- 155 - Navigating Grief and Post-Traumatic Growth w/ Krista St-Germain
Krista St-Germain is a grief expert, Master Certified Life Coach, widow, mom and host of The Widowed Mom Podcast. When her husband was killed by a drunk driver in 2016, Krista’s life was completely and unexpectedly flipped upside down. She now helps fellow widows to not just survive, but thrive in the aftermath of losing your spouse.
Key Takeaways:
- Common misconceptions about grief and the healing process (Five Stages of Grief)
- Grief can stem from any perceived loss and lead to secondary losses, akin to "death by a thousand paper cuts."
- Somatic techniques such as tapping and yoga are transformative in releasing grief stored in the body
- Post-traumatic growth shows how even through intense hardship, we can emerge not just intact - but immeasurably stronger
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Marie Selleck is a licensed therapist and Parent Wound Coach – committed to helping women heal from the impact of emotionally unavailable mothers so that they can raise confident children. She shares about the toxic marriage which mirrored the dysfunctional relationship with her father – which led to the realization that she couldn’t help others confront their childhood trauma until she did.
- Breaking through the shame inherited from subliminal messages from emotionally immature parents
- The way that self-sabotage manifests differently depending on the dysfunctional family role you played as a child
- How unresolved childhood trauma can influence your own parenting style, leaving lingering effects on emotional regulation and the ability to feel safe with your children
- The valuable lesson of 'good enough' parenting, emotional attunement, and the power of repair with our children through acknowledgment and modeling healthy behavior
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Today we are joined by Shitshow Marie who shares about her upbringing, the impact that manifested in adulthood, and her ongoing journey of healing & recovery.
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When shame becomes one's identity... this is what we call toxic shame.
Toxic shame is the deeply ingrained sense of be inherently flawed and unlovable and is the core wound of an adult children of alcoholic and dysfunctional families.
Key Takeaways:
- Recognizing the difference between healthy shame and toxic shame
- The internalization process that causes shame to go from being an emotion we experience to an identity
- What happens when our true self goes into hiding (shameful acting out vs shameless acting in)
- Scapegoat abuse and it's pervasive impact to the formation of self
- How to heal the shame that binds you through the externalization process (first and second order change)
EP 90 - Family Scapegoat Abuse w/ Rebecca Mandeville
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Today we are joined by Shitshow Easton who shares about his upbringing, the impact that manifested in adulthood, and his ongoing journey of healing & recovery.
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Kenny’s healing journey began 20 years ago when he first stepped foot into Mike’s office. The two recount their therapeutic relationship the importance of feeling seen and heard by your therapist.
Prepare to journey into the heart of therapy, growth, and the brain's remarkable capacity to heal.
Key Takeaways –
- The importance of selecting a mental health professional who is emotionally invested, has personal therapeutic experience, and makes you feel understood
- The profound effects of neurofeedback therapy in treating complex trauma
- Why past traumas play such a pivotal role in parenting and the importance of personal healing is crucial for raising kids
Mike Pinkston is licensed professional counselor and executive director of Heart Matters Counseling who specializes sexual and emotional trauma, men’s issues, couples therapy and parenting skill. He is board certified by the International QEEG Certification Board (IQCB), which puts him among the elite neurofeedback QEEG analysts in the country.
Kenny Weiss is coach, YouTuber, and creator of the Emotional Authenticity Method. His most recent book Your Journey To Being Yourself: How to Overcome the Worst Day Cycle & Reclaim Your Authentic Self with Emotional Authenticity which provides several advanced processes that go beyond elevating your EQ and self-awareness.
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Jamie McCoy is a licensed integrative psychotherapist and trauma coach who shares her personal and professional insights into chronic illness, generational trauma, and the intricate dance of dysfunctional family dynamics. We explore the pervasive patterns of denial, the pain of being labeled the family scapegoat, and the liberating journey to somatic experiencing—the key to reconnecting the mind and body for genuine recovery.
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Today's episode is a recent recording from a Shitshow Support group where we discuss gratitude, including the below reading from Strengthening My Recovery -
Progress
“The ACA program has brought me the miracle of life. I am able to experience compassion, forgiveness, love, and gratitude, the emotions that make my life worth living.” BRB p. 140
Before ACA, many of us were so mired in our dysfunctions that if someone asked us how we felt, we usually just said, “Fine.” We probably didn’t even know how to describe our feelings, since many of us couldn’t think of more than a few anyway. This was the result of consistently stuffing them in our childhood and adult lives.
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We find that it’s possible to have compassion for others in a way that doesn’t mean we want or need to fix them. We understand that we all have struggles; we offer help where we can, with no strings attached. Instead of carrying resentments, we learn forgiveness. We begin to release any bitterness and anger. Instead of being a victim and feeling as if we don’t have enough, we learn to have gratitude for what we have and for our potential. We find the miracles.
On this day I will remember the emotional gifts this program has given me, and with gratitude I promise to continue to open myself up to life’s possibilities through ACA.
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Dr. Kirk Honda, PsyD, LMFT returns to discuss the intricacies of narcissism, emotional development, and the journey of healing from trauma.
Key Takeaways
- The challenges of addressing trauma in therapy, including the risks of re-traumatization and the importance of therapist expertise in complex trauma.
- Concerns regarding the widespread misuse of clinical terms like "narcissism" and the potential harm caused by misinformation in the mental health sphere.
- How early childhood experiences, particularly emotional neglect, play a crucial role in the development of Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD)
- The complexities of relationships involving personality disorders and insight into therapy's role in supporting both individuals and couples
Dr. Kirk Honda is a Psychotherapist and the host of Psychology in Seattle YouTube channel and podcast that covers pop culture through the lens of psychoanalysis.
EP 81 - Repressed Memories, CPTSD vs. BPD w/ Dr Kirk Honda
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Terry Baranski is a trauma-informed Internal Family Systems (IFS) practitioner who focuses on root causes rather than symptoms. IFS is a non-pathologising, powerfully transformative, evidence-based model of psychotherapy that believes we are all made up of several parts. In today's episode, we dive deeper into the modality, specifically the concept of the True Self.
Ep 129 - Internal Family Systems, Parts Work & Procrastination w/ Terry Baranski
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Today's episode is a recent recording from a Shitshow Support group where we discuss gratitude, including the below reading from Strengthening My Recovery -
Gratitude
“The ACA program has brought me the miracle of life. I am able to experience compassion, forgiveness, love, and gratitude, the emotions that make my life worth living.” BRB p. 140
Before ACA, many of us were so mired in our dysfunctions that if someone asked us how we felt, we usually just said, “Fine.” We probably didn’t even know how to describe our feelings, since many of us couldn’t think of more than a few anyway. This was the result of consistently stuffing them in our childhood and adult lives.
In ACA, we learn to change our thoughts, to gradually free ourselves from the things that are weighing us down. We see that the sky is often a beautiful blue; it’s not always cloudy. We start to see so many more possibilities for ourselves about the way we truly want to live our lives.
We find that it’s possible to have compassion for others in a way that doesn’t mean we want or need to fix them. We understand that we all have struggles; we offer help where we can, with no strings attached. Instead of carrying resentments, we learn forgiveness. We begin to release any bitterness and anger. Instead of being a victim and feeling as if we don’t have enough, we learn to have gratitude for what we have and for our potential. We find the miracles.
On this day I will remember the emotional gifts this program has given me, and with gratitude I promise to continue to open myself up to life’s possibilities through ACA.
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Nora (@innerbutterfly) is a self-empowerment coach who has navigated the complex journey of personal growth and self-discovery. She takes us through her liberating decision to end a three-year relationship that triggered deep-seated emotional wounds, and how meditation and spirituality played pivotal roles in healing.
With newfound gratitude and self-confidence, Nora shares her incredible transformation, shedding light on her past experiences of living in constant survival mode, her strategies for nervous system regulation, and the profound realization of the scientific underpinnings behind her mindfulness practices.
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Codependency almost killed her…
In today’s episode, returning guest Tiffany Carter joins us for a powerful and insightful conversation on how codependency and love addiction are just as powerful of addictions as the rest. Tiffany candidly shares about hitting rock bottom from love addiction and the havoc it wreaked on her life
🎧 Episode Highlights:
- Is it love addiction, codependency or both - and which do you address first
- The symptoms and stages of love addiction
- The intersection of codependency, love addiction and relational trauma
- Repetition compulsion and our attempts to fix our childhoods in our romantic relationships
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How I learned I was an Adult Child - The Tale of 2 Brians
THE LAUNDRY LIST - Common Characteristics of an Adult Child
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Today's episode is a recent recording from a Shitshow Support group where we discuss ACA Step 1 "Step One “We admitted we were powerless over others – that our lives had become unmanageable”, including the below reading from Language of Letting Go -
Powerlessness and Unmanageability
Willpower is not the key to the way of life we are seeking. Surrender is.
"I have spent much of my life trying to make people be, do, or feel something they aren't, don't want to do, and choose not to feel. I have made them, and myself, crazy in that process," said one recovering woman.
I spent my childhood trying to make an alcoholic father who didn't love himself be a normal person who loved me. I then married an alcoholic and spent a decade trying to make him stop drinking.
I have spent years trying to make emotionally unavailable people be emotionally present for me. I have spent even more years trying to make family members, who are content feeling miserable, happy.
What I'm saying is this: I've spent much of my life desperately and vainly trying to do the impossible and feeling like a failure when I couldn't. It's been like planting corn and trying to make the seeds grow peas. Won't work!
By surrendering to powerlessness, I gain the presence of mind to stop wasting my time and energy trying to change and control that which I cannot change and control. It gives me permission to stop trying to do the impossible and focus on what is possible: being who I am, loving myself, feeling what I feel, and doing what I want to do with my life.
In recovery, we learn to stop fighting lions, simply because we cannot win. We also learn that the more we are focused on controlling and changing others, the more unmanageable our life becomes. The more we focus on living our own life, the more we have a life to live, and the more manageable our life will become.
Today, I will accept powerlessness where I have no power to change things, and I'll allow my life to become manageable.
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