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Dear Shandy

Dear Shandy is a dating advice podcast where Sharleen Joynt and her husband Andy Levine answer your burning relationship questions from the perspective of a happily married couple. Sharleen and Andy are two fiercely independent people who are skeptical of love stories and don’t believe in fate, soulmates, or The One. So how did they wind up so happily married? They learned the dating lessons by living them. Get no-holds-barred, honest advice from two people who actually have what you want: a fun, blissful partnership.

But there's more! As an iconic former Bachelor contestant, Sharleen invites Bachelor Nation couples on for fun and intimate double dates called Love Fests. Last, but certainly not least, Sharleen brings her insider knowledge and Andy delivers hilarious comic-relief to combine for what are hands down the best Bachelor recaps in the business. New episodes drop every Thursday, and during Bachelor seasons, recaps drop on Tuesdays!

Episodes

Platonic: Navigating Friendships With Dr. Marisa G Franco - Ep 181
Show Details1hr 6min
Bachelor In Paradise Recap: Finale Part 2 | Victoria, Johnny and Greg... Oh My! - Ep 180
Show Details1hr 14min
Bachelor In Paradise Recap: Finale Part 1 | First Comes Fantasy Suite, Then Comes Neil Lane - Ep 179
Show Details50min 7s
LOVE FEST! Ben Zorn & Stacy Santilena On Going From Friends To More And Surviving Stagecoach - 178
Show Details1hr 26min
Bachelor In Paradise Recap Eps 13 & 14 | Andrew Has 99 Problems And Jessenia Is One - Ep 177
Show Details1hr 22min
Q&A! Venting, Mismatched TV Tastes, And Is An Old Flame Worth Revisiting? - Ep 176
Show Details57min 8s
Bachelor In Paradise Recap: Ep 12 | Rodney, A Tragedy In Three Acts - Ep 175
Show Details58min 5s
I Broke My Ex's Heart & Think I Want Him Back—Help! - Ep 174
Show Details54min 39s
Bachelor In Paradise Recap: Eps 10 & 11 | Red Flag Banquet And Boring In Stereo - Ep 173
Show Details1hr 20min
How To Manifest Your Best Life With Roxie Nafousi - Ep 172
Show Details1hr 2min
Bachelor In Paradise Recap: Eps 8 & 9 | Shanae 1.0 Returns While A Love Triangle Brews - Ep 171
Show Details1hr 27min
Q&A! Stealing Baby Names, Vocal Fry, And Refusal To Put Down The Toilet Seat - Ep 170
Show Details1hr 16min
Bachelor In Paradise Recap: Eps 6 & 7 | Down Goes Casey While Michael Flies First Class - Ep 169
Show Details1hr 31min
Ashley Spivey & Steve Hunsberger On Passing The Baton And Meeting Thanks To The Bachelor - Ep 168
Show Details1hr 11min
Bachelor In Paradise Recap: Eps 4 & 5 | Salley Finally Lands And Also... Peter - Ep 167
Show Details1hr 33min
When, If Ever, Should I Disclose My "Number" In Dating? Help! - Ep 166
Show Details56min 44s
Bachelor In Paradise Recap: Eps 2 & 3 | Suitcase Sagas And Fruit Fly Time - Ep 165
Show Details1hr 33min
Navigating Mismatched Libidos With Sexologist Shan Boodram - Ep 164
Show Details1hr 6min
Bachelor In Paradise Recap: Ep 1 | Logan Drops A Luce - Ep 163
Show Details1hr 23min
Q&A! Rom-Com Scenarios, Cringey Pet Names And Sliding Into His (LinkedIn) DMs - Ep 162
Show Details1hr 4min
Bachelorette Recap: Finale | A Breakup House And A Tino Kebab - Ep 161
Show Details1hr 25min
LOVE FEST! Kenny Braasch & Mari Pepin On Homebody Life & Age Difference Upside - Ep 160
Show Details1hr 11min
Bachelorette Recap: Ep 11 | A Kafka-Esque Battle Of Semantics - Ep 159
Show Details1hr 27min
Should I Pack Up And Move My Whole Family For My Own Personal Happiness? Help! - Ep 158
Show Details54min 51s
Bachelorette Recap: Eps 9 & 10 | Fantasy Suites, Hold The Fantasy - Ep 157
Show Details1hr 42min
2 Year Anniversary Q&A | Answering Our Shandies' Questions! - Ep 156
Show Details1hr 20min
Bachelorette Recap: Ep 8 + Men Tell All | A Bewitching Hometown, Villains Gone MIA, & First Impression Rose Head - Ep 155
Show Details53min 12s
Q&A! Hot For Teacher, Turning The Other Cheek, & A 25 Year Age Difference - Ep 154
Show Details1hr 18min
Bachelorette Recap: Ep 7 | A Clown Car Of Hometowns - Ep 153
Show Details1hr 17min
LOVE FEST! Blake Horstmann & Giannina Gibelli Talk DJ Life And Misconceptions - Ep 152
Show Details1hr 8min
Bachelorette Recap: Ep 6 | Did You Know Hometowns Are Around The Corner? - Ep 151
Show Details1hr 15min
My Dad Won't Stop Talking About His Divorce From My Mom—Help! - Ep 150
Show Details52min 28s
Bachelorette Recap: Ep 5 | The Villain Soundtrack Is On Repeat In Belgium - Ep 149
Show Details1hr 9min
Parenthood Clarity With #ChildfreeByChoice Clarity Coach Keltie Maguire - Ep 148
Show Details1hr 12min
Bachelorette Recap: Ep 4 | The Two Camps Set Sail In France - Ep 147
Show Details1hr 9min
Q&A! Farting, Skeletons In The Apartment, & Sharleen's True Feelings On Andy's White V-Necks - Ep 146
Show Details1hr 7min
Bachelorette Recap: Ep 3 | All Power Struggles Lead To A Fork In The Road - Ep 145
Show Details1hr 12min
LOVE FEST! Abigail Heringer & Noah Erb On Misconceptions And Scheduled Walks - Ep 144
Show Details1hr 12min
Bachelorette Recap: Ep 2 | A Villain Comes And Goes... And Comes Back Again - Ep 143
Show Details1hr 2min
My Fiancé Won't Write Personalized Wedding Vows For Our Big Day—Help! - Ep 142
Show Details1hr 13min
Bachelorette Recap: Two's A Crowd But So Far They're Still Friends - Ep 141
Show Details1hr 16min
Q&A! A First Date Venmo, Safe Sex = Equal Effort?, & A Shandy's Love Letter - Ep 140
Show Details1hr 15min
My Boyfriend Still Lives With His Ex—Help! - Ep 139
Show Details53min 51s
Bittersweet: How Sadness Is A Superpower With Susan Cain - Ep 138
Show Details1hr 18min
Q&A! To BJ Or Not To BJ, Changing Your Date's Style, & The Women's Equivalent To Andy's "Men Are Mature At 36" Rule
Show Details1hr 9min
LOVE FEST! Sarah Nicole & Shane Landry On Harnessing Jealousy & The Romance Of Logistics
Show Details1hr 21min
He Wouldn't Quit Following Racy Accounts—Was I Being Too Uptight?
Show Details57min 25s
Unpacking Purity Culture With Blair Of @TalkPurityToMe
Show Details1hr 10min
Q&A! In Ick We Trust, "If He Wanted To, He Would", and To Kill Or Not To Kill?
Show Details1hr 29min
LOVE FEST! Courtney Robertson & Humberto Preciado On Instagram Vetting & Keeping The Peace
Show Details1hr 15min
Navigating Romance When You Have Anxiety, OCD Or Depression With Allison Raskin
Show Details1hr 6min
I Think I'm In Love With My Platonic Life Partner—Help!
Show Details1hr 8min
Q&A! Fantasize On, Being The Other Woman, & When You Can't Find A Great Person Attractive
Show Details1hr 18min
LOVE FEST! Dave Neal & Tasha Courtney On Grand Gestures & Being Friends First
Show Details1hr 12min
Confessions of a Divorce Attorney ft. Nicole Sodoma
Show Details1hr 14min
His Words And His Actions Don't Align—Should I Reach Back Out?
Show Details57min 5s
Q&A! When You're Annoyed By Your Partner's Hobby & How To Slide Into A Celeb's DMs
Show Details1hr 7min
Bachelor Recap: Finale | Twists, Controversy, and Empathy... Oh My!
Show Details1hr 38min
Parasocial Relationships With Josh Peck
Show Details1hr 8min
My Long Distance Relationship Has Gotten Rocky—Help!
Show Details50min 1s
Bachelor Recap: WTA + Ep 9 | The High-Wire Act That Is Overnights
Show Details1hr 38min
Our Wedding Story, Part 2 (aka Wedding Q&A!)
Show Details1hr 9min
Bachelor Recap: Episode 8 | Meta Language & Outdoorsy Lessons In Hometown Week
Show Details1hr 14min
Q&A! Returning The Ring, My BF Misses His Ex's Family, And DWI = Dealbreaker?
Show Details1hr 9min
Bachelor Recap: Ep 7 | Couples "Therapy" And A Villain On The Side
Show Details1hr 11min
LOVE FEST! Krystal Nielson & Miles Bowles On Opposites Attracting & The Fun Of Parenting
Show Details1hr 10min
Bachelor Recap: Ep 6 | Undesirable "Dates", Simmering Beef, & Marionette Strings
Show Details1hr 16min
Does My Fling Think I Moved For Him? Help!
Show Details49min 32s
Bachelor Recap: Ep 5 | The Art of Comedy And The No-Shame-Ae Show Heads To Toronto
Show Details1hr 9min
Finding Purpose—With Or Without A Relationship—With John Kim, "The Angry Therapist"
Show Details59min 25s
Bachelor Recap: Ep 4 | BBQ Crashers & When Shrimp Cancels Cocktail Parties
Show Details1hr 10min
Q&A! Whack-A-Mole Of Life, A Sexless Marriage, And Once Bad In Bed, Always Bad In Bed?
Show Details1hr 16min
Bachelor Recap: Ep 3 | Loose Lips Sink Ships, High Thigh, and The Same Ol’ Playbook
Show Details1hr 19min
LOVE FEST! Jacqueline Trumbull & Paul Seli On Overcoming Jealousy & The Art Of Making A Move
Show Details1hr 19min
The Hunt For Red Flags
Show Details1hr 12min
Bachelor Recap : Ep 2 | Hilary Duff, Kissing Fatigue, & Shanae-nah
Show Details1hr 15min
Q&A! Annoyance Mitigation, Guys Who Don't Ask You Out, & Sh*tting Where You Eat
Show Details1hr 14min
Bachelor Recap: Ep 1 | The Likeliest of Bachelors and Unlikeliest of Exits
Show Details1hr 11min
Our Wedding Story
Show Details1hr 12min
Bachelorette Recap: Finale | A Foregone Conclusion Wrapped With A Christmas Bow
Show Details1hr 8min
LOVE FEST! Shawn Johnson & Andrew East On Holding Kites & Persistence Paying Off
Show Details1hr 9min
Bachelorette Recap: Ep 9 | Official ILYs, Ziplining, and Fantasy Suites
Show Details1hr 13min
My Boyfriend Just Broke Up With Me But Wants Shared Custody Of My Dog—Help!
Show Details53min 55s
Bachelorette Recap: Men Tell All | Apologies And Missed Opportunities Galore
Show Details1hr 5min
Navigating Enmeshment and Setting Boundaries with Alyssa Mancao
Show Details57min 20s
Bachelorette Recap: Ep 7 | Hometowns, Emotional Breakthroughs, & Punctual Professions Of Love
Show Details1hr 23min
Q&A! Changing Names, Revealing FWB History, Sharing Secrets, & "Timing" Truths
Show Details1hr 22min
Bachelorette Recap: Ep 6 | No Tears? No Problem! A Bachelor Edit To The Rescue
Show Details1hr 18min
LOVE FEST! Sarah Herron & Dylan Brown's Real Life Meet Cute & IVF Journey
Show Details1hr 8min
Bachelorette Recap: Ep 5 | Minneapolis Is For Lovers But Especially Joe & Nayte
Show Details1hr 16min
My Boyfriend's Sister Is Increasingly Rude To Me—Should I Confront Her?
Show Details51min 57s
Bachelorette Recap: Ep 4 | Feeling Unseen, Teddy Bros, and D-List Villainy
Show Details1hr 19min
Truths Bombs About Egg Freezing & Fertility with Whitney Bischoff Angel
Show Details1hr 17min
Bachelorette Recap: Ep 3 | Petulance, Poetry, and Justice
Show Details1hr 24min
Q&A! Number Ratings, Double Dipping, and Did He "Hit It and Quit It"?
Show Details1hr 23min
Bachelorette Recap: Ep 2 | Basketball Bonding, Bad Spelling, and Rumors Swirling
Show Details1hr 25min
LOVE FEST! 100 Foot Wave's Garrett and Nicole McNamara on "Knowing" and Never Settling
Show Details1hr 23min
Bachelorette Recap: Ep 1 | If You Want To Make ABC Laugh, Tell Them About Your Plans
Show Details1hr 17min
Should I Hold Out For Long Distance To End, Or Let Go And Enjoy Singledom? Help!
Show Details1hr 2min
Breakup Bootcamp: Rewiring Your Heart with Amy Chan
Show Details1hr 12min
Bachelor In Paradise Recap: Finale | Breakups, Offscreen Makeups, and Proposals—Oh My!
Show Details1hr 5min
Q&A! Everyday Annoyances, Early Stage Doubts, and Whether Or Not White Lies Equal Red Flags
Show Details1hr 20min
Bachelor In Paradise Recap: Ep 10 | Ivan-Gate, Conspiracy Theories, and Memory Lanes
Show Details1hr 23min
LOVE FEST! Jasmine Lorimer & Eric Johnson on Italian Accents and Love Languages
Show Details1hr 32min
Bachelor In Paradise Recap: Ep 9 | Couples Get Serious As A *Literal* Storm Brews
Show Details1hr 12min
My Boyfriend Just Can't Get It Right With Gifts—Help!
Show Details59min 36s
Bachelor In Paradise Recap: Ep 8 | Comeuppance, Universal Hypocrisy, and Palate Cleanser Dr. Joe
Show Details1hr 16min
It's Our 1-Year Anniversary! A Special Q&A For Our Listeners, The Shandies!
Show Details1hr 10min
Bachelor In Paradise Recap: Ep 7 | A VIP Party, Chris, & The Betrayals Continue
Show Details1hr 7min
Bachelor In Paradise Recap: Ep 6 | Brendan & Pieper, Paradise's Bonnie & Clyde
Show Details1hr 8min
Q&A! Fairytale Fantasies, Going Backwards, and How Many Friends With Exes Is Too Many?
Show Details1hr 11min
Bachelor In Paradise Recap: Ep 5 | Becca Kufrin, Jewelry, and A "Strongest Couple" No More
Show Details54min 23s
Bachelor In Paradise Recap: Ep 4 | Strawberry Kisses, Betrayal, and Paradise "Implodes"
Show Details1hr 6min
LOVE FEST! Chatty Broads' Jess and Evan Ambrose on Growing Together and Adapting To Parenthood
Show Details1hr 29min
Bachelor In Paradise Recap: Ep 3 | Lance Bass, Thomas, and The Police Department
Show Details46min 24s
Bachelor In Paradise Recap: Ep 2 | Cat 4 Demi, Pot Meet Kettle, and The Value Of A Rose
Show Details47min 1s
Our Meeting Story Feels Serendipitous—But Am I Forcing This? Help!
Show Details1hr 3min
Bachelor In Paradise Recap: Ep 1 | David Spade, Kissing Galore, and "Grocery Store" Joe's Anti-Game
Show Details50min 10s
How To Attract The Relationship You Want with Tracy McMillan
Show Details1hr 18min
Bachelorette Recap: Finale | Terse Well Wishes, Aunt Lindsay, & A New Bachelor Nation Couple
Show Details1hr 31min
Q&A! Relationship Nostalgia, Decoding FWB Situations, and Coulda Woulda Shoulda
Show Details1hr 18min
Bachelorette Recap: Ep 9 | Greg, Greg, and More Greg (Plus Our Predictions!)
Show Details1hr 32min
LOVE FEST! Nick Viall & Natalie Joy on How They Met and Building Trust
Show Details1hr 34min
Bachelorette Recap: Ep 8 | Michael, Tear Analysis, and Men Tell All
Show Details1hr 8min
My Boyfriend's Close Girl Friend Doesn't Like Me! Help!
Show Details56min 30s
Bachelorette Recap: Ep 7 | Katie’s an Empath, Mike P & His Mom, a Heartfelt Farewell
Show Details1hr 10min
Relationship Astrology: Birth Chart Compatibility & Tarot Reading
Show Details1hr 3min
Bachelorette Recap: Ep 6 | Hunter, "Operation WOWO", and Lose-Lose Situations
Show Details1hr 21min
Q&A! First Love Lasting, Friends or More, & Money Insecurity in Dating
Show Details1hr 33min
Bachelorette Recap: Ep 5 | Party Crasher Blake, Andrew S. 1-on-1, & Hunter
Show Details1hr 7min
LOVE FEST! Katie Morton & James Rowe On Making Long-Distance Work
Show Details1hr 7min
Bachelorette Recap: Episode 4 | Blake Moynes & Bachelor Thomas
Show Details1hr 24min
In Spite Of Multiple "Wrongs", Can He Still Be Mr. Right?
Show Details1hr 11min
Bachelorette Recap: Episode 3 | Right Reasons™ Drama, Nick Viall's Group Date, & Instagram Thomas
Show Details1hr 13min
Demystifying Your Pelvic Health & Secret Tips For More Pleasure ft. Dr. Uchenna Ossai
Show Details1hr 17min
Bachelorette Recap: Episode 2 | Mike's Poem, Aaron vs. Cody, & "Right Reasons" Karl
Show Details1hr 8min
Q&A! Texting Chemistry, He's Just Not That Into You, & The One That Got Away
Show Details1hr 17min
Bachelorette Recap: Episode 1 | First Impressions, Kayshia, & Our Predictions
Show Details1hr 3min
LOVE FEST! Ben Higgins & Jess Clarke Reveal Why Their Relationship Works & Ben's Secret Zookeeper Past
Show Details1hr 16min
My Long-Term Boyfriend Is Unsure About Marriage—How Long Is Too Long To Wait?
Show Details1hr 18min
Nikki Glaser Confesses Crush on Nick Viall, Sliding Into Matt James's DMs & Secrets of Celebrity Dating
Show Details1hr 11min
Q&A! Making the First Move & Rekindling Romance From the Friendzone
Show Details1hr 19min
LOVE FEST! Sydney Lotuaco Reveals How Nick Wehby Slid Into Her DMs & Won Her Heart
Show Details1hr 12min
Did I Miss My Proposal?!
Show Details59min 53s
Confessions of a Reality TV Dating Show Host ft. Mark L. Walberg (Temptation Island)
Show Details1hr 13min
Q&A! Relationship Disillusionment
Show Details1hr 14min
LOVE FEST! Desiree & Chris Siegfried On How Kids Have Impacted Their Relationship
Show Details1hr 13min
I'm Secretly In Love With My Best Friend And Roommate—Help!
Show Details55min 36s
Confessions of a Family and Marriage Therapist ft. LizListens
Show Details1hr 10min
Q&A! He's Everything I Want, But We Don't Share the Same Sense of Humor—Help!
Show Details1hr 5min
LOVE FEST! Kaitlyn Bristowe & Jason Tartick Discuss Starting in the Friendzone
Show Details1hr 20min
I Don't Yearn For My Partner When We're Apart—Is This A Bad Sign?!
Show Details1hr 4min
Confessions of a Sex Therapist ft. Dr. Lauren Fogel Mersy
Show Details1hr 19min
Q&A! Staying Connected with Exes on Social Media & Second Chances
Show Details1hr 22min
LOVE FEST! Ashley Iaconetti & Jared Haibon Reveal How Their Love Story Is the Exception to the Rule
Show Details1hr 18min
My Boyfriend and I View COVID Differently—Is This A Deal Breaker?!
Show Details1hr 19min
Navigating Jealousy in Relationships & Exploring Non-Monogamy ft. Janet W. Hardy
Show Details1hr 7min
Q&A! Keeping the Chemistry Alive & Navigating Unhappy Marriages
Show Details1hr 13min
LOVE FEST! Derek Peth & Saffron Vadher Talk Love At First Sight
Show Details1hr 19min
Did My Date Fake Sickness to Abruptly Leave Our Date?!
Show Details1hr 2min
Our Proposal Story
Show Details1hr 4min
Q&A! Compromising for Relationships & Leaving Lost Causes
Show Details1hr 13min
LOVE FEST! Rachel Lindsay & Bryan Abasolo Address Marriage Rumors and Cat Plates
Show Details1hr 17min
We're at an Emotional Stalemate—Should We Break Up?
Show Details1hr 8min
The Do's and Don'ts of Managing Finances As A Couple
Show Details57min 25s
Q&A! Dating Leagues & Yellow Flags
Show Details1hr 6min
LOVE FEST! Lesley Anne Murphy & Alex Kavanagh Talk Moving, Pregnancy, and Their Drone Love Story
Show Details1hr
Should I Tell My Ex Lover's Girlfriend About Our Secret Affair?
Show Details59min 18s
Confessions of a Divorced Man in His 40's ft. Comedian Dov Davidoff
Show Details59min 44s
Q&A! My Boyfriend Is Following His Ex's OnlyFans—Is This Borderline Cheating?!
Show Details1hr 19min
LOVE FEST! Astrid Loch & Kevin Wendt Talk Meeting on Bachelor in Paradise & Dominos Love
Show Details1hr 8min
I've Never Been in a Meaningful Relationship—Help!
Show Details1hr 14min
Enneagram Types in Relationships ft. Certified Enneagram Coach Steph Barron Hall
Show Details1hr 6min
Q&A! Dating Younger Men, Navigating Breakups, & Zombie Apocalypse Sex
Show Details57min 34s
LOVE FEST! Vanessa Grimaldi & Joshua Wolfe Chat Poop & Poutine
Show Details59min 59s
My Date Doesn't Ask Questions — Is it Him Or Me?
Show Details58min 23s
Can You Remain Friends With an Ex? ft. Andy's Ex-Fiancée
Show Details1hr 16min
Q&A! Prenups, Defining the Relationship, & Playing It Cool
Show Details55min 38s
LOVE FEST! Caila Quinn & Nick Burrello Talk Relationship Hurdles & Hobbit Feet
Show Details1hr 3min
My Real-Life "The Bachelor" Dating Scenario
Show Details1hr 4min
Welcome to Dear Shandy & How We Met
Show Details1hr 1min