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Softness Needs Safety (Tani Lior)

Season 1 | Episode 13
24m | Nov 9, 2026

Tani Lior is a 24-year-old engineer who has built a life of efficiency, and she's honest about how that shows up in love: if she doesn't see something long-term, she doesn't begin. Dr. Stacii Jae Johnson gently reframes the question. Softness isn't the problem. Safety is. Together they explore what safe looks like for Tani, why date one is for connection, and how to "date in the flow" by getting curious about the person in front of you.

00:00 Welcome and meet Tani

00:45 Soft in a world that values strength

03:02 "When was your last date?"

05:50 Dating like an engineer

07:56 What date one is really for

10:07 What softness really is

12:04 Creating safety

16:02 The "date in the flow" method

19:40 What Tani takes away

20:48 Closing reflection

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