I Know You Love Me, But I Don't Feel It!

Feeling unloved in a relationship can be confusing when you know the person loves you. In this episode, I share why knowing he loved me wasn't enough when in some really pivotal moments, it didn't come through.

I knew he loved me. I just couldn't feel it.

There is a difference between someone loving you and someone expressing that love in a way that allows you to actually feel loved, heard, considered, respected, supported, and covered in the relationship.

In this episode of Under the Beautiful Banyan, I share the story of a relationship with a man I genuinely believe loved me. But over time, I repeatedly communicated what I needed, what didn't feel good, and where I was no longer feeling covered and respected.

Eventually, I started questioning myself.

Was I asking for too much?

Were my requests unreasonable?

Were my boundaries the problem?

Was I the problem?

Love in and of itself, is a heart posture, but expressing that love, is an action and a choice.

If I tell you that something hurts me, that I don't feel heard, considered, respected, or loved and I communicate that repeatedly...what happens next matters.

This conversation isn't only about romantic relationships. It applies to the people we love, the people who love us, and every relationship where someone's words don't consistently align with what we experience.

In this episode, we talk about:

• The difference between loving someone and making them feel loved

• Why repeatedly communicating your needs matters

• Boundaries, standards, and being labeled “too much”

• What happens when you begin questioning your own reality; gaslighting

• Why confusion is a problem in relationships

• Cognitive dissonance when words and actions don't match

• Knowing your worth and honoring your feelings

• Why requirements are different from expectations

• When love is real but the relationship still isn't healthy for you

Sometimes the question isn't:

“Do they love me?”

Sometimes the question is:

“Can I actually feel the love they say they have for me?”

And if the answer continues to be no, you are allowed to look at the relationship honestly.

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CHAPTERS

00:00 I Know You Love Me, But I Don't Feel It

00:15 Why I Stayed Longer Than I Should Have

00:31 Loving Someone vs. Making Them Feel Loved

01:00 The Relationship That Made This Clear

01:48 When Everything Started Changing

03:05 When I Stopped Feeling Loved

04:20 Taking the Relationship to God

05:30 What I Needed to Feel Loved

06:12 The Problem Was My Boundaries

07:16 When I Finally Stopped Talking

07:55 I Never Questioned That He Loved Me

08:18 Love Is a Heart Posture—Expression Is an Action

08:59 When You Start Questioning Yourself

09:42 If It Hurts You, It's Already a Thing

10:06 This Isn't Just About Romantic Relationships

11:14 Why I Would End the Relationship

12:01 You Are Not Too Much

12:43 Confusion Is a No for Me

12:59 The INVESTED Areas Behind This

14:11 When Words Don't Match Actions

14:40 Keep Your Boundaries and Standards

15:11 Go Deeper With the Alignment Pack