT WITH LIFE

    30:24-34:33: Your words MATTER: Shifting & Reprogramming Your Mind to Focus into Abundance over Lack

    34:33: What's on the other side? Setting Expectations + Connecting to the Collective Consciousness

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    S2E47 - 42m - Apr 28, 2024
  • 46. Breaking the Cycle of Generational Trauma & Healing a Wounded Inner Child - GUEST EPISODE with MY SISTER, Angelica Fontana

    Life goes beyond the house that you grew up in.

    But you may spend many years healing from the time you spent growing up in it.

    For my sister and I, we have found this to be the case.

    Today, we unpack the impact of how growing up amidst instability shaped our lives and gave us mutual purpose to break the cycle of generational trauma.

    Angelica is the strongest person that I know - and her experiences are one that I am honored to give voice to on Figuring Sh!t Out.

    My sister and I share no DNA. She was adopted at Birth by our parents and has faced a layer of adversity as a person of color that I will never be able to fully understand. We grew up together in Florida in a fractured environment that she left at 15.

    Our individual experiences and healing has led us back to one another after being separated for many years in our adolescence. We are not of the same blood, but have been cut from the same cloth, and found our definition of home to be one another.

    To be vulnerable about what made you who you are today, even if it is a heavy past that you have learned and healed from - is to be free from letting it define you.

    I hope this episode inspires you release any weight from the past that you no longer need to carry and know that the decision to heal is all that you need to begin.

    ---

    CHAPTERS:

    0:00-3:58: Introduction, Episode Overview, & Preface 

    4:00-10:15: Sisterhood + Siblinghood, Angelica's Adoption, Divine Orchestration

    10:15-15:50: Roles + Trauma Responses in a Dysfunctional Household, Living in Survival, Mental Health 

    19:03: Leaving Home at 14 & Experiencing Racism in a Prejudiced Town

    23:39: Beginning Healing, Reparenting the Inner Child, Letting Yourself Be Loved

    28:43: Anger, Forgiveness, & Breaking Patterns to Relearn Safety

    39:26: Releasing + Recognizing Coping & Defense Mechanisms

    49:17: Chosen Family, Building a Life You Want, & Loving Yourself through your Evolution

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    Episode 8: Healing is Not Linear & Life is Now

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    S2E46 - 1h 0m - Apr 22, 2024
  • 45. STORY TIME: I Ran A Marathon in Paris & Had a Second Spiritual Awakening

    Sit down & grab your popcorn - because this episode is different than any other on Figuring Sh!t Out:

    Today is Story-Time.

    I am taking you on a very honest journey through the last nine months -- from agreeing to run a Marathon in Paris, France (26.2 miles, 42 km) to all of the mental, emotional, and spiritual training that led me and my body to ultimately cross the finish line.

    While this was a physical challenge - the physical capability paled in comparison to all of the limits that I had to personally release to feel ready to do this.

    All that has been discussed on Figuring Sh!t Out up until this point has culminated to this moment -- where I put my mind, heart, soul, spirit, body, and divine connection to the test.

    This has felt like a research project where the findings weren't ready to be presented until the test was finished.

    & I can in fact confirm:

    • Fear is an Illusion - Decide to not let it in or let it matter & it won't
    • You are Greater and more powerful than Your Mind, Your Limits, and Your Conditions
    • You will have to trade your old life for your new one, and you will be glad that you did
    • Visualizing a Future State in Meditation Works (Actually WORKS) To Create A Desired State
    • Progress is Not Linear - and Neither is Time
    • The Present Moment is Eternal & Is the Portal to Peace, Truth, and Spiritual Guidance
    • Your Intuition is Your Greatest Guide - Fear + Doubt are Blockers to It
    • A Desire to Control is always from the Ego
    • Your Heart is the Portal to Everything
    • Love is The Highest Vibration
    • Challenge is Your Wisest Teacher


    All of the above will be divulged in fullness over the course of this season - but today -

    A vulnerable unveiling of my own personal experience in the process of Figuring Sh!t Out.

    I ran a Marathon in Paris - here is my story.

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    S3E44 - 55m - Apr 14, 2024
  • 44. Fear is An Illusion

    Free yourself.

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    33m - Apr 6, 2024
  • 43. Speak Your Truth & Protect Your Peace: The Energy of Alignment & Influence

    You do not have to adapt to the energy in the room -- You can influence it. 

    A wise person once said: “How you do anything - is how you do everything,”

    So how do you use your voice, your power, and your energy, to serve a purpose and live an aligned life? 

    & How do you stay true to yourself while operating in systems or places that don’t feel aligned to you? 

    How can you protect your peace and find alignment and power through surrender?

    By knowing what is in your control vs what is out of it, and knowing the power of your energy and it’s ability to attract like-minded people, places & things is your most precious resource.

    This episode pulls together themes of power + influence in a way that fuels our soul, rather than our ego. It re-examines our self-responsibility and pushes us to consider how we can use our voice + establish a connection to our energy to live lovingly, boldly, and proudly in this outside world. 

    At the end of the podcast, I give you an overview of a daily practice to check-in with yourself and find your alignment, starting small, and starting in the here + now. 

    (Questions for this down below + upcoming monthly meditation in the Community will be aligned to this practice!!)

    Note: Apologies for the end being slightly different sounding in audio - finished recording the last part with different settings on my microphone :,) 

    Be sure to follow socials below for updates!! 

    Lots of love 

    xx 

    V

    CHAPTERS:

    0:00: You are Your Best Guide: Integrity in Holding Ourselves Accountable 

    8:30: Reconciling the Ups & Downs, Physical + Spiritual, Freedom in Surrender

    11:55: Jobs, Life, People: Life is not a Zero Sum Game

    15:57: Our Energy: You Attract What You Are

    17:00: Your Voice has Power - Ask for What You Want

    22:10: "Fitting In," Finding Alignment in Relationships

    26:40: Becoming Conscious of Misalignment. Releasing Shame of Poor Decisions, + Self & Life Nourishment

    34:55: Practices for Alignment, The Power of a Daily Check-In

    Journaling Practice:

    Daily Inventory of how you feel with a journal + no judgement.

    1. Physically
    2. Mentally
    3. Emotionally
    4. Spiritually


    How are the different aspects of how you feel -- impacting each other?

    Based on how you feel - what do you need? (remember how "need" is defined from the episode!!)

    & What do you want?

    What can you do, right now, to bring what you want + need into alignment?

    Deep-Dive Into Alignment:

    1. What does it feel like to be aligned? How does your energy feel when you are aligned? To you + for others?
    2. What are some things that make you feel good?
    3. What can you do today to take action towards your alignment? How can you make a small choice for feeling good + a bid for who you want to be?


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    38 - Unlocking Our Heart's Potential: Clearing Energetic Blocks & Accessing a Portal to Profound Love & Inner Alchemy

    41 - The Mind-Body Connection - Emotional Regulation, Physical Well-Being, & Somatic Healing



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    S2E43 - 47m - Mar 31, 2024
  • 42. Let Yourself Bloom! Overcoming Self-Rejection & Insecurity, Changing with the Seasons, + Unapologetic Self-Acceptance

    We are part of nature. And there is never a time we are not changing.

    As we navigate the seasons and embrace the Spring Equinox, this episode is a reminder to ignite a self-acceptance that allows us to truly flourish by embracing what we often reject about ourselves.

    It is easy for us to like ourselves when we're doing well and easy for us to be happy on a sunny day --

    But feeling a stability with ourselves and our lives comes from acceptance of the duality of who we are and the natural and inevitable cycles of birth, death, and rebirth.

    We will always live in duality with both our soul and our ego.

    As Winter is a Precursor to Spring, The Dark Night of the Soul is a often a precursor to change and self-renewal.

    Can you embrace both?

    Can you let yourself bloom?

    CHAPTERS:

    (00:00) - We are all Connected through Cyclical Change, Acknowledging Darkness & Insecurity

    (5:21) - Overcoming Insecurities, What We Focus on Grows, Our Perception is not always Reality - but it is OUR reality

    (11:25) - What "Confident" People Have

    (16:00) - Unseen Growth Beneath the Surface, Death & Rebirth (Reading a Piece Written by Me)

    (20:59) - ALLOWING is the key to Attracting: Release Resentment, Anger, Rejection -- Let that Sh!t Go!!

    (26:00) - Steps to Self-Acceptance & Broadening your Perspective

    (35:00) - You are the Artist of Your Life: Life is Too Short to Hate, Reject, & Judge Yourself

    (40:00) - Focus your Energy & Let yourself Bloom

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    40 - Wake Up! Your Life is Meant to be Lived.



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    S2E42 - 44m - Mar 24, 2024
  • 41. The Mind-Body Connection: Emotional Regulation, Physical Well-Being, & Somatic Healing

    In this episode, we discuss the need for harmony among the wholeness of our full selves - mind, body, and soul.

    The objectification and disconnection we often feel from our physical experience is the result of a fragmentation of our selves as a survival and defense mechanism -

    But there is a vital connection between our physical health & our emotional, mental, and spiritual well-being.

    If our bodies are what we explore this world through, the quality of our experience can be directly correlated to how we feel in our bodies and how much our bodies feel safe to --- feel.

    Learning how to feel safe in our skin and pave the way for resilience begins with cultivating respect for all parts of ourselves.

    A very simple question can probe a lot of insight into how balanced you are:

    Are you taking care of yourself? Are you treating yourself well? What does treating yourself "well" even mean to you?

    This can be a sensitive and complicated subject, but it starts small and very simply.

    Tuning into our basic needs and honoring them with gentle care can help us identify our emotional needs, connect more deeply to our spiritual bodies, and allow our life experience to be greatly deepened.

    I'm hoping to bring an expert into this discussion as a continued conversation, so let me know your thoughts on this episode + what you'd like to explore more of on this topic below if you feel called.

    xx

    <3 V

    CHAPTERS:

    (00:00) - The Foundation of a Mind-Body Connection, Why It Can be Hard to Establish, Judgement, EMDR

    (13:09) - Questions to Ask Yourself, Mistaking Physical Distress for Emotional Distress, The Consequences of Burnout

    (16:32) - Balance, Dopamine Dependence, Mental Clarity, Recommendations

    (25:26) - Tuning into Your Body's Signals, Knowing Yourself

    (32:01) - What Marathon Training has Taught Me about my Emotional/Spiritual/Mental Well-Being

    (36:30) - The Power of Living Fully + Authentically In your Body

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    S2E41 - 39m - Mar 17, 2024
  • 40. Wake Up! Your Life is Meant to Be Lived.

    Stop chasing happiness - it is a trap. Stop living your life for the future - it is a bigger trap.

    If you treat your life like a means to an end, you will always be left with the same question:

    "An end -- to what?"

    The novelty of life is that it is both fleeting and the only thing we will ever know. & The relentless pursuit for the meaning of it will only lead you to eclipsing your right to live it.

    So live.

    Let this episode serve as your Wake Up Call to shift your perspective - from dreaming and reaching for a life of abundance to stepping into creation and experiencing the beautiful duality of every moment.

    We are here to feel!! To live!! To be! To create! The only pre-requisite is that you are alive and well.

    Stop letting your conditions control the narrative that you create.

    CHAPTERS:

    0:00 - 6:38: Updates: The Wisdom of Aging, Turning 24, How Physical Sickness can Be Spiritual

    6:38 - 9:38 - We're Not Getting Any Younger, & We Never Have Been: A Secret Gift. (A piece written by me <3)

    9:38 - 20:00 - It can be Simple - Riding the Waves, Releasing Addiction to Negative Emotions + Critical Inner Voice

    20:00 - 30:00 - Relationships, Other People, Illusory Expectations

    30:00 - 38:07 - What is worth your Energy? Life Can be Magic, Finding Novelty in Simplicity.

    38:08 - 43:52 - The Secret to Peace

    GUIDED MEDITATION BY ME

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    If you liked this episode, you'll like this one too!

    Episode 15 - Looking for answers? Let them Find You. Stop, Look Around, & Enjoy the Process.

    xx

    <3 Vanessa



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    S2E40 - 43m - Mar 10, 2024
  • 39. The Dark Night of the Soul

    When you chose to heal, you chose to break cycles that have lived on for generations.

    There is immense power in that choice. And immense transformation.

    No one said it would be easy.

    This episode is an exploration into the power of The Dark Night of the Soul, which occurs during transformation to burn away all that is not aligned with the growth you've chosen for yourself.

    Like a Pheonix rising from the ashes, rebirth is inevitable.

    The magic of transformation is not without a pursuit into a new darkness to bring you forth the truest light you've yet to know.

    Remember why you started.

    Let that carry you. Let love carry you. Let the light find you.

    xx

    V

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    CHAPTERS:

    (00:00) - The Power of Healing and Transformation

    (04:12) - The Dark Night of the Soul

    (14:39) - Embracing the Shadow, Healing Through Breaking Generational Cycles

    (26:17) - Overcoming + Getting through Dark Night of Soul

    If you liked this episode, you'll like this one too!

    Episode 14: Do you Crave to Be Understood, but Fear Being Perceived? Who are you when no one is watching?

    Topics Explored:

    Self-discovery, Transformation, Dark Night of the Soul, Reparenting, Inner Child, Inherited Patterns, Spiritual Awakening, Enlightenment, Authenticity, Healing, Vulnerability, Bravery, Change, Personal Growth, Relationships



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    E39 - 34m - Feb 25, 2024
  • 38. Unlocking Our Heart's Potential: Clearing Energetic Blocks & Accessing a Portal to Profound Love & Inner Alchemy

    Life is vulnerability.

    Time and time again we find that we are on this journey to find the strength that we didn't know that we had. To shock and surprise ourselves at the ability to get through the rough days, long nights, and find the bliss of sunshine again and again, even when we think it may be gone forever.

    And to be a witness to our boundless ability to continue on loving when we feel loveless.

    We have our hearts to thank for that -- the energetic pathway that lets our emotional energy in and out. The heart is a bridge to profound healing and to growth.

    Our hearts hold the hands of our spiritual being and our physical being - weaving them together in a tapestry of energy that forms us into who we are.

    Our greatest power is learning how to let what wants to flow through us, through us, so that we can have access to the authentic self that lies inside of our hearts.

    Your heart is your portal to your intuition, to your wisest self, to your inner knowing and your inner magic.

    Your heart holds experiences in the past, present, and future, and allows you to experience both the fullness and the emptiness of life.

    When we hold onto pain, we are closed and we are blocked. We are clenched in the corners of fear and negativity, keeping our walls up, keeping love out, and keeping blessings, opportunities, and potential, out of our line of sight.

    When we open, we are free. We allow the pain to come in, we allow it to be felt, we allow it to show us that it will always leave if we let it. And we make room for what is new to come in. We are able to see that every event that caused us to close up, was only to stretch our heart further open when we were ready.

    Leading with an open heart is not a sign of vulnerability but a beacon of strength that guides us toward a more aligned, influential, and authentic existence.

    In this episode, we explore the power of love's presence in our lives, how our heart center supports and protects us, and conscious brain-heart coherence with some readings from Joe Dispenza & Michael J. Singer.

    To live, if not passionately, is a mistake. To buy into the fallacy that our days are not numbered and that love is not the most evident pulse beneath the footprints of our world, even the harshest of them, is to live with eyes closed. You cannot live untouchably - life is vulnerability.

    I love you guys

    <3

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    CHAPTERS:

    (00:00) - Opening the Closed Heart

    (14:31) - The Power of an Open Heart - How you Know you’re Open vs Closed

    (31:12) - Are you Blocking Your Blessings?

    (40:44) - The Power of Vulnerability on Inner Alchemy & How to Lead with an Open Heart

    If you liked this episode, you'll like this one, too!

    31 - Just Relax - You are Evolving! Giving Yourself the Grace to Meet Yourself as You Change & the Power of Your Unique Expression

    This episode is part 3 of the 2024 Alignment Series. Not necessary to listen in order, but these episodes all build off of each other & ask you:

    "What would my life look like if I showed up for myself fully? If I believed myself capable? If I argued with my limitations and went beyond them? What is your potential? "

    Listen to: Part 1 (Episode 36) & Part 2 (Episode 37)



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    51m - Feb 12, 2024
  • 37. Healing Self-Expression & Actualizing your Dreams through Your Inner Child - Shadow Work Series

    Integrating our Healing through Transformation + Finding Pure Alignment.

    That is the theme of this month on Figuring Sh!t Out. 

    It asks you to ask yourself: 

    "What would my life look like if I showed up for myself fully? If I believed myself capable? If I argued with my limitations and went beyond them? How am I clipping my own wings? What is my true potential?” 

    We find the answers to this through Shadow Work - bringing the dark to the light with loving awareness & curiosity.

    Where the past self, the higher self, and the present self unite to bridge the gap between what we know and how we can move what we know into our lives, creating change. 

    When we were young, we were all dreamers.

    This episode asks you - "What did you dream about when you were young? When did you stop dreaming? And how can you start again?"

    This episode is part of a Shadow Work Series, episodes that use Shadow Work in the focal point of discussion as a vehicle to self development & growth.

    Linked below is part one, which covers the foundations of shadow-work and inner child healing. It’s not necessary to listen to this first if you haven’t, unless you have no idea where to begin when it comes to shadow work, but is encouraged! The first episode takes you through meeting your inner child and shares my experience with healing. 

    Shadow-Work Series Episode One:

    Episode 21: Shadow-Work Series, Part 1: A Beginner's Guide to Inner Child Healing, Forgiveness, and Self-Discovery

    In case you missed it, listen to last week's episode on Igniting Transformation & Facing Discomfort to Break Cycles

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    CHAPTERS:

    (00:00) - Overcoming Fear, Finding Alignment, Healing

    (05:17) - Seeing the Results of Healing and Transforming Through Inner Work

    (10:41) - Rediscovering Childhood Dreams, Overcoming Limitations

    (23:53) - Shadow-Work + Inner Child Healing

    (37:09) - Unlocking "Impossibility" + Opening Yourself to Miracles




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    54m - Feb 5, 2024
  • 36. Igniting Transformation, Facing Discomfort, & Breaking Cycles

    A new chapter. A new beginning. Season Two.

    A new theme:

    Almost always done, because we never will be.

    Never complete, because our wholeness isn't found outside of us.

    And on this episode, we cover how to find more of that wholeness.

    The only thing we should question -- is our limits.

    Confronting our comfort zones with the courageous act of taking ownership of our lives and lovingly accepting self-responsibility is the only way to create lasting, actionable transformation.

    This episode calls for an integration of all parts of ourselves - with wholeness, with love, with compassion, and with the strength of accountability.

    For the last month and a half, that is the journey I've been on.

    I intentionally stripped myself of all comforts and headed into the woods of Northern New Hampshire over this break to face shadows and feel the catharsis of letting go.

    On this episode, I take you through my journey and give you insight into what I've learned - and how that expansion has led to enrich the path of self-exploration here - in V2 of Figuring Sh!t Out - the podcast AND the brand.

    In our collective journey of self-discovery and growth, the topic of this new season and episode is evolution:

    Fully stepping into newness through lovingly shedding layers of what we no longer need and being honest with ourselves about what it is that we do need.

    I am so excited to be back. Thank you for listening.

    If you liked this episode, please rate the podcast on your preferred streaming platform, let me know your thoughts below, & reach out over socials <3

    With love,

    Vanessa

    xx

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    CHAPTERS:

    (00:00) - What’s new for FSO - Season Two, Community, Guidebooks

    (10:49) - New Themes of 2024

    (24:34) - Facing Yourself, Self-Responsibility, Accountability

    (36:20) - Breaking Cycles & Patterns - Becoming who you were meant to be



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    S1E36 - 46m - Jan 28, 2024
  • 35. Evolve or Repeat: Closing Chapters, Shedding Skin, & Trusting the Unfolding of Your Path - Guided End of Year Meditation & Discussion on Surrender

    We are always changing. Whether we resist or allow. Change happens, with or without us -

    But always within us. 

    It is necessary to let ourselves let go of what we no longer need, bid farewell to what doesn’t serve us any longer, and step into an unknown future with bravery and hope. 

    To all who have been on their journey of Figuring Sh!t Out in 2023, with or without me — give yourself credit, let yourself rest, and let your shedding skin & growing pains remind you:

    That there is so much left for you to learn. 

    There is so much left for you to love. 

    There is so much more fun for you to have. 

    & There are so many more realizations to come to you that will feel like homecoming moments of eye-opening clarity. 

    On the last episode of Season 1, never done before & as a gift to all of you on this journey with me — 

    I guide you through a visualization & meditation that allows you to shed burdens, trust the process, and trust in life’s serendipity - meeting your future self who has traversed the path you walk upon now. 

    I ask you to do nothing, but listen and surrender to the divine timing ahead, slow down, savor the unfolding of life, and give grace to your resilience and unwavering spirit - which has always carried you through every moment of your life. 

    Thank you for listening, thank you for being on this journey with me, and thank you for making this space so full and so bright. 

    Figuring Sh!t Out was once a confused dream, and through this Season and this year, has become a precious space for my heart & soul. 

    There is so much in store in 2024. All that you’ve asked me for is in the works & I am so excited to share with you more details when SEASON TWO (2!!!!!) launches in January. 

    Kiss 2023 goodbye with strength, you brave, beautiful souls <3 

    Can't wait to continue Figuring Sh!t Out together in the next season and in the new year --

    I love you. So much. 

    xx

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    20 - It is Happening For You, Not To You: Building Resilience in a World of Change

    xx

    EPISODE CHAPTERS:

    (00:00) - Introduction & Themes of 2023

    (7:22) - Guided Practice - Meditation & Visualization

    (14:33) - How to Trust Your Unfolding Path & Call in What you Want

    (25:52) - Claiming + Embracing your New Beginning & Goodbye to Season 1 of FSO




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    S1E35 - 29m - Dec 31, 2023
  • 34. Confidence, Personal Power, & Magnetic Energy - Rising Above Judgement & People-Pleasing to Find Your Authentic Self

    Imagine the freedom of living unencumbered by the fear of others' opinions, feeling rooted, grounded, and connected to yourself, your truth, and your exploration of life - where your worthiness is not a question, but a statement. 

    What would you do? 

    How would you act? 

    How would you move?

    As we end 2023, many of us are thinking about what we want to release and leave behind, and what we want to take with us and transform into in the New Year. 

    Today's episode is a beacon and an ode to that- illuminating how to recognize patterns of people-pleasing and survival mechanisms and step into who you want to become - with actionable steps to move forward.

    The path to "confidence" is often misunderstood and misconstrued. Many of us think of confidence as a type of extroversion, being able to take up space and be heard, seen, witnessed. 

    But many times, confidence can be quiet. It can be simple. Being magnetic is not about other people, it is always about you. How you hold your space, speak to yourself, show up for yourself - is how you move into the world and reflect and receive energy.

    On this episode, I talk about: 

    (00:00) - Reclaiming Power and Building Confidence - Holding space for yourself unapologetically, stopping people-pleasing, misconceptions of confidence, what "beauty" truly is.

    (16:53) - Embracing Authenticity and Self-Confidence - Social Anxiety, Fear of being Perceived, Judgement, Projections of others, & Moving into Self-Acceptance

    (26:47) - Choosing Authenticity and Letting Go - The importance of self-discovery, Looking back on the year, Looking inwards into yourself

    (30:51) - Prioritizing Self-Love and Personal Growth into the New Year - Finding Your Inner Alignment, Affirmations for your strength, and Journal Prompts/Questions for you to sit with if you feel called <3 (below)

    Journal Prompts:

    As we close out this year, sit with all of the evolutions of yourself that have been present in 2023. Take some time to connect to your experience of evolution, and send every version of yourself love. 

    Ask yourself —

    What can you leave behind?

    What did you love about this year? What do you want more of?

    How can you show up for yourself in ways you haven’t yet?

    List three things that you can do. 

    What does it look like to prioritize yourself? How does it feel when you do that?

    Think about the love you give to other people. What does your love feel like? How would it feel like to receive that love? How can you give it to yourself in new ways?

    xx

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    This episode is part of the December Mini-Series - 4 shorter episodes to close out the year and to end Season 1 of Figuring Sh!t Out.

    This is the second to last episode of the season & the year of 2023!

    There is so much coming in the New Year that I am so excited to share!!

    Stay tuned with me on -

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    24 - A Guide to Identifying Limiting Beliefs, Breaking Patterns, & Creating a New Self-Concept

    FOR 10% OFF YOUR FIRST GUIDED JOURNAL, USE MY CODE: FSO10 HERE! (https://www.insidethenout.com/FSO)

    xx

    See you guys next week <3 (Last episode of the year live on NYE -- a mini meditation for you in the episode!)

    I love you!!



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    S1E34 - 43m - Dec 24, 2023
  • 33. How to Get out of a Funk & Reclaim Your Conscious Power

    We've all been there: one thing goes wrong, then another, then another - and we feel like a slave to our conditions, a slave to our mind's negative thinking patterns, unable to wake ourselves up or shake ourselves out of the rut we're in, and sometimes, the rut we are falling further into.

    How do you get out of that place? The one that feels so dark, so sticky, so dreary.

    How do you go on and show up with presence for yourself, the people, the responsibilities in your life when your thoughts are so loud that you get lost in them, and when they feel so much more powerful than you?

    The only way out is through.

    But you must know a few things before you embark upon the process of moving through it:

    1. You are not your thoughts, your feelings, or your life situation. We hear this a lot, but in this episode, I talk about the true meaning of this and explain the concept using the book "The Power of Now," by Eckhart Tolle with some references from "The Untethered Soul" by Michael J. Singer (Highly recommend both of these books!)
    2. You must extend a kind, patient, and gentle hand to yourself as you go through the flux of life. To get mad at ourselves for being in a dark place, is just another mechanism to deepen that dark place. Treat yourself the way you would a loved one, connect with your inner child and give them what they need and what they are asking for, and treat yourself with love -- it will make it all the more easier to see the light at the end of the tunnel.
    3. You are not stuck. You are never stuck. The only "stuck" that you can be is the endless loop of incessant worry and darkness that you feel trapped in. But you are not trapped. As counterintuitive as it sounds, we can be addicted to our suffering, addicted to the mind's stories about it and the need to justify our feelings - but we must create the space to see illusion from reality - and separate ourselves from the stories we no longer need to carry with us.
    4. Sometimes, it takes time for us to wake ourselves up. Give yourself that time.


    In this episode, I talk about how I woke up on the wrong side of the bed and wound up in one of these funks. And how I used it as an opportunity to see if I could move myself out of it.

    And what do you know? It worked.

    I give you my step-by-step guide for getting out of a funk, whether this be an hour-long practice that you use to just go about your day when the day feels too heavy to comprehend, or an extended process that you move through at your own rhythm.

    Creating a practice to surrender to that brings you back to yourself, back to Earth, and allows you to have the patience to create space around your feelings - is sometimes all we need to get through the other side.

    You are exactly where you are supposed to be. And sometimes, where you are doesn't feel good. Sometimes, it's not supposed to. We learn so much from darkness, so much to transmute into light.

    More than anything -- we learn that we are far more powerful than we know in becoming conscious, aware, and getting ourselves out of feeling stuck.

    Be patient with yourself as you learn.

    xx

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    See you guys next week <3 

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    S1E33 - 42m - Dec 17, 2023
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