SHOW / EPISODE

We Couldn't Get Pregnant Then Foster Care Made Us Parents

Season 1 | Episode 22
1h 1m | Aug 6, 2026

For eight years, Desi and Steve hoped and prayed for a child. When doctors told them pregnancy was no longer likely, they had to face the possibility that becoming parents might look completely different from what they had imagined.


Then, during an anniversary dinner, Steve said the words Desi had been trying to avoid: “We’re being called to foster care.”


In this episode, Desi and Steve share their honest journey through infertility, foster care, adoption, grief, faith, and learning to trust God when life did not go according to plan.


They talk openly about the fear of becoming attached to a foster child, the heartbreak of reunification, the strain foster care placed on their marriage, and the moments when they questioned whether they could continue.


Desi also shares a painful moment when a court decision left her angry with God, only to discover later that He had been working behind the scenes the entire time.


Timestamp:

00:00 From infertility to foster care

02:45 Desi and Steve’s faith journey

10:35 Eight years of infertility

11:39 Feeling called to foster care

18:12 Beginning the foster care process

20:07 Receiving their first placement

21:49 How foster care affected their marriage

25:27 Reunification and saying goodbye

31:06 Audrey’s adoption journey

32:26 Wrestling with anger toward God

36:06 Years of uncertainty in foster care

38:28 Loving a foster child as your own

42:00 The unexpected call about their son

46:39 How faith and community carried them

58:13 Supporting foster families

59:23 Creating peace in their home


This episode is for couples facing infertility, families considering foster care or adoption, foster parents navigating uncertainty, and anyone learning to trust God when His plan looks different from their own.


Your journey may not look the way you expected, but that does not mean God has forgotten your family.


Watch the full episode to hear Desi and Steve’s powerful story of how foster care made them parents.


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ABOUT OUR HOUSE


We’re Jason and Malia Smylie, married for almost 16 years with four boys. We’re not pastors, just parents sharing what we are learning about building a God-centered home filled with more peace, contentment, and joy.


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