I See You: A Love Letter to My Girls | Unfiltered AF -Ep. 29

To my girls,

I don’t say this enough, so I’m saying it here.

Thank you for seeing me.

Thank you for noticing when I go quiet instead of waiting for me to ask for help, because y’all already know I’m probably not going to. 😂 Thank you for showing up in the unglamorous seasons. The boring Tuesdays. The moments nobody takes pictures of. The times when I’m not my funniest, strongest, prettiest, most put-together self.

You still see me.

And lately, I’ve been realizing just how much that means to me.

So this episode is a love letter to my girls—but if you’re listening and you’re not one of “my girls” yet, come on in. You’re welcome here too. Because this conversation is really about something bigger: what it means to love and be loved by another woman when we’re grown.

Not the highlight-reel version of friendship.

I’m talking about the Waiting to Exhale kind. The kind where nobody is perfect. Everybody gets it wrong sometimes. Life gets messy. People change. And somehow, the love still holds.

We talk about what it means to actually be a good friend as an adult woman. Reciprocity without keeping score. Being emotionally safe with each other. Celebrating your friend’s wins without making them a measurement of your own life. Telling the truth without being cruel. Loving somebody through an ugly season without enabling her. Knowing when to set a boundary. And learning that sometimes a friendship ending doesn’t mean it wasn’t real.

But I also had to turn the mirror on myself.

Because it’s easy to ask, “Do I have good friends?”

It’s a whole different question to ask, “Am I a good friend?”

And then there’s the part I’m still learning: how to let somebody take care of me.

I’m so used to carrying my own shit that sometimes I don’t even realize I’m struggling until somebody who knows me well enough notices first. And when my friends show up for me without me asking, it reminds me that being loved isn’t always about what you can give back.

Sometimes you just have to let yourself receive it.

So if there’s a woman in your life who sees you like that, send her this episode.

And if you’re listening alone right now, consider this me sitting beside you like we’ve known each other forever.

Because by the end of this episode, I hope you feel like you have.

I see you, girl. 🤎

Be you. Be unshakable. And be Unfiltered AF.