The Harder Forgiveness - A Continued Conversation with Monique

What happens when the person you love is also the person whose choices have hurt, disappointed, or challenged you?

In this episode of The Healing Nexus, Lisa sits down with Monique Tula for a conversation that began somewhere different than the guest conversations that came before it. After reading Lisa’s Substack essay, The Harder Forgiveness, Monique found herself thinking about her own relationship with her adult son—and asked if they could talk about that instead.

What follows is an honest conversation about motherhood, forgiveness, disappointment, responsibility, and the complicated work of loving our children while allowing their lives to belong to them. Lisa and Monique explore what happens when a mother stops measuring herself by the choices her child makes, and what it might mean to separate his story from her own without separating herself from the love she still carries.

This is a conversation about seeing our children as fully human—and offering ourselves that same grace.