Tune in for quick, powerful insights from the world’s top relationship experts and master the art of connection in just minutes a week. In bite-sized episodes, you’ll learn practical strategies for improving your relationships with partners, family, friends, colleagues, and yourself. We believe relational skills aren&#39;t a luxury—they&#39;re essential—and we&#39;re here to make transformative relationship wisdom accessible to everyone.

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In this episode, renowned psychologist and relationship expert Dr. Stan Tatkin joins Mark Groves to unpack the emotional landmines couples face when transitioning into parenthood—and how to avoid them. Drawing from decades of research and his new book Baby Bomb, Dr. Tatkin breaks down why so many relationships collapse after a baby arrives, the hidden dynamics that trigger resentment and disconnection, and why co-regulation—not self-reliance—is the key to thriving love. He introduces powerful frameworks like “fighting for two winners” and building relational systems that prioritize interdependence, safety, and repair. Whether you&#39;re a new parent or simply want to future-proof your relationship, this episode is a must-listen blueprint for deeper connection and conscious partnership.Stan&#39;s Links:<ul><li><a href="https://www.instagram.com/drstantatkin/" rel="nofollow">Dr. Tatkin’s Instagram</a></li><li><a href="https://www.thepactinstitute.com/" rel="nofollow">The PACT Institute Website</a></li></ul> CTL Links:<ul><li>Website: <a href="https://cms.megaphone.fm/organizations/16f3d9d6-1fd1-11ee-8cce-d7a864759a05/podcasts/ad852daa-0b48-11f0-b007-239551db01bf/episodes/7d09ae1c-0e59-11f0-9ca2-4391c4dba273/www.createthelove.com" rel="nofollow">www.createthelove.com</a></li><li>Courses: <a href="http://www.createthelove.com/courses" rel="nofollow">www.createthelove.com/courses</a></li><li>Where are you stuck in love? Take the quiz: <a href="https://markgroves.involve.me/where-are-you-stuck-in-love-quiz" rel="nofollow">https://markgroves.involve.me/where-are-you-stuck-in-love-quiz</a> </li><li>Mark&#39;s Book: <a href="https://cms.megaphone.fm/organizations/16f3d9d6-1fd1-11ee-8cce-d7a864759a05/podcasts/ad852daa-0b48-11f0-b007-239551db01bf/episodes/7d09ae1c-0e59-11f0-9ca2-4391c4dba273/www.markgroves.com/book" rel="nofollow">www.markgroves.com/book</a></li><li>Get our Relationship Toolkit: How to Thrive in Your Relationships: <a href="https://markgroves.com/relationshipmastery" rel="nofollow">https://markgroves.com/relationshipmastery</a></li></ul>

In this episode, renowned psychologist and relationship expert Dr. Stan Tatkin joins Mark Groves to unpack the emotional landmines couples face when transitioning into parenthood—and how to avoid them.

#015: The Biggest Mistake Couples Make After Having Kids - Dr. Stan Tatkin

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In this solo episode, Mark Groves dives deep into the misunderstood fear of commitment—revealing it’s not about avoiding partnership, but about distrusting love and our capacity to hold it. With raw personal stories and powerful reframes, he unpacks the emotional roots of avoidance, the illusion of safety in certainty, and why real commitment begins with unwavering devotion to self. This episode is a call to stop shrinking for love and start choosing relationships that elevate, challenge, and liberate you. If you’ve ever questioned whether love is safe, or whether you can trust yourself in it, this one is a must-listen. Website: <a href="https://cms.megaphone.fm/organizations/16f3d9d6-1fd1-11ee-8cce-d7a864759a05/podcasts/ad852daa-0b48-11f0-b007-239551db01bf/episodes/7d09ae1c-0e59-11f0-9ca2-4391c4dba273/www.createthelove.com" rel="nofollow">www.createthelove.com</a>Courses: <a href="http://www.createthelove.com/courses" rel="nofollow">www.createthelove.com/courses</a>Where are you stuck in love? Take the quiz: <a href="https://markgroves.involve.me/where-are-you-stuck-in-love-quiz" rel="nofollow">https://markgroves.involve.me/where-are-you-stuck-in-love-quiz</a> Mark&#39;s Book: <a href="https://cms.megaphone.fm/organizations/16f3d9d6-1fd1-11ee-8cce-d7a864759a05/podcasts/ad852daa-0b48-11f0-b007-239551db01bf/episodes/7d09ae1c-0e59-11f0-9ca2-4391c4dba273/www.markgroves.com/book" rel="nofollow">www.markgroves.com/book</a>Mark&#39;s Substack: <a href="https://substack.com/@markgroves" rel="nofollow">https://substack.com/@markgroves</a>Get our Relationship Toolkit: How to Thrive in Your Relationships: <a href="https://markgroves.com/relationshipmastery" rel="nofollow">https://markgroves.com/relationshipmastery</a>

In this solo episode, Mark Groves dives deep into the misunderstood fear of commitment—revealing it’s not about avoiding partnership, but about distrusting love and our capacity to hold it.

#014: Love Is Who You Are, Not What You Seek

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In this episode, Mark Groves and Rachel Fiori explore the sacred intersection of the human and the divine. From the idea that our souls choose our families for the purpose of growth, to the reframing of trauma as a curriculum for transformation, this conversation invites you into a new level of self-responsibility. Unpack the power of breaking life-long patterns—not just by becoming aware of them, but by taking immediate, aligned action. Authentic healing isn’t a feel-good bypass or a quick fix. It’s the gritty, courageous work of facing your pain with open eyes and an open heart. It’s warrior work.Rachel Fiori is the founder &amp; CEO of Masters of Self University. With a Masters of Science in Occupational Therapy (specializing in mental, emotional, &amp; behavioral health), a BA in Business/Corporate Communications, and through the use of her psychic abilities of spiritual healing and vibrational medicine, Rachel has been healing clients at the soul level for over twenty-five years. Rachel&#39;s Links:<ul><li>Website | <a href="https://www.mastersofselfuniversity.com" rel="nofollow">https://www.mastersofselfuniversity.com</a></li><li>Instagram | <a href="https://www.instagram.com/rachel_fiori/" rel="nofollow">@rachel_fiori</a></li><li>TikTok | <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@rachel_fiori" rel="nofollow">@rachel_fiori</a></li></ul> CTL Links:<ul><li>Website: <a href="https://cms.megaphone.fm/organizations/16f3d9d6-1fd1-11ee-8cce-d7a864759a05/podcasts/ad852daa-0b48-11f0-b007-239551db01bf/episodes/7d09ae1c-0e59-11f0-9ca2-4391c4dba273/www.createthelove.com" rel="nofollow">www.createthelove.com</a></li><li>Courses: <a href="http://www.createthelove.com/courses" rel="nofollow">www.createthelove.com/courses</a></li><li>Where are you stuck in love? Take the quiz: <a href="https://markgroves.involve.me/where-are-you-stuck-in-love-quiz" rel="nofollow">https://markgroves.involve.me/where-are-you-stuck-in-love-quiz</a> </li><li>Mark&#39;s Book: <a href="https://cms.megaphone.fm/organizations/16f3d9d6-1fd1-11ee-8cce-d7a864759a05/podcasts/ad852daa-0b48-11f0-b007-239551db01bf/episodes/7d09ae1c-0e59-11f0-9ca2-4391c4dba273/www.markgroves.com/book" rel="nofollow">www.markgroves.com/book</a></li><li>How are your Nervous System + Attachment Style connected? <a href="https://markgroves.com/connectthedots" rel="nofollow">https://markgroves.com/connectthedots</a></li></ul>

No one’s coming to save you—Rachel Fiori shows you how to save yourself.

#013: Your Trigger is Your Medicine with Rachel Fiori

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In this refreshingly honest conversation, Mark Groves and Therapy Jeff rip the shame out of attachment styles and self-awareness in dating. Jeff doesn’t just normalize your need for reassurance—he commands you to own it, while dismantling the outdated narrative that vulnerability is unattractive. With unapologetic wit, he challenges listeners to recognize their red flags, explore the roots of their emotional patterns, and get radically real about what they need in relationships. If you&#39;ve ever felt &#34;too much&#34; or wondered when it’s okay to ask for clarity, this episode will shift your mindset and invite you to stop performing and start relating. Listen in and redefine what healthy love really looks like.Jeff Guenther is a licensed professional counselor in Portland, Oregon. He’s been a therapist since 2005 and his practice focuses on both couples and individuals. These days, he spends most of his spare time making one-minute videos for TikTok and Instagram, and more in-depth content on Patreon. Consider following him on all the platforms for relationship advice, tips, pep talks and other resources to maximize your mental health.Jeff&#39;s Links: <ul><li>Website | <a href="https://www.therapyjeff.com/" rel="nofollow">therapyjeff.com</a> &amp; <a href="https://www.therapyden.com/" rel="nofollow">therapyden.com</a></li><li>Instagram | <a href="https://www.instagram.com/therapyjeff/" rel="nofollow">@therapyjeff</a></li><li>TikTok | <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@therapyjeff" rel="nofollow">@therapyjeff</a></li><li>Patreon | <a href="https://www.patreon.com/therapyjeff" rel="nofollow">@therapyjeff</a></li></ul> CTL Links: <ul><li>Website: <a href="https://cms.megaphone.fm/organizations/16f3d9d6-1fd1-11ee-8cce-d7a864759a05/podcasts/ad852daa-0b48-11f0-b007-239551db01bf/episodes/7d09ae1c-0e59-11f0-9ca2-4391c4dba273/www.createthelove.com" rel="nofollow">www.createthelove.com</a></li><li>Courses: <a href="http://www.createthelove.com/courses" rel="nofollow">www.createthelove.com/courses</a></li><li>Where are you stuck in love? Take the quiz: <a href="https://markgroves.involve.me/where-are-you-stuck-in-love-quiz" rel="nofollow">https://markgroves.involve.me/where-are-you-stuck-in-love-quiz</a> </li><li>Mark&#39;s Book: <a href="https://cms.megaphone.fm/organizations/16f3d9d6-1fd1-11ee-8cce-d7a864759a05/podcasts/ad852daa-0b48-11f0-b007-239551db01bf/episodes/7d09ae1c-0e59-11f0-9ca2-4391c4dba273/www.markgroves.com/book" rel="nofollow">www.markgroves.com/book</a></li><li>How are your Nervous System + Attachment Style connected? <a href="https://markgroves.com/connectthedots" rel="nofollow">https://markgroves.com/connectthedots</a></li></ul>

Mark Groves and Therapy Jeff rip the shame out of attachment styles and self-awareness in dating.

#012: You’re Not Too Much—You’re Just Asking the Wrong People with Jeff Guenther

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In this episode, Mark is joined by manifestation expert and founder of To Be Magnetic, Lacy Phillips, to disrupt everything you think you know about manifestation. Together, they explore why positive thinking alone doesn&#39;t work, how your subconscious beliefs—often rooted in childhood and relational experiences—block abundance and love, and how to reprogram those blocks using a neuroscience-based method called neural manifestation. With real-life examples and powerful insights on the link between love, money, and self-worth, learn to break free from old patterns, reclaim your innate magnetism, and finally manifest the life your soul is truly calling in.LACY&#39;S LINKS:<ul><li>Website: <a href="https://tobemagnetic.com/" rel="nofollow">https://tobemagnetic.com</a></li><li>The Pathway – Membership: <a href="https://www.howtomanifest.com/p/the-pathway" rel="nofollow">https://www.howtomanifest.com/p/the-pathway</a></li><li>Instagram: <a href="http://instagram.com/tobemagnetic" rel="nofollow">@tobemagnetic</a></li></ul> CTL LINKS:<ul><li>Website: <a href="https://cms.megaphone.fm/organizations/16f3d9d6-1fd1-11ee-8cce-d7a864759a05/podcasts/ad852daa-0b48-11f0-b007-239551db01bf/episodes/7d09ae1c-0e59-11f0-9ca2-4391c4dba273/www.createthelove.com" rel="nofollow">www.createthelove.com</a></li><li>Courses: <a href="http://www.createthelove.com/courses" rel="nofollow">www.createthelove.com/courses</a></li><li>Where are you stuck in love? Take the quiz: <a href="https://markgroves.involve.me/where-are-you-stuck-in-love-quiz" rel="nofollow">https://markgroves.involve.me/where-are-you-stuck-in-love-quiz</a> </li><li>Mark&#39;s Book: <a href="https://cms.megaphone.fm/organizations/16f3d9d6-1fd1-11ee-8cce-d7a864759a05/podcasts/ad852daa-0b48-11f0-b007-239551db01bf/episodes/7d09ae1c-0e59-11f0-9ca2-4391c4dba273/www.markgroves.com/book" rel="nofollow">www.markgroves.com/book</a></li><li>Get our Relationship Toolkit: How to Thrive in Your Relationships: <a href="https://markgroves.com/relationshipmastery" rel="nofollow">https://markgroves.com/relationshipmastery</a></li><li>How are your Nervous System + Attachment Style connected? <a href="https://markgroves.com/connectthedots" rel="nofollow">https://markgroves.com/connectthedots</a></li></ul>

In this episode, Mark is joined by manifestation expert and founder of To Be Magnetic, Lacy Phillips, to disrupt everything you think you know about manifestation

#011: Manifestation Without the Bullsh*t with Lacy Phillips

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In this episode, I sit down with the legendary Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt—renowned relationship experts and creators of Imago Dialogue—for a powerful conversation on the art of conscious communication. We explore how to transform conflict into connection, why structure is essential for relational safety, and how the practice of asking for permission before speaking can radically change the dynamics of a relationship. Drawing from their latest book, How to Talk to Anyone About Anything, Harville and Helen demonstrate live how structured dialogue can retrain our nervous systems and create space for curiosity, empathy, and deep understanding. Whether you’re in a relationship or seeking better communication in every part of your life, this episode is packed with paradigm-shifting insights you won’t want to miss. Harville &amp; Helen’s Links: <ul><li><a href="https://markgroves.com/episode/the-couple-who-changed-how-i-relate-lessons-from-the-godparents-of-love" rel="nofollow">Previous Episode</a> </li><li> <a href="https://www.instagram.com/harvilleandhelen/" rel="nofollow">Instagram</a> </li><li> <a href="https://harvilleandhelen.com/" rel="nofollow">Website</a></li><li> <a href="https://quantumconnections.com/" rel="nofollow">Website | Safe Conversations</a> </li><li> <a href="https://imagorelationships.org/" rel="nofollow">Website | Imago Relationship</a> </li><li>Book: <a href="https://harvilleandhelen.com/books/how-to-talk-with-anyone-about-anything/" rel="nofollow">How to Talk with Anyone about Anything</a></li></ul> CTL Links:<ul><li>Website: <a href="https://cms.megaphone.fm/organizations/16f3d9d6-1fd1-11ee-8cce-d7a864759a05/podcasts/ad852daa-0b48-11f0-b007-239551db01bf/episodes/7d09ae1c-0e59-11f0-9ca2-4391c4dba273/www.createthelove.com" rel="nofollow">www.createthelove.com</a></li><li>Mark&#39;s Book: <a href="https://cms.megaphone.fm/organizations/16f3d9d6-1fd1-11ee-8cce-d7a864759a05/podcasts/ad852daa-0b48-11f0-b007-239551db01bf/episodes/7d09ae1c-0e59-11f0-9ca2-4391c4dba273/www.markgroves.com/book" rel="nofollow">www.markgroves.com/book</a></li><li>Get our Relationship Toolkit: How to Thrive in Your Relationships: <a href="https://markgroves.com/relationshipmastery" rel="nofollow">https://markgroves.com/relationshipmastery</a></li><li>How to Stop Chasing Unavailable People: <a href="https://markgroves.com/stopchasing" rel="nofollow">https://markgroves.com/stopchasing</a></li></ul>

In this episode, I sit down with the legendary Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt—renowned relationship experts and creators of Imago Dialogue—for a powerful conversation on the art of conscious communication.

#010: How Structured Dialogue Can Heal Your Relationship With Harville Hendrix and Helen LaKelly Hunt

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In this episode of the Create the Love podcast, Mark sits down with relationship coach Silvy Khoucasian to explore the transformative power of attachment theory in deepening our relational awareness. Silvy breaks down the four core attachment styles and explains how early caregiving experiences shape the way we connect, communicate, and repair in adult relationships. She shares how greater self-awareness, empathy, and mutual responsibility can shift us toward secure, fulfilling bonds—whether in romance or friendship. If you’ve ever struggled with intimacy, conflict, or emotional patterns, this conversation offers a compassionate roadmap to healthier, more conscious relationships.<h6> </h6>Silvy Khoucasian is a relationship coach and writer with a Master’s in Psychology (Marriage &amp; Family Therapy), known for her work on boundaries, attachment, and self-awareness. Drawing from over a decade of experience, she helps individuals create healthier relationships through coaching, and courses.Silvy&#39;s Links: Website: www.silvykhoucasian.comInstagram: www.instagram.com/silvykhoucasian/ CTL Links: Website: <a href="https://cms.megaphone.fm/organizations/16f3d9d6-1fd1-11ee-8cce-d7a864759a05/podcasts/ad852daa-0b48-11f0-b007-239551db01bf/episodes/7d09ae1c-0e59-11f0-9ca2-4391c4dba273/www.createthelove.com" rel="nofollow">www.createthelove.com</a>Mark&#39;s Book: <a href="https://cms.megaphone.fm/organizations/16f3d9d6-1fd1-11ee-8cce-d7a864759a05/podcasts/ad852daa-0b48-11f0-b007-239551db01bf/episodes/7d09ae1c-0e59-11f0-9ca2-4391c4dba273/www.markgroves.com/book" rel="nofollow">www.markgroves.com/book</a>How are your Nervous System + Attachment Style connected? <a href="https://markgroves.com/connectthedots" rel="nofollow">https://markgroves.com/connectthedots</a>

this  episode of the Create the Love podcast, Mark sits down with relationship coach Silvy Khoucasian to explore the transformative power of attachment theory in deepening our relational awareness

#009: Attachment Styles Explained With Silvy Khoucasian

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In this powerful solo episode, Mark challenges listeners to break free from people-pleasing, reclaim their identity, and make soul-aligned choices that reflect true self-love. With raw honesty, he explores how relationships can be a mirror for growth and a catalyst for transformation—if we&#39;re willing to choose discomfort over conformity. This is your call to rise, to stand in your truth, and to create the life and love you truly deserve. Links:<ul><li>Website: <a href="https://cms.megaphone.fm/organizations/16f3d9d6-1fd1-11ee-8cce-d7a864759a05/podcasts/ad852daa-0b48-11f0-b007-239551db01bf/episodes/7d09ae1c-0e59-11f0-9ca2-4391c4dba273/www.createthelove.com" rel="nofollow">www.createthelove.com</a></li><li>CTL Community: <a href="https://cms.megaphone.fm/organizations/16f3d9d6-1fd1-11ee-8cce-d7a864759a05/podcasts/ad852daa-0b48-11f0-b007-239551db01bf/episodes/7d09ae1c-0e59-11f0-9ca2-4391c4dba273/www.createthelove.com/community" rel="nofollow">www.createthelove.com/community</a></li><li>Mark&#39;s Book: <a href="https://cms.megaphone.fm/organizations/16f3d9d6-1fd1-11ee-8cce-d7a864759a05/podcasts/ad852daa-0b48-11f0-b007-239551db01bf/episodes/7d09ae1c-0e59-11f0-9ca2-4391c4dba273/www.markgroves.com/book" rel="nofollow">www.markgroves.com/book</a></li><li>How to Stop Chasing Unavailable People: <a href="https://markgroves.com/stopchasing" rel="nofollow">https://markgroves.com/stopchasing</a></li></ul>

In this powerful solo episode Mark challenges listeners to break free from people-pleasing, reclaim their identity, and make soul-aligned choices that reflect true self-love

#008: Solo - Reclaim Yourself: How to Stop People-Pleasing and Start Choosing You

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In this episode, Mark sits down with psychotherapist and author Terri Cole to dissect the misunderstood concept of codependency—specifically the overlooked phenomenon of high-functioning codependency. With raw honesty and clinical insight, Terri challenges listeners to reconsider their own behaviors, revealing how being overly invested in others’ emotions, choices, and outcomes can mask a covert quest for control rooted in childhood survival strategies. Whether you’re constantly offering unsolicited advice or excusing toxic behavior, this conversation unpacks how self-abandonment and adaptive dysfunctions silently erode our capacity for intimacy. Prepare to be called in—and called out. Terri&#39;s Links:<ul><li>Terri’s Book: <a href="https://hfcbook.com/" rel="nofollow">https://hfcbook.com/</a> </li><li>Terri’s Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/terricole/" rel="nofollow">https://www.instagram.com/terricole/</a> </li><li>Terri’s Website: <a href="https://www.terricole.com/" rel="nofollow">https://www.terricole.com/</a> </li><li>Terri &amp; Mark’s Crushing Codependency Course: <a href="https://crushcodependency.com/mark" rel="nofollow">https://crushcodependency.com/mark</a> </li></ul> CTL Links:<ul><li>Website: <a href="https://cms.megaphone.fm/organizations/16f3d9d6-1fd1-11ee-8cce-d7a864759a05/podcasts/ad852daa-0b48-11f0-b007-239551db01bf/episodes/7d09ae1c-0e59-11f0-9ca2-4391c4dba273/www.createthelove.com" rel="nofollow">www.createthelove.com</a></li><li>CTL Community: <a href="https://cms.megaphone.fm/organizations/16f3d9d6-1fd1-11ee-8cce-d7a864759a05/podcasts/ad852daa-0b48-11f0-b007-239551db01bf/episodes/7d09ae1c-0e59-11f0-9ca2-4391c4dba273/www.createthelove.com/community" rel="nofollow">www.createthelove.com/community</a></li><li>Mark&#39;s Book: <a href="https://cms.megaphone.fm/organizations/16f3d9d6-1fd1-11ee-8cce-d7a864759a05/podcasts/ad852daa-0b48-11f0-b007-239551db01bf/episodes/7d09ae1c-0e59-11f0-9ca2-4391c4dba273/www.markgroves.com/book" rel="nofollow">www.markgroves.com/book</a></li><li>Get our Relationship Toolkit: How to Thrive in Your Relationships: <a href="https://markgroves.com/relationshipmastery" rel="nofollow">https://markgroves.com/relationshipmastery</a></li></ul>

In this episode, Mark sits down with psychotherapist and author Terri Cole to dissect the misunderstood concept of codependency—specifically the overlooked phenomenon of high-functioning codependency.

#007: Unmasking High Functioning Codependency with Terri Cole

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In this episode of Create the Love, Mark Groves sits down with Sheleana Aiyana to dig into why we repeat relationship patterns—and how to finally break them. They unpack childhood wounds, attachment styles, and the difference between falling into love and consciously choosing it. If you&#39;ve ever said, &#34;Why do I keep dating the same person?&#34;—this one&#39;s for you.Sheleana Aiyana is the founder of Rising Woman, a growing community of more than 3 million readers. Her training and immersion in couples facilitation, inherited family trauma, family systems, conscious relationship, somatic healing, and plant medicines inform her holistic approach to seeing relationships as a spiritual path. More than 30,000 women in 146 countries have taken her flagship program Becoming the One.<ul><li>Sheleana Aiyana | <a href="https://www.instagram.com/sheleanaaiyana/?hl=en" rel="nofollow">Instagram</a> </li><li>Rising Woman | <a href="https://www.instagram.com/risingwoman/" rel="nofollow">Instagram</a></li><li>Rising Woman | <a href="https://risingwoman.com/" rel="nofollow">Website</a></li><li><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Becoming-One-Transform-Relationship-Patterns/dp/1797211676" rel="nofollow">Becoming the One: Heal Your Past, Transform Your Relationship Patterns, and Come Home to Yourself</a></li></ul> CTL Links:<ul><li>Website: <a href="https://cms.megaphone.fm/organizations/16f3d9d6-1fd1-11ee-8cce-d7a864759a05/podcasts/ad852daa-0b48-11f0-b007-239551db01bf/episodes/7d09ae1c-0e59-11f0-9ca2-4391c4dba273/www.createthelove.com" rel="nofollow">www.createthelove.com</a></li><li>CTL Community: <a href="https://cms.megaphone.fm/organizations/16f3d9d6-1fd1-11ee-8cce-d7a864759a05/podcasts/ad852daa-0b48-11f0-b007-239551db01bf/episodes/7d09ae1c-0e59-11f0-9ca2-4391c4dba273/www.createthelove.com/community" rel="nofollow">www.createthelove.com/community</a></li><li>Mark&#39;s Book: <a href="https://cms.megaphone.fm/organizations/16f3d9d6-1fd1-11ee-8cce-d7a864759a05/podcasts/ad852daa-0b48-11f0-b007-239551db01bf/episodes/7d09ae1c-0e59-11f0-9ca2-4391c4dba273/www.markgroves.com/book" rel="nofollow">www.markgroves.com/book</a></li><li>Get our Relationship Toolkit: How to Thrive in Your Relationships: <a href="https://markgroves.com/relationshipmastery" rel="nofollow">https://markgroves.com/relationshipmastery</a></li></ul>

#006: From Fairy Tales to Reality: Navigating Relationship Truths with Sheleana Aiyana

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In this solo episode, I sit down with real-life couple and therapists Jon Kim and Vanessa Bennett to unpack the messy, beautiful reality of modern relationships. From rocky beginnings and one-foot-out-the-door moments to learning how to see beauty in our differences, we explore what it takes to truly do life with someone—not at or around them. We talk about avoidant tendencies, attachment triggers, and how old wounds show up in conflict, all while keeping it raw, real, and deeply human. Whether you’re single, dating, or deep in partnership, this episode will have you reflecting hard and laughing a little too.Links:John&#39;s Instagram: www.instagram.com/theangrytherapistVanessa&#39;s Instagram: www.instagram.com/vanessasbennettCTL Links:Website: <a href="https://cms.megaphone.fm/organizations/16f3d9d6-1fd1-11ee-8cce-d7a864759a05/podcasts/ad852daa-0b48-11f0-b007-239551db01bf/episodes/7d09ae1c-0e59-11f0-9ca2-4391c4dba273/www.createthelove.com" rel="nofollow">www.createthelove.com</a>CTL Community: <a href="https://cms.megaphone.fm/organizations/16f3d9d6-1fd1-11ee-8cce-d7a864759a05/podcasts/ad852daa-0b48-11f0-b007-239551db01bf/episodes/7d09ae1c-0e59-11f0-9ca2-4391c4dba273/www.createthelove.com/community" rel="nofollow">www.createthelove.com/community</a>Mark&#39;s Book: <a href="https://cms.megaphone.fm/organizations/16f3d9d6-1fd1-11ee-8cce-d7a864759a05/podcasts/ad852daa-0b48-11f0-b007-239551db01bf/episodes/7d09ae1c-0e59-11f0-9ca2-4391c4dba273/www.markgroves.com/book" rel="nofollow">www.markgroves.com/book</a>Get our Relationship Toolkit: How to Thrive in Your Relationships: <a href="https://markgroves.com/relationshipmastery" rel="nofollow">https://markgroves.com/relationshipmastery</a>—How are your Nervous System + Attachment Style connected? <a href="https://markgroves.com/connectthedots" rel="nofollow">https://markgroves.com/connectthedots</a>

#005: Why We Run From Love—and How to Stop with John Kim and Vanessa Bennett

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In this heart-opening episode of the Create the Love podcast, Mark Groves sits down with Bryan Reeves for a raw, no-holds-barred conversation about modern masculinity, emotional depth, and what it really takes to thrive in a relationship. They unpack the social conditioning that teaches men to suppress the very skills needed for deep connection, and explore the radical idea of choosing your partner—and yourself—every single day. From advocating for conscious endings to reframing relationships as invitations, not obligations, this episode is a soulful call to own your choices, stand in your truth, and create love with intention.Bryan Reeves is a former U.S. Air Force Captain turned renowned relationship coach, author, and speaker who helps men and couples navigate the complexities of modern love with clarity and heart. With a masterful blend of lived experience, emotional wisdom, and grounded insight, Bryan empowers individuals to break free from outdated paradigms of masculinity and create deeply connected, conscious relationships. He’s the author of Choose Her Every Day (Or Leave Her) and the voice behind the Men, This Way podcast, guiding thousands toward more authentic, soulful partnerships.Bryan&#39;s Links:Website: https://bryanreeves.com/Book: https://bryanreeves.com/book/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bryanreevesinsight/CTL Links:Website: <a href="https://cms.megaphone.fm/organizations/16f3d9d6-1fd1-11ee-8cce-d7a864759a05/podcasts/ad852daa-0b48-11f0-b007-239551db01bf/episodes/7d09ae1c-0e59-11f0-9ca2-4391c4dba273/www.createthelove.com" rel="nofollow">www.createthelove.com</a>CTL Community: <a href="https://cms.megaphone.fm/organizations/16f3d9d6-1fd1-11ee-8cce-d7a864759a05/podcasts/ad852daa-0b48-11f0-b007-239551db01bf/episodes/7d09ae1c-0e59-11f0-9ca2-4391c4dba273/www.createthelove.com/community" rel="nofollow">www.createthelove.com/community</a>Mark&#39;s Book: <a href="https://cms.megaphone.fm/organizations/16f3d9d6-1fd1-11ee-8cce-d7a864759a05/podcasts/ad852daa-0b48-11f0-b007-239551db01bf/episodes/7d09ae1c-0e59-11f0-9ca2-4391c4dba273/www.markgroves.com/book" rel="nofollow">www.markgroves.com/book</a>Get our Relationship Toolkit: How to Thrive in Your Relationships: <a href="https://markgroves.com/relationshipmastery" rel="nofollow">https://markgroves.com/relationshipmastery</a>Learn How to Stop Chasing Unavailable People: <a href="https://markgroves.com/stopchasing" rel="nofollow">https://markgroves.com/stopchasing</a>

In this heart-opening episode of the Create the Love podcast, Mark Groves sits down with Bryan Reeves for a raw, no-holds-barred conversation about modern masculinity, emotional depth, and what it really takes to thrive in a relationship.

#004: Redefining Masculinity: Why Men Must Look Deeper With Bryan Reeves

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Mark is joined by Dr. Alexandra Solomon to unpack the power of relational self-awareness and how it transforms romantic connections. They tackle the challenges of receiving feedback—especially for men—and how societal conditioning can block growth and intimacy. Instead of placing blame, they explore how understanding relational dynamics leads to deeper, more authentic bonds. The conversation closes with a powerful reminder: who we are in relationships isn’t fixed, but ever-evolving through connection.For nearly three decades, Dr. Alexandra H. Solomon has become one of today’s most trusted voices in the world of relationships, and her work on Relational Self-Awareness has reached millions of people around the world. Dr. Alexandra is a licensed clinical psychologist who trained, taught, supervised, and worked at The Family Institute at Northwestern University for nearly 30 years. She is the founder of the Institute for Relational Self-Awareness (IRSA) where she maintains a clinical practice with individuals, couples, and adult family systems.Dr. Alexandra&#39;s Links:<ul><li>Website: https://dralexandrasolomon.com/</li><li>Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr.alexandra.solomon/</li><li>Loving Bravely Book: https://a.co/d/19AEUXR</li></ul> Create The Love Links: <ul><li>Website: <a href="https://cms.megaphone.fm/organizations/16f3d9d6-1fd1-11ee-8cce-d7a864759a05/podcasts/ad852daa-0b48-11f0-b007-239551db01bf/episodes/7d09ae1c-0e59-11f0-9ca2-4391c4dba273/www.createthelove.com" rel="nofollow">www.createthelove.com</a></li><li>CTL Community: <a href="https://cms.megaphone.fm/organizations/16f3d9d6-1fd1-11ee-8cce-d7a864759a05/podcasts/ad852daa-0b48-11f0-b007-239551db01bf/episodes/7d09ae1c-0e59-11f0-9ca2-4391c4dba273/www.createthelove.com/community" rel="nofollow">www.createthelove.com/community</a></li><li>Mark&#39;s Book: <a href="https://cms.megaphone.fm/organizations/16f3d9d6-1fd1-11ee-8cce-d7a864759a05/podcasts/ad852daa-0b48-11f0-b007-239551db01bf/episodes/7d09ae1c-0e59-11f0-9ca2-4391c4dba273/www.markgroves.com/book" rel="nofollow">www.markgroves.com/book</a></li><li>Get our Relationship Toolkit: How to Thrive in Your Relationships: <a href="https://markgroves.com/relationshipmastery" rel="nofollow">https://markgroves.com/relationshipmastery</a></li></ul>

Mark is joined by Dr. Alexandra Solomon to unpack the power of relational self-awareness and how it transforms romantic connections.

#003: Shifting Blame to Bravery: Dr. Alexandra Solomon on Relational Self-Awareness

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In this episode, Mark Groves and Sarah Baldwin dive into how attachment theory and childhood experiences shape our adult relationships. They explore why we’re drawn to emotionally unavailable partners, how early neglect wires our nervous system, and why these patterns aren’t flaws—but protective mechanisms. Sarah Baldwin is a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner and trauma-trained Life Coach specializing in trauma, attachment dynamics, and nervous system health. Known for her approachable teaching style, Sarah helps individuals understand how early experiences shape adult attachment patterns, influencing emotional responses and relational behaviors. Sarah Baldwin&#39;s Links:<ul><li>Sarah’s <a href="https://www.instagram.com/sarahbcoaching/" rel="nofollow">Instagram </a></li><li>Sarah’s <a href="https://www.sarahbaldwincoaching.com/" rel="nofollow">Website </a></li></ul>Create The Love Links:<ul><li>Website: <a href="https://cms.megaphone.fm/organizations/16f3d9d6-1fd1-11ee-8cce-d7a864759a05/podcasts/ad852daa-0b48-11f0-b007-239551db01bf/episodes/7d09ae1c-0e59-11f0-9ca2-4391c4dba273/www.createthelove.com" rel="nofollow">www.createthelove.com</a></li><li>CTL Community: <a href="https://cms.megaphone.fm/organizations/16f3d9d6-1fd1-11ee-8cce-d7a864759a05/podcasts/ad852daa-0b48-11f0-b007-239551db01bf/episodes/7d09ae1c-0e59-11f0-9ca2-4391c4dba273/www.createthelove.com/community" rel="nofollow">www.createthelove.com/community</a></li><li>Mark&#39;s Book: <a href="https://cms.megaphone.fm/organizations/16f3d9d6-1fd1-11ee-8cce-d7a864759a05/podcasts/ad852daa-0b48-11f0-b007-239551db01bf/episodes/7d09ae1c-0e59-11f0-9ca2-4391c4dba273/www.markgroves.com/book" rel="nofollow">www.markgroves.com/book</a></li><li>How are your Nervous System + Attachment Style connected? Get our guide: <a href="https://markgroves.com/connectthedots" rel="nofollow">https://markgroves.com/connectthedots</a></li></ul>

In this episode, Mark Groves and Sarah Baldwin dive into how attachment theory and childhood experiences shape our adult relationships.

#002: Navigating Love: Sarah Baldwin on Attachment Theory & Relationship Patterns

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Embark on a journey of relational transformation with Mark Groves in the inaugural episode of the &#34;Create the Love&#34; podcast. Mark, a passionate advocate for relationship education, and founder of Relational Wellness Company, &#34;Create The Love,&#34; introduces listeners to the profound impact that mastering the art of relating can have on overall life quality. With a focus on romantic relationships, he reveals how these connections serve as mirrors, reflecting personal growth areas and opportunities for healing. This episode sets the stage for a podcast dedicated to equipping you with the tools to enhance your relationships, regardless of your past experiences. Welcome, to the Create The Love Podcast! We are so glad you&#39;re here. Links:Website: <a href="https://cms.megaphone.fm/organizations/16f3d9d6-1fd1-11ee-8cce-d7a864759a05/podcasts/ad852daa-0b48-11f0-b007-239551db01bf/episodes/7d09ae1c-0e59-11f0-9ca2-4391c4dba273/www.createthelove.com" rel="nofollow">www.createthelove.com</a>CTL Community: <a href="https://cms.megaphone.fm/organizations/16f3d9d6-1fd1-11ee-8cce-d7a864759a05/podcasts/ad852daa-0b48-11f0-b007-239551db01bf/episodes/7d09ae1c-0e59-11f0-9ca2-4391c4dba273/www.createthelove.com/community" rel="nofollow">www.createthelove.com/community</a>Mark&#39;s Book: <a href="https://cms.megaphone.fm/organizations/16f3d9d6-1fd1-11ee-8cce-d7a864759a05/podcasts/ad852daa-0b48-11f0-b007-239551db01bf/episodes/7d09ae1c-0e59-11f0-9ca2-4391c4dba273/www.markgroves.com/book" rel="nofollow">www.markgroves.com/book</a>Get our Relationship Toolkit: How to Thrive in Your Relationships: <a href="https://markgroves.com/relationshipmastery" rel="nofollow">https://markgroves.com/relationshipmastery</a>

Embark on a journey of relational transformation with Mark Groves in the inaugural episode of the "Create the Love" podcast.

#001: Welcome To The Create The Love Podcast

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Welcome to the Create The Love Podcast, hosted by Mark Groves. Expect weekly &#34;bite sized&#34; relationship content from the greatest Relationship Teachers of all time.

Create The Love Podcast: Trailer

Quick Insights for Lasting Love

Tune in for quick, powerful insights from the world’s top relationship experts and master the art of connection in just minutes a week. In bite-sized episodes, you’ll learn practical strategies for improving your relationships with partners, family, friends, colleagues, and yourself. We believe relational skills aren't a luxury—they're essential—and we're here to make transformative relationship wisdom accessible to everyone.