Softness Needs Safety (Tani Lior)
Tani Lior is a 24-year-old engineer who has built a life of efficiency, and she's honest about how that shows up in love: if she doesn't see something long-term, she doesn't begin. Dr. Stacii Jae Johnson gently reframes the question. Softness isn't the problem. Safety is. Together they explore what safe looks like for Tani, why date one is for connection, and how to "date in the flow" by getting curious about the person in front of you.
00:00 Welcome and meet Tani
00:45 Soft in a world that values strength
03:02 "When was your last date?"
05:50 Dating like an engineer
07:56 What date one is really for
10:07 What softness really is
12:04 Creating safety
16:02 The "date in the flow" method
19:40 What Tani takes away
20:48 Closing reflection
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