30. You Don't Have to Be the Strong One | How to Stop Pretending You're Fine
When someone asks how you're doing, how often do you say good before they've even finished the question? This episode is about stopping the pretense that you're fine, especially if you're the strong one everybody leans on.
In this episode, Monti argues that being honest about how you're doing is part of being strong, not the opposite. She walks through why we pretend, what holding it in can do to your body, and six small steps to start telling the truth to the people who care about you.
You'll walk away with simple, honest answers for the next time someone asks, and one small way to let someone show up for you this week. Take what's useful and leave the rest.
In this episode of The Purfect Sunday Podcast:
- Why we say we're fine — and why it usually isn't lying
- If you're the strong one — why people stop checking on you, and what to do about it
- What holding it in does to your body — the research linking stress and autoimmune disease
- How to stop pretending — six small steps you can start this week
- What to actually say — honest answers for the conversations that usually end in "good"
- Be someone's safe person — how to make it easier for the women in your life to tell you the truth
Mentioned in This Episode
This Week's Self-Improvement Challenge
Let someone show up for you this week.
The next time your person asks how you're doing, and you're not fine, tell them the truth. Even one sentence counts.
Or the next time someone offers to help, say yes and tell them exactly what you need.
The Purfect Sunday Podcast is for general information and entertainment. Monti is not a therapist, doctor, or life coach, and nothing here is professional, medical, or financial advice. Everything shared is personal experience.
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