Ep. 19 Unlocking inner strength: Emotional intelligence vs. reactive behavior

Episode 14
14m | Dec 27, 2023

Join David Henzel and Eduard Brink in the new episode of the “Love Not Fear” Podcast, where they chat about something we've all wondered: is it better to live with emotional intelligence or just cruise through life on autopilot? They delve into the concept of emotional intelligence as the ability to recognize, express, and manage emotions effectively, contrasting it with the ease and potential pitfalls of running life on autopilot. The conversation includes personal anecdotes and practical tips, such as David's experiment of refraining from impulsive purchases and Eduard's insights on confronting fears and discomfort.

They also discuss the importance of impulse control in various aspects of life, from resisting unhealthy snacks to managing emotional reactions. The episode highlights the significance of being in tune with one's values and how this awareness aids in responding appropriately to life's challenges. The duo also dives into the art of empathy, exploring how asking the right questions can deepen our understanding of others. They round off with the idea of "worry time," a practical tip for tackling life's challenges when we're at our best, not when we're overwhelmed.

So, whether you're sipping your morning coffee or winding down after a busy day, tune in to this episode for a friendly, engaging conversation that's sure to leave you with some food for thought!

"Emotionally intelligent people don't try to change and criticize others." Eduard Brink

In Today’s Episode:

  • Emotional intelligence involves being aware, expressing, and managing emotions effectively.
  • Impulse control can be improved by delaying purchases and avoiding triggers.
  • Addressing unresolved issues with others can provide closure and improve relationships.
  • Avoid criticizing and trying to change others; focus on finding solutions instead.
  • Detaching from personal attacks and responding with empathy can defuse conflicts.
  • Implementing single topic meetings and worry time can help manage emotions and improve decision-making.

"Impulse control is a sign of emotional intelligence." David Henzel

Resolve and reconnect:

👉🏻 Take the first step: Reflect on your relationships. Identify where you might have unresolved issues or misunderstandings, particularly with family members or close friends. Acknowledge these loose ends as opportunities for growth and healing.

👉🏻 Reach out with Love: Initiate the conversation. Extend an invitation for a face-to-face meeting, a phone call, or even a simple coffee date. Say something like, "Hey, I've been thinking about our last conversation, and I feel like we left things unresolved. Can we talk about it?"

👉🏻 Act from a place of Love, not fear: Approach these discussions with an open heart and a mindset of love. Let go of any fears or apprehensions about the outcome. Remember, the act of reaching out itself is a powerful gesture of care and consideration.

👉🏻 Lighten your emotional load: Understand that by addressing these issues, you're not just helping to mend relationships, but also unburdening yourself. Picture each resolved issue as removing a weight from your emotional backpack, making your journey through life lighter and more joyful.

And don't forget to share your experiences with us! We'd love to hear how this approach transforms your life. Subscribe, rate, and leave a review to keep the positive ripple going. Visit for more inspiration, and remember, your feedback fuels our mission to spread the message of purpose-driven living. Rock on, and we'll catch you in the next episode. Thank you for being a part of the Love Not Fear podcast community.

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