Pain Is Inevitable | Why Suffering Doesn't Have To Be
13m | Sep 21, 2026Pain vs suffering: learning the difference can change how you move through grief, loss, guilt, self-blame, and some of the hardest experiences of your life.
Pain is inevitable. Suffering doesn't always have to be.
In this episode of Under the Beautiful Banyan, I'm talking about the difference between pain and suffering and what I've learned while moving through grief, loss, guilt, and the kind of pain that changes you.
Things hurt because they matter.
But sometimes, after the pain happens, we add another layer.
We blame ourselves. We replay what happened. We question every decision. We wish we could go back and do something differently.
And that's where pain can become suffering.
I'm sharing my own experience with grief and the loss of my sister Val, the things I've had to confront within myself, and the difference between allowing pain to move through you and creating additional suffering by fighting what cannot be changed.
This isn't about pretending pain doesn't hurt.
It's about learning how to carry it without allowing it to consume everything else.
If you're navigating grief, loss, guilt, regret, self-blame, or a painful season of life, I hope this conversation gives you something to sit with.
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CHAPTERS
00:00 Pain Is Inevitable. Suffering Is Different.
00:33 Why I Called My Sister
01:42 Something Was Wrong
02:05 I Was in Full-Blown Panic
03:39 I Got on the First Flight
04:13 I Knew Something Was Different
04:45 The Call From the Hospital
05:32 I Did Everything I Could
05:45 Why I Blamed Myself
06:48 What I Learned About Pain
07:13 Pain and Suffering Are Different
07:33 The Stories I Told Myself
08:06 The Stories Create Suffering
08:47 When Life Gives You Pain
09:07 Don't Add Stories to the Pain
09:38 Will You Slip? Yes.
10:13 Six Years Later, the Pain Is Still Here
10:42 What Loss Taught Me About Values
11:24 How Losing Her Changed Me
11:51 Love Yourself Through the Pain
12:07 Be Kind to Yourself
