#23 Learning to raise your standards for yourself interpersonally and professionally with Lucia DiVieste
25m | Jul 7, 2021Lucia Bio
Lucia is the face behind Be Brave Psychotherapy. She specializes in using dance, movement and drama therapy to help women connect their thoughts and beliefs to their physical expressions. As an expert in the mental health challenges of anxiety and depression, Lucia helps her clients to embrace and walk with fear, especially those fears and beliefs that keep women stuck in smaller roles with lower expectations for themselves.
Tell us about how you got started
- Lucia has been in Psychotherapy for 14 years now.
- When her son was born, she decided to start her own practice so that she could spend more time with her kids.
- After her daughter was born, she experienced some major mental health issues for herself.
- She had to admit that she needed some help. This was especially difficult as a Psychotherapist.
- She also had to admit that she had some OCD tendencies.
- She went to see an OCD specialist, and things are starting to get better, but it’s a lifelong journey.
- Fear can block us from trying new things. A common excuse is: “I don’t have time,” but excuses are just masked fear.
Can you give an example of dance, movement therapy?
- Dance, movement therapy can sound scary, but I usually start slow.
- Self awareness in body feelings and sensations can be very helpful.
- I’ll have them say verbally what’s happening in their bodies.
- From there, we work on power poses and posture.
- Emotional feelings are connected with posture and poses.
- Next, I’ll ask questions and have them pay attention to their bodies as they have emotional responses.
How can women’s roles create limiting beliefs?
- As children, we base our feelings about ourselves on how we perceive our parents and other adults feel about us.
- As we grow up, this expands to society.
- We end up being what we’ve been defined as.
- We are “wrapped” in a bubble wrap of our family’s and societies’ expectations.
- Sometimes we can lower our standards to meet what we believe is expected of us.
How to Embrace Fears
- Many of my clients have fears regarding setting boundaries.
- Don’t go from 0 to 60. Instead, take baby steps. Do something small.
- Visualizations and practice can really help with that.
- As we expose ourselves to anxiety, it will raise and raise, but then it will start to come down.
- Most of the time we won’t let ourselves feel anxiety to the point of it coming down.
- In order to overcome anxieties, we need to practice feeling it.
How can we raise our standards for ourselves
- This can be scary because we’re changing what others perceive as who we are.
- Pay attention to how people treat you. Some people will accept changes, and others will push back.
- Don’t just accept what you’ve been given. Instead, look at your life and design what you want.
Links
- Lucia’s Webstie: https://bebravewomen.com
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