Scientists estimate that we have between 50,000 to 70,000 thoughts every day. Whenever you think about something, it is a form of self talk. If you believe “Thoughts become Things” then the things we say to ourselves about ourselves eventually determine what we attract for ourselves.Darnell &amp; Traci Self will be co-hosting a new podcast sharing how reshaping our thoughts (SelfTalk) enhanced our relationship with one another and others, our business, our faith and our ability to help others tap into their fullest potential as entrepreneurs, leaders, teachers, coaches, parents, and those who simply want to live a joyful life!So get ready to challenge and overcome self-sabotaging &amp; negative thoughts. There will be lots of laughter but even more lessons as we grow through these podcast episodes together!Be sure to tune in!

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There are 70,000 thoughts we tell ourselves daily shape our self-esteem, relationships, and future success. From transforming &#34;I can&#39;t&#34; into &#34;I&#39;m choosing not to&#34; to recognizing that unforgiveness is like drinking poison while hoping someone else dies, this episode delivers practical homework for shifting from a victim mindset to a driver&#39;s seat mentality. Whether you&#39;re navigating mistakes, grief, or self-doubt, this conversation offers real tools for mental performance and personal growth.As they close out the quarter, Darnell and Tracy share actionable self-talk reframes for common negative patterns—from &#34;I always mess up&#34; to &#34;no one cares about me.&#34; They discuss why normalizing mistakes is essential for growth, how to prioritize what matters most when time feels scarce, and why your emotions are valid even when they&#39;re uncomfortable. This episode is packed with faith-driven wisdom on forgiveness, boundaries, healing, and the power of choosing your words carefully. If you&#39;re ready to elevate your mindset and stop being your own worst enemy, this finale will equip you to talk better to yourself about yourself. Get ready to :<ul><li>Recognize the difference between &#34;I can&#39;t&#34; and &#34;I&#39;m choosing not to&#34;—one strips your power, the other puts you in control of your decisions and direction</li><li>Normalize mistakes by shifting from &#34;I always mess up&#34; to &#34;I sometimes make mistakes, and that&#39;s okay&#34;—growth requires newness, and newness invites imperfection</li><li>Validate your emotions instead of dismissing them—feeling sad, angry, or frustrated is real, and honoring those feelings keeps you from turning bitter or resentful</li></ul>and so much more! Connect With UsInstagramhttps://www.instagram.com/darnell_self Instagramhttps://www.instagram.com/traciself Advertising Inquiries: <a href='https://redcircle.com/brands'>https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

Why "I Can't" Is a Lie: Win At Life With Your Self Talk! | Episode 272

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This conversation goes beyond surface-level encouragement. Darnell and Traci reveal how the inner voice we use to interpret support—or lack of it—shapes our reality. If your self-talk is telling you &#34;nobody supports me,&#34; but you haven&#39;t communicated what support actually means to you, you&#39;re setting yourself up for frustration. Learn how to give yourself grace during setbacks, how to course-correct without expecting overnight results, and why surrounding yourself with the right environments (social support) can provide the emotional and informational fuel you didn&#39;t know you needed.<ul><li>Discover the four types of support—emotional, practical, informational, and social—and why they don&#39;t all come from the same person</li><li>Learn how to communicate what support looks like for you instead of expecting others to read your mind</li><li>Understand why giving yourself grace during slow progress is essential for sustainable personal growth and mental performance</li><li>Explore how social support networks can provide emotional and informational resources you didn&#39;t know you needed</li><li>Recognize the difference between changing your direction quickly and seeing results—and why patience with yourself is non-negotiable</li></ul>and so much more!Connect With UsInstagramhttps://www.instagram.com/darnell_self Instagramhttps://www.instagram.com/traciself Advertising Inquiries: <a href='https://redcircle.com/brands'>https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

Why You Feel Unsupported (Even When People Are Trying to Help You) | Episode 271

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What happens when you’ve done the mindset work, said all the right things to yourself… and life still doesn’t go according to plan?Even with strong self-talk and a positive outlook, life can still bring disappointment, setbacks, and unexpected moments that challenge your perspective. The key isn’t pretending those moments don’t exist. The key is learning how to pivot your mindset when things don’t go your way. Through humor, honesty, and practical wisdom, Darnell and Tracy break down the three habits that help you stay emotionally resilient and maintain a positive mindset—even when circumstances don’t match your expectations. Because the truth is simple: Your self-talk isn’t about avoiding problems.It’s about how you respond when they happen. In This Episode You’ll Learn • Why positive self-talk doesn’t mean everything will go according to plan• How to shift your perspective and find the silver lining in difficult moments• Why acknowledging your emotions is essential for emotional resilience• How expectations can shape the level of disappointment you feel• The importance of seeking support from people who understand your journey• How developing strong self-talk habits helps you bounce back faster from setbacks Life will always bring unexpected moments. But when you train your mind to look for gratitude, acknowledge your emotions, and lean on the right people, you build the resilience needed to keep moving forward. Because the things you say to yourself about yourself will ultimately determine what—and who—you attract into your life. Connect With Us Instagramhttps://www.instagram.com/darnell_self Instagramhttps://www.instagram.com/traciself Advertising Inquiries: <a href='https://redcircle.com/brands'>https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

How to Stay Positive When Life Doesn’t Go Your Way | Episode 270

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What if the biggest mistake people make in life isn’t failure… but never pursuing what they truly wanted?In this episode of the Self Talk Experience Podcast, Darnell Self shares one of the most powerful mindset shifts you can make: learning to control your self-talk so you can live a life aligned with your purpose—not someone else’s expectations.Studies show that the most common regret people express near the end of their lives is not having the courage to live a life true to themselves. Instead, many people follow societal expectations, fear judgment, and delay pursuing the dreams that matter most. Untitled - March 5, 2026Darnell breaks down how your daily internal dialogue shapes your decisions, relationships, and financial outcomes—and how changing your self-talk can help you create a life of purpose, joy, and freedom.If you’ve ever felt stuck between what you truly want and what others expect from you, this episode will challenge you to rethink the voice guiding your life.Because the truth is simple:The life you live will always follow the conversations you have with yourself.<h2>In this episode you’ll learn:</h2>• The #1 regret people have at the end of their lives—and how to avoid it• How your daily self-talk shapes your mindset, goals, and future• The three types of people you should intentionally surround yourself with• Why chasing income can actually support your family values and time freedom• How to stop living according to societal expectations and outside pressure• Why putting yourself first can be the key to building the life you wantYour future is not determined by your circumstances.It’s shaped by the stories you repeatedly tell yourself.Start speaking better things over your life—and watch what begins to change.<h2>Connect with Darnell &amp; Tracy Self</h2>Instagram<a href="https://www.instagram.com/darnell_self" rel="nofollow">https://www.instagram.com/darnell_self</a>Instagram<a href="https://www.instagram.com/traciself" rel="nofollow">https://www.instagram.com/traciself</a> Advertising Inquiries: <a href='https://redcircle.com/brands'>https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

The Courage To Live Life On Your Own Terms | Episode 269

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As you elevate, your language changes. Your standards rise. Your self-talk strengthens. But sometimes the people around you don’t adjust with you. What once felt like humility can slowly turn into shrinking. What once felt like gratitude can turn into ego. And what once felt like confidence can be misinterpreted as arrogance.This episode challenges you to examine your self-talk, your circle, and your posture. Are you growing with gratitude—or drifting into ego? Are you shrinking your dreams to make others comfortable? Or are you standing firm in who you’re becoming?Growth requires balance. Confidence requires awareness. And humility requires memory.In this episode you’ll learn:<ul><li>The real difference between arrogance and confidence.</li><li>Why what people say, feel, and do reflects their reality—not always yours.</li><li>How success can subtly shift your communication if you’re not careful.</li><li>Why remembering where you came from protects your character.</li><li>How journaling hard seasons keeps gratitude alive.</li><li>Why it’s “funny to live in a life you once prayed for.”</li><li>How insecure environments can cause you to tighten your dreams.</li><li>Why shrinking your vision to appease others is a dangerous pattern.</li><li>The importance of staying humble while still thinking big.</li><li>How healthy self-talk protects you from ego and insecurity.</li><li>Why growth sometimes makes others uncomfortable—and that’s okay.</li></ul>You prayed for this level.Don’t sabotage it with the wrong associations or the wrong self-talk.Connect with us on social media<a href="https://www.instagram.com/darnell_self" rel="nofollow">https://www.instagram.com/darnell_self</a><a href="https://www.instagram.com/traciself" rel="nofollow">https://www.instagram.com/traciself</a><a href="https://www.instagram.com/theselftalkexperience/" rel="nofollow">https://www.instagram.com/theselftalkexperience/</a> Advertising Inquiries: <a href='https://redcircle.com/brands'>https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

Don’t Let Success Turn Into Arrogance!  | Episode 268

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In this episode of The Self Talk Experience, Darnell goes solo and shares a powerful reminder: A mission doesn’t need luxury to be powerful.In a culture obsessed with watches, cars, houses, and visible success, it’s easy to believe you need the look before you can lead. But this episode challenges that mindset. Darnell breaks down how clarity of mission, strength of vision, and alignment in self-talk matter far more than material proof.From personal stories about business trips, family sacrifices, and early income growth without flashy symbols, this episode reframes motivation, distraction, philosophy, and long-term legacy. If you’ve ever felt like you had to “have it” before you could build it, this conversation will shift your perspective.In this episode you’ll learn:<ul><li>Why a strong mission is more powerful than luxury.</li><li>How waiting for material success can delay your growth.</li><li>The difference between having goals and having a mission.</li><li>How a clear mission makes decision-making easier.</li><li>Why distractions increase when your vision isn’t defined.</li><li>The traffic “rubbernecking” analogy and how it applies to your life.</li><li>Why motivation comes from alignment, not hype.</li><li>How lifestyle comes from results—and results come from activity.</li><li>The role philosophy plays in shaping attitude and action.</li><li>How shifting your philosophy shifts your entire life trajectory.</li><li>Why sharing your mission attracts the right people.</li><li>How to stop letting society dictate your priorities.</li></ul>A mission doesn’t need luxury to be powerful. https://www.instagram.com/darnell_self https://www.instagram.com/traciself https://www.instagram.com/theselftalkexperience/ Advertising Inquiries: <a href='https://redcircle.com/brands'>https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

Define Your Mission... or Stay Distracted | Episode 267

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Are the people around you speaking to who you were… or who you’re becoming?In this episode of The Self Talk Experience, Darnell and Traci unpack a powerful mindset shift that can change your relationships—and your future.Many of us struggle with self-sabotage not because we lack ability, but because we stay connected to environments that only recognize our past. When people constantly remind you of who you used to be, it becomes harder to step into who you’re meant to become.This conversation dives into:<ul><li>Why self-talk shapes your trajectory</li><li>The difference between being “nice” and being truly kind</li><li>The power of edification (building others up)</li><li>Why tearing down is easy—but building up requires intention</li><li>How communication can revive relationships that matter</li><li>Why you must speak to your own future self—even if no one else does</li></ul>If no one around you is speaking life into the person you’re becoming, start doing it yourself.Because the things you say to yourself about yourself eventually determine what you attract for yourself.https://www.instagram.com/darnell_self https://www.instagram.com/traciself https://www.instagram.com/theselftalkexperience/ Advertising Inquiries: <a href='https://redcircle.com/brands'>https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

Stop Letting People Speak to Your Past | Episode 166

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In this episode of The Self Talk Experience, Darnell and Traci dive into a freeing but often misunderstood truth: Love does not mean limitless access.Many of us equate love with constant availability, saying yes, and always being there—especially for family, friends, and people we care about. But as Darnell and Traci unpack, real love is rooted in mutual respect, healthy boundaries, and season-by-season wisdom. Limiting access isn’t rejection—it’s often necessary to protect your peace, purpose, and ability to show up as your best self.This conversation challenges the guilt that creeps in when access changes, and reframes boundaries as an act of self-leadership, not selfishness. When self-talk is healthy, you can love people deeply without abandoning yourself in the process.In this episode you’ll learn:<ul><li>Why love does not require unlimited access to your time, energy, or presence.</li><li>How redefining love in friendships, family, and business relationships prevents resentment.</li><li>The difference between boundaries (what you need) and rules (what you try to control).</li><li>Why mutual respect should naturally adjust access during different seasons of life.</li><li>How guilt creeps in when self-talk is weak—and how to silence it.</li><li>Why even Jesus limited access while still loving people fully.</li><li>How unlimited access can unintentionally create dependency instead of growth.</li><li>Why rest, solitude, and margin are required to give people your best—not your leftovers.</li><li>How to communicate changing access without damaging relationships.</li><li>Why outgrowing a season doesn’t mean abandoning people—it means honoring purpose.</li></ul>Connect with us on social media<a href="https://www.instagram.com/darnell_self" rel="nofollow">https://www.instagram.com/darnell_self</a><a href="https://www.instagram.com/traciself" rel="nofollow">https://www.instagram.com/traciself</a><a href="https://www.instagram.com/theselftalkexperience/" rel="nofollow">https://www.instagram.com/theselftalkexperience/</a> Advertising Inquiries: <a href='https://redcircle.com/brands'>https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

Love Does Not Mean Limitless Access | Episode 165

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Welcome back to another episode of the Self-Talk Experience with Darnell &amp; Traci Self.In this episode, we’re talking about something that quietly keeps people stuck longer than they realize:Unlearning old narratives — without staying in the same environments that created them.Because here’s the truth:You can change what you believe — but if you don’t change what you’re around, you’ll keep ending up in the same place.This episode is about growth, responsibility, relationships, and what it actually takes to move forward without burning bridges or losing yourself.We get into:<h3>1. Why Awareness Alone Doesn’t Change Your Life</h3>You can unlearn a belief…but if you keep sitting in the same conversations, the same thinking, and the same circles, the old narrative keeps getting reinforced.<h3>2. Identifying the Narratives You’re Living By</h3>Many beliefs around money, work, family, and success weren’t chosen — they were absorbed.If something keeps repeating in your life, it’s time to ask where that story came from.<h3>3. Facts vs. Assumptions</h3>Some things are true.Many things are just repeated assumptions passed down without evidence.Growth requires learning the difference.<h3>4. Social Norms Go Unquestioned</h3>Working long hours for a job is considered normal.Working long hours for your vision gets criticized.Same effort.Different narrative.<h3>5. Growth Brings Uncomfortable Conversations</h3>Not every conversation is “tough” — but growth often brings discomfort.Especially when changing your thinking impacts relationships you care about.<h3>6. Your Circle Reinforces Your Ceiling</h3>Most people in the same circle think the same way, earn similarly, and justify the same limits.Unless someone intentionally shifts their philosophy, the group stays the same.<h3>7. How to Elevate Without Abandoning People</h3>You don’t always have to leave your circle.Sometimes you elevate by:<ul><li>learning in higher-level environments</li><li>bringing that thinking back</li><li>and allowing others to rise with you — if they choose to</li></ul><h3>8. Accountability Keeps You From Slipping Back</h3>Getting out of an old mindset is one thing.Staying out requires accountability, support, and reinforcement.<h3>9. Direction Changes Before Results</h3>Change doesn’t happen overnight.Direction does.Grace is required while growth catches up.<h3>10. Rewriting the Story You Tell Yourself</h3>Your future is shaped by the story you keep replaying.Sometimes growth means rewriting the movie — not denying the past, but seeing how it worked for you. Connect with us on social media https://www.instagram.com/darnell_selfhttps://www.instagram.com/traciselfhttps://www.instagram.com/theselftalkexperience/ Advertising Inquiries: <a href='https://redcircle.com/brands'>https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

Unlearn That Stuff | Episode 164

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“How do you balance it all?”Here&#39;s the truth… balance is overrated.In this episode, we break down why the real key isn’t trying to evenly juggle everything — it’s learning how to prioritize what matters most in the season you’re in, and making sure your priorities actually match what you say you want.The real key is learning how to prioritize the right things in the right season, and making sure your priorities match the life you say you want.In this episode, we discuss:✅ Why “balance” doesn’t work in real life✅ How to prioritize based on seasons✅ What to do when goals and priorities don’t align✅ Why rigid schedules can block growth✅ The difference between family commitments and legacy building✅ How to stop letting guilt and outside voices control you✅ The discipline people never see behind the winsIf this episode challenged you, helped you, or blessed you — make sure you:👍 Like💬 Comment “PRIORITIES”📌 Subscribe for more episodes every Thursday Connect with us on social media https://www.instagram.com/darnell_selfhttps://www.instagram.com/traciselfhttps://www.instagram.com/theselftalkexperience/ Advertising Inquiries: <a href='https://redcircle.com/brands'>https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

Stop Chasing Balance | Episode 163

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In this episode of The Self Talk Experience, Darnell and Traci dive into a game‑changing concept: The Power of One.It’s not just the one action that changes your life—it’s the way that one action makes you feel that starts a chain reaction. When you do the thing you said you would do (even if it’s just a part of it), you begin to build trust with yourself. That self‑trust leads to new standards, new habits, and a new level of life.<h3>In this episode you’ll learn:</h3><ul><li>Why focusing on big numbers and big goals can feel overwhelming—and how breaking them down into one more action makes them doable.</li><li>How small wins (like 50 pushups instead of 500) can shift your mindset and create momentum.</li><li>The power of accountability and how challenges (push‑up challenges, stair climber commitments, etc.) can pull you out of your comfort zone.</li><li>Why your mind looks for evidence to support what it already believes—and how changing your self talk helps you attract more good.</li><li>How to stop speaking in absolutes like “nobody,” “always,” and “never,” and start seeing the truth about your progress.</li><li>The importance of raising your standards—you’re not stuck, your expectations have just grown.</li><li>Real life examples of doing one uncomfortable thing: writing letters to speak up, getting back </li></ul>Connect with us on social media https://www.instagram.com/darnell_selfhttps://www.instagram.com/traciselfhttps://www.instagram.com/theselftalkexperience/ Advertising Inquiries: <a href='https://redcircle.com/brands'>https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

The Power of ONE: The Tiny Wins That Completely Change Your Life | Episode 162

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Welcome back to a brand new season of the Self Talk Experience with Darnell &amp; Traci Self! This first episode of 2026 is all about intentionality, boundaries, honest conversations, and setting yourself up to elevate this year—in your faith, family, finances, health, and relationships. We&#39;ll talk about 1. Why Intentionality Changes EverythingIf you don’t intentionally choose better, you’ll unintentionally default to what’s easy and available—whether that’s food, habits, finances, or relationships.2. The Difference Between Boundaries and RulesBoundaries are about you and how you protect your peace.3. How To Choose what to continue, adjust, or remove in the new year.4. Tough Conversations &amp; Relationship GrowthHow to use planning time to have real, honest conversations about what each person needs.5. Accountability, Habits &amp; ExecutionWhy execution—not just hoping, wishing, and writing goals—will shape your 2026. and so much more! Check Out AMEN WORLDWIDE : https://www.instagram.com/am3nworldwide https://www. Am3nworldwide.com Connect with us on social media https://www.instagram.com/darnell_selfhttps://www.instagram.com/traciselfhttps://www.instagram.com/theselftalkexperience/ Advertising Inquiries: <a href='https://redcircle.com/brands'>https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

Your Habits Won't Change Without This! | Episode 161

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in today&#39;s episode we are going to dive into why it&#39;s not just about knowing what you want to change, but understanding what you are changing towards. We&#39;ll also dive into: <ul><li>Embrace Change Mindfully: Change is inevitable, but it&#39;s crucial to be intentional about what you want to change to. Identify your new goals and make deliberate plans to reach them.</li><li>Trust and Communication in Relationships: Successful pivoting often requires trust in one another, particularly in partnerships. Open communication can facilitate seamless transitions.</li><li>Positive Self Talk: The way you converse with yourself can significantly influence your reality. Focus on affirming your abilities and potential rather than dwelling on past shortcomings.</li><li>Goal Adjustment Is Normal: Goals may change several times through the year and that’s okay. Pivot your plans, just make sure you&#39;re still moving in the right direction towards something that excites you.</li><li>Prepare for Setbacks: Anticipate and plan for unexpected setbacks in your goals, so they don&#39;t derail your progress. Keep motivated by shifting focus to what can be controlled or changed in the situation.</li></ul> and so much more!Connect with us on social media. https://www.instagram.com/darnell_selfhttps://www.instagram.com/traciself https://www.instagram.com/theselftalkexperience/ Advertising Inquiries: <a href='https://redcircle.com/brands'>https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

When Goals Shift, Growth Begins! | Episode 160

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Ever wondered why some people effortlessly conquer challenges while others struggle? Dive in and discover how the power of self-talk can transform your life beyond your wildest dreams! In this episode we learn that it&#39;s not merely about achieving outcomes but evolving into the person capable of sustaining success. Whether you&#39;re seeking to strike professional triumphs or personal peace, it starts with intentional living and reshaping your narrative. We will also dive into : Self-awareness and Growth:The importance of acknowledging your habits, such as procrastination, and working towards becoming the person you aspire to be by understanding and addressing the root causes.<ul><li>Intentional Relationships: The need to building intentional and meaningful relationships with people who inspire and hold you accountable, aiding in personal and professional development.</li><li>Self-talk and Personal Development: Focusing on the power of positive self-talk and how it impacts your daily life and decisions. Practicing self-talk is essential for breaking negative thought patterns and achieving goals.</li><li>Overcoming Fear and Self-sabotage: Strategies for overcoming self-sabotage and fear by having a supportive network and adopting a mindset that challenges and shifts limiting beliefs.</li><li>The &#34;Become&#34; Philosophy: The importance of becoming the person needed to reach desired outcomes, rather than solely focusing on the end result. Success is about evolving into a better version of oneself to maintain and grow beyond achievements.</li></ul> Connect with us on social media. https://www.instagram.com/darnell_selfhttps://www.instagram.com/traciself https://www.instagram.com/theselftalkexperience/ Advertising Inquiries: <a href='https://redcircle.com/brands'>https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

Who Are You ? Discover the Art of Becoming! | Episode 159

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Who do you want to be ? Really? Can the way you talk to yourself change your life&#39;s trajectory? From lighthearted college memories to deep discussions on self-growth, this episode offers insights on transforming your self-talk to create the life you want.Darnell and Traci are going to unpack : <ul><li>Self-Awareness: Understand how self-perception influences your internal dialogue and affects what or whom you bring into your life.</li><li>Envisioning the Future: Discover ways to imagine your future self and shift your current self-talk accordingly.</li><li>Affirmations: Learn the value of being around people who affirm and support your growth.</li><li>Practical Tips: Identify your strengths and areas for improvement, and set goals to enhance your mindset.</li></ul> and so much more!Connect with us on social media. https://www.instagram.com/darnell_selfhttps://www.instagram.com/traciself https://www.instagram.com/theselftalkexperience/ Advertising Inquiries: <a href='https://redcircle.com/brands'>https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

Who Do You Want To Be?  | Episode 158

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Ever wondered why the word &#39;no&#39; might just be your new secret weapon to unlocking unlimited potential in every aspect of your life? Stay tuned to discover how redefining this one word can set the course for your success! Join Darnell Self in this enlightening episode of the Self Talk Experience Podcast as he dives deep into the concept of saying &#34;no&#34; and how it can be a positive force in your life. Have you ever thought about how saying &#34;no&#34; could actually bring you closer to your goals and help you maintain focus on your priorities? Darnell explores the art of self-talk, and how reframing our internal dialogue can create a more intentional and fulfilling life. Learn why &#34;no&#34; is a complete sentence and how it helps prioritize your goals without unnecessary explanations. Discover how self-talk impacts your daily decision-making and personal growth. Understand how &#34;no&#34; can redirect you toward paths aligned with your goals, acting as a personal GPS. How to transform the perceived negativity of &#34;no&#34; into a powerful tool for resilience and goal achievement. and so much more!﻿Connect with us on social media. https://www.instagram.com/darnell_selfhttps://www.instagram.com/traciself https://www.instagram.com/theselftalkexperience/ Advertising Inquiries: <a href='https://redcircle.com/brands'>https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

How Saying 'No' Can Revolutionize Your Life Goals | Episode 157

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What if the change you&#39;ve been avoiding is actually the key to unlocking the future you&#39;ve always dreamed of? Join us as we reveal how altering your self talk can guide you down the road less traveled, leading to the success and happiness you&#39;ve been seeking. We&#39;ll unpack : Embracing Change: Recognize that change is a natural part of life and often necessary for growth. Staying in familiar territory can lead to stagnation. Why Your Perspective Matters: Your viewpoint on change can transform your experience. A positive mindset can make challenging transitions feel like opportunities rather than burdens. Self Talk&#39;s Impact: What you tell yourself about yourself determines your reality. Positive self-talk can lead to improved outcomes and personal development. Fear and Courage: Fear often accompanies change, but it&#39;s also where courage is cultivated. Facing fears can lead to personal strength and growth. Community Influence: Surround yourself with people who practice positive self-talk and embrace change constructively. Their energy and mindset can positively influence your journey. and so much more! Connect with us on social media. https://www.instagram.com/darnell_self https://www.instagram.com/traciself <ul><li>https://www.instagram.com/theselftalkexperience/</li></ul> Advertising Inquiries: <a href='https://redcircle.com/brands'>https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

Why Staying Comfortable Keeps You Stuck | Episode 156

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Sometimes later becomes never and Don&#39;t allow it to become an emergency before it becomes urgent. In this episode Darnell opens with a strong message on the significance of taking immediate action—&#34;Do it now, because later often becomes never.&#34; He&#39;ll also unpack : Self Talk and Its Impact: Explores how our internal dialogue shapes our external realities and what we attract in life. Breaking Down Goals: Emphasizes dividing goals into actionable, manageable steps and achieving small wins to maintain motivation. Prioritization: Discusses the crucial distinction between urgent and important tasks and how to prioritize effectively. Strategies for Success:Set clear and specific goals.Create a schedule and stick to it.Minimize distractions by creating a supportive environment.Stay accountable by involving others in your journey.Practice self-compassion to maintain a positive self-image and resilience.Visualize success to stay motivated and focused. and so much more! Connect with us on social media. https://www.instagram.com/darnell_selfhttps://www.instagram.com/traciself https://www.instagram.com/theselftalkexperience/ Advertising Inquiries: <a href='https://redcircle.com/brands'>https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

Do It Now! ( How To Create Urgency To Actualize Your Dreams) | Episode 155

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Join Darnell and Traci Self in a deeply engaging episode of the Self Talk Experience! This episode dives into the transformative power of positive self-talk, the importance of defining personal success, and how healthy comparison can propel you forward to your goals. They Dive into : Discovering how the law of attraction practically shapes your reality. Learning to redefine success by your own standards and avoid harmful comparisons. Gaining insights into building confidence through small wins and consistency. Understanding the dual role of comparison: as a tool for inspiration and self-reflection. and so much more! Connect with us on social media. https://www.instagram.com/darnell_self https://www.instagram.com/traciself https://www.instagram.com/theselftalkexperience/ Advertising Inquiries: <a href='https://redcircle.com/brands'>https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

Define Success Yourself | Episode 154

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How to you harness the power of repetition in order to change your life? In this episode it is time to dive deep into understanding how the words we tell ourselves shape our reality and the things we attract into our lives. Darnell will unpack : Accountability Over Excuses: Learn to recognize when you&#39;re making excuses and shift towards taking responsibility for your actions, decisions, and growth. The Power of Repetition: Understand how building small, consistent habits can lead to significant changes in your behavior and outlook. Self Talk as a Reflective Tool: Discover how what you say to yourself can either empower or undermine your potential. Building New Habits: Learn how starting small—whether it’s one push-up a day or reading one page—can help in cultivating new, positive habits. Achieving Wins: Recognize small accomplishments as wins and use them as stepping stones for bigger goals. and so much more!Connect with us on social media.https://www.instagram.com/darnell_selfhttps://www.instagram.com/traciselfhttps://www.instagram.com/theselftalkexperience/ Advertising Inquiries: <a href='https://redcircle.com/brands'>https://redcircle.com/brands</a> Privacy & Opt-Out: <a href='https://redcircle.com/privacy'>https://redcircle.com/privacy</a>

Can You Really Quit Excuses For Good? | Episode 153

Scientists estimate that we have between 50,000 to 70,000 thoughts every day. Whenever you think about something, it is a form of self talk. If you believe “Thoughts become Things” then the things we say to ourselves about ourselves eventually determine what we attract for ourselves.

Darnell & Traci Self will be co-hosting a new podcast sharing how reshaping our thoughts (SelfTalk) enhanced our relationship with one another and others, our business, our faith and our ability to help others tap into their fullest potential as entrepreneurs, leaders, teachers, coaches, parents, and those who simply want to live a joyful life!

So get ready to challenge and overcome self-sabotaging & negative thoughts. There will be lots of laughter but even more lessons as we grow through these podcast episodes together!

Be sure to tune in!