Co-parenting is hard, being a mum is hard, and being a stepmother is one of the most challenging and rewarding roles a woman can take on—but you don’t have to navigate it alone. Welcome to Raising His Kids, the podcast dedicated to all mothers in blended families, hosted by Toni, a stepmum and bio mum.As someone who experiences blended family life from both sides—as a biological mum and a stepmum—Toni offers a unique perspective on the complexities of this roller coaster. A domestic violence survivor who’s faced the chaos firsthand, she shares raw, honest, and relatable insights into the challenges of navigating relationships with high-conflict exes, blending families, and finding balance in the midst of it all.  Each week, you’ll find practical advice, real-life stories, and a supportive community that understands the highs and lows of Raising His Kids—whether that be as the bio mum or the stepmum. Toni isn’t afraid to talk about the hard stuff—because she’s lived it—and she’s passionate about empowering biological mothers and stepmothers alike to thrive and find security in their roles within the children’s lives.  Whether you’re new to this life or a seasoned co-parenting mum or stepmum, grab your coffee or wine and join Toni for candid conversations about what it means to embrace blended family chaos with grace and humour.  Subscribe now to Raising His Kids on your favourite podcast app, and if you love what you hear, leave a five-star review. Let’s tackle this blended family roller coaster together!

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This episode is a heavier one.We’re talking about the Carnival Horizon case involving a blended family, step-siblings, and a situation that ended in the worst possible way.But this isn’t about the crime itself.It’s about the conversations that come from it.The uncomfortable ones.The ones people don’t want to say out loud.The ones many blended families quietly navigate behind closed doors.We unpack step-sibling dynamics, boundaries, what happens when kids feel uncomfortable, and whether we sometimes prioritise “keeping the peace” over actually listening.This is one of those conversations where we don’t have all the answers… but we ask the questions anyway.Because avoiding it doesn’t make it go away.If you’ve ever questioned dynamics in your blended home, or wondered where the line is between normal tension and something that needs attention, this episode will make you think.

They “Got Along” So What Went Wrong?!

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If communication in your blended family has ever felt hard, tense, or like it keeps going in circles, this one is for you.In this episode, I’m joined by Ashley, founder of Blended Bond, and we’re talking all things communication in blended families.We get into why these conversations can feel so difficult, how quickly things can escalate, and what it actually looks like to create emotional safety when there are so many moving parts involved.Ashley shares the heart behind Blended Bond and how it’s helping families open up conversations in a way that feels more intentional and less reactive.If you’ve ever walked away from a conversation thinking “that could have gone better,” you’re not alone… and this episode will definitely resonate 🤍 Want 15% off Blended Bond? Send me a DM and I’ll send you the code 🤍Follow &amp; Support Ashley here:<a href="https://blendedbond.com" rel="nofollow">Website</a><a href="https://www.instagram.com/theblendedbond?igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw%3D%3D&utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet" rel="nofollow">Instagram</a><a href="https://www.facebook.com/BlendedBond/" rel="nofollow">Facebook </a>

The Blended Bond

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In this episode, Toni is joined by Lauren as they dive into what stepmums wish they could say to bio mums — and what bio mums wish they could say to stepmums. They read comments from recent posts, unpack the unsaid thoughts, and explore perspectives that rarely get spoken out loud.Whether you’re a bio mum, a bonus mum, or somewhere in between, this episode is for anyone navigating the blended family roller coaster.

The Things We Wish We Could Say to Each Other

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In this episode, I sit down with Jyl Barlow to talk honestly about the new year — and why neither of us believe in resolutions. Instead, we dive into the goals, intentions, and hopes we’re carrying into this year while navigating blended family life, co-parenting, mental health, and personal growth.From setting boundaries and prioritizing self-care to exploring therapy, writing, and creative goals, this conversation is about choosing what you want to move toward — without the pressure or perfection. Reflective, real, and unscripted, it’s the kind of chat you’d have with a friend about what truly matters.If you’re done with unrealistic expectations and ready to focus on intentional growth, this episode is for you.

New Year, Same Chaos, Choosing Goals Over Resolutions

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Christmas in a blended family rarely looks like the movies.In this episode, Toni and Jyl talk about how Christmas traditions change after separation and how expectations often need to shift once you’re navigating shared custody and blended family life. They reflect on the traditions they’ve kept, the ones they’ve let go of, and how the holidays can bring up unexpected emotions for both parents and stepparents.The conversation then turns to the Netflix movie A Merry Little Ex-Mas, unpacking what it gets right about blended family dynamics — and where it completely misses the mark. From awkward stepmum moments to unrealistic co-parenting portrayals, they explore how media shapes expectations and why real life is often far more complicated.This episode is an honest look at Christmas on the blended family roller coaster, with one focus at the centre: keeping the magic alive for the kids, even when the holidays feel anything but simple.

A Merry Little Ex-Mas!

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Lauren is back and we’re diving into your AITA submissions and anonymous stepmum stories — and yes, the chaos absolutely delivered this week. Between the petty, the justified, the unhinged, and the “only in a blended family” moments, we had a LOT to unpack.But as always, when Lauren and I get talking, everything else comes up too — parenting wins and fails, mental health moments, ADHD life, family dynamics, the emotional needs of kids in blended families, step-parenting challenges, and the real-life stuff that happens around holidays, budgeting, and co-parenting communication.We talk about the things no one warns you about: navigating different household rules, trying to teach gratitude, dealing with tricky holiday expectations, and figuring out how to protect your kids’ emotional wellbeing while also not losing your mind. The episode still has all the laughs and honesty you expect, but with the actual structured version that didn’t go off on every tangent (you’re welcome).If you’ve ever wondered “Am I the arsehole… or am I just in a blended family?” this episode is basically your sign.

AITA or Just in a Blended Family

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In this episode, Toni sits down with Jyl to talk about how Unforgettable mirrors so many real-life blended family dynamics — from those awkward mood-killing moments, to the pressure of perfection, to the kind of “helpfulness” that feels more like surveillance than support.We also chat about:<ul><li>the relatable tension between new relationships and old attachments</li><li>the curated, image-driven motherhood we’ve all bumped up against</li><li>how control can hide behind routines, reminders, and “just being helpful”</li><li>those unexpected drop-ins that send every stepmum’s blood pressure up</li><li>the school-gate politics that make you feel like you’re walking into enemy territory</li><li>the emotional manipulation and identity spirals blended families know too well</li><li>and the truly unhinged moments in the film that had us saying, “Honestly… been there.”</li></ul> This isn’t a movie recap — it’s a stepmum conversation about the wild accuracy buried inside a Hollywood thriller

Unforgettable

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Trigger Warning: This episode discusses pregnancy and infant loss. Please listen with care and take a break if you need to. 💗In this episode, I’m joined by my beautiful friend Bekks for an open and honest chat about pregnancy and infant loss. Between us, we’ve experienced multiple losses, and we wanted to talk about what it’s really like to let go of the family you thought you’d have and find your way through grief.We share how those experiences changed us — as women, as mothers, and as partners — and what healing looks like years later. It’s not a heavy conversation, but a real one. We talk about the quiet ways loss shows up, the things people don’t always say out loud, and how we’ve learned to honour what could have been while still finding peace in what is. Follow &amp; Support:Raising His Kids Facebook Group Facebook Instagram Threads Tiktok Patreon

Grieving the Family You Thought You Would Have

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It’s back to school in the U.S. and the end of spring break here in Australia — which means chaos for parents everywhere. This week, Toni and Jyl dive into what it really looks like to reset the school routine on both sides of the world. From uniforms and lunchboxes to co-parenting coordination and mental load, nothing’s off limits.Jyl shares how she became a recovered school mom, and together they unpack what’s worth stressing over — and what’s better to just let go. Because at the end of the day, it’s not about us… it’s about the kids. Follow &amp; Support us Here:Raising His Kids:<a href="https://raisinghiskids.my.canva.site/?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAaa_DJPPjVXUICfG2osbftxYJAw6dX0a0ajyQdis4317ndikWcx-CQrV3x4_aem_AWpIBMCZzQL60BCybo8GvLLLErIUmE8Pt1wvvylUXkFqmhiYC4eJUy0qFm4v-_ocZhTGMPyzHXkZv3fs3RWvvUbq" rel="nofollow"> </a><a href="https://raisinghiskids.my.canva.site/?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAaa_DJPPjVXUICfG2osbftxYJAw6dX0a0ajyQdis4317ndikWcx-CQrV3x4_aem_AWpIBMCZzQL60BCybo8GvLLLErIUmE8Pt1wvvylUXkFqmhiYC4eJUy0qFm4v-_ocZhTGMPyzHXkZv3fs3RWvvUbq" rel="nofollow">https://raisinghiskids.my.canva.site/?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAaa_DJPPjVXUICfG2osbftxYJAw6dX0a0ajyQdis4317ndikWcx-CQrV3x4_aem_AWpIBMCZzQL60BCybo8GvLLLErIUmE8Pt1wvvylUXkFqmhiYC4eJUy0qFm4v-_ocZhTGMPyzHXkZv3fs3RWvvUbq</a>Facebook Group:<a href="https://www.facebook.com/share/56nZsJ1M4e7NumVf/?mibextid=adzO7l" rel="nofollow"> </a><a href="https://www.facebook.com/share/56nZsJ1M4e7NumVf/?mibextid=adzO7l" rel="nofollow">https://www.facebook.com/share/56nZsJ1M4e7NumVf/?mibextid=adzO7l</a>Facebook:<a href="https://www.facebook.com/raisinghiskids?mibextid=LQQJ4d" rel="nofollow"> </a><a href="https://www.facebook.com/raisinghiskids?mibextid=LQQJ4d" rel="nofollow">https://www.facebook.com/raisinghiskids?mibextid=LQQJ4d</a>Instagram:<a href="https://www.instagram.com/raisinghiskids?igsh=eG9nOXNuZTR3Mjdl" rel="nofollow"> </a><a href="https://www.instagram.com/raisinghiskids?igsh=eG9nOXNuZTR3Mjdl" rel="nofollow">https://www.instagram.com/raisinghiskids?igsh=eG9nOXNuZTR3Mjdl</a>Threads:<a href="https://www.threads.net/@raisinghiskids" rel="nofollow"> </a><a href="https://www.threads.net/@raisinghiskids" rel="nofollow">https://www.threads.net/@raisinghiskids</a>Tiktok:<a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@raisinghiskids?_r=1&_t=8mbr7JFEBAc" rel="nofollow"> </a><a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@raisinghiskids?_r=1&_t=8mbr7JFEBAc" rel="nofollow">https://www.tiktok.com/@raisinghiskids?_t=8mbr7JFEBAc&amp;_r=1</a>Patreon:  <a href="https://www.patreon.com/RaisingHisKids?utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator" rel="nofollow">https://www.patreon.com/RaisingHisKids?utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator</a>Jyl:<a href="https://jylbarlow.com/" rel="nofollow">https://jylbarlow.com/</a>Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/jylbarlow?igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw%3D%3D&utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet" rel="nofollow">https://www.instagram.com/jylbarlow?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&amp;igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw==</a>

Back to School with a Recovered School Mom

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In this week’s episode, I sit down with one of the podcast’s long-time listeners to talk about what it really feels like to be the homework house — the stable, consistent home that carries the weight of rules, boundaries, responsibility, and yep, all the homework.We dive into the pride, the pressure, and the emotional toll of always being the reliable one in a blended family. From setting routines to holding firm boundaries, this conversation is a reminder that while being the “safe base” isn’t easy, it matters more than we often give ourselves credit for. Follow &amp; Support:Raising His Kids:<a href="https://raisinghiskids.my.canva.site/?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAaa_DJPPjVXUICfG2osbftxYJAw6dX0a0ajyQdis4317ndikWcx-CQrV3x4_aem_AWpIBMCZzQL60BCybo8GvLLLErIUmE8Pt1wvvylUXkFqmhiYC4eJUy0qFm4v-_ocZhTGMPyzHXkZv3fs3RWvvUbq" rel="nofollow"> </a><a href="https://raisinghiskids.my.canva.site/?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAaa_DJPPjVXUICfG2osbftxYJAw6dX0a0ajyQdis4317ndikWcx-CQrV3x4_aem_AWpIBMCZzQL60BCybo8GvLLLErIUmE8Pt1wvvylUXkFqmhiYC4eJUy0qFm4v-_ocZhTGMPyzHXkZv3fs3RWvvUbq" rel="nofollow">https://raisinghiskids.my.canva.site/?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAaa_DJPPjVXUICfG2osbftxYJAw6dX0a0ajyQdis4317ndikWcx-CQrV3x4_aem_AWpIBMCZzQL60BCybo8GvLLLErIUmE8Pt1wvvylUXkFqmhiYC4eJUy0qFm4v-_ocZhTGMPyzHXkZv3fs3RWvvUbq</a>Facebook Group:<a href="https://www.facebook.com/share/56nZsJ1M4e7NumVf/?mibextid=adzO7l" rel="nofollow"> </a><a href="https://www.facebook.com/share/56nZsJ1M4e7NumVf/?mibextid=adzO7l" rel="nofollow">https://www.facebook.com/share/56nZsJ1M4e7NumVf/?mibextid=adzO7l</a>Facebook:<a href="https://www.facebook.com/raisinghiskids?mibextid=LQQJ4d" rel="nofollow"> </a><a href="https://www.facebook.com/raisinghiskids?mibextid=LQQJ4d" rel="nofollow">https://www.facebook.com/raisinghiskids?mibextid=LQQJ4d</a>Instagram:<a href="https://www.instagram.com/raisinghiskids?igsh=eG9nOXNuZTR3Mjdl" rel="nofollow"> </a><a href="https://www.instagram.com/raisinghiskids?igsh=eG9nOXNuZTR3Mjdl" rel="nofollow">https://www.instagram.com/raisinghiskids?igsh=eG9nOXNuZTR3Mjdl</a>Threads:<a href="https://www.threads.net/@raisinghiskids" rel="nofollow"> </a><a href="https://www.threads.net/@raisinghiskids" rel="nofollow">https://www.threads.net/@raisinghiskids</a>Tiktok:<a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@raisinghiskids?_r=1&_t=8mbr7JFEBAc" rel="nofollow"> </a><a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@raisinghiskids?_r=1&_t=8mbr7JFEBAc" rel="nofollow">https://www.tiktok.com/@raisinghiskids?_t=8mbr7JFEBAc&amp;_r=1</a>Patreon:  <a href="https://www.patreon.com/RaisingHisKids?utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator" rel="nofollow">https://www.patreon.com/RaisingHisKids?utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator</a>

The Homework House

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Co-parenting isn’t always smooth sailing — especially when you’re navigating high-conflict dynamics, new partners, and kids caught in the middle. In this episode, I sit down with Gabriella Pomare — family lawyer, co-parenting mum, and author of The Collaborative Co-Parent — to talk about what it really takes to create a child-focused approach after separation.We chat about her new book, co-parenting, keeping the children’s best interests at the forefront, managing expectations, and managing relationships for children with their other parents and siblings. Gabriella also answers some listener questions — you’ll just need to listen to find out!Gabriella combines her professional expertise with her own personal journey, making this conversation both practical and deeply relatable.If you’ve ever wondered how to set boundaries, keep your kids’ wellbeing front and centre, and maybe even find some hope in the chaos, this one’s for you. Follow &amp; Support us here:Gabriella: <a href="https://thecollaborativeco-parent.com.au/" rel="nofollow">https://thecollaborativeco-parent.com.au/</a>Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/collaborativecoparent?igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw%3D%3D&utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet" rel="nofollow">https://www.instagram.com/collaborativecoparent?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&amp;igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw==</a> Raising His Kids:Facebook Group:<a href="https://www.facebook.com/share/56nZsJ1M4e7NumVf/?mibextid=adzO7l" rel="nofollow"> </a><a href="https://www.facebook.com/share/56nZsJ1M4e7NumVf/?mibextid=adzO7l" rel="nofollow">https://www.facebook.com/share/56nZsJ1M4e7NumVf/?mibextid=adzO7l</a>Facebook:<a href="https://www.facebook.com/raisinghiskids?mibextid=LQQJ4d" rel="nofollow"> </a><a href="https://www.facebook.com/raisinghiskids?mibextid=LQQJ4d" rel="nofollow">https://www.facebook.com/raisinghiskids?mibextid=LQQJ4d</a>Instagram:<a href="https://www.instagram.com/raisinghiskids?igsh=eG9nOXNuZTR3Mjdl" rel="nofollow"> </a><a href="https://www.instagram.com/raisinghiskids?igsh=eG9nOXNuZTR3Mjdl" rel="nofollow">https://www.instagram.com/raisinghiskids?igsh=eG9nOXNuZTR3Mjdl</a>Threads:<a href="https://www.threads.net/@raisinghiskids" rel="nofollow"> </a><a href="https://www.threads.net/@raisinghiskids" rel="nofollow">https://www.threads.net/@raisinghiskids</a>Tiktok:<a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@raisinghiskids?_r=1&_t=8mbr7JFEBAc" rel="nofollow"> </a><a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@raisinghiskids?_r=1&_t=8mbr7JFEBAc" rel="nofollow">https://www.tiktok.com/@raisinghiskids?_t=8mbr7JFEBAc&amp;_r=1</a>Patreon:  <a href="https://www.patreon.com/RaisingHisKids?utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator" rel="nofollow">https://www.patreon.com/RaisingHisKids?utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator</a>

The Collaborative Co-Parent

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Ever feel like you&#39;re doing all the things — but still questioning if you&#39;re doing any of it right?In this episode, I chat with Michaela, a fellow stepmum and clinical psychologist — you might know her on social media as The Anxious Stepmom. We unpack what it’s like to navigate the ups and downs of blended family life while living with anxiety: the emotional toll of constantly second-guessing yourself, the mental load of trying to be everything to everyone, and how anxiety can quietly shape how we show up in our homes and relationships.You might notice a few jumpy moments — we had some tech glitches mid-recording — but the heart of this conversation still shines through. It’s raw, honest, and full of those “I thought it was just me” moments.If you’ve ever felt like your brain won’t slow down and your heart is carrying more than it should… this one’s for you. Follow &amp; Support:Raising His Kids:<a href="https://raisinghiskids.my.canva.site/?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAaa_DJPPjVXUICfG2osbftxYJAw6dX0a0ajyQdis4317ndikWcx-CQrV3x4_aem_AWpIBMCZzQL60BCybo8GvLLLErIUmE8Pt1wvvylUXkFqmhiYC4eJUy0qFm4v-_ocZhTGMPyzHXkZv3fs3RWvvUbq" rel="nofollow"> </a><a href="https://raisinghiskids.my.canva.site/?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAaa_DJPPjVXUICfG2osbftxYJAw6dX0a0ajyQdis4317ndikWcx-CQrV3x4_aem_AWpIBMCZzQL60BCybo8GvLLLErIUmE8Pt1wvvylUXkFqmhiYC4eJUy0qFm4v-_ocZhTGMPyzHXkZv3fs3RWvvUbq" rel="nofollow">https://raisinghiskids.my.canva.site/?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAaa_DJPPjVXUICfG2osbftxYJAw6dX0a0ajyQdis4317ndikWcx-CQrV3x4_aem_AWpIBMCZzQL60BCybo8GvLLLErIUmE8Pt1wvvylUXkFqmhiYC4eJUy0qFm4v-_ocZhTGMPyzHXkZv3fs3RWvvUbq</a>Facebook Group:<a href="https://www.facebook.com/share/56nZsJ1M4e7NumVf/?mibextid=adzO7l" rel="nofollow"> </a><a href="https://www.facebook.com/share/56nZsJ1M4e7NumVf/?mibextid=adzO7l" rel="nofollow">https://www.facebook.com/share/56nZsJ1M4e7NumVf/?mibextid=adzO7l</a>Facebook:<a href="https://www.facebook.com/raisinghiskids?mibextid=LQQJ4d" rel="nofollow"> </a><a href="https://www.facebook.com/raisinghiskids?mibextid=LQQJ4d" rel="nofollow">https://www.facebook.com/raisinghiskids?mibextid=LQQJ4d</a>Instagram:<a href="https://www.instagram.com/raisinghiskids?igsh=eG9nOXNuZTR3Mjdl" rel="nofollow"> </a><a href="https://www.instagram.com/raisinghiskids?igsh=eG9nOXNuZTR3Mjdl" rel="nofollow">https://www.instagram.com/raisinghiskids?igsh=eG9nOXNuZTR3Mjdl</a>Threads:<a href="https://www.threads.net/@raisinghiskids" rel="nofollow"> </a><a href="https://www.threads.net/@raisinghiskids" rel="nofollow">https://www.threads.net/@raisinghiskids</a>Tiktok:<a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@raisinghiskids?_r=1&_t=8mbr7JFEBAc" rel="nofollow"> </a><a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@raisinghiskids?_r=1&_t=8mbr7JFEBAc" rel="nofollow">https://www.tiktok.com/@raisinghiskids?_t=8mbr7JFEBAc&amp;_r=1</a>Patreon:  <a href="https://www.patreon.com/RaisingHisKids?utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator" rel="nofollow">https://www.patreon.com/RaisingHisKids?utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator</a> MichaelaWebsite: <a href="https://www.theanxiousstepmom.com/" rel="nofollow">https://www.theanxiousstepmom.com/</a>Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/theanxiousstepmom?igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw%3D%3D&utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet" rel="nofollow">https://www.instagram.com/theanxiousstepmom?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&amp;igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw==</a>TikTok: <a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@theanxiousstepmom?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc" rel="nofollow">https://www.tiktok.com/@theanxiousstepmom?is_from_webapp=1&amp;sender_device=pc</a>YouTube: <a href="https://www.youtube.com/@theanxiousstepmom" rel="nofollow">https://www.youtube.com/@theanxiousstepmom</a>

The Anxious Stepmom

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We pick things back up with more messy custody stories, emotionally charged depositions, school chaos — and plenty of the stuff no one talks about (or plans to talk about) when it comes to court in a blended family.It’s emotional. It’s honest. It’s a little unhinged in places.And it’s exactly the kind of chat that reminds you — you’re not the only one going through it.Some stories will make you nod along.Others might make you cringe.But either way, you’ll feel seen.Tune in as we wrap up this unfiltered two-part episode and unpack the courtroom curveballs so many of us are navigating behind the scenes of blended family life. Follow &amp; Support:Raising His Kids: <a href="https://raisinghiskids.my.canva.site/?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAaa_DJPPjVXUICfG2osbftxYJAw6dX0a0ajyQdis4317ndikWcx-CQrV3x4_aem_AWpIBMCZzQL60BCybo8GvLLLErIUmE8Pt1wvvylUXkFqmhiYC4eJUy0qFm4v-_ocZhTGMPyzHXkZv3fs3RWvvUbq" rel="nofollow"> </a><a href="https://raisinghiskids.my.canva.site/?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAaa_DJPPjVXUICfG2osbftxYJAw6dX0a0ajyQdis4317ndikWcx-CQrV3x4_aem_AWpIBMCZzQL60BCybo8GvLLLErIUmE8Pt1wvvylUXkFqmhiYC4eJUy0qFm4v-_ocZhTGMPyzHXkZv3fs3RWvvUbq" rel="nofollow">https://raisinghiskids.my.canva.site/?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAaa_DJPPjVXUICfG2osbftxYJAw6dX0a0ajyQdis4317ndikWcx-CQrV3x4_aem_AWpIBMCZzQL60BCybo8GvLLLErIUmE8Pt1wvvylUXkFqmhiYC4eJUy0qFm4v-_ocZhTGMPyzHXkZv3fs3RWvvUbq</a>Facebook Group:<a href="https://www.facebook.com/share/56nZsJ1M4e7NumVf/?mibextid=adzO7l" rel="nofollow"> </a><a href="https://www.facebook.com/share/56nZsJ1M4e7NumVf/?mibextid=adzO7l" rel="nofollow">https://www.facebook.com/share/56nZsJ1M4e7NumVf/?mibextid=adzO7l</a>Facebook:<a href="https://www.facebook.com/raisinghiskids?mibextid=LQQJ4d" rel="nofollow"> </a><a href="https://www.facebook.com/raisinghiskids?mibextid=LQQJ4d" rel="nofollow">https://www.facebook.com/raisinghiskids?mibextid=LQQJ4d</a>Instagram:<a href="https://www.instagram.com/raisinghiskids?igsh=eG9nOXNuZTR3Mjdl" rel="nofollow"> </a><a href="https://www.instagram.com/raisinghiskids?igsh=eG9nOXNuZTR3Mjdl" rel="nofollow">https://www.instagram.com/raisinghiskids?igsh=eG9nOXNuZTR3Mjdl</a>Threads:<a href="https://www.threads.net/@raisinghiskids" rel="nofollow"> </a><a href="https://www.threads.net/@raisinghiskids" rel="nofollow">https://www.threads.net/@raisinghiskids</a>Tiktok:<a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@raisinghiskids?_r=1&_t=8mbr7JFEBAc" rel="nofollow"> </a><a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@raisinghiskids?_r=1&_t=8mbr7JFEBAc" rel="nofollow">https://www.tiktok.com/@raisinghiskids?_t=8mbr7JFEBAc&amp;_r=1</a>Patreon:  <a href="https://www.patreon.com/RaisingHisKids?utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator" rel="nofollow">https://www.patreon.com/RaisingHisKids?utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator</a> Kassandra:<a href="https://www.wearefamilyish.com/" rel="nofollow">https://www.wearefamilyish.com/</a>Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/wearefamilyish/?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet" rel="nofollow">https://www.instagram.com/wearefamilyish/?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet</a>Linktree: <a href="https://linktr.ee/wearefamilyish?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAab_zUtetn9FvRkUala5iIqLzSMPU5E4OZga2AjziwqY3cVQC-wlRlYofEo_aem_rbFsD3NM_A1taDjRMVRqSQ" rel="nofollow">https://linktr.ee/wearefamilyish?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAab_zUtetn9FvRkUala5iIqLzSMPU5E4OZga2AjziwqY3cVQC-wlRlYofEo_aem_rbFsD3NM_A1taDjRMVRqSQ</a>

Courtroom Chaos, Custody Opinions & Conversations We Didn’t Plan - Part 2

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In this episode, I’m joined by Kassandra and Kelsee — and while we set out to share our court stories and experiences with custody agreements… let’s just say, we take the scenic route getting there 🤭From heartfelt moments to unexpected tangents, this is the kind of messy, real conversation that only happens when you feel safe enough to speak your truth — even when you don’t all agree.This is part one of a multi-part chat (because we had a lot to say), and the full unedited version is already up on Patreon if you want the whole deep dive, sidetracks and all. Follow &amp; Support Us Here:Raising His Kids<a href="https://raisinghiskids.my.canva.site/?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAaa_DJPPjVXUICfG2osbftxYJAw6dX0a0ajyQdis4317ndikWcx-CQrV3x4_aem_AWpIBMCZzQL60BCybo8GvLLLErIUmE8Pt1wvvylUXkFqmhiYC4eJUy0qFm4v-_ocZhTGMPyzHXkZv3fs3RWvvUbq" rel="nofollow"> </a><a href="https://raisinghiskids.my.canva.site/?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAaa_DJPPjVXUICfG2osbftxYJAw6dX0a0ajyQdis4317ndikWcx-CQrV3x4_aem_AWpIBMCZzQL60BCybo8GvLLLErIUmE8Pt1wvvylUXkFqmhiYC4eJUy0qFm4v-_ocZhTGMPyzHXkZv3fs3RWvvUbq" rel="nofollow">https://raisinghiskids.my.canva.site/?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAaa_DJPPjVXUICfG2osbftxYJAw6dX0a0ajyQdis4317ndikWcx-CQrV3x4_aem_AWpIBMCZzQL60BCybo8GvLLLErIUmE8Pt1wvvylUXkFqmhiYC4eJUy0qFm4v-_ocZhTGMPyzHXkZv3fs3RWvvUbq</a>Facebook Group:<a href="https://www.facebook.com/share/56nZsJ1M4e7NumVf/?mibextid=adzO7l" rel="nofollow"> </a><a href="https://www.facebook.com/share/56nZsJ1M4e7NumVf/?mibextid=adzO7l" rel="nofollow">https://www.facebook.com/share/56nZsJ1M4e7NumVf/?mibextid=adzO7l</a>Facebook:<a href="https://www.facebook.com/raisinghiskids?mibextid=LQQJ4d" rel="nofollow"> </a><a href="https://www.facebook.com/raisinghiskids?mibextid=LQQJ4d" rel="nofollow">https://www.facebook.com/raisinghiskids?mibextid=LQQJ4d</a>Instagram:<a href="https://www.instagram.com/raisinghiskids?igsh=eG9nOXNuZTR3Mjdl" rel="nofollow"> </a><a href="https://www.instagram.com/raisinghiskids?igsh=eG9nOXNuZTR3Mjdl" rel="nofollow">https://www.instagram.com/raisinghiskids?igsh=eG9nOXNuZTR3Mjdl</a>Threads:<a href="https://www.threads.net/@raisinghiskids" rel="nofollow"> </a><a href="https://www.threads.net/@raisinghiskids" rel="nofollow">https://www.threads.net/@raisinghiskids</a>Tiktok:<a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@raisinghiskids?_r=1&_t=8mbr7JFEBAc" rel="nofollow"> </a><a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@raisinghiskids?_r=1&_t=8mbr7JFEBAc" rel="nofollow">https://www.tiktok.com/@raisinghiskids?_t=8mbr7JFEBAc&amp;_r=1</a>Patreon:  <a href="https://www.patreon.com/RaisingHisKids?utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator" rel="nofollow">https://www.patreon.com/RaisingHisKids?utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator</a>Kassandra<a href="https://www.wearefamilyish.com/" rel="nofollow">https://www.wearefamilyish.com/</a>Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/wearefamilyish/?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet" rel="nofollow">https://www.instagram.com/wearefamilyish/?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet</a>Linktree: <a href="https://linktr.ee/wearefamilyish?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAab_zUtetn9FvRkUala5iIqLzSMPU5E4OZga2AjziwqY3cVQC-wlRlYofEo_aem_rbFsD3NM_A1taDjRMVRqSQ" rel="nofollow">https://linktr.ee/wearefamilyish?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAab_zUtetn9FvRkUala5iIqLzSMPU5E4OZga2AjziwqY3cVQC-wlRlYofEo_aem_rbFsD3NM_A1taDjRMVRqSQ</a>

Courtroom Chaos, Custody Opinions & Conversations We Didn’t Plan — Part 1

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What is it about sick kids that brings out the worst in co-parenting dynamics? In this episode, Jyl and I unpack the passive-aggressive texts, the missing thermometers at 2am, the drama over doctor visits, and the emotional load that so often falls on one household.We also touch on how medication decisions, puberty, and step-parent involvement all get tangled up when communication breaks down.Whether you’re navigating this as a bio parent, bonus parent, or both — you’re not alone. This episode is honest, a little chaotic, and full of those “yep, been there” moments. Follow &amp; Support us here:Raising His Kids:<a href="https://raisinghiskids.my.canva.site/?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAaa_DJPPjVXUICfG2osbftxYJAw6dX0a0ajyQdis4317ndikWcx-CQrV3x4_aem_AWpIBMCZzQL60BCybo8GvLLLErIUmE8Pt1wvvylUXkFqmhiYC4eJUy0qFm4v-_ocZhTGMPyzHXkZv3fs3RWvvUbq" rel="nofollow"> </a><a href="https://raisinghiskids.my.canva.site/?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAaa_DJPPjVXUICfG2osbftxYJAw6dX0a0ajyQdis4317ndikWcx-CQrV3x4_aem_AWpIBMCZzQL60BCybo8GvLLLErIUmE8Pt1wvvylUXkFqmhiYC4eJUy0qFm4v-_ocZhTGMPyzHXkZv3fs3RWvvUbq" rel="nofollow">https://raisinghiskids.my.canva.site/?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAaa_DJPPjVXUICfG2osbftxYJAw6dX0a0ajyQdis4317ndikWcx-CQrV3x4_aem_AWpIBMCZzQL60BCybo8GvLLLErIUmE8Pt1wvvylUXkFqmhiYC4eJUy0qFm4v-_ocZhTGMPyzHXkZv3fs3RWvvUbq</a>Facebook Group:<a href="https://www.facebook.com/share/56nZsJ1M4e7NumVf/?mibextid=adzO7l" rel="nofollow"> </a><a href="https://www.facebook.com/share/56nZsJ1M4e7NumVf/?mibextid=adzO7l" rel="nofollow">https://www.facebook.com/share/56nZsJ1M4e7NumVf/?mibextid=adzO7l</a>Facebook:<a href="https://www.facebook.com/raisinghiskids?mibextid=LQQJ4d" rel="nofollow"> </a><a href="https://www.facebook.com/raisinghiskids?mibextid=LQQJ4d" rel="nofollow">https://www.facebook.com/raisinghiskids?mibextid=LQQJ4d</a>Instagram:<a href="https://www.instagram.com/raisinghiskids?igsh=eG9nOXNuZTR3Mjdl" rel="nofollow"> </a><a href="https://www.instagram.com/raisinghiskids?igsh=eG9nOXNuZTR3Mjdl" rel="nofollow">https://www.instagram.com/raisinghiskids?igsh=eG9nOXNuZTR3Mjdl</a>Threads:<a href="https://www.threads.net/@raisinghiskids" rel="nofollow"> </a><a href="https://www.threads.net/@raisinghiskids" rel="nofollow">https://www.threads.net/@raisinghiskids</a>Tiktok:<a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@raisinghiskids?_r=1&_t=8mbr7JFEBAc" rel="nofollow"> </a><a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@raisinghiskids?_r=1&_t=8mbr7JFEBAc" rel="nofollow">https://www.tiktok.com/@raisinghiskids?_t=8mbr7JFEBAc&amp;_r=1</a>Patreon:  <a href="https://www.patreon.com/RaisingHisKids?utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator" rel="nofollow">https://www.patreon.com/RaisingHisKids?utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator</a>Jyl: <a href="https://jylbarlow.com/" rel="nofollow">https://jylbarlow.com/</a>Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/jylbarlow?igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw%3D%3D&utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet" rel="nofollow">https://www.instagram.com/jylbarlow?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&amp;igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw==</a>

When Sick Kids and Co-Parenting Collide

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In this deeply honest episode, I sit down with Alex Willumsen — the voice behind Step by Step Brighton — a UK-based stepmum who supports women navigating stepfamily life, particularly those who are childless not by choice.Alex opens up about the heartbreak of infertility, the emotional toll of raising someone else’s children, and what it’s like to be seen as a “mum figure” while silently grieving the child she never had. We also talk about identity, high-conflict bio mums, and the unspoken tension between biological and childless stepmums.This episode is for any woman who’s ever questioned her role, her worth, or whether she belongs in the motherhood space.💞 One step at a time, you will find your place. Follow &amp; Support:AlexInstagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/stepbystepbrighton" rel="nofollow">https://www.instagram.com/stepbystepbrighton</a>Linktree: <a href="https://linktr.ee/stepbystepbrighton" rel="nofollow">https://linktr.ee/stepbystepbrighton</a> Raising His Kids:<a href="https://raisinghiskids.my.canva.site/?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAaa_DJPPjVXUICfG2osbftxYJAw6dX0a0ajyQdis4317ndikWcx-CQrV3x4_aem_AWpIBMCZzQL60BCybo8GvLLLErIUmE8Pt1wvvylUXkFqmhiYC4eJUy0qFm4v-_ocZhTGMPyzHXkZv3fs3RWvvUbq" rel="nofollow"> https://raisinghiskids.my.canva.site/?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAaa_DJPPjVXUICfG2osbftxYJAw6dX0a0ajyQdis4317ndikWcx-CQrV3x4_aem_AWpIBMCZzQL60BCybo8GvLLLErIUmE8Pt1wvvylUXkFqmhiYC4eJUy0qFm4v-_ocZhTGMPyzHXkZv3fs3RWvvUbq</a>Facebook Group:<a href="https://www.facebook.com/share/56nZsJ1M4e7NumVf/?mibextid=adzO7l" rel="nofollow"> https://www.facebook.com/share/56nZsJ1M4e7NumVf/?mibextid=adzO7l</a>Facebook:<a href="https://www.facebook.com/raisinghiskids?mibextid=LQQJ4d" rel="nofollow"> https://www.facebook.com/raisinghiskids?mibextid=LQQJ4d</a>Instagram:<a href="https://www.instagram.com/raisinghiskids?igsh=eG9nOXNuZTR3Mjdl" rel="nofollow"> https://www.instagram.com/raisinghiskids?igsh=eG9nOXNuZTR3Mjdl</a>Threads:<a href="https://www.threads.net/@raisinghiskids" rel="nofollow"> https://www.threads.net/@raisinghiskids</a>Tiktok:<a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@raisinghiskids?_r=1&_t=8mbr7JFEBAc" rel="nofollow"> https://www.tiktok.com/@raisinghiskids?_t=8mbr7JFEBAc&amp;_r=1</a>Patreon: <a href="https://www.patreon.com/RaisingHisKids?utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator" rel="nofollow">https://www.patreon.com/RaisingHisKids?utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator</a>

Step by Step, You Will Find Your Place

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In this episode of Raising His Kids, Toni is joined by Veronica Grace Andrews—stepmum of over 15 years, former stepmum support group facilitator, and author of You Can Heal Stepmom Burnout.We talk about the emotional toll of stepmotherhood, how to recognise (and recover from) burnout, and the importance of protecting your peace—especially when your role doesn’t always come with clear boundaries or recognition. Veronica also opens up about the unexpected challenges that can still show up after the kids are grown.This one’s a must-listen for any mum in a blended family who’s ever felt overwhelmed, unseen, or just plain exhausted. You’re not alone—and you deserve to feel whole again. Follow &amp; Support: Veronica<a href="https://www.veronicagraceandrews.com/" rel="nofollow">https://www.veronicagraceandrews.com/</a>Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/healstepmomburnout/" rel="nofollow">https://www.instagram.com/healstepmomburnout/</a>Threads: <a href="https://www.threads.com/@healstepmomburnout?xmt=AQF0ir10qUJuz83rLlBsCysSizuiLtwdc70qeBUd73onwGc" rel="nofollow">https://www.threads.com/@healstepmomburnout?xmt=AQF0ir10qUJuz83rLlBsCysSizuiLtwdc70qeBUd73onwGc</a><a href="https://www.amazon.com.au/shop/myblendedchaos/list/8XK67KU8R1NC?ref_=cm_sw_r_cp_ud_aipsflist_G32DSZ5YGVT2ACZHH7BT" rel="nofollow">GET THE BOOK!</a>Raising His Kids:<a href="https://raisinghiskids.my.canva.site/?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAaa_DJPPjVXUICfG2osbftxYJAw6dX0a0ajyQdis4317ndikWcx-CQrV3x4_aem_AWpIBMCZzQL60BCybo8GvLLLErIUmE8Pt1wvvylUXkFqmhiYC4eJUy0qFm4v-_ocZhTGMPyzHXkZv3fs3RWvvUbq" rel="nofollow"> </a><a href="https://raisinghiskids.my.canva.site/?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAaa_DJPPjVXUICfG2osbftxYJAw6dX0a0ajyQdis4317ndikWcx-CQrV3x4_aem_AWpIBMCZzQL60BCybo8GvLLLErIUmE8Pt1wvvylUXkFqmhiYC4eJUy0qFm4v-_ocZhTGMPyzHXkZv3fs3RWvvUbq" rel="nofollow">https://raisinghiskids.my.canva.site/?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAaa_DJPPjVXUICfG2osbftxYJAw6dX0a0ajyQdis4317ndikWcx-CQrV3x4_aem_AWpIBMCZzQL60BCybo8GvLLLErIUmE8Pt1wvvylUXkFqmhiYC4eJUy0qFm4v-_ocZhTGMPyzHXkZv3fs3RWvvUbq</a>Facebook Group:<a href="https://www.facebook.com/share/56nZsJ1M4e7NumVf/?mibextid=adzO7l" rel="nofollow"> </a><a href="https://www.facebook.com/share/56nZsJ1M4e7NumVf/?mibextid=adzO7l" rel="nofollow">https://www.facebook.com/share/56nZsJ1M4e7NumVf/?mibextid=adzO7l</a>Facebook:<a href="https://www.facebook.com/raisinghiskids?mibextid=LQQJ4d" rel="nofollow"> </a><a href="https://www.facebook.com/raisinghiskids?mibextid=LQQJ4d" rel="nofollow">https://www.facebook.com/raisinghiskids?mibextid=LQQJ4d</a>Instagram:<a href="https://www.instagram.com/raisinghiskids?igsh=eG9nOXNuZTR3Mjdl" rel="nofollow"> </a><a href="https://www.instagram.com/raisinghiskids?igsh=eG9nOXNuZTR3Mjdl" rel="nofollow">https://www.instagram.com/raisinghiskids?igsh=eG9nOXNuZTR3Mjdl</a>Threads:<a href="https://www.threads.net/@raisinghiskids" rel="nofollow"> </a><a href="https://www.threads.net/@raisinghiskids" rel="nofollow">https://www.threads.net/@raisinghiskids</a>Tiktok:<a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@raisinghiskids?_r=1&_t=8mbr7JFEBAc" rel="nofollow"> </a><a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@raisinghiskids?_r=1&_t=8mbr7JFEBAc" rel="nofollow">https://www.tiktok.com/@raisinghiskids?_t=8mbr7JFEBAc&amp;_r=1</a>Patreon:  <a href="https://www.patreon.com/RaisingHisKids?utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator" rel="nofollow">https://www.patreon.com/RaisingHisKids?utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator</a>

Healing Stepmom Burnout

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<h3>Trigger Warning: This episode contains discussions about domestic abuse and high-conflict relationships. Please take care while listening.</h3> Ever wondered what would happen if a Karen and a Regina became friends? What if two women, with a complicated history and tied to the same high-conflict co-parent, put aside the past and chose peace, respect, and family?In this powerful episode, I’m joined by Kassandra (you know her from We Are Familyish) and Kelsee—her partner in co-parenting and, yes, the ex-wife of Kassandra’s ex-husband.Together, we talk about what it really took to move from mistrust to mutual respect, from surviving to thriving. We open up about our shared experiences with domestic abuse, how we found our way out, and what healing looks like while co-parenting through the chaos.This isn’t just a story about high-conflict co-parenting—this is about growth, resilience, and choosing connection over competition. Oh, and did I mention? This episode is also full of giggles—our energy just bounces off each other.If you’re walking this blended family roller coaster, this one’s definitely for you. Follow &amp; Support:Raising His Kids:<a href="https://raisinghiskids.my.canva.site/?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAaa_DJPPjVXUICfG2osbftxYJAw6dX0a0ajyQdis4317ndikWcx-CQrV3x4_aem_AWpIBMCZzQL60BCybo8GvLLLErIUmE8Pt1wvvylUXkFqmhiYC4eJUy0qFm4v-_ocZhTGMPyzHXkZv3fs3RWvvUbq" rel="nofollow"> </a><a href="https://raisinghiskids.my.canva.site/?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAaa_DJPPjVXUICfG2osbftxYJAw6dX0a0ajyQdis4317ndikWcx-CQrV3x4_aem_AWpIBMCZzQL60BCybo8GvLLLErIUmE8Pt1wvvylUXkFqmhiYC4eJUy0qFm4v-_ocZhTGMPyzHXkZv3fs3RWvvUbq" rel="nofollow">https://raisinghiskids.my.canva.site/?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAaa_DJPPjVXUICfG2osbftxYJAw6dX0a0ajyQdis4317ndikWcx-CQrV3x4_aem_AWpIBMCZzQL60BCybo8GvLLLErIUmE8Pt1wvvylUXkFqmhiYC4eJUy0qFm4v-_ocZhTGMPyzHXkZv3fs3RWvvUbq</a>Facebook Group:<a href="https://www.facebook.com/share/56nZsJ1M4e7NumVf/?mibextid=adzO7l" rel="nofollow"> </a><a href="https://www.facebook.com/share/56nZsJ1M4e7NumVf/?mibextid=adzO7l" rel="nofollow">https://www.facebook.com/share/56nZsJ1M4e7NumVf/?mibextid=adzO7l</a>Facebook:<a href="https://www.facebook.com/raisinghiskids?mibextid=LQQJ4d" rel="nofollow"> </a><a href="https://www.facebook.com/raisinghiskids?mibextid=LQQJ4d" rel="nofollow">https://www.facebook.com/raisinghiskids?mibextid=LQQJ4d</a>Instagram:<a href="https://www.instagram.com/raisinghiskids?igsh=eG9nOXNuZTR3Mjdl" rel="nofollow"> </a><a href="https://www.instagram.com/raisinghiskids?igsh=eG9nOXNuZTR3Mjdl" rel="nofollow">https://www.instagram.com/raisinghiskids?igsh=eG9nOXNuZTR3Mjdl</a>Threads:<a href="https://www.threads.net/@raisinghiskids" rel="nofollow"> </a><a href="https://www.threads.net/@raisinghiskids" rel="nofollow">https://www.threads.net/@raisinghiskids</a>Tiktok:<a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@raisinghiskids?_r=1&_t=8mbr7JFEBAc" rel="nofollow"> </a><a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@raisinghiskids?_r=1&_t=8mbr7JFEBAc" rel="nofollow">https://www.tiktok.com/@raisinghiskids?_t=8mbr7JFEBAc&amp;_r=1</a>Patreon:  <a href="https://www.patreon.com/RaisingHisKids?utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator" rel="nofollow">https://www.patreon.com/RaisingHisKids?utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator</a> Kassandra:<a href="https://www.wearefamilyish.com/" rel="nofollow">https://www.wearefamilyish.com/</a>Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/wearefamilyish/?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet" rel="nofollow">https://www.instagram.com/wearefamilyish/?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet</a>Linktree: <a href="https://linktr.ee/wearefamilyish?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAab_zUtetn9FvRkUala5iIqLzSMPU5E4OZga2AjziwqY3cVQC-wlRlYofEo_aem_rbFsD3NM_A1taDjRMVRqSQ" rel="nofollow">https://linktr.ee/wearefamilyish?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAab_zUtetn9FvRkUala5iIqLzSMPU5E4OZga2AjziwqY3cVQC-wlRlYofEo_aem_rbFsD3NM_A1taDjRMVRqSQ</a>

When a Karen & Regina Became Friends

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In this episode of Raising His Kids, I’m joined by Summer Butler—author, speaker, and family coach—who’s dedicated her life to supporting kids and families navigating the blended family roller coaster.Summer shares her heart behind her latest release, Blended: Navigating Life Between Two Homes, a workbook designed specifically for preteens navigating divorce, co-parenting, and life in two households.We talk about the emotional toll of transitions, the things kids feel but often can’t express, and how parents can better show up for their children during these changes. Summer also opens up about her own journey growing up in a divorced home, becoming a stepmum, and raising two adult stepsons and an “ours baby.”Whether you’re a bio mum, bonus mum, or somewhere in between—this conversation will leave you feeling encouraged and equipped to support your kids with more empathy, awareness, and heart.Learn more about Summer’s resources at <a href="https://www.blendedbookco.com" rel="nofollow">https://www.blendedbookco.com</a>Follow Summer on Instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/blendedbookco?igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw%3D%3D&utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet" rel="nofollow">@blendedbookco</a> Follow &amp; Support:Raising His Kids:<a href="https://raisinghiskids.my.canva.site/?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAaa_DJPPjVXUICfG2osbftxYJAw6dX0a0ajyQdis4317ndikWcx-CQrV3x4_aem_AWpIBMCZzQL60BCybo8GvLLLErIUmE8Pt1wvvylUXkFqmhiYC4eJUy0qFm4v-_ocZhTGMPyzHXkZv3fs3RWvvUbq" rel="nofollow"> </a><a href="https://raisinghiskids.my.canva.site/?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAaa_DJPPjVXUICfG2osbftxYJAw6dX0a0ajyQdis4317ndikWcx-CQrV3x4_aem_AWpIBMCZzQL60BCybo8GvLLLErIUmE8Pt1wvvylUXkFqmhiYC4eJUy0qFm4v-_ocZhTGMPyzHXkZv3fs3RWvvUbq" rel="nofollow">https://raisinghiskids.my.canva.site/?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAaa_DJPPjVXUICfG2osbftxYJAw6dX0a0ajyQdis4317ndikWcx-CQrV3x4_aem_AWpIBMCZzQL60BCybo8GvLLLErIUmE8Pt1wvvylUXkFqmhiYC4eJUy0qFm4v-_ocZhTGMPyzHXkZv3fs3RWvvUbq</a>Facebook Group:<a href="https://www.facebook.com/share/56nZsJ1M4e7NumVf/?mibextid=adzO7l" rel="nofollow"> </a><a href="https://www.facebook.com/share/56nZsJ1M4e7NumVf/?mibextid=adzO7l" rel="nofollow">https://www.facebook.com/share/56nZsJ1M4e7NumVf/?mibextid=adzO7l</a>Facebook:<a href="https://www.facebook.com/raisinghiskids?mibextid=LQQJ4d" rel="nofollow"> </a><a href="https://www.facebook.com/raisinghiskids?mibextid=LQQJ4d" rel="nofollow">https://www.facebook.com/raisinghiskids?mibextid=LQQJ4d</a>Instagram:<a href="https://www.instagram.com/raisinghiskids?igsh=eG9nOXNuZTR3Mjdl" rel="nofollow"> </a><a href="https://www.instagram.com/raisinghiskids?igsh=eG9nOXNuZTR3Mjdl" rel="nofollow">https://www.instagram.com/raisinghiskids?igsh=eG9nOXNuZTR3Mjdl</a>Threads:<a href="https://www.threads.net/@raisinghiskids" rel="nofollow"> </a><a href="https://www.threads.net/@raisinghiskids" rel="nofollow">https://www.threads.net/@raisinghiskids</a>Tiktok:<a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@raisinghiskids?_r=1&_t=8mbr7JFEBAc" rel="nofollow"> </a><a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@raisinghiskids?_r=1&_t=8mbr7JFEBAc" rel="nofollow">https://www.tiktok.com/@raisinghiskids?_t=8mbr7JFEBAc&amp;_r=1</a>Patreon:  <a href="https://www.patreon.com/RaisingHisKids?utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator" rel="nofollow">https://www.patreon.com/RaisingHisKids?utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator</a>

Supporting Kids Living Between Two Homes with Summer Butler

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What does healing look like when you&#39;re still stuck co-parenting with your abuser? In this raw and honest conversation, Toni sits down with Vickie Lynn — survivor, coach, and fierce advocate for mums navigating high-conflict co-parenting with narcissistic exes.Together, they explore the emotional roller coaster of trying to raise emotionally healthy children while protecting them from manipulation, smear campaigns, and trauma — all while being accused of being the “high-conflict” parent. Toni shares parts of her own story too, including the complex dynamics of raising a child who looks like your abuser, parenting as a survivor, and navigating a stepfamily full of tension and judgement.If you&#39;re a mum trying to break generational cycles, protect your kids, and still hold space for yourself — this episode is a must-listen.And for stepmums caught in the crossfire or unsure where they fit, this chat brings clarity, validation, and a fresh perspective on building bridges and setting boundaries. Follow &amp; Support:Vickie Lynn: <a href="https://stan.store/thesurvivorcenter?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAaeuzF7wcKOAf3BFFCvglMxYxQY5d_1ccZ_QJg0YM_3ulrLM0nDJoPY2H1x6Yg_aem_6byLX6TOTprPLxHka1MXGQ" rel="nofollow">https://stan.store/thesurvivorcenter?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAaeuzF7wcKOAf3BFFCvglMxYxQY5d_1ccZ_QJg0YM_3ulrLM0nDJoPY2H1x6Yg_aem_6byLX6TOTprPLxHka1MXGQ</a>Instagram: <a href="https://www.instagram.com/the_survivor_center?igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw%3D%3D&utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet" rel="nofollow">https://www.instagram.com/the_survivor_center?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&amp;igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw== </a> Raising His Kids:<a href="https://raisinghiskids.my.canva.site/?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAaa_DJPPjVXUICfG2osbftxYJAw6dX0a0ajyQdis4317ndikWcx-CQrV3x4_aem_AWpIBMCZzQL60BCybo8GvLLLErIUmE8Pt1wvvylUXkFqmhiYC4eJUy0qFm4v-_ocZhTGMPyzHXkZv3fs3RWvvUbq" rel="nofollow"> </a><a href="https://raisinghiskids.my.canva.site/?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAaa_DJPPjVXUICfG2osbftxYJAw6dX0a0ajyQdis4317ndikWcx-CQrV3x4_aem_AWpIBMCZzQL60BCybo8GvLLLErIUmE8Pt1wvvylUXkFqmhiYC4eJUy0qFm4v-_ocZhTGMPyzHXkZv3fs3RWvvUbq" rel="nofollow">https://raisinghiskids.my.canva.site/?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAaa_DJPPjVXUICfG2osbftxYJAw6dX0a0ajyQdis4317ndikWcx-CQrV3x4_aem_AWpIBMCZzQL60BCybo8GvLLLErIUmE8Pt1wvvylUXkFqmhiYC4eJUy0qFm4v-_ocZhTGMPyzHXkZv3fs3RWvvUbq</a>Facebook Group:<a href="https://www.facebook.com/share/56nZsJ1M4e7NumVf/?mibextid=adzO7l" rel="nofollow"> </a><a href="https://www.facebook.com/share/56nZsJ1M4e7NumVf/?mibextid=adzO7l" rel="nofollow">https://www.facebook.com/share/56nZsJ1M4e7NumVf/?mibextid=adzO7l</a>Facebook:<a href="https://www.facebook.com/raisinghiskids?mibextid=LQQJ4d" rel="nofollow"> </a><a href="https://www.facebook.com/raisinghiskids?mibextid=LQQJ4d" rel="nofollow">https://www.facebook.com/raisinghiskids?mibextid=LQQJ4d</a>Instagram:<a href="https://www.instagram.com/raisinghiskids?igsh=eG9nOXNuZTR3Mjdl" rel="nofollow"> </a><a href="https://www.instagram.com/raisinghiskids?igsh=eG9nOXNuZTR3Mjdl" rel="nofollow">https://www.instagram.com/raisinghiskids?igsh=eG9nOXNuZTR3Mjdl</a>Threads:<a href="https://www.threads.net/@raisinghiskids" rel="nofollow"> </a><a href="https://www.threads.net/@raisinghiskids" rel="nofollow">https://www.threads.net/@raisinghiskids</a>Tiktok:<a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@raisinghiskids?_r=1&_t=8mbr7JFEBAc" rel="nofollow"> </a><a href="https://www.tiktok.com/@raisinghiskids?_r=1&_t=8mbr7JFEBAc" rel="nofollow">https://www.tiktok.com/@raisinghiskids?_t=8mbr7JFEBAc&amp;_r=1</a>Patreon:  <a href="https://www.patreon.com/RaisingHisKids?utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator" rel="nofollow">https://www.patreon.com/RaisingHisKids?utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator</a>

The Survivor Center with Vickie Lynn

Real Talk for Every Mum in a Blended Family

Co-parenting is hard, being a mum is hard, and being a stepmother is one of the most challenging and rewarding roles a woman can take on—but you don’t have to navigate it alone. Welcome to Raising His Kids, the podcast dedicated to all mothers in blended families, hosted by Toni, a stepmum and bio mum.

As someone who experiences blended family life from both sides—as a biological mum and a stepmum—Toni offers a unique perspective on the complexities of this roller coaster. A domestic violence survivor who’s faced the chaos firsthand, she shares raw, honest, and relatable insights into the challenges of navigating relationships with high-conflict exes, blending families, and finding balance in the midst of it all.  

Each week, you’ll find practical advice, real-life stories, and a supportive community that understands the highs and lows of Raising His Kids—whether that be as the bio mum or the stepmum. Toni isn’t afraid to talk about the hard stuff—because she’s lived it—and she’s passionate about empowering biological mothers and stepmothers alike to thrive and find security in their roles within the children’s lives.  

Whether you’re new to this life or a seasoned co-parenting mum or stepmum, grab your coffee or wine and join Toni for candid conversations about what it means to embrace blended family chaos with grace and humour.  

Subscribe now to Raising His Kids on your favourite podcast app, and if you love what you hear, leave a five-star review. Let’s tackle this blended family roller coaster together!  
