I Don’t Need a Man… But I Want One!
24m | Sep 14, 2026Wanting a healthy relationship doesn’t mean you need a man. For single women who still want love, this is about relationship standards, good men, and being honest about what you truly desire.
I have been married and single. I have been happy and hurt. And while I will certainly avoid all foolishness, that does not mean I have to pretend I don't desire love, because I absolutely do!
In this episode, I share the story of Demetrius, the man who showed me what genuine protection, integrity, care, and non-contingent love looks like.
Because of his love and that experience, I know healthy, aligned love is available to me.
I don't NEED a man to complete me. Thank GOD!
I don't NEED a man to save me. I'm already Saved!
But I will not be telling God that I don't want partnership simply because I have been disappointed before.
There is a HUGE distance and difference between not needing a man and not wanting love.
If you have been saying, “I don't want no man,” but privately you still desire healthy love, companionship, connection, and partnership, this conversation is for you.
The question is not whether you should want love.
The question is whether you are being honest with yourself about what you actually desire—and whether you are doing the work necessary to be available for it.
In this episode, we talk about:
• Why being single and happy doesn't mean you don't want partnership
• How pain can make us deny what we actually desire
• The space between standards and settling
• Why knowing healthy love is possible changes what you are willing to accept
• How self-awareness helps you identify the relationship you actually want
• What it means to be in alignment with yourself before aligning with someone else
• Why saying you don't want something you secretly desire can become self-betrayal
If this conversation was supportive, share it with someone who may need the reminder that wanting love does not make them weak, needy, desperate, or incomplete.
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CHAPTERS
00:00 I Don't Need a Man… I Want One
00:28 I Still Believe in Love
00:51 The Boy Who Changed My Standards
02:08 The Day He Protected Me
04:24 What Demetrius Taught Me About Love
05:35 Why I Know I'm Not Asking for Too Much
06:26 He Never Stopped Protecting Me
08:19 What Happened to Demetrius
09:44 The First Example of Healthy Love
10:22 Why So Many Women Say They Don't Want a Man
11:08 Do You Really Not Want Love?
12:22 There's No Shame in Wanting Partnership
13:50 The Man I'm Actually Waiting For
16:02 What Alignment in a Relationship Means
19:01 Single, Happy, and Still Wanting Love
20:16 Are You Saying the Opposite of What You Desire?
21:02 The Areas of Alignment
22:57 Be Honest With Yourself
