#139 When Life Doesn't Go According to Plan

No matter how much we plan, prepare, and work hard, life doesn't always go the way we expect. Trust me...I know.

In today's episode, I'm sharing a lesson I'm currently learning in real time. Recently, something didn't work out the way I hoped, and I found myself frustrated, disappointed, and questioning everything. Whether you've been rejected from a job, didn't get the internship, failed a test, missed a goal, or simply watched your plans fall apart, this episode is for you.

We'll talk about:

• Why you can do everything "right" and still not get the outcome you wanted
• The importance of feeling your emotions instead of suppressing them
• Why failure isn't a reflection of your worth
• How to stop letting fear of other people's opinions control your life
• Finding lessons in life's disappointments
• Learning to surrender when things are outside your control

If you're walking through a season of uncertainty or disappointment, I hope this episode reminds you that you're not alone.

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• Email: beccababblespodcast@gmail.com

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Timestamps:

• 0:16 — Becca introduces the episode and shares a recent disappointing experience
• 0:46 — Why she turns to podcasts during hard moments
• 1:15 — Talking about life not going according to plan
• 1:37 — The pressure Type A personalities feel to plan everything
• 1:55 — The illusion that planning guarantees outcomes
• 2:23 — Examples of plans that can fall apart: school, jobs, relationships, and more
• 3:05 — Reframing disappointment as a lesson or redirection
• 3:27 — The emotions that come after a setback
• 4:16 — Comparing self-doubt and fear of judgment
• 4:45 — Feelings are information, not identity
• 5:57 — Why we question ourselves when things don’t go as planned
• 6:18 — Reframing failure as a speed bump
• 7:09 — Feelings don’t disappear instantly
• 8:48 — “Failing forward” and why that phrase can feel hard to hear
• 9:18 — Failure as life lessons instead of a final verdict
• 10:32 — Questions to ask after a disappointment
• 11:56 — Approaching mistakes with curiosity instead of shame
• 12:44 — Moving forward without fear
• 13:19 — Changing the meaning of failure into a mini lesson
• 14:04 — Surrender, patience, and letting go of attachment to outcomes
• 15:37 — Preparing differently instead of just preparing more
• 16:59 — Relationship patterns and looking at behaviors, not just words
• 18:42 — Taking a break from dating when needed
• 19:40 — Planning is a gift, but flexibility matters
• 20:51 — Making space for unexpected changes
• 21:48 — Becca’s reflections on this year’s uncertainty
• 23:14 — Learning to surrender and keep options open
• 24:49 — Why being too attached to one outcome can wreck your world
• 25:35 — The possibility that something better is ahead
• 26:34 — Letting go of the need for other people’s approval
• 27:26 — Practical steps: feel the emotions first
• 28:57 — Reflect on what can be learned
• 29:27 — Reframe failure as a speed bump
• 30:14 — Keep moving forward
• 30:42 — Journal prompts for reflection
• 31:33 — A personal example: basketball, failure, and what came next
• 33:36 — Final encouragement: you are not a failure, you just hit a speed bump